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Your peak with regards to attractiveness

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By *yesbeenopened2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

At what age do you think you were at your peak with regards to attracting others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m yet to reach my peak - I hope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mid 40's and 50's. Before that I was married and not out in society.

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By *yesbeenopened2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

16 1/2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m yet to reach my peak - I hope "

You deffo still got it very sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm doing alright at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soon... hopefully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never been there, probably never will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Now I reckon, just turned 40.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Early to mid 20s I think. Between husbands

Nita

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Dunno. I think I must be really gorgeous currently because three guys hung out of a white van and shouted "look at the state of that!" at me yesterday

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

When i was 6 . I had two girlfriends at the same time kissing me in the playground

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Mid 20’s I was killing it.

Since I shaved my head and started to take care of my body though I have been having a bit of a renaissance lately though.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"At what age do you think you were at your peak with regards to attracting others?"

Surely it depends where you are hoping to attract others?....if it is on a night out, on a website, or just on a daily basis?

I make no effort when working as I am self employed, and would not want to attract people when I am working .....so I would say my attractiveness at my age now whilst working is zero lol....but if you were to compare this to visits to Chams I would say I get quite a lot of attention, and am more attractive now and this is down to being a lot more confident now than I was earlier on in my life....

Not sure if I have answered the question correctly though ?

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"At what age do you think you were at your peak with regards to attracting others?"

I think I have attracted more women (and of more different ages) during my 40's...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

21, that was my best year and they were falling over themselves.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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Not sure about myself but there are loads of Women who I have known for years that I didn't think much of when they were in there 20s but look stunning in there mid to late 30s

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"At what age do you think you were at your peak with regards to attracting others?

I think I have attracted more women (and of more different ages) during my 40's..."

After my divorce I found it totally hilarious that I was sleeping with the same kind of guys I was before I was even married lol!!

However, still being able to attract hot tottie is not quite the same as being at my peak of attractiveness - I am under no illusion!

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By *r FirecrackerMan
over a year ago

London

As a man in my thirties I am looking forward to turning 40. I think this will be me at my peak, I could be wrong! Either way I will let you all know ha ha

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"At what age do you think you were at your peak with regards to attracting others?

I think I have attracted more women (and of more different ages) during my 40's...

After my divorce I found it totally hilarious that I was sleeping with the same kind of guys I was before I was even married lol!!

However, still being able to attract hot tottie is not quite the same as being at my peak of attractiveness - I am under no illusion! "

I think men and women find the opposite sex attractive for very different reasons, so actually, in the case of men, I do believe many are perceived as more attractive as they age a bit....it's not just physical traits but importantly it is also mental traits which attract women to men as they get older - IMO

....perhaps women of all ages just like men who are a bit more 'grown up'..lol..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"At what age do you think you were at your peak with regards to attracting others?

I think I have attracted more women (and of more different ages) during my 40's...

After my divorce I found it totally hilarious that I was sleeping with the same kind of guys I was before I was even married lol!!

However, still being able to attract hot tottie is not quite the same as being at my peak of attractiveness - I am under no illusion! "

Nor I. I'm aware that my attractiveness is dependent on context and perceived gain

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Not sure about myself but there are loads of Women who I have known for years that I didn't think much of when they were in there 20s but look stunning in there mid to late 30s "

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

I always think back to my school days and think of the girls that we thought of as "Hot" back then.

Having seen a lot of them since, how that can change OMG!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say now for me too. Most happiest in my own skin I’ve every been.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll let you know if I get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

26-31 was probably my peak

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"At what age do you think you were at your peak with regards to attracting others?

I think I have attracted more women (and of more different ages) during my 40's...

After my divorce I found it totally hilarious that I was sleeping with the same kind of guys I was before I was even married lol!!

However, still being able to attract hot tottie is not quite the same as being at my peak of attractiveness - I am under no illusion!

I think men and women find the opposite sex attractive for very different reasons, so actually, in the case of men, I do believe many are perceived as more attractive as they age a bit....it's not just physical traits but importantly it is also mental traits which attract women to men as they get older - IMO

....perhaps women of all ages just like men who are a bit more 'grown up'..lol.. "

Oh men do age better in my view - everyone gets 'coarser' looking as they age due to hormonal decline, but that just looks more masculine, so men can get away with it more - the hairy craggy look doesn't suit most women!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not sure I peaked at any age, but I was off the market for over 22 years when I was married. Now I don’t know if I’m attractive but I’m having more luck now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm past mine now I think haha.. don't seem to attract much .. need to buy a can of lynx, do a pic and see if I can get the lynx effect and start beating them off with a stick haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’m definitely peaking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

17-21

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a continual failure at attracting others so I’m going to say I’ve not yet peaked.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

I don’t know really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m yet to reach my peak - I hope "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over 40, once I stopped giving a shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re trying to age disgracefully

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By *urlesque!Woman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Good post, OP

If we are talking physically... probably when I was in my twenties.

To me attraction is about personality as much as anything and being more mature, grounded and having a bit of life experience... I believe I am more attractive now than ever before.

But for that I guess, people have to have a conversation with me, get to know me a little... even on a swing site.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"I'm past mine now I think haha.. don't seem to attract much .. need to buy a can of lynx, do a pic and see if I can get the lynx effect and start beating them off with a stick haha "

You do realise that the Lynx effect was just nurses running up to the guys trying to tell him not to use it as its really bad for him, right?

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

I've no idea guess it's subjective to who views me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dunno. I think I must be really gorgeous currently because three guys hung out of a white van and shouted "look at the state of that!" at me yesterday "

You had your Ugg boots on, didn't you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I peaked early 20s when I meet hubby. Since then everything has got fatter, saggier and generally older looking. Such is life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it's different for different people we are probably more physically fit then we were in our mid to late 20s plus the experience we now have probably makes us a little more exciting than we were back then.

But still think it's all down to personal taste some girls/guys don't like gym lads some do and that's the way things are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im hoping im yet to reach my peak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been much good at it, but probably about 7 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a cute toddler. It’s been downhill since then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About 14. That's the last time I can remember a girl properly fancying me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm past mine now I think haha.. don't seem to attract much .. need to buy a can of lynx, do a pic and see if I can get the lynx effect and start beating them off with a stick haha

You do realise that the Lynx effect was just nurses running up to the guys trying to tell him not to use it as its really bad for him, right?"

Hey nurses running towards me ain't a problem haha

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I actually "feel" the most attractive now that I ever have felt - for years I didn't think of myself as anything special (and still don't) but a combination of weight loss and a realisation since stepping into *this* life that some people do find me attractive has changed my self-perception a little

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Looks? Probably mid-20s. As a whole? Now.

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By *neeyedpirateMan
over a year ago

ask!

My age now. I was fugly as a 20 year old. And now have found gym and loving it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It was late 20's to mid 30's for me.

I also had the best time in my life so far in those years.

I think my looks now reflect my lifestyle

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Probably 53 as that was the age I grew confidence lost loads of weight stopped being depressed and learnt to laugh again.

I was sexy ..

all downhill from there unfortunately

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By *ystical_InkedBBWWoman
over a year ago

somewhere in the Shire of Derby

Since divorcing the ex lol

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

I was probably at my peak in my 30's but didn't have much confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope I've not peaked or I'm fucked!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"I hope I've not peaked or I'm fucked! "

You wish hah

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

I never want to peak, otherwise it's all down hill from there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Early 20's for looks probably. If I could combine that with my 40's confidence i'd be happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I hope I've not peaked or I'm fucked!

You wish hah "

I don't know what you mean. I'm only on this site for deep conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My peak so far is about 20 hope I can do better though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably my early twenties although when I was 14 I had a few guys wanting me. I do okay now and not just on Fab. I get chatted up when out with my friends.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Oddly enough now, at the ripe age of 34. My body is not as fit as it used to be but I feel more attractive and my think my features are more interesting as time goes on. My body and face tells a tale that was not present in my youth. I find these days women are more interested than when I was young. Although maybe this is more to do with confidence and self assurance that comes with time and experience rather than physical attributes?

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman
over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

Started when I was 18 and still going strong

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

My flirty fifties x storm x

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By *s_bettyboopWoman
over a year ago

-3

I think I've peaked twice

19-25 then 28-30. I certainly think I'll peak again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

37 and still going. I always looked too young, so people would always tell me how 'cute' I was. I think I finally have that 'woman look', which some seem to like and I like. So perhaps it's more that I feel better in my skin now, so am more confident about how I look and people are attracted to that confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably mid teens to early 20's, I never had to chat women up because they hit on me. I also made a ton of money working on cam sites when I was a student. Now I'm lucky if I get 2 matches a week on tinder! I'm also a lot more fussy who I sleep with these days so that probably doesn't do me many favours haha.

I have lost a lot of weight the past few years though. Trying to get back in shape so hopefully I'll end up bouncing back in my 30's :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

16/17/18/19

Must of been that 90s perm I had

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think mine was mid 30's unfortunately, I don't think I'm past it, I just think I was in my best form then

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

42.....no honestly!!!!

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill

Oh gosh I was an ugly 20 -27!

I’m average now and happy being me

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest


"42.....no honestly!!!! "

Omg, same here! Have never felt more attractive as I do at the moment. Hi five fellow fabber!

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel

Ohh this is an interesting thread.

27-28 definitely, my body was far fitter, also stronger and more muscular. More attention than I could handle.

But had absolutely no confidence, I didn't even have my first date till 27 (Sept 2011).

I am now at the worst point in my life, been ill for years but still had to work like a dog, n looking after someone who's ill, not afford to buy enough food etc until recently.

In the circumstances I'm really proud of how I've kept my body while I was sick, only picked up a very small amount of softness, lost maybe a stone of muscle through atrophy, but pushed like crazy to actually gain some back in 2016.

I'm proud that because I stubbornly refused to give up and let myself go, my body isn't too bad at all. I tell myself imagine how good I will be when I get back to normal.

The only real black mark is that I'm now smoking usually 5-10 a day which is a lot for me, when before it was only extremely light/socially/hardly at all. I'm not quite strong enough to deal with it just yet but I know how to and I will.

(Yeah yeah excuses I've been told at work, I'm going to die etc but I know better than to let that get me down, it's a test to build resilience)

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By *ky19Man
over a year ago

Plymouth OYO Hotel

Ohh damn that was a bit long, got carried away.

Though its a bit self absorbed I'm hoping some other people might be encouraged? x

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

1986, I was 20, I remember that year fondly...

Been all downhill since then though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"42.....no honestly!!!! "

I'm 42

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m happier and more confident now than I’ve ever been and that seems to attract people.

I’m still growing in confidence so who knows.

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over a year ago

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I was told I am more attractive now than I was when I was 19.

So. Now....maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

19 - out and about everywhere,no worries about starting conversations,girls were as game,every Fri and sat was a garunteed shag,meaningless but fun.

22-29 text message troubles/house nightclubs. realising you can make people want you,feel for you or get them to be so horny and dirty by just messaging that you end up destroyin each other,especially friends girlfriends who you end up dirty dancing with after a week or two of texting.

Now - just getting sad and old and have to beg.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At 18-20 at the height of my gothic phase and now. I spent the last 10 years feeling really unattractive and this last year i have started to feel really good in myself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

21

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i reached my peak when i was 18 and its been all downhill since then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At 18-20 at the height of my gothic phase and now. I spent the last 10 years feeling really unattractive and this last year i have started to feel really good in myself x "

Goth teen girls,why oh why did she have to move away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would never know if i was attractive due to having all my dads bad genes

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I had a lot of attention in my 20s and I didn't feel attractive.

I started to feel attractive about 10 years ago in my 40s but get a lot less attention.

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

I honestly wouldn't have a clue

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"Early to mid 20s I think. Between husbands

Nita"

Though I actually seem to be doing surprisingly well at the moment.

Swinging distorts things given the potential for sex, but I've been unexpectedly complimented in vanilla life on more than one occasion in recent months.

Maybe it's the extra confidence that comes with maturity and being comfortable in your own skin.

So I might have to change that age to 44

Nita

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Probably about 30. It's all going downhill now

Red

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By *yesbeenopened2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

Bump.

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By *ammers43Man
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I feel the most comfortable about myself now, probably the most confident which is sad as im now 50

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By *itzhallMan
over a year ago

birchington

40-49 were my best years, then I turned invisible (50)

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think I peaked when I was forty but I don't feel sad about it. I am getting older (such is life) and my options are greatly reduced not necessarily because of the way I look but because I am clearer now about what I want and don't want. I am the most confident I've ever been now and I am happy.

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By *ammers43Man
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"I think I peaked when I was forty but I don't feel sad about it. I am getting older (such is life) and my options are greatly reduced not necessarily because of the way I look but because I am clearer now about what I want and don't want. I am the most confident I've ever been now and I am happy. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely now in my 40s and it just keeps getting better and better!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Still going in the real World...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

17 I was cuter lol but still get older ladies saying I'm cute

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