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"I'm hoping that some of you would help me by looking at my profile. had a loook at your profile and can’t see anything wrong tbh. Pics look good. And you seem polite and open. Give it a little more time and hopefully the site will work for you xx happy hunting " Do you think my age puts them off too? | |||
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"I'm hoping that some of you would help me by looking at my profile. " How do you know you are 'genuine'? Repeating your name and age is a waste of text. The repeat meet thing is a bit unbelievable. Any upper case text is a bad look and there is no need for the highlighted text anyway. | |||
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"I'm hoping that some of you would help me by looking at my profile. How do you know you are 'genuine'? Repeating your name and age is a waste of text. The repeat meet thing is a bit unbelievable. Any upper case text is a bad look and there is no need for the highlighted text anyway." I made a minor change. | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend " Its been 2 months. | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. " Ive had 1 meet in 13 months mate relax, ho a club | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. " It took me nearly 9 months before I got my first meet on here, and that was about 12 years ago | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. It took me nearly 9 months before I got my first meet on here, and that was about 12 years ago " I've found also that if you don't have veris then you don't get meets. | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. It took me nearly 9 months before I got my first meet on here, and that was about 12 years ago I've found also that if you don't have veris then you don't get meets. " There are some who will meet unverified people. | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. It took me nearly 9 months before I got my first meet on here, and that was about 12 years ago I've found also that if you don't have veris then you don't get meets. " How have you established this as a fact? | |||
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"Yes your age will put a lot off, unfortunately. You don't need all the cock pics, one will suffice! Take out the shouty timewaster bit. Tell us what you have to offer a meet and what you would like from a potential meet and good luck " Is that better? | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. It took me nearly 9 months before I got my first meet on here, and that was about 12 years ago I've found also that if you don't have veris then you don't get meets. How have you established this as a fact?" From titles, status's and talking to other people. | |||
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"Honestly go to a club its a lot more open an social " I'm a student that is struggling to find a job that fits. Money isn't a luxury at the moment. | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. It took me nearly 9 months before I got my first meet on here, and that was about 12 years ago I've found also that if you don't have veris then you don't get meets. How have you established this as a fact? From titles, status's and talking to other people. " We've met people without any veris's as evidence for the alternative. You might want to generally wise up a bit if you are serious about getting on here... | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. It took me nearly 9 months before I got my first meet on here, and that was about 12 years ago I've found also that if you don't have veris then you don't get meets. How have you established this as a fact? From titles, status's and talking to other people. We've met people without any veris's as evidence for the alternative. You might want to generally wise up a bit if you are serious about getting on here..." How do you mean by wise up? | |||
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"Student loan?" Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. | |||
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"Part of being a student mate, i lived on beans on toast for 4 years " I'd rather eat right and watch my money. | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. " If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. It took me nearly 9 months before I got my first meet on here, and that was about 12 years ago I've found also that if you don't have veris then you don't get meets. How have you established this as a fact? From titles, status's and talking to other people. We've met people without any veris's as evidence for the alternative. You might want to generally wise up a bit if you are serious about getting on here... How do you mean by wise up? " Your profile and replies here indicate you are a little naive. | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. It took me nearly 9 months before I got my first meet on here, and that was about 12 years ago I've found also that if you don't have veris then you don't get meets. How have you established this as a fact? From titles, status's and talking to other people. We've met people without any veris's as evidence for the alternative. You might want to generally wise up a bit if you are serious about getting on here... How do you mean by wise up? Your profile and replies here indicate you are a little naive." You are probably right. Tell me how. | |||
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"Age. Plus studentshipitis." Is that actually a word? | |||
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"Complaining about it will deffo make you more attractive " Not complaining. I'm looking for advice. | |||
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"Complaining about it will deffo make you more attractive Not complaining. I'm looking for advice. " Yes you are sweetie - and there’s nothing wrong with that! Stop being a meanie Oreo! | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! " How do socials usually work? | |||
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"Complaining about it will deffo make you more attractive Not complaining. I'm looking for advice. " Okay, don't have a dick pic as profile pic. And dunno what your approach is with women but wouldn't recommend blunt messages like fancy a fuck (unless it's peachy cus she likes that shit), and don't mention meeting someone fill you've spoken a fair bit, better still she might suggest it if she is keen and you aren't pushy. Also have a wank before coming on here to keep your head clear. | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? " just look on the meet section of the forum and ask if they can't out your name down as a guest as helped me a lot more fun sitting around on the computer | |||
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"Complaining about it will deffo make you more attractive Not complaining. I'm looking for advice. Yes you are sweetie - and there’s nothing wrong with that! Stop being a meanie Oreo! " You haven't even given any advice lol | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? " Look in the forums under meets and events. Or alternatively start another thread asking for info about socials in your area! You just put your name down well in advance and turn up on the allotted day, dressed to impress and ready to socialise! | |||
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"Complaining about it will deffo make you more attractive Not complaining. I'm looking for advice. Yes you are sweetie - and there’s nothing wrong with that! Stop being a meanie Oreo! You haven't even given any advice lol " Yes I did - above your comment - so ner ner ne ner ner!! | |||
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"Complaining about it will deffo make you more attractive Not complaining. I'm looking for advice. Yes you are sweetie - and there’s nothing wrong with that! Stop being a meanie Oreo! You haven't even given any advice lol Yes I did - above your comment - so ner ner ne ner ner!! " My advice is more likely to get him laid than yours. Just sayin | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? Look in the forums under meets and events. Or alternatively start another thread asking for info about socials in your area! You just put your name down well in advance and turn up on the allotted day, dressed to impress and ready to socialise! " So nothing sexual happens at them? You just go and have a chat? | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? Look in the forums under meets and events. Or alternatively start another thread asking for info about socials in your area! You just put your name down well in advance and turn up on the allotted day, dressed to impress and ready to socialise! So nothing sexual happens at them? You just go and have a chat? " Yes - hence the ‘social’ part. Swinging isn’t all about sex | |||
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"How do socials usually work? " Generally they involve loads of people getting together in a pub, chatting and getting to know each other. Check out the Meet Requests & Parties forum | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? Look in the forums under meets and events. Or alternatively start another thread asking for info about socials in your area! You just put your name down well in advance and turn up on the allotted day, dressed to impress and ready to socialise! So nothing sexual happens at them? You just go and have a chat? " pretty much everyone guest d*unk and snog each other and things might happen afterwards | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? Look in the forums under meets and events. Or alternatively start another thread asking for info about socials in your area! You just put your name down well in advance and turn up on the allotted day, dressed to impress and ready to socialise! So nothing sexual happens at them? You just go and have a chat? Yes - hence the ‘social’ part. Swinging isn’t all about sex" I’ve played straight afterwards with people I clicked with at socials - but shhhhh - don’t tell anyone! | |||
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"Also - the fact that you’ve said you will respectful of any boundaries puts me off. I except that to be a given, not a privilege good luck! X" I just thought that thats how people would want to know how a meet would go with me. | |||
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"Also - the fact that you’ve said you will respectful of any boundaries puts me off. I except that to be a given, not a privilege good luck! X I just thought that thats how people would want to know how a meet would go with me. " But...you should be respectful of people’s boundaries no matter what, surely? | |||
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"Or just get a hooker" I’m more of a flanker! | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? Look in the forums under meets and events. Or alternatively start another thread asking for info about socials in your area! You just put your name down well in advance and turn up on the allotted day, dressed to impress and ready to socialise! So nothing sexual happens at them? You just go and have a chat? Yes - hence the ‘social’ part. Swinging isn’t all about sex I’ve played straight afterwards with people I clicked with at socials - but shhhhh - don’t tell anyone! " not too mention your a good teacher | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? Look in the forums under meets and events. Or alternatively start another thread asking for info about socials in your area! You just put your name down well in advance and turn up on the allotted day, dressed to impress and ready to socialise! So nothing sexual happens at them? You just go and have a chat? Yes - hence the ‘social’ part. Swinging isn’t all about sex I’ve played straight afterwards with people I clicked with at socials - but shhhhh - don’t tell anyone! " Shhh....me too | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? Look in the forums under meets and events. Or alternatively start another thread asking for info about socials in your area! You just put your name down well in advance and turn up on the allotted day, dressed to impress and ready to socialise! So nothing sexual happens at them? You just go and have a chat? Yes - hence the ‘social’ part. Swinging isn’t all about sex I’ve played straight afterwards with people I clicked with at socials - but shhhhh - don’t tell anyone! not too mention your a good teacher " Yep - my snogging technique is second to none! | |||
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"To to a pub and chat a to a young lady,how do you think people met before the internet" | |||
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"Also - the fact that you’ve said you will respectful of any boundaries puts me off. I except that to be a given, not a privilege good luck! X I just thought that thats how people would want to know how a meet would go with me. But...you should be respectful of people’s boundaries no matter what, surely?" I do. I'll take it out. Should I say how a meet would go? | |||
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"Also - the fact that you’ve said you will respectful of any boundaries puts me off. I except that to be a given, not a privilege good luck! X I just thought that thats how people would want to know how a meet would go with me. But...you should be respectful of people’s boundaries no matter what, surely? I do. I'll take it out. Should I say how a meet would go? " But how do you know how a meet would go? Can you tell the future? | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? Look in the forums under meets and events. Or alternatively start another thread asking for info about socials in your area! You just put your name down well in advance and turn up on the allotted day, dressed to impress and ready to socialise! So nothing sexual happens at them? You just go and have a chat? Yes - hence the ‘social’ part. Swinging isn’t all about sex I’ve played straight afterwards with people I clicked with at socials - but shhhhh - don’t tell anyone! not too mention your a good teacher Yep - my snogging technique is second to none! " I bet it is. | |||
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"Also - the fact that you’ve said you will respectful of any boundaries puts me off. I except that to be a given, not a privilege good luck! X I just thought that thats how people would want to know how a meet would go with me. But...you should be respectful of people’s boundaries no matter what, surely? I do. I'll take it out. Should I say how a meet would go? But how do you know how a meet would go? Can you tell the future? " Thats what I thought. Then someone on here said that it would be a good idea. | |||
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"Just takes time and patunce my friend Its been 2 months. It took me nearly 9 months before I got my first meet on here, and that was about 12 years ago I've found also that if you don't have veris then you don't get meets. There are some who will meet unverified people." i do not think so its harder for unverified people | |||
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"Student loan? Don't have enough left. If I blow that I'll have no food. If you can’t afford a club night I’d suggest checking the forums for group socials in the area? Who knows - you may click with someone and arrange a ‘real’ meet - and it’s a great way to get verified and make friends in your area! How do socials usually work? Look in the forums under meets and events. Or alternatively start another thread asking for info about socials in your area! You just put your name down well in advance and turn up on the allotted day, dressed to impress and ready to socialise! So nothing sexual happens at them? You just go and have a chat? Yes - hence the ‘social’ part. Swinging isn’t all about sex I’ve played straight afterwards with people I clicked with at socials - but shhhhh - don’t tell anyone! not too mention your a good teacher Yep - my snogging technique is second to none! " i agree but might have to double check to be sure | |||
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"Oh. Also. Would you really meet a 99 year old? " No. I'd say 55 would be my limit. Just never changed it. | |||
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"I'm hoping that some of you would help me by looking at my profile. " Re-read your profile. I am guessing that English is not your first language as there are numerous spelling, grammar and punctuation errors. This makes your profile difficult to read. This does not seem compatible with your opening statement that you are a student. Try making the following changes: “Hallam” not “hallam”. “I would like to meet socially, as well as sexually with like-minded people, ideally, on a regular basis.” Not “I am a genuine guy that is not just looking for sex but a maybe some people that I can be social with and meet on multiple occasions.” Cut out this sentence “I can only travel by public transport so heavy miles is not possible sadly.” Not just because it is clumsy but why put a negative comment about your availability? If you and prospective partners really want to meet, you will find a way and can discuss that at the time. Don’t approach anyone that is outside your realistic travelling distance. Alternatively, just say: “My ability to travel is limited to use of public transport; so meets in the local area would be preferred.” Cut out some of the words: “I will respect your boundaries and expect the same in return.” instead of: “In a meet I will be respectful of any set boundaries as I expect the same in return.” Finally: “I will be freshly showered and clean-shaven on my face and below the belt.”. Not: “I will be freshly showered and clean shaved on my face and bellow the belt.“ Note: it is “below” not “bellow”. I hope that helps. | |||
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"I'm hoping that some of you would help me by looking at my profile. Re-read your profile. I am guessing that English is not your first language as there are numerous spelling, grammar and punctuation errors. This makes your profile difficult to read. This does not seem compatible with your opening statement that you are a student. Try making the following changes: “Hallam” not “hallam”. “I would like to meet socially, as well as sexually with like-minded people, ideally, on a regular basis.” Not “I am a genuine guy that is not just looking for sex but a maybe some people that I can be social with and meet on multiple occasions.” Cut out this sentence “I can only travel by public transport so heavy miles is not possible sadly.” Not just because it is clumsy but why put a negative comment about your availability? If you and prospective partners really want to meet, you will find a way and can discuss that at the time. Don’t approach anyone that is outside your realistic travelling distance. Alternatively, just say: “My ability to travel is limited to use of public transport; so meets in the local area would be preferred.” Cut out some of the words: “I will respect your boundaries and expect the same in return.” instead of: “In a meet I will be respectful of any set boundaries as I expect the same in return.” Finally: “I will be freshly showered and clean-shaven on my face and below the belt.”. Not: “I will be freshly showered and clean shaved on my face and bellow the belt.“ Note: it is “below” not “bellow”. I hope that helps." It is my first language as I'm english, and I'm a student. But thanks. | |||
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"More artsy pics too like my baguette " I’m really ill at the moment and food is making me throw up, but all I want is a warm, buttery baguette | |||
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"More artsy pics too like my baguette I’m really ill at the moment and food is making me throw up, but all I want is a warm, buttery baguette " well look at my gallery see if you want to take a bite of mine | |||
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"More artsy pics too like my baguette I’m really ill at the moment and food is making me throw up, but all I want is a warm, buttery baguette well look at my gallery see if you want to take a bite of mine " Haha. Please take this in the kindest sense - yours would make me throw up at the moment anyone’s would! | |||
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"More artsy pics too like my baguette I’m really ill at the moment and food is making me throw up, but all I want is a warm, buttery baguette well look at my gallery see if you want to take a bite of mine Haha. Please take this in the kindest sense - yours would make me throw up at the moment anyone’s would!" no worries hope you feel better wish i could wave my wand to make you better | |||
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"Some are deterred by people close to their childrens' ages. Your profile could compete better with other single men, I think, if it included more information that would help others to pick your suitability. I'd probably move the Sheffield Hallam info to further down your profile, as it's not going to be a key area of interest. Your photos are reasonable though maybe you could extend your range of them - sometimes indoor lighting doesn't show someone at their best, so consider alternative venues and poses - perhaps that someone else could take, so you're not doing awkward selfies. Search a few guys' profiles and see what they're including and how yours compares." I would definitely have a look at other men’s profiles to get a good idea. | |||
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"Some are deterred by people close to their childrens' ages. Your profile could compete better with other single men, I think, if it included more information that would help others to pick your suitability. I'd probably move the Sheffield Hallam info to further down your profile, as it's not going to be a key area of interest. Your photos are reasonable though maybe you could extend your range of them - sometimes indoor lighting doesn't show someone at their best, so consider alternative venues and poses - perhaps that someone else could take, so you're not doing awkward selfies. Search a few guys' profiles and see what they're including and how yours compares. I would definitely have a look at other men’s profiles to get a good idea. " I've done that. But there is no way of knowing how successful it is. | |||
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"Or just get a hooker I’m more of a flanker! " Fancy a ruck? | |||
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"It is my first language as I'm english, and I'm a student. But thanks. " Apologies; my comments were intended to be constructive, not rude. Unless you are studying english [sic] - in which case, I will be launching a tirade of abuse aimed at the University, regarding the lowering of standards, etc. | |||
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"OP I don't see anything wrong with your profile - I don't mind seeing cock pics, as long as you've sent a face pic with your message. I'd throw you a wink if I was in Sheffield " Thanks. Looks like its getting there. I don't have face pics on the public part due to me being a student and I don't know who is on here. | |||
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"Or just get a hooker I’m more of a flanker! Fancy a ruck?" I was gonna post that earlier, but I got distracted | |||
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