FabSwingers.com forum: Is our obsession with sex sometimes unhealthy?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is there such a thing as being TOO obsessed with sex, to a degree where it might actually start to become a little unhealthy?

Are you a “careerist” Swinger that has to go to a sex club every weekend (or every chance you get), so much so that normal ‘vanilla’ nights out just no longer do it or hold any interest for you?

I see some profiles on here where literally every day there’s brand new pics being uploaded in yet another new piece of raunchy lingerie or with yet another sex toy, it must cost them a fortune!

Do you find yourself regularly spending your disposable income on brand new sexy clothes or toys? Doesn’t there come a point when buying the latest sex item is an addiction / compulsion rather than a need?

What about those that claim they’re constantly horny 24/7?

Does having sex all the time eventually become routine / samey? I like cake but I know if I had it all of the time I’d soon become bored of it. Unless I was addicted to it, of course, which in anyone’s book can’t be good for me.

To be absolutely clear, I’m not criticising anyone in the lifestyle as everyone is free to use their own time and money to enjoy themselves as they see fit, but it does seem that for some on here their life literally revolves around the scene and when ANYTHING is done to excess you have to wonder if that’s a good thing or not?

Views anyone?

(tin hat on!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Undoubtedly.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

This is just something we enjoy from time to time. Sometimes we take a complete break from it others we will be fairly active.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too much of anything gets a bit boring . I like time to build up a bit of passion again .

And there's tonnes of other stuff id like to get done too none of it sexy

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's subjective, so just manage yourself and reduce anything that's above your threshold.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's subjective, so just manage yourself and reduce anything that's above your threshold."

True, but are we always able to spot the warning signs, particularly when it comes to ourselves?

Like the alcoholic that doesn’t see the problem with having 5 pints every single night, or the gambler that thinks spending 6 or 7 hours a day playing online Blackjack is nothing to worry about?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything in moderation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do have a lingerie addiction but that’s more for myself than for on here. And we don’t go to clubs so can’t say we do that regularly. We don’t have to have weekly meets or do Fab related activities so manage to keep a healthy balance for us. But what we Want and what others want is purely subjective. I don’t judge. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's subjective, so just manage yourself and reduce anything that's above your threshold.

True, but are we always able to spot the warning signs, particularly when it comes to ourselves?

Like the alcoholic that doesn’t see the problem with having 5 pints every single night, or the gambler that thinks spending 6 or 7 hours a day playing online Blackjack is nothing to worry about? "

I think it’s about when it impairs/has negative impact on the rest of your life: whether someone is self-aware as to when that happens is debatable. Cycle of change means many (where there’s a negative impact) may not see a problem but others might, if in the pre-contemplative stage. However a person will not take action, or not agree there’s an issue if in pre-contemplative stage - and unless there’s a crime or lack of mental capacity as correctly assessed etc. people are allowed to make choices to live their lives in fashions others may see as damaging or unhealthy. If someone is in the contemplative stage and sees the potential that their behaviour is negatively impacting then there is more support that can be given to help them make choices for change, if they wish to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In answer to the OP question:

“Is there such a thing as being TOO obsessed with sex, to a degree where it might actually start to become a little unhealthy?”

Yes. Sex addiction is a thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if it gets in the way of your normal life then yes I think it is an addiction and it is a bad thing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All I'll say is them fecking viagra give me a unhealthy headache ffs

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I go though phases. when I am very very active I actually look why I do what I do.

and i have cancelled meets in the past when friends were meeting up or needed my support. it is fun on here- but there are more important things in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who's obsessed? It's been a couple of years and I'm not even missing it.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Yes, I have met someone whose life was (possibly is) just finding women and couples and going to clubs and parties. It made him boring to be around.

I don't have enough sex to be sex addicted. I do like buying lingerie but I have resisted for months and months.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think even the simple sexual behaviour, such as wanking can be unhealthy if not controlled.

Once the things you like to do control you, it has became unhealthy.

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