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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Try meditation they said.....

It's good for you they said...

Except I can't do it, my mind won't shut up for long enough, I never realised what an incessant inner monologue I had going on until I tried to shut it the he'll up.

Does anyone have any tips because this meditation lark is stressing me out

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Go with someone who fishes ( or fish yourself ), it works a treat

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By *roticGoddessXXWoman
over a year ago

Richmond

"Go with someone who fishes ( or fish yourself ), it works a treat"

Unless you're a fish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes practise.

I (fem) was like you to begin with. Practise concentrating on the pattern of your breathing as often as you can, it calms your mind.

Don't expect too much too soon, if you can even manage 20 seconds t first you can work on that.

It's so beneficial sticking with it once you have mastered it and you can see and feel the difference. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try using Mindfulness

Go Google

Works for me.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Go with someone who fishes ( or fish yourself ), it works a treat

Unless you're a fish."

She is asking for herself, not for the fish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes time to shut out the outside world and internal thoughts .

To recognise you have noticed them is good . Congratulate yourself on noticing . Remember to be compassionate to yourself and keep trying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try using Mindfulness

Go Google

Works for me.

^this

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

The best thing ive read thats really helped with my meditation is How To Be Human by Ruby Wax. Its a realy easy read and has lots of mindfullness excercises. Try it, its honestly really worked for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Try using Mindfulness

Go Google

Works for me.

^this"
this is how I meditate

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By *olieandSlaveCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

Try a guided meditation on youtube.

Pop earphones in and shut the world out!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Go with someone who fishes ( or fish yourself ), it works a treat"

Urgh I hate fish...its the eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

An old girlfriend said that the opening strains of MOTD did the trick for her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's been a similar thread quite recently with some good suggestions

https://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/733467

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try a guided meditation on youtube.

Pop earphones in and shut the world out!"

I tried guided meditations, just ended up thinking how annoying the voice was, I think I need to find new one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Music helps me, as do candles, wax melts etc

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By *olieandSlaveCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

"An old girlfriend said that the opening strains of MOTD did the trick for her

its the star trek opening credits or a LOTR film for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But seriously. My own inner monologue used to also prevent me from properly being able to enter a meditative state. The method of concentrating on an imagined object, or reciting a mantra was one way that it sometimes worked for me (although not always. Sometimes my overactive imagination would go off on tangents and I'd be miles off track if I wasn't careful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try this as well with earphones in (sorry I can't remember if I'm allowed to post YouTube links on the forum)

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=LFGsZ6ythQQ

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By *ed wineMan
over a year ago

Where the streets have no name

"Try meditation they said.....

It's good for you they said...

Except I can't do it, my mind won't shut up for long enough, I never realised what an incessant inner monologue I had going on until I tried to shut it the he'll up.

Does anyone have any tips because this meditation lark is stressing me out

It is not easy and takes time. Meditation is basically an exercise aimed to learn how to control our attention and focus it where we want.

Keep you attention on your breath. In a few seconds your inner monologue will appear again and when it happens go back to your breath.

With practice, you can change to other physical sensations and eventually, leave apart that thoughts.

Adrian xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just notice your inner chatter and let it go, then focus on your breathing.

Your inner chatter can actually be dealt with like a magic radio. It has a volume control. You can turn the volume down, up or off. You can even imagine it in the sexiest voice you can think of or make it sound Donald Duck. You can imagine it’s different parts of you as different ‘beings’ all talking to each other. You are in control of your mind. Take charge you are its boss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same boat, I'm working on mindfulness meditation but I can only do in bed at night. Any other time is far too distracting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Go with someone who fishes ( or fish yourself ), it works a treat"

Was trying to work out what bizarre, relaxing/kinky ritual this was.

Fishing,like on a river

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm going to set some time aside to try all these suggested techniques thankyou.

Only another week until my puppy is old enough to get out walking and then I have an excuse to disappear for an hour into nature and just "be at peace". Might find it easier then

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"Go with someone who fishes ( or fish yourself ), it works a treat

Was trying to work out what bizarre, relaxing/kinky ritual this was.

Fishing,like on a river

haha

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