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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Talking to a friend earlier who is heartbroken that a guy she has been fucking for the last few months has started dating someone and not told her. (He originally told her he didn't want to date and had no interest in a relationship ever again)

When she asked him why when they got on so well why he hadnt thought to date her he said... you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.

She is devastated and I wanna kill him. Not because he is dating.... that's his business and she shouldn't have invested emotionally in him. But because he felt nothing by being so cruel.

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

She fell.

That's not his fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She fell.

That's not his fault. "

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He could have not been a cunt about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, a bath of potassium hydroxide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, a bath of potassium hydroxide "
you mean sodium hydroxide

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life "

How are events his fault and not hers too ?

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

At least he's been honest, tho somewhat cruel. Was your friend honest with him, that she was looking to date, when she first met him? Too many women expect men to be mind readers and then expect sympathy when faced with the truth. He saw her as a fuck, probably thought she thought the same.

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By *aughty_but_n1ceWoman
over a year ago

North London


"She fell.

That's not his fault. "

No but it is his fault that he was such a bastard about it. There are ways to let people down that wouldn’t leave them feeling shite about themselves!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

"

Thats exactly the point. And he obviously is an arse as he was still shagging her and the new bird he is dating.

Yes it hurts when u catch feelings and they arent reciprocated but is there any need to be so nasty. Or is it a perverse kindness to make her hate him?

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By *arksMan
over a year ago

in the centre

Shave all hair off and pull out all teeth then feed to pigs , or inject nutmeg into the bloodstream virtually untraceable and makes it look like natural causes

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By *ammerandthongsCouple
over a year ago

Limerick

Some people are just cruel & only think of themselves what a fucking bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, a bath of potassium hydroxide you mean sodium hydroxide "

No. No I don’t. I’m talking about the new green cremation.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London


"Talking to a friend earlier who is heartbroken that a guy she has been fucking for the last few months has started dating someone and not told her. (He originally told her he didn't want to date and had no interest in a relationship ever again)

When she asked him why when they got on so well why he hadnt thought to date her he said... you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.

She is devastated and I wanna kill him. Not because he is dating.... that's his business and she shouldn't have invested emotionally in him. But because he felt nothing by being so cruel.

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

"

I highly doubt that someone capable of saying something so twattish was not exhibiting twattish behaviour when he was seeing your friend. She put up with it, so he clearly had no respect for her.

She's best off without him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He could have not been a cunt about it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life

How are events his fault and not hers too ?"
when a girl starts having sex with a bloke even if they dont say deep down they really want that man to fall in love with them but they wont say it if they think it might not happen so the bloke was obviously playing on the fact she fancied him and he knew this so he used it to get sex. So it is his fault and he could have been nicer in the situation and not made the person feel worthless when im sure the person is probaly a lovely person.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Harsh of him, no need to be quite so blunt.

But did she really want to date a man with that kind of mind set? I think your friend has had a lucky escape.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At least he's been honest, tho somewhat cruel. Was your friend honest with him, that she was looking to date, when she first met him? Too many women expect men to be mind readers and then expect sympathy when faced with the truth. He saw her as a fuck, probably thought she thought the same."

Tbh it started as a casual booty call in sept oct. But they spent xmas together in her flat and he would stay there for days on end. He had a key. The dynamic was way more than fwb or fuck buds. They would spend time together and not even have sex.

I dont blame her for thinking things had changed from his initial statement about relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was rather harsh in how he went about saying it, yes. Seems dick. Yes. By he didn't just come out and say it. Sounds like she pushed him for a reason why he didn't consider her for dating and he was *too* honest.

I've fucked people on fab who I wouldn't consider dating. Not because of their looks - quite the opposite. Because I'd fuck people I wouldn't date. I decide who to fuck based more on physical traits than anything else. Does that make me horrible? I guess I would just assume that if someone on here says they aren't interested in dating that those they meet for sex would get that.

But yeah, sounds like he was a bit dick about how he said it.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

My many moons on this planet has led me to believe that people who say they don't want a relationship/to date mean it until they meet the person they do want to date/have a relationship with. Some are better at communicating that they don't want you than others.

I see no reason for violence and death but perhaps sign him up for a course in communication skills. It will narrow his available dating time and he may feel mildly irked.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs

Feed him to the pigs...apparently pigs will devour every last bit...apparently ....oh, and I think I mean the four legged kind with curly tales...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know who you are. I don't know what you want. If you're looking for fwb, I can tell you do not fuck with fabbers. I do have are a very particular set of skills. Skills I have acquired over a very long career. Skills that make me a nightmare for people like you. If you mess with our fabber again,I will look for you, I will find you... and I will kill you.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

Thats exactly the point. And he obviously is an arse as he was still shagging her and the new bird he is dating.

Yes it hurts when u catch feelings and they arent reciprocated but is there any need to be so nasty. Or is it a perverse kindness to make her hate him?"

It might be. It cuts off all hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends been seeing a guy for nearly two years off here and no explanation, he’s ignoring her!!!

Won’t answer her texts or messages on fab, but won’t block her either.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"OP, a bath of potassium hydroxide you mean sodium hydroxide

No. No I don’t. I’m talking about the new green cremation. "

Off to check amaz on and ee bay for best prices

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

"

Very,what a complete and utter twat!

I'll bring the spade!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now wouldn't it be ironic if the woman he is dating, one day had the "women like me don't date men like you" conversation with him.

People are arseholes sometimes, she might not see it now through the tears, but maybe she see it one day on a beach at the bottom of a bottle of sangria, or while looking up at am azure blue sky, while thinking of all she has got

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My friends been seeing a guy for nearly two years off here and no explanation, he’s ignoring her!!!

Won’t answer her texts or messages on fab, but won’t block her either.....

"

Id block him..that would make the psycho bitch come out in most woman and then they can justify their behaviour... i had to stop seeing her. She is nuts!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont give a shit who you are you keep fucking someone feelings develop

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"when a girl starts having sex with a bloke even if they dont say deep down they really want that man to fall in love with them but they wont say it if they think it might not happen so the bloke was obviously playing on the fact she fancied him and he knew this so he used it to get sex. So it is his fault and he could have been nicer in the situation and not made the person feel worthless when im sure the person is probaly a lovely person."

Hang on.... are you suggesting a woman cannot just want no strings sex? That all women want the man they are fucking to fall in love with them?

Im hoping not

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Christ...those were his actual words?

No wonder she was upset. There are ways of going about things and imo that's not one of them!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

She isnt a fabber btw and she met him in a pub.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when a girl starts having sex with a bloke even if they dont say deep down they really want that man to fall in love with them but they wont say it if they think it might not happen so the bloke was obviously playing on the fact she fancied him and he knew this so he used it to get sex. So it is his fault and he could have been nicer in the situation and not made the person feel worthless when im sure the person is probaly a lovely person.

Hang on.... are you suggesting a woman cannot just want no strings sex? That all women want the man they are fucking to fall in love with them?

Im hoping not "
id say so yes but obviously not all women but most and most men for that matter.... its inevitable that feelings will develop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"when a girl starts having sex with a bloke even if they dont say deep down they really want that man to fall in love with them but they wont say it if they think it might not happen so the bloke was obviously playing on the fact she fancied him and he knew this so he used it to get sex. So it is his fault and he could have been nicer in the situation and not made the person feel worthless when im sure the person is probaly a lovely person.

Hang on.... are you suggesting a woman cannot just want no strings sex? That all women want the man they are fucking to fall in love with them?

Im hoping not "

If that is the case none of our lives have any meaning what so ever

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I dont give a shit who you are you keep fucking someone feelings develop"

Id agree....they might not be romantic feelings but you would have to be completely callous to not even like or respect someone enough to end things in a less demeaning manner.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give her the old Eleanor Roosevelt, it’s a good one and worth remembering:

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

Rescind consent, don’t give him the power to hurt and celebrate the freedom and space and energy to be open to new possibilities with wonderful and more graceful partners.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"when a girl starts having sex with a bloke even if they dont say deep down they really want that man to fall in love with them but they wont say it if they think it might not happen so the bloke was obviously playing on the fact she fancied him and he knew this so he used it to get sex. So it is his fault and he could have been nicer in the situation and not made the person feel worthless when im sure the person is probaly a lovely person.

Hang on.... are you suggesting a woman cannot just want no strings sex? That all women want the man they are fucking to fall in love with them?

Im hoping not id say so yes but obviously not all women but most and most men for that matter.... its inevitable that feelings will develop"

It could easily be a role reversal. I know plenty of men who have been fucked about by women.

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee


"Talking to a friend earlier who is heartbroken that a guy she has been fucking for the last few months has started dating someone and not told her. (He originally told her he didn't want to date and had no interest in a relationship ever again)

When she asked him why when they got on so well why he hadnt thought to date her he said... you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.

She is devastated and I wanna kill him. Not because he is dating.... that's his business and she shouldn't have invested emotionally in him. But because he felt nothing by being so cruel.

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

"

What an arsehole, no he never asked are to develop feelings but who says and does that to someone. Much nicer ways to go about things. At least show some respect. Hopefully karma will bite him on the arse. Shame can't name and shame. Though could maybe arrange a set up meet where he gets found out. Not usually something I'd say but sometimes revenge can be good. G

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Talking to a friend earlier who is heartbroken that a guy she has been fucking for the last few months has started dating someone and not told her. (He originally told her he didn't want to date and had no interest in a relationship ever again)

When she asked him why when they got on so well why he hadnt thought to date her he said... you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.

She is devastated and I wanna kill him. Not because he is dating.... that's his business and she shouldn't have invested emotionally in him. But because he felt nothing by being so cruel.

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

"

Hmmm...is that her interpretation or verbatim?

If verbatim, someone who would say that would have said insensitive things prior I'd have thought and her rose coloured specs clouded her judgement?

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By *urlesque!Woman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"when a girl starts having sex with a bloke even if they dont say deep down they really want that man to fall in love with them but they wont say it if they think it might not happen so the bloke was obviously playing on the fact she fancied him and he knew this so he used it to get sex. So it is his fault and he could have been nicer in the situation and not made the person feel worthless when im sure the person is probaly a lovely person.

Hang on.... are you suggesting a woman cannot just want no strings sex? That all women want the man they are fucking to fall in love with them?

Im hoping not "
Agree with you - it makes it sound like women are always looking for a relationship and men are the ones with the privilege to reject them.

1. It can be the other way round

2. Either way, whatever who wants from whom, there is no need to be cruel and disrespectful to anybody.

3. I do believe in karma... not immediately but perhaps one day a woman will say that to him?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Talking to a friend earlier who is heartbroken that a guy she has been fucking for the last few months has started dating someone and not told her. (He originally told her he didn't want to date and had no interest in a relationship ever again)

When she asked him why when they got on so well why he hadnt thought to date her he said... you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.

She is devastated and I wanna kill him. Not because he is dating.... that's his business and she shouldn't have invested emotionally in him. But because he felt nothing by being so cruel.

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

"

Did he actually say those words ?

If he did say that I'm very surprised your friend didn't pick up the fact that he was up his own arse.

Women usually pick up on stuff like that

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By *09309309Woman
over a year ago

Dublin


"I dont give a shit who you are you keep fucking someone feelings develop"

Absolutely. He knew what he was doing and he knew she wanted more. It was selfish and cruel.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"when a girl starts having sex with a bloke even if they dont say deep down they really want that man to fall in love with them but they wont say it if they think it might not happen so the bloke was obviously playing on the fact she fancied him and he knew this so he used it to get sex. So it is his fault and he could have been nicer in the situation and not made the person feel worthless when im sure the person is probaly a lovely person.

Hang on.... are you suggesting a woman cannot just want no strings sex? That all women want the man they are fucking to fall in love with them?

Im hoping not id say so yes but obviously not all women but most and most men for that matter.... its inevitable that feelings will develop"

These 'feelings' are rarely morethan lust. I have several good ex fwb whom i care considerably about, may on occassion in the past have lusted after, i can honestly say though in 15 years of swinging and fwb relationships not once did i want them to fall in love. Even Cheffy and i took a year of regular fucking before something clicked and we realised we needed to be together.

If you are correct i really feel for those singles as Fab is not a place to look for love.

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By *antrelWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham/Cardiff


"I don't know who you are. I don't know what you want. If you're looking for fwb, I can tell you do not fuck with fabbers. I do have are a very particular set of skills. Skills I have acquired over a very long career. Skills that make me a nightmare for people like you. If you mess with our fabber again,I will look for you, I will find you... and I will kill you. "

Brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont give a shit who you are you keep fucking someone feelings develop

Id agree....they might not be romantic feelings but you would have to be completely callous to not even like or respect someone enough to end things in a less demeaning manner. "

Agree.

The best revenge is holding her head high and moving on. Feeling and looking good.

Perhaps his new girlfriend will sense the 'true him' and he'll get a taste of his own medicine. It happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Did he actually say those words ?

If he did say that I'm very surprised your friend didn't pick up the fact that he was up his own arse.

Women usually pick up on stuff like that"

Yes he did but possibly because she had caught him lying to her re: new gf. Best form of defence is attack?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What did she say to him that got such a callous response?

I bet she didn't ask him nicely when she found out what he was up to.

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon


"Talking to a friend earlier who is heartbroken that a guy she has been fucking for the last few months has started dating someone and not told her. (He originally told her he didn't want to date and had no interest in a relationship ever again)

When she asked him why when they got on so well why he hadnt thought to date her he said... you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.

She is devastated and I wanna kill him. Not because he is dating.... that's his business and she shouldn't have invested emotionally in him. But because he felt nothing by being so cruel.

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

"
Make friends with a pig farmer. But make sure you shave the hair and pull out the teeth out before feeding the body to the pigs. As it's not good for the piggies digestive system. Plus you wouldn't want to be sifting through pig shit now would you

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Talking to a friend earlier who is heartbroken that a guy she has been fucking for the last few months has started dating someone and not told her. (He originally told her he didn't want to date and had no interest in a relationship ever again)

When she asked him why when they got on so well why he hadnt thought to date her he said... you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.

She is devastated and I wanna kill him. Not because he is dating.... that's his business and she shouldn't have invested emotionally in him. But because he felt nothing by being so cruel.

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

Did he actually say those words ?

If he did say that I'm very surprised your friend didn't pick up the fact that he was up his own arse.

Women usually pick up on stuff like that"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What did she say to him that got such a callous response?

I bet she didn't ask him nicely when she found out what he was up to. "

See, that's the trouble with this situation, it's all one-sided and third-hand to boot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If verbatim, someone who would say that would have said insensitive things prior I'd have thought and her rose coloured specs clouded her judgement?"

Verbatim - and it was said when she challenged him about lying to her.

She may well have missed signs with him. She certainly hasn't mentioned any other arsehole behaviour from him. And most women when they feel wronged let rip!

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Been there, it hurts but most guys here are not looking for a gf, I feel for your friend xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we only have one side of the story and the truth / actual events can regularly be different to the one-perspective view people present, but assuming what you say is an accurate reflection of what’s happened and what he said (and crucially how he said it) then I can understand why you’re angry and upset with the way your friend has been treated!

Sadly relationships rarely end positively, and at least in this secenario she wasn’t romantically involved with him so at worst she’s just lost a regular fuck (which I’m sure she can easily replace) rather than a lover (which is harder to replace).

I hope she can get over this soon and move forwards. Some people can be dicks and she’s probably better off without him

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life

How are events his fault and not hers too ? when a girl starts having sex with a bloke even if they dont say deep down they really want that man to fall in love with them but they wont say it if they think it might not happen so the bloke was obviously playing on the fact she fancied him and he knew this so he used it to get sex. So it is his fault and he could have been nicer in the situation and not made the person feel worthless when im sure the person is probaly a lovely person."

Jesus Christ... You just made all that up. None of it holds air let alone water.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's generally the case these days! Men are pigs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cheeky bastard i wouldve slapped the lips off his face after hearing that looks to me he used her as a cum dump i wouldve named an shamed that prick people can be so cruel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The crux.

Will she keep fucking him after saying that to her?

If not then brilliant, she recognises her worth.

If yes then sorry, she facilities the behaviour.

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

That's harsh but a hurtful reality... she's better off knowing the truth of how much respect he has for her... it's hard to make a judgment based on what you have said because it's a one sided story..

Personally that sort of thing is kind of normal on a site like this.. don't have too many expectations

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

Thats exactly the point. And he obviously is an arse as he was still shagging her and the new bird he is dating.

Yes it hurts when u catch feelings and they arent reciprocated but is there any need to be so nasty. Or is it a perverse kindness to make her hate him?"

That's a possibility. Perhaps he thinks being an arsehole is the best way to get her to hate him?

It's pretty spineless though. But he doesn't sound like he's much of a man.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

In the O.P. the O.P. says that the bloke said to the woman that he never wanted to date ever again .......

No one is questioning the fact that she fucked on that basis and no one is threatening to slap her shallow lips off ....

I don't see that either of them did wrong.

They began an N.S.A friendship. He found someone he wanted to 'see' on a more serious basis.

End of.

Would everyone call him fit to bust if he just finished with her without dating someone else ?

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By *urlesque!Woman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"That's harsh but a hurtful reality... she's better off knowing the truth of how much respect he has for her... "
Notwithstanding of what I stated earlier, I can see where you are coming from. If she did not realise for whatever reason, that he clearly did not respect her... she certainly would now. Not a nice experience though and I could never be so cruel to anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did he say why she was only good enough to fuck but not to date?

You said they met in a pub and not on here so I’m interested in his reasons for saying that.

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By *urlesque!Woman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"In the O.P. the O.P. says that the bloke said to the woman that he never wanted to date ever again .......

No one is questioning the fact that she fucked on that basis and no one is threatening to slap her shallow lips off ....

I don't see that either of them did wrong.

They began an N.S.A friendship. He found someone he wanted to 'see' on a more serious basis.

End of.

Would everyone call him fit to bust if he just finished with her without dating someone else ? "

I think based on what we know, an acceptable way of ending the fuckbuddy relationship might have included a "look, I was not looking but I have actually met somebody I would like to date" - I had a great time with you but now I am no longer able to see you.

Or something similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ouch

There is no excuse for being a cunt!

Hugs xx

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"In the O.P. the O.P. says that the bloke said to the woman that he never wanted to date ever again .......

No one is questioning the fact that she fucked on that basis and no one is threatening to slap her shallow lips off ....

I don't see that either of them did wrong.

They began an N.S.A friendship. He found someone he wanted to 'see' on a more serious basis.

End of.

Would everyone call him fit to bust if he just finished with her without dating someone else ?

I think based on what we know, an acceptable way of ending the fuckbuddy relationship might have included a "look, I was not looking but I have actually met somebody I would like to date" - I had a great time with you but now I am no longer able to see you.

Or something similar."

What if he told her that he is seeing someone and she gave him abuse because of it.. he tried to be honest and in exchange of harsh words nasty things were said..? Like I said two sides to a story... now if he had just randomly messaged her saying that then yes he's heartless.. but has to be a cold heart from the beginning to say anything like that..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ouch

There is no excuse for being a cunt!

Hugs xx"
.

Depends, maybe he thought she was going to be difficult about the break up?, maybe he's a little autistic, maybe he works in tech

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Bookmarking and noting everyone that provided an answer

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By *urlesque!Woman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"In the O.P. the O.P. says that the bloke said to the woman that he never wanted to date ever again .......

No one is questioning the fact that she fucked on that basis and no one is threatening to slap her shallow lips off ....

I don't see that either of them did wrong.

They began an N.S.A friendship. He found someone he wanted to 'see' on a more serious basis.

End of.

Would everyone call him fit to bust if he just finished with her without dating someone else ?

I think based on what we know, an acceptable way of ending the fuckbuddy relationship might have included a "look, I was not looking but I have actually met somebody I would like to date" - I had a great time with you but now I am no longer able to see you.

Or something similar.

What if he told her that he is seeing someone and she gave him abuse because of it.. he tried to be honest and in exchange of harsh words nasty things were said..? Like I said two sides to a story... now if he had just randomly messaged her saying that then yes he's heartless.. but has to be a cold heart from the beginning to say anything like that.. "

Sure, that would put a different slant on things.

I think if boundaries were in place (we are fuckbuddies no more) then a message as I described should put an end to this relationship.

If somebody then struggles to accept, maybe a short clear message of "I am seeing somebody now and please do not contact me again " or something like that will reinforce this.

It is all about clear communication AND respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least he's been honest, tho somewhat cruel. Was your friend honest with him, that she was looking to date, when she first met him? Too many women expect men to be mind readers and then expect sympathy when faced with the truth. He saw her as a fuck, probably thought she thought the same.

Tbh it started as a casual booty call in sept oct. But they spent xmas together in her flat and he would stay there for days on end. He had a key. The dynamic was way more than fwb or fuck buds. They would spend time together and not even have sex.

I dont blame her for thinking things had changed from his initial statement about relationships."

This kinda changes my feelings OP

If like vast majority of people on this site he was here for NSA sex then I would say he was a dick but hey this is the reason we are here

However the fact he was actually getting vanilla on her and letting her believe this to be the case changes the goal posts .

Is he local, I can come round with a few of my old Eastern European buddies from Glasgow’s Doors and make him disappear. A lot of mudflats down the North Bank of the Clyde

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In the O.P. the O.P. says that the bloke said to the woman that he never wanted to date ever again .......

No one is questioning the fact that she fucked on that basis and no one is threatening to slap her shallow lips off ....

I don't see that either of them did wrong.

They began an N.S.A friendship. He found someone he wanted to 'see' on a more serious basis.

End of.

Would everyone call him fit to bust if he just finished with her without dating someone else ? "

I only have issue with the phrasing of what he said - yes, yes hearing it thirdhand etc but if accurate..it’s a shitty way of saying I don’t want to date you. I have no issue with the rest within the OP. I just think he sounds arrogant and unnecessarily rude. There’s a way of doing things with least harm, be it letting someone down or posting on a forum. He might have considered concentrating his put down to the reasons why he wasn’t interested in her would suffice (if indeed he had to answer at all) rather than generalise that she was undateable to all men similar to him (in his opinion), that’s intentionally hurtful or dumbarsedly phrased. Either way, makes him a twuzzock.

End of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bookmarking and noting everyone that provided an answer "
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Your already blocked

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"It's generally the case these days! Men are pigs "

I have been shagging women and going out for meals thinking we are dating. Then find out e are not and the lady in question is enjoy more than it’s my sausage

That’s happened a few times

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By *urlesque!Woman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"It's generally the case these days! Men are pigs

I have been shagging women and going out for meals thinking we are dating. Then find out e are not and the lady in question is enjoy more than it’s my sausage

That’s happened a few times "

It works (or doesn't as the case may be) both ways, doesn't it?

Clear honest communication is key on this and any other (including dating) sites - prevents a lot of unnecessary heartache.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

Thats exactly the point. And he obviously is an arse as he was still shagging her and the new bird he is dating.

Yes it hurts when u catch feelings and they arent reciprocated but is there any need to be so nasty. Or is it a perverse kindness to make her hate him?

It might be. It cuts off all hope.

"

I once tried to make someone hate me for this very reason. But you'd better be convinced it's the right choice or it will consume you both.

I think his words were cruel and damaging beyond required for a clear message. Though if like to hear his account too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems just a tad harsh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's generally the case these days! Men are pigs "

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Was he inferring that he was Better than her and didnt want to be seen out with her OR that she was a 10 and he was bouncing above his weight with her ?

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

Been there.

Hurts like fuck. But you claw yourself back.

I will never be made to feel like that again.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always the nice decent people who get hurt in the end

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

He sounds like an absolute bellend, what does he mean by "a girl like you"?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

"

I don't trust the OP to be impartial in this. So i dont believe the accuracy of her reporting of the dialogue.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Karma will deal with him! Worry not, what goes around comes around!! It’s true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think many men are good enough to fuck let alone date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

I don't trust the OP to be impartial in this. So i dont believe the accuracy of her reporting of the dialogue. "

Of course. But based on the info at hand I disagreed with the opinion above, which is why I replied to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Karma will deal with him! Worry not, what goes around comes around!! It’s true. "

I agree. He's possibly already had it happen to him the other way round.

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By *ayladMan
over a year ago

drogheda

Sounds like he seen himself in your friend and he doesn't trust himself hence there is not a chance he'd commit emotional to her.

But a wanker by demeaning her like that.

I reckon the rats would strip a body in a ditch with these weather like curry to a pisshead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friends been seeing a guy for nearly two years off here and no explanation, he’s ignoring her!!!

Won’t answer her texts or messages on fab, but won’t block her either.....

Id block him..that would make the psycho bitch come out in most woman and then they can justify their behaviour... i had to stop seeing her. She is nuts!!!"

She’s blocked thank god x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's generally the case these days! Men are pigs "

Excuse me?

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

I don't trust the OP to be impartial in this. So i dont believe the accuracy of her reporting of the dialogue.

Of course. But based on the info at hand I disagreed with the opinion above, which is why I replied to it."

Absolutely. But it's a bit like believing a tabloid headline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

I don't trust the OP to be impartial in this. So i dont believe the accuracy of her reporting of the dialogue.

Of course. But based on the info at hand I disagreed with the opinion above, which is why I replied to it.

Absolutely. But it's a bit like believing a tabloid headline. "

Which is why I engaged purely in the theoretical in discussion on the starting agreement that it was true and why if that was assumed, I disagreed with Granny’s opinion. It’s irrelevant if it’s truth or not for the point I was making.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

"

You need at least sixteen pigs to finish the job in one sitting, so be wary of any man who keeps a pig farm. They will go through a body that weighs 200 pounds in about eight minutes. That means that a single pig can consume two pounds of uncooked flesh every minute. Hence the expression, "as greedy as a pig."

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By *oupertrooperMan
over a year ago

dundee

Maybe just maybe he tried telling her over time that he wudnt date her but she kept c ing him in the forlorn hope that he wud then when she found out abt him c ing sum1 she went apeshit even though she had no right! So he gave it to her as blunt as he cud so that it finally sunk in???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand these women that allow themselves to be complete victims, why would anyone get upset over a guy who doesn't give a shit about him? Doesn't she not like herself? How do you even get to that point with someone, surely he didn't just turn around one day and say 'men like me don't want to be seen with you in public' she must have seen signs early on he was an arsehole and if she did she's stupid for putting herself in that position! Not excusing what he does it's just nasty, she should have some self respect, stop crying and block him

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By *oupertrooperMan
over a year ago

dundee


"

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

You need at least sixteen pigs to finish the job in one sitting, so be wary of any man who keeps a pig farm. They will go through a body that weighs 200 pounds in about eight minutes. That means that a single pig can consume two pounds of uncooked flesh every minute. Hence the expression, "as greedy as a pig." "
Snatch is a brilliant film

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

I don't trust the OP to be impartial in this. So i dont believe the accuracy of her reporting of the dialogue.

Of course. But based on the info at hand I disagreed with the opinion above, which is why I replied to it.

Absolutely. But it's a bit like believing a tabloid headline.

Which is why I engaged purely in the theoretical in discussion on the starting agreement that it was true and why if that was assumed, I disagreed with Granny’s opinion. It’s irrelevant if it’s truth or not for the point I was making. "

Have you ever used a bed knob to masturbate?

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

You need at least sixteen pigs to finish the job in one sitting, so be wary of any man who keeps a pig farm. They will go through a body that weighs 200 pounds in about eight minutes. That means that a single pig can consume two pounds of uncooked flesh every minute. Hence the expression, "as greedy as a pig." "

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I don't understand these women that allow themselves to be complete victims, why would anyone get upset over a guy who doesn't give a shit about him? Doesn't she not like herself? How do you even get to that point with someone, surely he didn't just turn around one day and say 'men like me don't want to be seen with you in public' she must have seen signs early on he was an arsehole and if she did she's stupid for putting herself in that position! Not excusing what he does it's just nasty, she should have some self respect, stop crying and block him "

Mate, you didn't have to write all that. "I don't understand these women" is all we have to say! Job done!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She fell.

That's not his fault. "

The fact that she fell is not his fault.

The fact that he decided to ditch her in such a shitty fashion is entirely his fault.

He might not have wanted anything more than sex, but there's ways of letting someone down gently without being unnecessarily cruel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he didn't have to be so nasty about it

your friend is well rid OP

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

The fact that she fell is not his fault.

The fact that he decided to ditch her in such a shitty fashion is entirely his fault.

He might not have wanted anything more than sex, but there's ways of letting someone down gently without being unnecessarily cruel."

Allegedly.

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Op supply the Hagen das ice-cream and let your friend cry it out and learn from a shitty life lesson is all you can do here. Sadly this is how most of us learn how not to love, our self worth and our resilience. Life throws us curve balls that we can not avoid again until we fully let them go and one day your friend will wake up and be ok, won't feel lesser for having spent time with him and won't wish him bad karma for his bad treatment of her but will be grateful that she didn't waste year's on a person that didn't value who she was. I wish for your friend, that her ok day comes sooner rather than later.

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By *sername Bi CDTV/TS
over a year ago

Richmond, North Yorks and Kent

Isn't it about the double standard ? They are doing the same thing and he thinks less of her. That's just wrong.

Secondly he might not have been terribly honest. That's not a great character trait.

So she fell. That happens. Be nice about it not an arsehole.

When I find someone I click with and if it was mutual I don't give a shit whether it was down the pub or on here.

S.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She really hadn’t picked up that he felt that way about her, or did she think the longer they carried on fucking she might win him over....

He was very short, to the point, which makes me think he’s making sure there’s no confusion / blurred lines about what he is saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

I don't trust the OP to be impartial in this. So i dont believe the accuracy of her reporting of the dialogue.

Of course. But based on the info at hand I disagreed with the opinion above, which is why I replied to it.

Absolutely. But it's a bit like believing a tabloid headline.

Which is why I engaged purely in the theoretical in discussion on the starting agreement that it was true and why if that was assumed, I disagreed with Granny’s opinion. It’s irrelevant if it’s truth or not for the point I was making.

Have you ever used a bed knob to masturbate? "

No, have you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't understand these women that allow themselves to be complete victims, why would anyone get upset over a guy who doesn't give a shit about him? Doesn't she not like herself? How do you even get to that point with someone, surely he didn't just turn around one day and say 'men like me don't want to be seen with you in public' she must have seen signs early on he was an arsehole and if she did she's stupid for putting herself in that position! Not excusing what he does it's just nasty, she should have some self respect, stop crying and block him

Mate, you didn't have to write all that. "I don't understand these women" is all we have to say! Job done! "
what the fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm really not getting the point of the thread. Wonder if the friend knows they are having their situation dissected on a swingers site? I think it's unwise to make judgements when none of the parties involved can speak for themselves. And I've no advice for body disposal. Although if you are planning to walk the streets with a shovel, now's a good time to do it without looking suspicious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

The fact that she fell is not his fault.

The fact that he decided to ditch her in such a shitty fashion is entirely his fault.

He might not have wanted anything more than sex, but there's ways of letting someone down gently without being unnecessarily cruel.

Allegedly. "

Awww Clem..... u enjoying yourself there? Your input has been most valuable.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"I don't understand these women that allow themselves to be complete victims, why would anyone get upset over a guy who doesn't give a shit about him? Doesn't she not like herself? How do you even get to that point with someone, surely he didn't just turn around one day and say 'men like me don't want to be seen with you in public' she must have seen signs early on he was an arsehole and if she did she's stupid for putting herself in that position! Not excusing what he does it's just nasty, she should have some self respect, stop crying and block him

Mate, you didn't have to write all that. "I don't understand these women" is all we have to say! Job done! what the fuck "

Of course we'll never understand women!

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

The fact that she fell is not his fault.

The fact that he decided to ditch her in such a shitty fashion is entirely his fault.

He might not have wanted anything more than sex, but there's ways of letting someone down gently without being unnecessarily cruel.

Allegedly.

Awww Clem..... u enjoying yourself there? Your input has been most valuable."

I forgot to tow the "all men are bastards" party line...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"He was very short, to the point, which makes me think he’s making sure there’s no confusion / blurred lines about what he is saying."

U obviously missed the additional post - the bit about him moving in with her over xmas, having a key and staying with her for days on end even when they werent having sex.

What he said at the start and how he then started to behave after a few months... I can see why she thought his intentions had changed.

We all know she is well rid.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

The fact that she fell is not his fault.

The fact that he decided to ditch her in such a shitty fashion is entirely his fault.

He might not have wanted anything more than sex, but there's ways of letting someone down gently without being unnecessarily cruel.

Allegedly.

Awww Clem..... u enjoying yourself there? Your input has been most valuable.

I forgot to tow the "all men are bastards" party line... "

Nowhere did I say that Clem.

I have already said that I know plenty of men who have been fucked about by women like this. But it's his callousness and cruelty that I found shocking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life

How are events his fault and not hers too ?"

He lied about not wanting a relationship with anyone. If he had said from the beginning what he said she might have fucked him off and he wouldn't have got the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm really not getting the point of the thread. Wonder if the friend knows they are having their situation dissected on a swingers site? I think it's unwise to make judgements when none of the parties involved can speak for themselves. And I've no advice for body disposal. Although if you are planning to walk the streets with a shovel, now's a good time to do it without looking suspicious. "

Lime

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"He was very short, to the point, which makes me think he’s making sure there’s no confusion / blurred lines about what he is saying.

U obviously missed the additional post - the bit about him moving in with her over xmas, having a key and staying with her for days on end even when they werent having sex.

What he said at the start and how he then started to behave after a few months... I can see why she thought his intentions had changed.

We all know she is well rid."

His behaviour was unnecessarily cruel, and I absolutely get why she thought it was developing into something more, so would have felt like a complete kick in the stomach to have received that info! I would have felt the same to be honest, all you can do is be there for her and make sure she doesn't meet him again regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm good enough to fuck and not date. I've been doing it for years. I assume every man I fuck thinks that and I don't get upset when they meet a nice girl and settle down. I like the sex.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

The fact that she fell is not his fault.

The fact that he decided to ditch her in such a shitty fashion is entirely his fault.

He might not have wanted anything more than sex, but there's ways of letting someone down gently without being unnecessarily cruel.

Allegedly.

Awww Clem..... u enjoying yourself there? Your input has been most valuable.

I forgot to tow the "all men are bastards" party line...

Nowhere did I say that Clem.

I have already said that I know plenty of men who have been fucked about by women like this. But it's his callousness and cruelty that I found shocking."

Unfortunately shit like this happens all the time. According to the forum rules, fab forums are just for fun. Worth remembering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a similar thing happen..met a guy from here..started off fb's, feelings developed massively on my behalf, he was well aware..told me he felt the same..a year later..he can't see me anymore cos he's met someone. Shit it hurts..especially to think that you're good enough to Fuck but not to have a relationship with..but I can't do anything about it. He's made it clear that he only wants me for sex and if I facilitate that I've only got myself to blame for my stupid broken heart!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

The fact that she fell is not his fault.

The fact that he decided to ditch her in such a shitty fashion is entirely his fault.

He might not have wanted anything more than sex, but there's ways of letting someone down gently without being unnecessarily cruel.

Allegedly.

Awww Clem..... u enjoying yourself there? Your input has been most valuable.

I forgot to tow the "all men are bastards" party line...

Nowhere did I say that Clem.

I have already said that I know plenty of men who have been fucked about by women like this. But it's his callousness and cruelty that I found shocking.

Unfortunately shit like this happens all the time. According to the forum rules, fab forums are just for fun. Worth remembering. "

Not everyone finds you fun. Does that mean you’re leaving the forums?

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life

How are events his fault and not hers too ? when a girl starts having sex with a bloke even if they dont say deep down they really want that man to fall in love with them but they wont say it if they think it might not happen so the bloke was obviously playing on the fact she fancied him and he knew this so he used it to get sex. So it is his fault and he could have been nicer in the situation and not made the person feel worthless when im sure the person is probaly a lovely person."
White Knight to the rescue

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

The fact that she fell is not his fault.

The fact that he decided to ditch her in such a shitty fashion is entirely his fault.

He might not have wanted anything more than sex, but there's ways of letting someone down gently without being unnecessarily cruel.

Allegedly.

Awww Clem..... u enjoying yourself there? Your input has been most valuable.

I forgot to tow the "all men are bastards" party line...

Nowhere did I say that Clem.

I have already said that I know plenty of men who have been fucked about by women like this. But it's his callousness and cruelty that I found shocking.

Unfortunately shit like this happens all the time. According to the forum rules, fab forums are just for fun. Worth remembering.

Not everyone finds you fun. Does that mean you’re leaving the forums? "

Life is full of victims. I can't please everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life

How are events his fault and not hers too ? when a girl starts having sex with a bloke even if they dont say deep down they really want that man to fall in love with them but they wont say it if they think it might not happen so the bloke was obviously playing on the fact she fancied him and he knew this so he used it to get sex. So it is his fault and he could have been nicer in the situation and not made the person feel worthless when im sure the person is probaly a lovely person.White Knight to the rescue"

Do you have a view of your own or do you just always spout generic shite all the time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She fell.

That's not his fault.

The fact that she fell is not his fault.

The fact that he decided to ditch her in such a shitty fashion is entirely his fault.

He might not have wanted anything more than sex, but there's ways of letting someone down gently without being unnecessarily cruel.

Allegedly.

Awww Clem..... u enjoying yourself there? Your input has been most valuable.

I forgot to tow the "all men are bastards" party line...

Nowhere did I say that Clem.

I have already said that I know plenty of men who have been fucked about by women like this. But it's his callousness and cruelty that I found shocking.

Unfortunately shit like this happens all the time. According to the forum rules, fab forums are just for fun. Worth remembering.

Not everyone finds you fun. Does that mean you’re leaving the forums?

Life is full of victims. I can't please everyone. "

Can you please anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's a cunt, not the nice kind.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life

How are events his fault and not hers too ?

He lied about not wanting a relationship with anyone. If he had said from the beginning what he said she might have fucked him off and he wouldn't have got the sex. "

Nope. What he said about not wanting a relationship was true. Then he met someone he did want a relationship with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At least he's been honest, tho somewhat cruel. Was your friend honest with him, that she was looking to date, when she first met him? Too many women expect men to be mind readers and then expect sympathy when faced with the truth. He saw her as a fuck, probably thought she thought the same."

Yeah but there’s absolutely no need to put people down and make them feel worthless, it’s just cruel and unnecessary don’t you think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guy sounds like a tool...not for ending it, but the way in which he ended it.

She'll get over it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of men on this site see the single women on here as ok to fuck but they would never date any of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He was very short, to the point, which makes me think he’s making sure there’s no confusion / blurred lines about what he is saying.

U obviously missed the additional post - the bit about him moving in with her over xmas, having a key and staying with her for days on end even when they werent having sex.

What he said at the start and how he then started to behave after a few months... I can see why she thought his intentions had changed.

We all know she is well rid."

Yes I did miss that part.

Regardless of how / what happened (as only those two really know) your friend has been left feeling sad & like shite, not nice

Hopefully she’ll be able to quickly put it down to a bad experience & move on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how she feels. I’ve been told that many times, I’m good enough to be fucked but not enough to date

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There must be another side to this story that we are not hearing! As others have suggested, plenty of people can be complete c..nts but I don't think someone would just come out with this, my guess is he was given a barrage of abuse so maybe come back with what he said, rather than stay cool, appogise he didn't have those kind of feelings for her etc.

Generally speaking there's no smoke without fire, in condratiction to that, if using potassium hydroxide, there would most likely be smoke without fire. Just for the record!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The majority of men on this site see the single women on here as ok to fuck but they would never date any of them."

Why do people think they can speak for the majority of men, where do they get their statistics from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The majority of men on this site see the single women on here as ok to fuck but they would never date any of them.

Why do people think they can speak for the majority of men, where do they get their statistics from?"

Sydney University research

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know how she feels. I’ve been told that many times, I’m good enough to be fucked but not enough to date "

Why believe that from someone who's just putting you down. Sod 'em if they think that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life

How are events his fault and not hers too ?

He lied about not wanting a relationship with anyone. If he had said from the beginning what he said she might have fucked him off and he wouldn't have got the sex.

Nope. What he said about not wanting a relationship was true. Then he met someone he did want a relationship with. "

I agree with Granny’s point here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The majority of men on this site see the single women on here as ok to fuck but they would never date any of them.

Why do people think they can speak for the majority of men, where do they get their statistics from?

Sydney University research "

Good one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The majority of men on this site see the single women on here as ok to fuck but they would never date any of them."

Strange as this may sound to you...

That works the other way round too...

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

"

Sail my boat into the middle of the Channel, put body slowly through woodchipper along a 10mile corridor.

Dismantle 'chipper, set fire to boat, row tender back to shore

No really, I've never given this method any thought before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know how she feels. I’ve been told that many times, I’m good enough to be fucked but not enough to date "

I’d be telling these people that they’re only good enough to fuck off, cheeky bastards. There’s no way I’d entertain anybody who told me I was only good enough to fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The poor excuse of a man is a complete shit faced cock master.

Tell your friends she'll be ok.

I've been told similar, more than once xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The majority of men on this site see the single women on here as ok to fuck but they would never date any of them.

Strange as this may sound to you...

That works the other way round too..."

It may well be, but I honestly doubt women treat men in the same way men treat women on here.

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By *eral SexMan
over a year ago

Port Talbot

Right here's the plan:

We get him fall in love with the OP (who is quite foxy) and then on a night where all his friends and family are there, make a short speech breaking up with him because he's good enough to fuck but not to date. When his friends and family protest, produce your friend who can point out to everyone that this is exactly what he did.

And if that doesn't crush him, tell him you've also slept with everybody else in his family and he is, frankly, rubbish in comparison.

It's a lot of fucking to do, but it's an important point to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The majority of men on this site see the single women on here as ok to fuck but they would never date any of them."

I wouldn't date anyone off here either.

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"The majority of men on this site see the single women on here as ok to fuck but they would never date any of them.

I wouldn't date anyone off here either."

Me neither.

I'd love to hear his side of the story. I bet it's alot different to the image portrayed here. Fella is being tar and feathered when we only have the OP and her friend's version.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life

How are events his fault and not hers too ?

He lied about not wanting a relationship with anyone. If he had said from the beginning what he said she might have fucked him off and he wouldn't have got the sex. "

Did he lie though?

I didn't want a relationship with anyone and cut all ties at the slightest hint of attachment. I met a man on here with a find em, fuck em and forget em approach. Didn't do women with kids I didn't do men without kids.

Four years on he's hogging the duvet and snoring bride me.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

For 2 people to fuck there has to in my mind be a degree of attraction to one another. Therefore on some level he found her attractive otherwise said sex wouldn't have occurred more than once.

What he did was pretty despicable..... I will never understand the "good enough to fuck but not date " when it's an ongoing thing. You invest time even in a physical thing.

I Hope his new bird learns he's a jerk and fucks him off and a visit to a pig farm could be in order. Easiest way to dispose of a body

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"It is his fault. Some peolpe are just cunts. Thats life

How are events his fault and not hers too ?

He lied about not wanting a relationship with anyone. If he had said from the beginning what he said she might have fucked him off and he wouldn't have got the sex.

Did he lie though?

I didn't want a relationship with anyone and cut all ties at the slightest hint of attachment. I met a man on here with a find em, fuck em and forget em approach. Didn't do women with kids I didn't do men without kids.

Four years on he's hogging the duvet and snoring bride* me."
*beside

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talking to a friend earlier who is heartbroken that a guy she has been fucking for the last few months has started dating someone and not told her. (He originally told her he didn't want to date and had no interest in a relationship ever again)

When she asked him why when they got on so well why he hadnt thought to date her he said... you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.

She is devastated and I wanna kill him. Not because he is dating.... that's his business and she shouldn't have invested emotionally in him. But because he felt nothing by being so cruel.

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

Did he actually say those words ?

If he did say that I'm very surprised your friend didn't pick up the fact that he was up his own arse.

Women usually pick up on stuff like that"

I met a man for social from here. We never fucked we only ever had a snog. He tried to get me into bed for ages and he probably would’ve done if the timings had been right. Then one day he tells me he wants to start dating someone and I asked him why he wouldn’t date me. He told me that it would be “weird“ to date a woman from Fab, they weren't the type he'd want to date.

I can only guess he was completely up his own arse and I’m obviously not very good at picking up on that.

I was lucky I didn't fuck him. And it's one of the reasons I don't meet men on here anymore.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"Talking to a friend earlier who is heartbroken that a guy she has been fucking for the last few months has started dating someone and not told her. (He originally told her he didn't want to date and had no interest in a relationship ever again)

When she asked him why when they got on so well why he hadnt thought to date her he said... you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.

She is devastated and I wanna kill him. Not because he is dating.... that's his business and she shouldn't have invested emotionally in him. But because he felt nothing by being so cruel.

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

Did he actually say those words ?

If he did say that I'm very surprised your friend didn't pick up the fact that he was up his own arse.

Women usually pick up on stuff like that

I met a man for social from here. We never fucked we only ever had a snog. He tried to get me into bed for ages and he probably would’ve done if the timings had been right. Then one day he tells me he wants to start dating someone and I asked him why he wouldn’t date me. He told me that it would be “weird“ to date a woman from Fab, they weren't the type he'd want to date.

I can only guess he was completely up his own arse and I’m obviously not very good at picking up on that.

I was lucky I didn't fuck him. And it's one of the reasons I don't meet men on here anymore."

Don't let the tiny gene pool of idiots ruin anything which has potential. You're beautiful...if someone doesn't see that then fuck em

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"

I will never understand the "good enough to fuck but not date " when it's an ongoing thing. "

I don't understand couples who fuck strangers whilst the wife is pregnant, those who will bareback gangbang but not kiss others et al.

We are all different.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"

I will never understand the "good enough to fuck but not date " when it's an ongoing thing.

I don't understand couples who fuck strangers whilst the wife is pregnant, those who will bareback gangbang but not kiss others et al.

We are all different. "

We are indeed all different.... I don't get those ones either haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people have different perspectives on this site, some look for sex, others look or hope for more, if you have. a fuck buddy there is that risk the feelings will evolve to more than just sex, it’s happened to me with a women i was meeting quite regularly, and i’m sure its happened to lots of other people too, you just need to be clear on why you’re here, and protect yourself from being hurt. Never assume anything from anyone you meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Talking to a friend earlier who is heartbroken that a guy she has been fucking for the last few months has started dating someone and not told her. (He originally told her he didn't want to date and had no interest in a relationship ever again)

When she asked him why when they got on so well why he hadnt thought to date her he said... you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.

She is devastated and I wanna kill him. Not because he is dating.... that's his business and she shouldn't have invested emotionally in him. But because he felt nothing by being so cruel.

So... Im looking for ways to dispose of a body - burial is a no go now the grounds frozen.

Did he actually say those words ?

If he did say that I'm very surprised your friend didn't pick up the fact that he was up his own arse.

Women usually pick up on stuff like that

I met a man for social from here. We never fucked we only ever had a snog. He tried to get me into bed for ages and he probably would’ve done if the timings had been right. Then one day he tells me he wants to start dating someone and I asked him why he wouldn’t date me. He told me that it would be “weird“ to date a woman from Fab, they weren't the type he'd want to date.

I can only guess he was completely up his own arse and I’m obviously not very good at picking up on that.

I was lucky I didn't fuck him. And it's one of the reasons I don't meet men on here anymore.

Don't let the tiny gene pool of idiots ruin anything which has potential. You're beautiful...if someone doesn't see that then fuck em"

That's really nice of you. But I'm not many people's type, which is cool.

I want a relationship now anyway, so that's another reason.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"people have different perspectives on this site, some look for sex, others look or hope for more, if you have. a fuck buddy there is that risk the feelings will evolve to more than just sex, it’s happened to me with a women i was meeting quite regularly, and i’m sure its happened to lots of other people too, you just need to be clear on why you’re here, and protect yourself from being hurt. Never assume anything from anyone you meet."

I used this site for casual hook ups for years. I wasn't looking for a fuck buddy let alone a relationship!

A throwaway comment about my profile from a man outside my meet criteria (and I his) led to us meeting for a social, which turned into a date...four years on...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"The majority of men on this site see the single women on here as ok to fuck but they would never date any of them."

To be fair most of the men on this site are good enough to fuck but not date!!

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Shave all hair off and pull out all teeth then feed to pigs , or inject nutmeg into the bloodstream virtually untraceable and makes it look like natural causes "

*note to self ... never get on the wrong side of _arks!!

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Your poor friend ..thats horrible .... well she is better off without the snake .... and wben he tries to come slithering back .... have ya pitch fork ready .

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"

No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

Thats exactly the point. And he obviously is an arse as he was still shagging her and the new bird he is dating.

Yes it hurts when u catch feelings and they arent reciprocated but is there any need to be so nasty. Or is it a perverse kindness to make her hate him?"

I agree. Not his fault but didn’t have to be a cunt.

I had a similar situation with a guy I was seeing casually on & off for about 3 years in my early 20’s. He was much less of a cunt than this guy, I got over it & I’m still friendly with him when I see him, but my best friend still wants to set him on fire!! And it’s been 20 years!!

OP, invest in a voodoo doll. The physical abuse of said doll will make you feel better & will also cheer up your friend. She’ll get over this much quicker than you will!!

And tell your friend she had a lucky escape!! x

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


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No. But him being a harsh egotistical twuzzock in his phrasing is his fault.

Thats exactly the point. And he obviously is an arse as he was still shagging her and the new bird he is dating.

Yes it hurts when u catch feelings and they arent reciprocated but is there any need to be so nasty. Or is it a perverse kindness to make her hate him?

I agree. Not his fault but didn’t have to be a cunt.

I had a similar situation with a guy I was seeing casually on & off for about 3 years in my early 20’s. He was much less of a cunt than this guy, I got over it & I’m still friendly with him when I see him, but my best friend still wants to set him on fire!! And it’s been 20 years!!

OP, invest in a voodoo doll. The physical abuse of said doll will make you feel better & will also cheer up your friend. She’ll get over this much quicker than you will!!

And tell your friend she had a lucky escape!! x"

Love this suggestion; whilst it may not have any effect on the guy, the therapeutic effects for the OPs friend will be great - I'd freak out though, if after a rigorous session of toll torture, he came in on crutches and covered in bandages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of guys will use this place whilst they are actively dating or looking to date someone from the real world.

They can have a woman from here to fuck until the person they're dating is ready to start sleeping with them. Nothing really wrong with it I suppose if the guy says it's just sex.

But the op says this guy met her in a pub in the real world so don't know why he was ok to originally approach her in public but then say she's not someone he wants to be seen with.

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By *tongueMan
over a year ago

wrexham

Heartless B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a tosser he dont deserve a nice death torture the prick!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your criteria for nsa sex are very different to your criteria for marriage.

Whether you're a man or a women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They are both foolish, but this:

' you are good enough to fuck but I could never been seen in public with you. Men like me dont date women like you.'

...makes him an utter shit if that's how he put it.

It seems to be a recurring theme. Very few people actually seem able to manage a fwb/nsa (with all their multiple interpretations) arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

"

Well put.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Pretty sure it was said in anger when she confronted him, people say the strangest thing when cornered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

Well put."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of guys will use this place whilst they are actively dating or looking to date someone from the real world.

They can have a woman from here to fuck until the person they're dating is ready to start sleeping with them. Nothing really wrong with it I suppose if the guy says it's just sex.

But the op says this guy met her in a pub in the real world so don't know why he was ok to originally approach her in public but then say she's not someone he wants to be seen with. "

Good point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I met a man for social from here. We never fucked we only ever had a snog. He tried to get me into bed for ages and he probably would’ve done if the timings had been right. Then one day he tells me he wants to start dating someone and I asked him why he wouldn’t date me. He told me that it would be “weird“ to date a woman from Fab, they weren't the type he'd want to date.

I can only guess he was completely up his own arse and I’m obviously not very good at picking up on that.

I was lucky I didn't fuck him. And it's one of the reasons I don't meet men on here anymore."

Why were you lucky you didn't fuck him? I struggle to agree with this mentality.

Liberate yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I met a man for social from here. We never fucked we only ever had a snog. He tried to get me into bed for ages and he probably would’ve done if the timings had been right. Then one day he tells me he wants to start dating someone and I asked him why he wouldn’t date me. He told me that it would be “weird“ to date a woman from Fab, they weren't the type he'd want to date.

I can only guess he was completely up his own arse and I’m obviously not very good at picking up on that.

I was lucky I didn't fuck him. And it's one of the reasons I don't meet men on here anymore.

Why were you lucky you didn't fuck him? I struggle to agree with this mentality.

Liberate yourself.

"

Please don't tell me what to do.

I was lucky because I could've started feeling something for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

"

That misses an important point.

In life everything is an option until you make it a priority.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I met a man for social from here. We never fucked we only ever had a snog. He tried to get me into bed for ages and he probably would’ve done if the timings had been right. Then one day he tells me he wants to start dating someone and I asked him why he wouldn’t date me. He told me that it would be “weird“ to date a woman from Fab, they weren't the type he'd want to date.

I can only guess he was completely up his own arse and I’m obviously not very good at picking up on that.

I was lucky I didn't fuck him. And it's one of the reasons I don't meet men on here anymore.

Why were you lucky you didn't fuck him? I struggle to agree with this mentality.

Liberate yourself.

Please don't tell me what to do.

I was lucky because I could've started feeling something for him."

I'm not telling you what to do, its a forum. I'm giving you my opinion. Chill out! (That's my opinion too).

That's not lucky. Its like saying I'm lucky I don't buy lottery tickets to save me from the disappointment of not winning!

Liberate yourself and bet on you. Maybe he could've started feeling something for you!

I guess in life its just easier not to buy a ticket...as I said, I struggle with that mentality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.

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Best piece of forum advice ever

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Shit happens, take it to Facebook.

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