FabSwingers.com forum: A different slant on Mothers Day

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm sat watching bbc news and they are showing clips of the other side to mothering sunday. As in people who lost their mothers at a awkward age and how it effected them.

It brought back sad memories to me as I lost my mother aged 6. I hated the day as all my mates were buying cards and presents for Thier mothers and I really felt a big hole on that day.

Obviously I moved on got married and had kids...which at a young age I'd buy cards and presents for them to give to Thier mother until they were old enough to buy their own.

But watching a few celebrities talking about their feelings on the day has just brought back the sadness I felt as a youngster.

So while I hope you lovely ladies have a great day...spare a thought for for the less fortunate

And also it would be good to here other people's views of this day if they were in a similar situation on this day.

Sorry if I've put a downer on it

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

What a lovely and thought provoking thread my friend - I'm lucky enough to still have my Mum around and very much part of my life, and will be seeing her later, in fact today is her birthday as well, so double celebration - can't begin to imagine what life would be like without her in it and feel for anyone where that is the case.

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"I'm sat watching bbc news and they are showing clips of the other side to mothering sunday. As in people who lost their mothers at a awkward age and how it effected them.

It brought back sad memories to me as I lost my mother aged 6. I hated the day as all my mates were buying cards and presents for Thier mothers and I really felt a big hole on that day.

Obviously I moved on got married and had kids...which at a young age I'd buy cards and presents for them to give to Thier mother until they were old enough to buy their own.

But watching a few celebrities talking about their feelings on the day has just brought back the sadness I felt as a youngster.

So while I hope you lovely ladies have a great day...spare a thought for for the less fortunate

And also it would be good to here other people's views of this day if they were in a similar situation on this day.

Sorry if I've put a downer on it

Hugs

I too hate Mothering Sunday but for different reasons.

I’m a mum without her children. Since the age of 29 I have tried every means out there to become a mum. My ex husband and I had 8 miscarriages, were refused ivf and also turn d down for adoption/fostering. A new marriage followed with a decision to try again. Being older it’s not as easy to fall pregnant and I still can’t stay pregnant. At some point a decision has to be made to stop trying. Age is against us and we’re not willing to risk damaging our marriage by keeping going. I’m nearly 43 now and I know I will never hold my child in my arms, but I will always be a mum deep in my heart.

I always buy my mum a card as I love her deeply but for many years have been unable to make a fuss, I just hide away until it’s all over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all part of today's inclusionary world, we can't have a day that doesn't include EVERYBODY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good freind lost his wife 2yrs ago 2 days before mothers day. His daughter was 9 at the time. His sons although older but its always a hard time for them.

His attitude towards today is to get her through the day without too much pain.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What a lovely and thought provoking thread my friend - I'm lucky enough to still have my Mum around and very much part of my life, and will be seeing her later, in fact today is her birthday as well, so double celebration - can't begin to imagine what life would be like without her in it and feel for anyone where that is the case."

Cheers Mate

I hope you and her have a great day...I had totally moved on from them days.

But seeing it on the news today brought the whole thing back to me as I'd not spoken about it back in my younger days...just got on with it. But I feel for the ones who are in the same situation today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs OP, I'm very lucky to still have my mam with me I treasure every moment with her x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sat watching bbc news and they are showing clips of the other side to mothering sunday. As in people who lost their mothers at a awkward age and how it effected them.

It brought back sad memories to me as I lost my mother aged 6. I hated the day as all my mates were buying cards and presents for Thier mothers and I really felt a big hole on that day.

Obviously I moved on got married and had kids...which at a young age I'd buy cards and presents for them to give to Thier mother until they were old enough to buy their own.

But watching a few celebrities talking about their feelings on the day has just brought back the sadness I felt as a youngster.

So while I hope you lovely ladies have a great day...spare a thought for for the less fortunate

And also it would be good to here other people's views of this day if they were in a similar situation on this day.

Sorry if I've put a downer on it

Hugs

I too hate Mothering Sunday but for different reasons.

I always buy my mum a card as I love her deeply but for many years have been unable to make a fuss, I just hide away until it’s all over"

I'm really sorry to hear this as it's a different slant on this but none the less painful on this day.

I genuinely hope it works out for you before the clock runs out {{{hugs}}}

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's all part of today's inclusionary world, we can't have a day that doesn't include EVERYBODY"

I'm sorry I don't understand why you felt the need to shout the last word out..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A good freind lost his wife 2yrs ago 2 days before mothers day. His daughter was 9 at the time. His sons although older but its always a hard time for them.

His attitude towards today is to get her through the day without too much pain. "

He sounds a good thoughtful father

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Big hugs OP, I'm very lucky to still have my mam with me I treasure every moment with her x"

Thanks Venus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sat watching bbc news and they are showing clips of the other side to mothering sunday. As in people who lost their mothers at a awkward age and how it effected them.

It brought back sad memories to me as I lost my mother aged 6. I hated the day as all my mates were buying cards and presents for Thier mothers and I really felt a big hole on that day.

Obviously I moved on got married and had kids...which at a young age I'd buy cards and presents for them to give to Thier mother until they were old enough to buy their own.

But watching a few celebrities talking about their feelings on the day has just brought back the sadness I felt as a youngster.

So while I hope you lovely ladies have a great day...spare a thought for for the less fortunate

And also it would be good to here other people's views of this day if they were in a similar situation on this day.

Sorry if I've put a downer on it

That’s very sad to read mistress, I still have my mom around but don’t have that close relationship with her. I don’t know if it’s just me as my sister does, and my brother well he’s another story. But it does make me sad that I don’t feel the way I know my kids do towards me, so while I will be celebrating it today I’m more concentrating on it being my eldest sons birthday x

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I find Mother’s Day & Father’s Day more difficult than birthdays, even though they weren’t a big deal ... birthdays were celebrated more, but they are personal & I can deal with them in my own way.

The constant advertising of the cards, gifts, treats, meals etc that comes with today & Father’s Day is like salt in the wounds. I’d love nothing better than to be joining in & buying something & it makes it a very hollow experience.

Big hugs to anyone else having a tough day today xxx

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight

"I'm sat watching bbc news and they are showing clips of the other side to mothering sunday. As in people who lost their mothers at a awkward age and how it effected them.

It brought back sad memories to me as I lost my mother aged 6. I hated the day as all my mates were buying cards and presents for Thier mothers and I really felt a big hole on that day.

Obviously I moved on got married and had kids...which at a young age I'd buy cards and presents for them to give to Thier mother until they were old enough to buy their own.

But watching a few celebrities talking about their feelings on the day has just brought back the sadness I felt as a youngster.

So while I hope you lovely ladies have a great day...spare a thought for for the less fortunate

And also it would be good to here other people's views of this day if they were in a similar situation on this day.

Sorry if I've put a downer on it

Have actually said pretty much the same on our status, obviously not so detailed, we have both ours still thankfully but having terrific mothers and what they do bring, makes us both grateful for this and look beyond our own situation and at least acknowledge many are less fortunate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sat watching bbc news and they are showing clips of the other side to mothering sunday. As in people who lost their mothers at a awkward age and how it effected them.

It brought back sad memories to me as I lost my mother aged 6. I hated the day as all my mates were buying cards and presents for Thier mothers and I really felt a big hole on that day.

Obviously I moved on got married and had kids...which at a young age I'd buy cards and presents for them to give to Thier mother until they were old enough to buy their own.

But watching a few celebrities talking about their feelings on the day has just brought back the sadness I felt as a youngster.

So while I hope you lovely ladies have a great day...spare a thought for for the less fortunate

And also it would be good to here other people's views of this day if they were in a similar situation on this day.

Sorry if I've put a downer on it

{{{Hugs}}}

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find Mother’s Day & Father’s Day more difficult than birthdays, even though they weren’t a big deal ... birthdays were celebrated more, but they are personal & I can deal with them in my own way.

Big hugs to anyone else having a tough day today xxx"

Whilst I'm well over it now as a lot of years have past by....all I can say is time does somehow manage to fill that hole that was there as a youngster.

I hope it eases for you too

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sat watching bbc news and they are showing clips of the other side to mothering sunday. As in people who lost their mothers at a awkward age and how it effected them.

It brought back sad memories to me as I lost my mother aged 6. I hated the day as all my mates were buying cards and presents for Thier mothers and I really felt a big hole on that day.

Obviously I moved on got married and had kids...which at a young age I'd buy cards and presents for them to give to Thier mother until they were old enough to buy their own.

But watching a few celebrities talking about their feelings on the day has just brought back the sadness I felt as a youngster.

So while I hope you lovely ladies have a great day...spare a thought for for the less fortunate

And also it would be good to here other people's views of this day if they were in a similar situation on this day.

Sorry if I've put a downer on it

I had a look at your status and well done for thinking of others

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By *essandpatCouple
over a year ago

chester

"I'm sat watching bbc news and they are showing clips of the other side to mothering sunday. As in people who lost their mothers at a awkward age and how it effected them.

It brought back sad memories to me as I lost my mother aged 6. I hated the day as all my mates were buying cards and presents for Thier mothers and I really felt a big hole on that day.

Obviously I moved on got married and had kids...which at a young age I'd buy cards and presents for them to give to Thier mother until they were old enough to buy their own.

But watching a few celebrities talking about their feelings on the day has just brought back the sadness I felt as a youngster.

So while I hope you lovely ladies have a great day...spare a thought for for the less fortunate

And also it would be good to here other people's views of this day if they were in a similar situation on this day.

Sorry if I've put a downer on it

Hugs

I too hate Mothering Sunday but for different reasons.

I always buy my mum a card as I love her deeply but for many years have been unable to make a fuss, I just hide away until it’s all over"

Try taking baby aspirin iv had a baby, then miscarried 3 I was told to take aspirin so I did and I have 2 more children now x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's a good job I didn't see the news, it would of tipped me over the edge.

I lost my mum when I was 14, totally unexpected, literally one day she was there the next gone. My father could of prepared me for that but didn't.

I have 3 of my own children now so on days like this I concentrate on them ( like every day come to think of it!!)

Hugs to all who need one x

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

"I'm sat watching bbc news and they are showing clips of the other side to mothering sunday. As in people who lost their mothers at a awkward age and how it effected them.

It brought back sad memories to me as I lost my mother aged 6. I hated the day as all my mates were buying cards and presents for Thier mothers and I really felt a big hole on that day.

Obviously I moved on got married and had kids...which at a young age I'd buy cards and presents for them to give to Thier mother until they were old enough to buy their own.

But watching a few celebrities talking about their feelings on the day has just brought back the sadness I felt as a youngster.

So while I hope you lovely ladies have a great day...spare a thought for for the less fortunate

And also it would be good to here other people's views of this day if they were in a similar situation on this day.

Sorry if I've put a downer on it

Hugs

I too hate Mothering Sunday but for different reasons.

I always buy my mum a card as I love her deeply but for many years have been unable to make a fuss, I just hide away until it’s all over

Try taking baby aspirin iv had a baby, then miscarried 3 I was told to take aspirin so I did and I have 2 more children now x"

Thank you for your thoughts. Over the years I tried everything but sadly nothing worked. Low dose aspirin, high dose folic acid, hcg injections, blood thinners. They were all shots from n the dark anyway as there was never any reason found.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's a good job I didn't see the news, it would of tipped me over the edge.

I lost my mum when I was 14, totally unexpected, literally one day she was there the next gone. My father could of prepared me for that but didn't.

I have 3 of my own children now so on days like this I concentrate on them ( like every day come to think of it!!)

Hugs to all who need one x"

Was it that your mother left home...or was it see passed away?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Ah, that is sad,Mistress, {{hugs}} to you and others who don't have their mums in their life anymore. Lost my Mum 2 years ago and visited her grave this morning. Arrived to find my dad tending her flowers, cleaning her stone etc. Broke my heart to see him sad. He still goes twice a week.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The place from whence I spawned doesn't deserve the title of Mother but when I get to this time of year I find myself struggling to make sense of the confusion I feel.

On the one hand I feel hateful and resentful towards her for denying my birth right to have someone looking over me no matter what and loving me unconditionally like mothers traditionally are supposed to, which in turn turns in to a resentment for having it in my face about how everyone else has that which I was denied. But juxtaposed to this is the fact that I am happy for people to have the support and family that they have, because why should they have to suffer like I have and still do. I wish no ill will so the confusion is real. I tend to distract myself in other people's worlds as best I can and get through troublesome times like today vicariously.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah, that is sad,Mistress, {{hugs}} to you and others who don't have their mums in their life anymore. Lost my Mum 2 years ago and visited her grave this morning. Arrived to find my dad tending her flowers, cleaning her stone etc. Broke my heart to see him sad. He still goes twice a week."

Yeah it was and as I've just said in a pm...the saddest part is as a 6 year old ..I have very little memories of her..which used to make me look at my own two kids at that age and think if I died...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The place from whence I spawned doesn't deserve the title of Mother but when I get to this time of year I find myself struggling to make sense of the confusion I feel.

Emotions can really rise at times like this. As I said it was all a long time ago for me...but the item on the news did upset me today. But time does heal on the whole....and i hope it does for you too.

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By *irsttimecouple2018Couple
over a year ago

South Ayrshire

H lost her mother Oct last year very suddenly so this is the first Mothers Day without her. I have tried to be there for her but I feel useless!

As for mine, she got a card and a call but not much emotion in either as she caused me a lot of grief and problems.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Yeah it was and as I've just said in a pm...the saddest part is as a 6 year old ..I have very little memories of her..which used to make me look at my own two kids at that age and think if I died...

I can't imagine being without my mum at that age....

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"H lost her mother Oct last year very suddenly so this is the first Mothers Day without her. I have tried to be there for her but I feel useless!

As for mine, she got a card and a call but not much emotion in either as she caused me a lot of grief and problems."

You're not useless, just being there is enough. It's still very raw for her and all the 'firsts' are difficult. Just cuddle her, good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah it was and as I've just said in a pm...the saddest part is as a 6 year old ..I have very little memories of her..which used to make me look at my own two kids at that age and think if I died...

I can't imagine being without my mum at that age....

In some ways it may have been easier being younger...I had two sisters and two brothers who were all older...and sometimes I think it might have been harder for them. If that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"H lost her mother Oct last year very suddenly so this is the first Mothers Day without her. I have tried to be there for her but I feel useless!

As for mine, she got a card and a call but not much emotion in either as she caused me a lot of grief and problems."

Just as what _amiss said...just be there for her

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"I'm sat watching bbc news and they are showing clips of the other side to mothering sunday. As in people who lost their mothers at a awkward age and how it effected them.

It brought back sad memories to me as I lost my mother aged 6. I hated the day as all my mates were buying cards and presents for Thier mothers and I really felt a big hole on that day.

Obviously I moved on got married and had kids...which at a young age I'd buy cards and presents for them to give to Thier mother until they were old enough to buy their own.

But watching a few celebrities talking about their feelings on the day has just brought back the sadness I felt as a youngster.

So while I hope you lovely ladies have a great day...spare a thought for for the less fortunate

And also it would be good to here other people's views of this day if they were in a similar situation on this day.

Sorry if I've put a downer on it

Hugs

I too hate Mothering Sunday but for different reasons.

I always buy my mum a card as I love her deeply but for many years have been unable to make a fuss, I just hide away until it’s all over"

I know the trauma of not being able to have your own birth children so my heart goes out to you. Myself and my ex husband went through countless ivf treatments all without success,eventually we were fortune enough to adopt,but that's certainly been a rollercoaster.

I hope you find some peace.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I'm incredibly lucky to still have my mum and myself along with my youngest daughter spent the day with her.

To lose a parent whilst you're still a child is unimaginable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm incredibly lucky to still have my mum and myself along with my youngest daughter spent the day with her.

To lose a parent whilst you're still a child is unimaginable."

Time heals a lot but yeah it was painful when looking back this day did hurt a lot...I thought I was over it rearing my own kids I had dropped away...you move on if you know what I mean...but that news item really hit

I am really pleased you had a good day with your mum and daughter

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

My mother in law died the following year from my wedding cancer was the cause now 28 years on my wife still gets upset seeing all the store displays at this time of year . I still have both my parents though both of hers have passed I’m pulled in both directions to celebrate with my mum and dad then cry with her as she wishes for what cannot be .

To all mothers fathers sons and daughters take care of yourselves and your loved ones we’re a long time dead .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My mother in law died the following year from my wedding cancer was the cause now 28 years on my wife still gets upset seeing all the store displays at this time of year . I still have both my parents though both of hers have passed I’m pulled in both directions to celebrate with my mum and dad then cry with her as she wishes for what cannot be .

To all mothers fathers sons and daughters take care of yourselves and your loved ones we’re a long time dead . "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost my mum at 16 and it hurts still even now especially seeing people on Facebook joyous it hurts lots so I stay off it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost my mum in 2011 on my wedding day.

I find it difficult to deal with mothers day. Leading up to it I change, go into myself, I feel quite down and angry. I'm the same with my birthday.

Last night my hubby had a whinge as my own 4 kids never quite know what to do, they want to get me cards/presents but don't as I hate the day.

It never really entered my head I was affecting them.

Ive been married 6 years and am yet to celebrate our anniversary once because I do exactly the same.

Today only 2 of my kids wished me a happy mothers day of their own accord, the other 2 did after prompting from hubby. No cards or presents. Its been a normal day.

Im feeling pretty shitty about myself as my behaviour has affected my kids and hubby.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling but from the other side. I was a child when my father died and there was loads of time not just fathers day where I'd feel down. Like other kids asking "what job does your father do?" and even today cause I'm still young people often ask things like "do you ever go for a few drink with your father?". But my connection to my mother is alot stronger so I assume losing a mother is possibly worse. Everyone here seems to be getting on ok in life so either way the parents would have been proud and would probably want you celebrating the day in other ways.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Yeah it was and as I've just said in a pm...the saddest part is as a 6 year old ..I have very little memories of her..which used to make me look at my own two kids at that age and think if I died...

I can't imagine being without my mum at that age....

In some ways it may have been easier being younger...I had two sisters and two brothers who were all older...and sometimes I think it might have been harder for them. If that makes sense."

Yes it does make sense

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lost my mum at 16 and it hurts still even now especially seeing people on Facebook joyous it hurts lots so I stay off it"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I lost my mum in 2011 on my wedding day.

I find it difficult to deal with mothers day. Leading up to it I change, go into myself, I feel quite down and angry. I'm the same with my birthday.

Last night my hubby had a whinge as my own 4 kids never quite know what to do, they want to get me cards/presents but don't as I hate the day.

It never really entered my head I was affecting them.

Ive been married 6 years and am yet to celebrate our anniversary once because I do exactly the same.

Today only 2 of my kids wished me a happy mothers day of their own accord, the other 2 did after prompting from hubby. No cards or presents. Its been a normal day.

Im feeling pretty shitty about myself as my behaviour has affected my kids and hubby. "

Thats really understandable how you feel...all I can say is time does heal but things will always trigger it off sadly.

I hope it eases for you and your family x

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

Some really sad stories on here. Those that have them, cherish your parents.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I spend today with a very close friend who had to bury her mum 3 years ago today. shitty times. hope I was able to make it a bit easier for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll never be a Mum.now.

Wish I could have met the right one to do it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know the feeling but from the other side. I was a child when my father died and there was loads of time not just fathers day where I'd feel down. Like other kids asking "what job does your father do?" and even today cause I'm still young people often ask things like "do you ever go for a few drink with your father?". But my connection to my mother is alot stronger so I assume losing a mother is possibly worse. Everyone here seems to be getting on ok in life so either way the parents would have been proud and would probably want you celebrating the day in other ways."

I get that about your father as losing either parent is a big loss...but I remember as a young kids fathers day was not evening a tradition at the time.....it came in when I was around 10 or 12 which really pleased me when a could buy my dad a card

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Some really sad stories on here. Those that have them, cherish your parents.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Does it never occur to people that most people over 50 don't have a mother ?

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"I spend today with a very close friend who had to bury her mum 3 years ago today. shitty times. hope I was able to make it a bit easier for her."

I'm sure you did

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Does it never occur to people that most people over 50 don't have a mother ? "

Well I did and I still have my 88 year old father

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Does it never occur to people that most people over 50 don't have a mother ?

Well I did and I still have my 88 year old father

My dad died at 84 after a long illness. It was a very sad time but we expect to lose our parents.

Glad you still have him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who has had miscarriages and is now single and menopausal I find mothers day hard going. This yr esp as I now have to accept it will never happen.

What makes it harder is I have no one to share this with. Everyone assumes i never wanted kids.

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"Does it never occur to people that most people over 50 don't have a mother ?

Well I did and I still have my 88 year old father

My dad died at 84 after a long illness. It was a very sad time but we expect to lose our parents.

Glad you still have him. "

Thank you

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

"As someone who has had miscarriages and is now single and menopausal I find mothers day hard going. This yr esp as I now have to accept it will never happen.

What makes it harder is I have no one to share this with. Everyone assumes i never wanted kids."

Sorry to hear this. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does it never occur to people that most people over 50 don't have a mother ? "

Granny if you read the op I posted..it is not about now it's about a long long time before I was anywhere near 50...

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Does it never occur to people that most people over 50 don't have a mother ?

Granny if you read the op I posted..it is not about now it's about a long long time before I was anywhere near 50..."

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By *anetandNickCouple
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

The commercialisers have invented this fake "Mothers' Day".

But the church does not celebrate that.

It is always "Mothering Sunday", very different. Not everyone can be a mother, and not everyone has a mother alive.

But everyone can give, and receive, a bit of mothering.

Janet

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does it never occur to people that most people over 50 don't have a mother ?

Granny if you read the op I posted..it is not about now it's about a long long time before I was anywhere near 50...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The commercialisers have invented this fake "Mothers' Day".

But the church does not celebrate that.

It is always "Mothering Sunday", very different. Not everyone can be a mother, and not everyone has a mother alive.

But everyone can give, and receive, a bit of mothering.

Janet"

It was invented by the getting card industry...in some ways it's a good thing to celebrate your mother or father once a year. So on the whole I'm not against it...but I get your meaning

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Does it never occur to people that most people over 50 don't have a mother ?

Granny if you read the op I posted..it is not about now it's about a long long time before I was anywhere near 50..."

MD. I did read the O.P. I know it was ages ago.

I didn't post to comment on what you went through ......

Read my post ..... it says what it says.

MOST people over 50 don't have a mother on mothers day or any other day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does it never occur to people that most people over 50 don't have a mother ?

Granny if you read the op I posted..it is not about now it's about a long long time before I was anywhere near 50...

MD. I did read the O.P. I know it was ages ago.

I didn't post to comment on what you went through ......

Read my post ..... it says what it says.

MOST people over 50 don't have a mother on mothers day or any other day "

Aw OK granny...I was a little grumpy earlier. But my cars passed it mot so back to normal...and I'll accept your apology

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