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By *ampshirehotwife OP   Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I know that this sounds strange but I'm more concerned about how women perceive me on here than men.

If I go out I'm more worried that women will think I look tarty than men.

Do other women think like this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never really occurred to me to be honest.

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By *oodnitegirlWoman
over a year ago

Yorkshire

Only if they are gonna act on being nasty about it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I care what everyone thinks.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

I think women should bolster each other instead of trying to tear down. Other than that unless it's positive or helpful I don't want to hear it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I find more women than men are critical of other women. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me but it does x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, why would I be worried about the opinions of people I don't know? If I was, do you think I would look the way I do? I do/wear what I like, because I like it, I don't let the opinions of others determine my choices

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I care what people think - but only to an extent. You mentioned the word tarty.. do you mean in your dress choice? Personally I wear whatever I like - whether it’s for my age or not If i look good then I feel good.. I’ve found most women in this lifestyle to be very supportive and friendly, but still at the end of the day I dance to the beat of my own drum. Let them talk and if they do, then I wouldn’t want to be friendly with them anyway

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't really worry what anybody thinks I look like. I take Mr N's view into consideration and he often picks clothes out for me. I adjust what I wear when I visit my mum because she comments if my clothes are low cut or shorter than she thinks is decent. However none of this worries me. I do get comments from other women on my appearance they vary from compliments to insults dressed up as compliments but as long as I feel I loom nice I'm not bothered.

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By *issIrishCoffeeWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Nope , I can careless what anyone thinks about me

Why should i care unless they say it to my face , But 9 out of 10 they won't

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I stay clear of couples due to jealous women in the past which is a shame.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I know that this sounds strange but I'm more concerned about how women perceive me on here than men.

If I go out I'm more worried that women will think I look tarty than men.

Do other women think like this?"

It doesn't sound strange though what your reasons are I don't know.

In general women aren't thought tarty by men but 'available' or 'up for it' and after all that's what women dress that way for , for male approval whether they are in hot denial or not. You don't dress that way to impress other women and they are not going to be impressed by you so that's why you fear their rebuttal ( im generalising here - don't think Im meaning it IS you ) To a degree it does mean that you only want sexual recognition from men but you want women to think about you as a whole and you know the outer slut is only a small part of who you are. Hmmmmmm men are pretty one dimensional aren't they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not something I think about, In all honesty, I don't consider how strangers think about me, be it male or female. I did more so when I was younger. As I've aged, I realise it's the opinions of those that are close to me, that are the ones that matter.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Yes, I find more women than men are critical of other women. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me but it does x "

I agree that women are more critical of each other than men of women. No idea why.

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Couldn't care less lol, each to their own.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

When speaking to female friends on the forum, they will say how judgemental it is and feel, despite their smaller number compared to couples/men that they are very competitive toward each other.

That's life!

IWD2018

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I do to a certain extent - if they are women I care about or like (pr want to impress). With regards to strangers when I am out, I don't want to be seen as being something I am not so I guess to some extent I do? Can't really explain it clearly.

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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouh


"I stay clear of couples due to jealous women in the past which is a shame. "

Yes I hear this a lot, which is soooo frustrating when you’re the female half of the couple and reaallllly want some female attention!

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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouh


"Yes, I find more women than men are critical of other women. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me but it does x

I agree that women are more critical of each other than men of women. No idea why."

I think it’s all about that primitive instinct to bag a hubby. Makes women competitive with each other. I’ve never really been that way.

My view has always been ‘I like me, I think I’m pretty hot, I’d give me one, in fact I do on many occasions, so if you don’t like me then that’s your energy you’re wasting I’m off to have a wank’ haha!

If my Mr wants to fuck you (and he probably does he’s a bloke after all) and you want to fuck him as long as I can watch I’m well happy!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"I stay clear of couples due to jealous women in the past which is a shame. "

Really? That surprises me. I get on great with most couples and uasually find them happy and secure in their relationship - ergo not prone to jealousy!

Any problem I ever have on Fab or in clubs is invariably with/due to other single women - not couples or men!

Do I care what they think? Yes - to an extent as I consider myself a nice person and it makes me sad when people have perceptions about me that are false!

That said - the days of me losing sleep about it are fortunately long gone!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I do to a certain extent - if they are women I care about or like (pr want to impress). With regards to strangers when I am out, I don't want to be seen as being something I am not so I guess to some extent I do? Can't really explain it clearly.

"

I think this is how I feel. I don't want to be judged incorrectly based on how I look.

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting

I’ve had a complete confidence breakdown & worry what everyone thinks at the moment

B x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooh no. I'm here for the fucks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When speaking to female friends on the forum, they will say how judgemental it is and feel, despite their smaller number compared to couples/men that they are very competitive toward each other.

That's life!

IWD2018

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Are you saying people are judging my slippers??

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Ooh no. I'm here for the fucks. "

Do you find the slippers help?

I’d never considered a slipper pic!

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Don't give a flying fuck what they think they can do their own thing and I'll do mine.

But can honestly say I've never look at any other women and thought they look tarty or anything of that nature I've looked at loads and thought I want that outfit love those shoes or maybe that's because I'm a tart meself

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By *rMrsRichCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouh


"When speaking to female friends on the forum, they will say how judgemental it is and feel, despite their smaller number compared to couples/men that they are very competitive toward each other.

That's life!

IWD2018

Are you saying people are judging my slippers?? "

Haha yes we all judge a book by their slippers!

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Don't give a flying fuck what they think they can do their own thing and I'll do mine.

But can honestly say I've never look at any other women and thought they look tarty or anything of that nature I've looked at loads and thought I want that outfit love those shoes or maybe that's because I'm a tart meself "

Clearly! You’re riding the world’s largest Penis! Tramp! (signed - jealous!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no not at all OP

nth I only care what my family and friends think of me

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"When speaking to female friends on the forum, they will say how judgemental it is and feel, despite their smaller number compared to couples/men that they are very competitive toward each other.

That's life!

IWD2018

Are you saying people are judging my slippers?? "

Right this minute.

The tutting and rolling of eyes is almost palpable.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"When speaking to female friends on the forum, they will say how judgemental it is and feel, despite their smaller number compared to couples/men that they are very competitive toward each other.

That's life!

IWD2018

Are you saying people are judging my slippers??

Right this minute.

The tutting and rolling of eyes is almost palpable."

Are you thinking the same as I am? No backs on them. Her feet are half naked! Tramp!!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"When speaking to female friends on the forum, they will say how judgemental it is and feel, despite their smaller number compared to couples/men that they are very competitive toward each other.

That's life!

IWD2018

Are you saying people are judging my slippers??

Right this minute.

The tutting and rolling of eyes is almost palpable.

Are you thinking the same as I am? No backs on them. Her feet are half naked! Tramp!! "

Yup exposed heals and all that faux fur. She's gagging! The flooze!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. If this is a competition, then I refuse to take part

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


"I’ve had a complete confidence breakdown & worry what everyone thinks at the moment

B x"

We still love you and are here for you.x

Honestly if my self esteem is low I do get upset by the way people judge me for my outfits, saying that if my esteem is good I don't give a toss.

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I wear what I want and don’t really care about anyone else’s opinion. I’m not looking to impress a female to be fair.

If I worried about what others thought then I’d never go out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When speaking to female friends on the forum, they will say how judgemental it is and feel, despite their smaller number compared to couples/men that they are very competitive toward each other.

That's life!

IWD2018

Are you saying people are judging my slippers??

Haha yes we all judge a book by their slippers! "

Should I be wearing pink fluffy mules?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When speaking to female friends on the forum, they will say how judgemental it is and feel, despite their smaller number compared to couples/men that they are very competitive toward each other.

That's life!

IWD2018

Are you saying people are judging my slippers??

Right this minute.

The tutting and rolling of eyes is almost palpable.

Are you thinking the same as I am? No backs on them. Her feet are half naked! Tramp!!

Yup exposed heals and all that faux fur. She's gagging! The flooze!"

I'm thinking of wearing them to a club night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I couldn't give a flying fuck what anyone thinks of me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, the opinions of other women on here don't matter to me at all...but then I don't come into contact with any socially or otherwise. I've never had any negative comments, and my regular meets are very loyal, so tell/show me any messages they get asking about me

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton


"Don't give a flying fuck what they think they can do their own thing and I'll do mine.

But can honestly say I've never look at any other women and thought they look tarty or anything of that nature I've looked at loads and thought I want that outfit love those shoes or maybe that's because I'm a tart meself

Clearly! You’re riding the world’s largest Penis! Tramp! (signed - jealous!) "

Should see the one I took in my arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only people who's opinions matter to me are those I care about...so female friends, yes...anyone else? Nah

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"When speaking to female friends on the forum, they will say how judgemental it is and feel, despite their smaller number compared to couples/men that they are very competitive toward each other.

That's life!

IWD2018

Are you saying people are judging my slippers??

Right this minute.

The tutting and rolling of eyes is almost palpable.

Are you thinking the same as I am? No backs on them. Her feet are half naked! Tramp!!

Yup exposed heals and all that faux fur. She's gagging! The flooze!

I'm thinking of wearing them to a club night "

Phwoar!

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

I dont care what people think of me, be it men or women. I am me, I am staying me and if people dont like that then..thers the door, walk thru it and dont come back!

Mazza xx

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

Do I like others to think well of me? Of course! Seriously.... who wants anyone to think they're shit?

I'd rather walk into a social and have people be glad to see me than not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I honestly only care about what Marc thinks of me and what I think of myself.

I do think women are generally more critical and judgemental of other women than men are. But that's a big generalization, I know. I just don't really care what any of them think.

When I first went to clubs I did get worried. But that wore off fairly quickly. Then again, I think Americans are taught to have an unhealthy amount of self-esteem and I'm a product of that upbringing. Oh well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think women should bolster each other instead of trying to tear down. Other than that unless it's positive or helpful I don't want to hear it x"

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Nah, dem bitches can suck it up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do to a certain extent - if they are women I care about or like (pr want to impress). With regards to strangers when I am out, I don't want to be seen as being something I am not so I guess to some extent I do? Can't really explain it clearly.

I think this is how I feel. I don't want to be judged incorrectly based on how I look. "

I have always looked different to the norm since I left school so I am used to being judged on my appearance. You soon tire of worrying about it. If people are shallow enough to judge you on looks alone then they are not worth my breath to explain and make them see who I really am.

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Don't give a flying fuck what they think they can do their own thing and I'll do mine.

But can honestly say I've never look at any other women and thought they look tarty or anything of that nature I've looked at loads and thought I want that outfit love those shoes or maybe that's because I'm a tart meself

Clearly! You’re riding the world’s largest Penis! Tramp! (signed - jealous!)

Should see the one I took in my arse "

I literally spluttered!

Hope your arse heals in time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully not anymore. I used to always worry what other women thought of me. Now I just take what they say with a pinch of salt. Your never gonna please everyone so why try. I only please myself these days

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I don't care as such but I do wonder

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish


"Thankfully not anymore. I used to always worry what other women thought of me. Now I just take what they say with a pinch of salt. Your never gonna please everyone so why try. I only please myself these days "

Yourself - and every guy who looks at hot photos! You have a gorgeous figure and some great pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that this sounds strange but I'm more concerned about how women perceive me on here than men.

If I go out I'm more worried that women will think I look tarty than men.

Do other women think like this?"

could have a chat about it in a hotel bar near you sometime if you fancied it .....

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Im quite shy so yes, what anyone thinks of me matters. I just be myself and if they dont like me they can either tell me to my face or get on with it. Its hard to not care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's never really occurred to me to be honest. "

havent you got a book on the subject

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do if I fancy her. Was in a flat spin about a recent couples meet until I realised she was as nervous as me.

I'm a big girl so the rest of the time I kind of assume I'm being judged negatively by those who don't know me for being overweight, never mind what I'm wearing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i always worry about what others think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I’m not a woman’s woman and much prefer men as friends. They are entitled to their opinion but it’s just that, an opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really care what other women think of me either on here or when I'm out. They are total strangers and know nothing about me and even if they did know something about me, I still wouldn't care about their opinion.

I believe that people tend to judge on how we look or what we wear when actually other people's opinions of us do not validate who we actually are. Just love yourself and don't be consumed by other people's thoughts? x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined I did but I don't any longer because I have had too much nastiness from women on here, more than any men at all

I now just think let them get on with it and realise that, as with all keyboard warriors, were I to meet them face to face they wouldn't be as nasty or rude or horrible...

Some lovely ladies on here have been very good to me too and I do care what they think of me to a point...

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly peoples opinions of me are really unimportant to me.

I care what certain people think about me but they are usually peoples opinions I value, and even then if their opinion of me is something I don't agree with then it doesn't affect me very much..

I'm a very non caring type when it comes to other people's opinions of me.

~Mia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thankfully not anymore. I used to always worry what other women thought of me. Now I just take what they say with a pinch of salt. Your never gonna please everyone so why try. I only please myself these days

Yourself - and every guy who looks at hot photos! You have a gorgeous figure and some great pics! "

Thanks very much. You've got great pics too

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By *rank n BettyCouple
over a year ago

Not meeting


"I’ve had a complete confidence breakdown & worry what everyone thinks at the moment

B x

We still love you and are here for you.x

Honestly if my self esteem is low I do get upset by the way people judge me for my outfits, saying that if my esteem is good I don't give a toss.

"

Need my Consultant to be nice next month & agree to my op. Then I can be drug free, get my life back & start having fun again!!! Poor Frank taking the brunt of it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know that this sounds strange but I'm more concerned about how women perceive me on here than men.

If I go out I'm more worried that women will think I look tarty than men.

Do other women think like this?"

I’m not really bothered what other ( especially strangers) think of me. I was when I was younger but as I’ve got older I really couldn’t care less.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I couldn’t care less .... not my business to know what others think about me ... the only opinion that matters is mine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care what other women think to a certain extent. Unless I'm trying to attract her into sex/relationship/friendship.

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

I really dont care what people think about me .heard it all before so it goes over my head ..

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Fuck no

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By *odestyB007Woman
over a year ago

Winchester


"I couldn’t care less .... not my business to know what others think about me ... the only opinion that matters is mine x "

Absolute agree

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