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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On our profile somewhere near the bottom we ask that people looking to meet hhave the words "Read Profile" in the title header. We've found that this is the cause of much annoyance in the single guy community. Has led to us receiving some pretty terse messages and being blocked.

The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our profile somewhere near the bottom we ask that people looking to meet hhave the words "Read Profile" in the title header. We've found that this is the cause of much annoyance in the single guy community. Has led to us receiving some pretty terse messages and being blocked.

The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?"

I kinda guess,,,,perhaps if you put the word "Please" in front of " "Read Profile"....... then you might be seen to be politely "asking", rather than "telling" people what to do.....!

Just a thought.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quickly looked, says "for a meet" before the "Read profile" part, i ping messages to intro myself initially, messaging instantly to meet usually gets us single guys the "pushy" tag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's your profile, your membership and therefore totally up to you what you ask for and what criteria you set.

If people don't like it - tough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our profile somewhere near the bottom we ask that people looking to meet hhave the words "Read Profile" in the title header. We've found that this is the cause of much annoyance in the single guy community. Has led to us receiving some pretty terse messages and being blocked.

The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?"

they are only annoyed at the fact they have to take their hand away from the cock and stop wanking for 2 mins to type it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our profile somewhere near the bottom we ask that people looking to meet hhave the words "Read Profile" in the title header. We've found that this is the cause of much annoyance in the single guy community. Has led to us receiving some pretty terse messages and being blocked.

The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?

I kinda guess,,,,perhaps if you put the word "Please" in front of " "Read Profile"....... then you might be seen to be politely "asking", rather than "telling" people what to do.....!

Just a thought....... "

thats read rhyming with red rather than read rhyming with..er..reed.

Seems like a reasonable request to ensure someone actually has read (red) the profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On our profile somewhere near the bottom we ask that people looking to meet hhave the words "Read Profile" in the title header. We've found that this is the cause of much annoyance in the single guy community. Has led to us receiving some pretty terse messages and being blocked.

The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?

I kinda guess,,,,perhaps if you put the word "Please" in front of " "Read Profile"....... then you might be seen to be politely "asking", rather than "telling" people what to do.....!

Just a thought....... "

We mean "read" in the past tense so in that context "please" doesn't fit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Quickly looked, says "for a meet" before the "Read profile" part, i ping messages to intro myself initially, messaging instantly to meet usually gets us single guys the "pushy" tag."

Ok perhaps replacing it with "to introduce yourself" might fit better, thanks for the feedback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our profile somewhere near the bottom we ask that people looking to meet hhave the words "Read Profile" in the title header. We've found that this is the cause of much annoyance in the single guy community. Has led to us receiving some pretty terse messages and being blocked.

The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?"
Its your profile.Its your rules.If they don't respect your rules they probably wouldn't respect you and we all need that and deserve it.Their single guys.Look at the odds.If they don't like it,fuck em. Or more to the point,don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont know about unreasonable but some people do take this all to serious

If someone contacts you and after chatting you realise your not compatable is it really that big a deal?

Most of the mail i get are from people im not looking for, my profile is quite clear about the fact im after single men aged 30 to early 40s only, yet daily i get dozens of mail from guys in their 20s, couples, women looking fora fuck buddie for her fella so she can go off and play alone etc, i does not bother me as i dont see it a that big a deal to take a couple of mins to read a message from someone im not looking for

I really dont see who it pisses some people off so much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our profile somewhere near the bottom we ask that people looking to meet hhave the words "Read Profile" in the title header. We've found that this is the cause of much annoyance in the single guy community. Has led to us receiving some pretty terse messages and being blocked.

The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?

I kinda guess,,,,perhaps if you put the word "Please" in front of " "Read Profile"....... then you might be seen to be politely "asking", rather than "telling" people what to do.....!

Just a thought.......

We mean "read" in the past tense so in that context "please" doesn't fit. "

Yeah I actually got that,,,, I just didn’t explain myself well…

What I meant was where you have :- “If you're messaging us for a meet put "Read Profile"”

You could try “If you're messaging us for a meet *please* put "Read Profile"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's your profile, your membership and therefore totally up to you what you ask for and what criteria you set.

If people don't like it - tough!"

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think it matters what you put most single guys won't bother anyway. We've been chatting to a guy (who we presumed had read our profile) when he started asking for midweek meets. Told him after about three messages had gone backwards and forwards that he obviously hadn't read our profile, or wasn't listening to what we were saying now and found ourselves blocked!!! Found it highly amusing

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

We learnt very early on that no matter what people write in a profile,a lot of people either don't read it or read it and disregard it anyway.

We accepted this would happen and never get annoyed over mails and now just reply with No thanks if they don't match what we are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our profile somewhere near the bottom we ask that people looking to meet hhave the words "Read Profile" in the title header. We've found that this is the cause of much annoyance in the single guy community. Has led to us receiving some pretty terse messages and being blocked.

The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?"

Rookie mistake guys- you are assuming people wil actually read your profile!

So yes, totally unreasonable!

But unfortunately you can but try, but cannot dictate how others will use/misuse your info!

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


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The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?"

Not at all..whats the point in bothering with people who you are not compatible with...you'll only get branded as timewasters in the end.

We often get messages asking for a meet even though we dont meet anyone and make that clear on the profile..we also ask fr people to send a us a brief message saying hello and why they want to add us as friends..if they cant be arsed to do that we block em anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont know about unreasonable but some people do take this all to serious

If someone contacts you and after chatting you realise your not compatable is it really that big a deal?

Most of the mail i get are from people im not looking for, my profile is quite clear about the fact im after single men aged 30 to early 40s only, yet daily i get dozens of mail from guys in their 20s, couples, women looking fora fuck buddie for her fella so she can go off and play alone etc, i does not bother me as i dont see it a that big a deal to take a couple of mins to read a message from someone im not looking for

I really dont see who it pisses some people off so much"

You're not alone, I don't understand why people get so upset over messages from people that they need to start threads about it. I think most of us have received messages from people outwith our criteria.

My profile is hidden as I'm not meeting, does it stop the messages? Yeah...right. Do I loose sleep over it? Yeah...right!

Some people need to get a grip!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We learnt very early on that no matter what people write in a profile,a lot of people either don't read it or read it and disregard it anyway.

We accepted this would happen and never get annoyed over mails and now just reply with No thanks if they don't match what we are looking for. "

Thats true i get so many messages that start with

I know your not looking for couples but.....

i know your not after younger guys but.....

i really never get why people mail you acknowledging in their opening line they realise you have no interest in them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's your profile, your membership and therefore totally up to you what you ask for and what criteria you set.

If people don't like it - tough!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its why we dont bother having public pics apart from just 1, because they look at pics then act.

They never read the profile, just look at pics.

We now only have a very small amount of text on our profile and 1 pic..

We notice this is not just an issue at Fab's, but also on other sites were on.

Can only guess it's because (mainly) GUYs manage the couple profiles, and they just see pics and cant read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5ft 7 little old me here has met folks who want 6ft+ guys, who want "no older than 40", must be this, must be that,quite often im glad to see it's simply if you are not pushy, insistant, persistant, folks just have the fun open minded attitude that it,,,just,,might be fun.

I do appreciate at the same time, the age limits etc are by way of limiting quantity of unwanted messages.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"On our profile somewhere near the bottom we ask that people looking to meet hhave the words "Read Profile" in the title header. We've found that this is the cause of much annoyance in the single guy community. Has led to us receiving some pretty terse messages and being blocked.

The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?"

Nope, many have a codeword.i get several cut and paste messages from men who have not read my profile a day.i know they are cut and paste cos i specifically say i am not meeting single men.

Anyone who objects to your word isnt worth meeting,consider it a blessing they have blocked you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont know about unreasonable but some people do take this all to serious

If someone contacts you and after chatting you realise your not compatable is it really that big a deal?

Most of the mail i get are from people im not looking for, my profile is quite clear about the fact im after single men aged 30 to early 40s only, yet daily i get dozens of mail from guys in their 20s, couples, women looking fora fuck buddie for her fella so she can go off and play alone etc, i does not bother me as i dont see it a that big a deal to take a couple of mins to read a message from someone im not looking for

I really dont see who it pisses some people off so much

You're not alone, I don't understand why people get so upset over messages from people that they need to start threads about it. I think most of us have received messages from people outwith our criteria.

My profile is hidden as I'm not meeting, does it stop the messages? Yeah...right. Do I loose sleep over it? Yeah...right!

Some people need to get a grip! "

Have no problem with getting messages from people outwith our criteria - we also don't lose sleep.

We've made some changes to the profile as a result of advice given so pull be glad to know we're getting a grip as we speak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our profile somewhere near the bottom we ask that people looking to meet hhave the words "Read Profile" in the title header. We've found that this is the cause of much annoyance in the single guy community. Has led to us receiving some pretty terse messages and being blocked.

The reason we do it is that we only want contact from people who have read and understood what we want from this. Surely the key to a successful meet is to have mutual expectations met?

Are we being unreasonable by asking for this?"

Totally unreasonable..... well you did ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont know about unreasonable but some people do take this all to serious

If someone contacts you and after chatting you realise your not compatable is it really that big a deal?

Most of the mail i get are from people im not looking for, my profile is quite clear about the fact im after single men aged 30 to early 40s only, yet daily i get dozens of mail from guys in their 20s, couples, women looking fora fuck buddie for her fella so she can go off and play alone etc, i does not bother me as i dont see it a that big a deal to take a couple of mins to read a message from someone im not looking for

I really dont see who it pisses some people off so much"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends how big a read your profile is , at the end of the day if your profile reads like a book it gets a bit boring , plus if there are too many specifications then it gets annoying , dont bother me to the extent of responding in a bad way though i just give them a swerve .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the feedback, based on this we've decided to simplify the profile and take the stipulation out.

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