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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So....I'm rubbish at any kind of relationship stuff and have steered clear of anything that is not NSA for years!

My dilemma is this, i had a date arranged for Saturday night. On Tuesday everything was fine, however, he has now gone quiet and not responded to last 2 texts grrr. Do i just leave it or do i text him and ask why he is now ignoring me?

Why is dating so hard?!?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would leave it.. and if he gets in touch... all good, he may have a very good reason for not texting back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he may have left his fone at home give the lad time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave it, and start looking for a replacement. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leave it, and start looking for a replacement. xx"

I agree! Get your ass up to Sheffield and take me on a date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So....I'm rubbish at any kind of relationship stuff and have steered clear of anything that is not NSA for years!

My dilemma is this, i had a date arranged for Saturday night. On Tuesday everything was fine, however, he has now gone quiet and not responded to last 2 texts grrr. Do i just leave it or do i text him and ask why he is now ignoring me?

Why is dating so hard?!?"

Na fuck it just come with me to Chams tomorrow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What? Since last night?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Id leave it. Make other arrangements.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So....I'm rubbish at any kind of relationship stuff and have steered clear of anything that is not NSA for years!

My dilemma is this, i had a date arranged for Saturday night. On Tuesday everything was fine, however, he has now gone quiet and not responded to last 2 texts grrr. Do i just leave it or do i text him and ask why he is now ignoring me?

Why is dating so hard?!?

Na fuck it just come with me to Chams tomorrow!"

Chams was plan b

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps he has lost his phone. If no contact tomorrow by 12 noon sod him and go out and enjoy yourself at Chams!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe there’s an obvious reason I’m overlooking here…. But whats wrong with simply phoning instead of texting….!.

It would seen a reasonable option and it could help eliminate any uncertainty over whether his phone is switched on or off..... plus there a chance he might just answer it too.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe there’s an obvious reason I’m overlooking here…. But whats wrong with simply phoning instead of texting….!.

It would seen a reasonable option and it could help eliminate any uncertainty over whether his phone is switched on or off..... plus there a chance he might just answer it too..... "

Because im a wimp and have some weird idea that he may think im some kind of stalker if i call him...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I text anyone, family, friend etc and they don't respond I leave it as my name would have shown on their phone...they'll get back to me.

The quickest way to piss me off is sending another message, so I don't do it.

You've sent a couple of messages, any more and you'll look needy...not good.

Of course, that's just my _iew as I'd feel stalked...I've blocked for less.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I text anyone, family, friend etc and they don't respond I leave it as my name would have shown on their phone...they'll get back to me.

The quickest way to piss me off is sending another message, so I don't do it.

You've sent a couple of messages, any more and you'll look needy...not good.

Of course, that's just my _iew as I'd feel stalked...I've blocked for less. "

exactly! Ive sent 2 texts with no reply, i already feel like a bit of an idiot! I just dont understand the silence!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe there’s an obvious reason I’m overlooking here…. But whats wrong with simply phoning instead of texting….!.

It would seen a reasonable option and it could help eliminate any uncertainty over whether his phone is switched on or off..... plus there a chance he might just answer it too.....

Because im a wimp and have some weird idea that he may think im some kind of stalker if i call him..."

Well that’s certainly a reason… !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His loss then, no answer no play, you should make other arangments and enjoy yourself, you look well sexy in your photos.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"So....I'm rubbish at any kind of relationship stuff and have steered clear of anything that is not NSA for years!

My dilemma is this, i had a date arranged for Saturday night. On Tuesday everything was fine, however, he has now gone quiet and not responded to last 2 texts grrr. Do i just leave it or do i text him and ask why he is now ignoring me?

Why is dating so hard?!?"

i'd leave it for abit,he may be busy,and some people are just crap at returning texts.

However if you fancy some NSA fun with a bi geordie

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Leave well alone and go to Chams with Testorossa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know if I am keen on someone I would text back within a few hours, if I am not I wouldn't. Maybe he has lost his phone, but can he contact you any other way? Email, internet site?

If I sent 2 texts and no reply then I would just leave it.

Hope it works out for you either way x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So....I'm rubbish at any kind of relationship stuff and have steered clear of anything that is not NSA for years!

My dilemma is this, i had a date arranged for Saturday night. On Tuesday everything was fine, however, he has now gone quiet and not responded to last 2 texts grrr. Do i just leave it or do i text him and ask why he is now ignoring me?

Why is dating so hard?!?

i'd leave it for abit,he may be busy,and some people are just crap at returning texts.

However if you fancy some NSA fun with a bi geordie "

grrr why does everyone have to be so far away?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"If I text anyone, family, friend etc and they don't respond I leave it as my name would have shown on their phone...they'll get back to me.

The quickest way to piss me off is sending another message, so I don't do it.

You've sent a couple of messages, any more and you'll look needy...not good.

Of course, that's just my _iew as I'd feel stalked...I've blocked for less. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I know if I am keen on someone I would text back within a few hours, if I am not I wouldn't. Maybe he has lost his phone, but can he contact you any other way? Email, internet site?

If I sent 2 texts and no reply then I would just leave it.

Hope it works out for you either way x"

no, he only has on mobile number. I think i'll take everyones advice and just leave it, its a shame but i cant be doing with the stress!

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Maybe he's on here too... and on a meet...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe he's on here too... and on a meet..."

lol no, he definitely isnt on here! Its someone i met through work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

M What are you doing woman!!!!

Then again i know this minx in Nuneaton who is shocking at replying to texts!!!

;)

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"Maybe he's on here too... and on a meet...

lol no, he definitely isnt on here! Its someone i met through work. "

How do you know? Have you seen every member? Afterall, your on here.. Why can't he be too?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

M What are you doing woman!!!!

Then again i know this minx in Nuneaton who is shocking at replying to texts!!!

;)"

shut it you! I always always reply to texts from certain people from York lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Maybe he's on here too... and on a meet...

lol no, he definitely isnt on here! Its someone i met through work.

How do you know? Have you seen every member? Afterall, your on here.. Why can't he be too? "

Well i could be wrong, but i doubt it

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton


"Maybe he's on here too... and on a meet...

lol no, he definitely isnt on here! Its someone i met through work.

How do you know? Have you seen every member? Afterall, your on here.. Why can't he be too?

Well i could be wrong, but i doubt it "

Always expect the unexpected!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy should be doing the chasing M, afterall if he is serious about you, he will make the effort

Failing that, take yourself to York x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of it this way, if another female had put up the same post...would you advise them to halt with the texts?, I am guessing (hoping) you would, so heed your own advise and leave him to it, if he doesn't come back to you, go with the great cliché of 'his loss'

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Think of it this way, if another female had put up the same post...would you advise them to halt with the texts?, I am guessing (hoping) you would, so heed your own advise and leave him to it, if he doesn't come back to you, go with the great cliché of 'his loss' "

Firstly i'm not arrogant enough to believe its 'his loss'

Secondly i absolutely know what advice i would be giving friends etc in this position. Taking my own advice is a different matter!

I just think its a bit weird that he cant just say he doesnt want to go out anymore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think of it this way, if another female had put up the same post...would you advise them to halt with the texts?, I am guessing (hoping) you would, so heed your own advise and leave him to it, if he doesn't come back to you, go with the great cliché of 'his loss'

Firstly i'm not arrogant enough to believe its 'his loss'

Secondly i absolutely know what advice i would be giving friends etc in this position. Taking my own advice is a different matter!

I just think its a bit weird that he cant just say he doesnt want to go out anymore?"

A cliché is overused and overrated, so it wasn't meant to imply you were arrogant, much more the opposite. Sometimes things are taken as intended, sometimes taken out of context, but we live and learn

I wish you luck, with your abandonment quest

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I don't know if im just being particularly oversensitive tonight or not...

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Confucious he say, fisherman who try to catch one particular fish from the ocean go hungry.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham


"I know if I am keen on someone I would text back within a few hours, if I am not I wouldn't. Maybe he has lost his phone, but can he contact you any other way? Email, internet site?

If I sent 2 texts and no reply then I would just leave it.

Hope it works out for you either way x

no, he only has on mobile number. I think i'll take everyones advice and just leave it, its a shame but i cant be doing with the stress! "

The trick is to live in the moment...there need not be stress,just concentrate on the moment.

You had a nice night out,better than stuck in front of the tele

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else


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Na fuck it just come with me to Chams tomorrow!"

You two, both at cham's?

....Sigh....

GoEs fOr WaNk

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By *ATUREANDHOTMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Ignore him, if he hasnt messaged you back, then he is likely to gone AWOL!

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