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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Where do I start with BDSM

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Are you sub, dom, switch?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You see I'm all new to this but I like the idea of Dom

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By *he CruiserMan
over a year ago

carshalton


"Where do I start with BDSM"

With Rope

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By *he CruiserMan
over a year ago

carshalton


"Where do I start with BDSM"

And pegs of course!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You see I'm all new to this but I like the idea of Dom "

I find only naturally dominant men can be Dom so if your not u can't force it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where do I start with BDSM

With Rope"

Then floggers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where do I start with BDSM

With Rope

Then floggers"

Or floggers then rope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You see I'm all new to this but I like the idea of Dom "

I quite like the idea or winning the lottery

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By *ibertine_mindsCouple
over a year ago

Staffs/ Derbys/ Peak District

Whatever you do, do not read/watch 50 Shades of Grey!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Where do I start with BDSM"

Buy a couple of non fiction books and read them. They will give you ideas and pointers and allow you to think about the direction you want to go in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join fetlife

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By *hips n FursMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield


"Where do I start with BDSM"

Start with your mind,tune your mind in and the rest will follow.

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By *queekyCheesyCouple
over a year ago

newark

First you need to be able to fuck hard for hours... because that is the way of the newfound "dom's"... apparently

Nothing else matters.. nope. Squat. Just fuck hard.

(Is'nt that right almost all you 'dominant males' that message us)

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By *oobookittyWoman
over a year ago

Derby


"Where do I start with BDSM"

A few clubs do fetish/swing cross over nights, it may be worth going along to one and watching some play, if something piqued your interest most kinksters are happy to share knowledge.

So when the play has finished and the aftercare done (when they look normal and open to talking) approach them and ask if they would mind chatting to you about their play.

That's play ...

In terms of mindset it depends very much wether you want some kinky fuckery or if you are thinking a full time D/s relationship. Do some research online have a look at what interests you

Boo

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Read up on as much as you can... no, put that 50 shades shit dow ... try to find a local munch and go along an chat with others. Go to a fet night at a club to watch and learn.

Don't expect to jump right in and be a Dom. All takes time, trust, communication and patience. If you don't have those ya fucked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start with the question "what do I like about BDSM?"

Then read, fet life is a great starting point, talk to established Dom/Dommes, and when you are feeling like you are ready, you wouldn't go far wrong meeting an experienced sub, who is happy to "show you the ropes".

Please don't just tie someone up, it's not as easy as it looks and you could seriously hurt someone if you don't know what you are doing, same goes for other BDSM toys like canes, flogger, crop and my favourite the bull whip.

And remember, anyone who says they know everything about BDSM is full of shit, you never stop learning, well, if your any good you don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Research research research

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try club rub, miss kym does mistress/ master workshops, they're a good starting place for absolute beginners.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

Read "The Story of O" and possibly De Sade.

Perhaps then, buy a cape.

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"You see I'm all new to this but I like the idea of Dom

I find only naturally dominant men can be Dom so if your not u can't force it"

Mmm I'd argue that point? What is 'naturally dominant'? An alpha-chimp dickhead with a BMW and a diver's watch?

These are the absolute worst 'Doms'.

Doms are respectful, intuitive, controlled, selfless.

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"First you need to be able to fuck hard for hours... because that is the way of the newfound "dom's"... apparently

Nothing else matters.. nope. Squat. Just fuck hard.

(Is'nt that right almost all you 'dominant males' that message us)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meditation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where do I start with BDSM

With Rope

Then floggers

Or floggers then rope "

nope definitely floggers first

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Where do you start? By taking a step backwards and asking yourself what interests you about it and where you think your specific interests may lie.

Once you've done that- read, read and read some more (Screw The Roses Bring Me The Thorns and SM101 are both good book recommendations easily available from Amazon), join the other Fet related site and consider getting along to a local munch (socials in the BDSM world) or two. Look out some on-line questionnaires which may help shape your thoughts about where you stand and think you might fit in.

Once you've done that, read some more and talk to others some more and gradually you'll start to find yourself and know where you fit and will then know for yourself what your next steps should be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

B

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"You see I'm all new to this but I like the idea of Dom

I find only naturally dominant men can be Dom so if your not u can't force it

Mmm I'd argue that point? What is 'naturally dominant'? An alpha-chimp dickhead with a BMW and a diver's watch?

These are the absolute worst 'Doms'.

Doms are respectful, intuitive, controlled, selfless. "

You’re last sentence describes Sir. He is also naturally alpha.

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