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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have a doctors appointment tomorrow to discuss mental health stuff, but if anyone has any tips for points that would be useful to bring up or just plain encouragement, that would be really useful and I'll read them all tomorrow before my appointment.

Feeling very excited, nervous but positive about my future. I reeeeally want to make this opportunity as productive as possible.

Thanks everyone!

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By *arpePinguisWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Well done for making the appointment! The Mind site is full of great advice. Make a note of all the issues concerning you before you go, as it can sometimes be overwhelming.

Often meds are the first recommendation- for me, they got me to the point of being able to face therapy, which was huge. Be aware it will take time for meds to work. In my area, there is a Wellbeing service with various counselling and group advice sessions, see what is available in your area.

You've made a great start by making the appointment, best of luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be honest. Maybe make some notes about things you want to talk about in case you can't remember. And don't play things down.

Hugs x

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By *nne CallanWoman
over a year ago

Nothing to see here. Please move along.

take tissues as mh appointments can trigger some strong feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes be honest and don’t play things down. If you don’t tell them everything then the treatment isn’t going to be as effective. Write down the important points as you see them. And plenty of tissues x

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Do make notes prior to the meet as when you are there all the things you need to say go out the window.

Hope all goes well and they are understanding of your problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have any advice but I'm offering my encouragement.

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over a year ago

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Write things down as you think of them. Once you're there you may well go blank.

Be 100% honest.

Don't second guess yourself for fear of sounding silly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid saying “wibble”.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

notes are definitely good for any drs appointment - lost count of how many times i go and come away and later on remember something i should have asked about -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can only offer support and encouragement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A massive “go you” for making this appointment. The help that is out there is incredible, I’ve experienced it first hand and work in the field.

The advice on this thread is brilliant. I’d echo to write everything down, talk and keep talking. If you cry that’s ok, they’ve seen it all before.

I am sure you will feel even more positive after tomorrow.

Sending lots of love x

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Oh yeah, I forgot to say....

Once you get your arse out the docs, give yourself a fucking great pat on the back coz you'll deserve one. You'll probably feel a huge sense of relief that you've taken a massive step forward and for that you should be proud xx

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By *ltravioletWoman
over a year ago

In amongst the Unicorns & fairy dust

"I have a doctors appointment tomorrow to discuss mental health stuff, but if anyone has any tips for points that would be useful to bring up or just plain encouragement, that would be really useful and I'll read them all tomorrow before my appointment.

Feeling very excited, nervous but positive about my future. I reeeeally want to make this opportunity as productive as possible.

Thanks everyone! "
I don’t have any advice just experience ,, write words down that will lead up to ask questions , never be afraid of opening up to a professional it helped me because they didn’t know me ,, Mind website is great you can download lots of “ non heavy “ stuff that’s easy to print off and read and also share with close ones ,, I wish you all the best xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t put pencils up your nose. You’ll fool no one.

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By *queekyCheesyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

When they ask whats wrong, dont say "i want to kill people" because apparently that lands you in shit you dont need right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As already mentioned, the first difficult hurdle is making that appointment, but you've done it

Just be open and honest. The Dr's will have heard it all before, so don't feel embarrassed, whatever you're feeling, just let them know.

Writing it down is a brilliant way of making sure everything is covered.

Best of luck x

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No tips, but good luck with it today!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a very brave first step . My only advice is to be honest and open x x sending a massive cwtch x x

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

Having been there, be open and honest, and if you don’t think they are being constructive, ask to see another doctor. I didn’t have to do this as my doctor was very experienced in MH issues and “got it” straight away. It should be a conversation, not an instant solution. If they offer you drugs straight away without talking through your issues, they are just trying to get rid of you.

Sending lots of love and thoughts, remember “these times will pass”...

Twat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done, after today you've got the biggest hurdle out of the way.

Don't want to put a downer on things but I hope you're gp is more understanding than mine was!!

I did get the meds and a leaflet about self help. I was brutally honest and also got judged for doing so. Can't say that helped much and has made me cautious about returning, even though I'm struggling right now.

Good luck op, this is the start of your road to recovery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there several times before for very different trigger points.

Be as open and honest as you can because above all else if you are to benefit from this you need to give all that you have.

The first time I ever did it I held so much back and felt that I had failed which added to the negative feelings I already had.

Be strong but not too strong, they don't mind if you cry and crying is part of the healing process.

Good luck and much love

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I have spoke about my own MH issues from time to time on here.

Went I went to the doctors 5 years ago, I had just had a breakdown in the office. I was in such a state, I didn’t want to go back, I wanted to stay in bed all day every day. I hated the world, and thought the world hated me.

I didn’t want to meet friends, I didn’t want to go to swinging events either clubs, or meets. I dropped away from the world.

I had to go because I knew I wasn’t well. I was pescribed anti depressants and I ended up taking them. Work was a big driver of my health but so was my home life and both needed healing. Luckily I started with home life. After receiving Counceling i eventually went back to work after a few months.

Things had changed but i was now not being given work at all within 10 months I left working for that manager and moved on. My next two managers were accommodating and I felt like I was getting the support I needed

Even if I do have a bad week or bad couple of weeks, I know how to switch myself out. People that meet me are shocked when i mention I had a mental breakdown.

Anyway I hope it goes well today and my inbox is open

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope all goes well and that somebody accompanies you for support x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you lovelies, all these comments have helped a lot

I'm just about to make a lot of notes to describe my day to day shit and more longterm stuff. I've tried to tackle it before but not to this extreme.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you lovelies, all these comments have helped a lot

I'm just about to make a lot of notes to describe my day to day shit and more longterm stuff. I've tried to tackle it before but not to this extreme.

Hugs x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you lovelies, all these comments have helped a lot

I'm just about to make a lot of notes to describe my day to day shit and more longterm stuff. I've tried to tackle it before but not to this extreme.

Hugs x"

I have a sparkly iridescent notebook & a purple pen. I am set

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wishing you the very best. It takes courage to do this x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Result...

Opened up about more than I expected to but the doctor was very understanding, the notes helped A LOT, I'm being referred to a counselling service and I have a ECG in ten days, then depending on those results I might be put on antidepressants.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Glad it went well. Hope you get sorted out soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad it went well. Hope you get sorted out soon."

Seconded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Result...

Well done with the opening up.

Hope it all helps

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By *arpePinguisWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Woohoo, glad you've got some positive options

well done on making a great move x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Result...

Glad to hear you were happy with the outcome... It's not always that successful. Great news

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have spoke about my own MH issues from time to time on here.

I didn’t want to meet friends, I didn’t want to go to swinging events either clubs, or meets. I dropped away from the world.

Even if I do have a bad week or bad couple of weeks, I know how to switch myself out. People that meet me are shocked when i mention I had a mental breakdown.

Anyway I hope it goes well today and my inbox is open

Well done you for being so open... Too many people (especially male) won't be open about something like this xxx

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

"I have spoke about my own MH issues from time to time on here.

I didn’t want to meet friends, I didn’t want to go to swinging events either clubs, or meets. I dropped away from the world.

Even if I do have a bad week or bad couple of weeks, I know how to switch myself out. People that meet me are shocked when i mention I had a mental breakdown.

Anyway I hope it goes well today and my inbox is open

Well done you for being so open... Too many people (especially male) won't be open about something like this xxx"

Agreed. A lot of men don’t speak about mental health issues. Mental health issues are difficult, people say shake your head out, let’s go the pub. When I speak to football mates that I have met since I was ill a lot are like wtf.

Sometimes that’s the worst thing. I didnt want to open up that I had a problem. Some people have a drink problem or a drug problem.

My problem was that I was in a place where I couldn’t articulate to the people I worked for my issues. I had a boss who didn’t believe in mental illness and probably doesn’t to this day.

I always say to anyone that’s struggles with mental health issues my inbox is open. I ended up being the most open to people I didn’t really know that well.

Something to also take in to account is that mental health issues like physical health require different medication, being antidepressants, counciling, remove your self from situation, and I would say a problem shared is actually a problem halfved

To the op I hoped it went ok yesterday

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By *ntcovMan
over a year ago

Church Gresley / Swadlincote

The 'Rethink Mental Illness' website has a whole heap of info leaflets and self help stuff, also there should be stuff in your area that you could join in if you wanted.

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