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Do you have to love yourself before you can others,?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I read you have too love you before others .? To find true LOVE.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can't love yourself, why would anyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have heard this saying Many times suppose it could have some validity to it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have heard this saying Many times suppose it could have some validity to it "
And you here some say oooo he or she is really up them self s as in loving them selfs ... you cant win . lol

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I've had it then lol

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Having dated somebody when I was younger who was full if hang ups and issues around themselves totally lacking in any self confidence it is definitely true. It was very wearing constantly having to reassure her that she was beautiful and that I loved her for herself.

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By *arciocialWoman
over a year ago

Leicester

Yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At least enough to understand what love is

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At least enough to understand what love is"
well I am told your cant find out until you love yourself .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

In my years here found some who loved them selfs so much it put me right off them . lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you can't love yourself, why would anyone else?"

Can I get an amen lol x

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"If you can't love yourself, why would anyone else?"

Exactly this .... why would anyone expect anyone else to Love them if they don’t love themselves ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you can't love yourself, why would anyone else?

Can I get an amen lol x"
Amen .

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Yep

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep "
so we are saying to everyone here love yourself if you wish to be loved ...................

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are happy and content with yourself there's no reason why others won't love you. This doesn't mean you love yourself.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Totally agree

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel


"Having dated somebody when I was younger who was full if hang ups and issues around themselves totally lacking in any self confidence it is definitely true. It was very wearing constantly having to reassure her that she was beautiful and that I loved her for herself."

Yeah I agree with this, having been like that a lot of my life, and still am a bit. Maybe put it this way, if a person doesn't respect themself they're probably not going to respect you.

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By *EEBEE123Man
over a year ago

Wirral

I totally agree, as someone that suffers from depression it's very hard to love someone else when you're constantly beating yourself up and on a self destruct mode.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"I totally agree, as someone that suffers from depression it's very hard to love someone else when you're constantly beating yourself up and on a self destruct mode. "

She pushed me away in the end saying that I was too good for her. I was both heartbroken and relieved at the same time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do twice a day more at weekends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes you do OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think so. Because you need to believe you deserve it to really feel it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think ppl know what true love is these days, as I we live in a society where things come and go so easily we're spoilt.....you have to love yourself not over the top tho and be big headed about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah you do.

I see so many women in unhappy relationships who are there because their self esteem and confidence are so low they don't feel they can be alone, the same goes for some who just skip from relationship to relationship. I'd rather be single forever rather than be unhappy with the wrong person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally don’t think so. My husband loved me long, long before I learned to love myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah you do.

I see so many women in unhappy relationships who are there because their self esteem and confidence are so low they don't feel they can be alone, the same goes for some who just skip from relationship to relationship. I'd rather be single forever rather than be unhappy with the wrong person. "

Well said. This is true for a lot of men I know too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Loads of people love others but not themselves. So many people have low self esteem it shocks me sometimes. Yet having high self esteem or valuing yourself which is essentially loving yourself in my opinion, seems to be frowned on.

If more people loved themselves and took care of themselves as they would a loved one more relationships would be successful I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many questions like this make just as much sense if they are reversed...

Perhaps if someone loves you then you will love yourself ....just because...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I read you have too love you before others .? To find true LOVE.?"

Not necessarily but if you get 2 people who are happy and content and confident it makes a relationship something special x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If you can't love yourself, why would anyone else?"

My view too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you can't love yourself, why would anyone else?

My view too.

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Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Loads of people love others but not themselves. So many people have low self esteem it shocks me sometimes. Yet having high self esteem or valuing yourself which is essentially loving yourself in my opinion, seems to be frowned on.

If more people loved themselves and took care of themselves as they would a loved one more relationships would be successful I think."

This x100

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t agree, I think you can love other people and not love yourself. X

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