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"In this day and age is it wrong to pay for sex? Supply and demand is high as we all know . Asking for a friend ??" It depends on all kinds of moral questions, no straight answer. | |||
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"In this day and age is it wrong to pay for sex? Supply and demand is high as we all know . Asking for a friend ?? It depends on all kinds of moral questions, no straight answer." Would you ever pay for sex? I guess it’s different for men than woman . | |||
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"No. Provided all parties in the transaction are willingly participating and not coerced against their will and are safe and secure. Not all people can get sex easily and we all have needs that sometimes a wank alone can’t satisfy, so paid professionals can definitely provide a valued service to the community! IMHO! " I think I agree with you . Sometimes needs must | |||
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"In this day and age is it wrong to pay for sex? Supply and demand is high as we all know . Asking for a friend ?? It depends on all kinds of moral questions, no straight answer. Would you ever pay for sex? I guess it’s different for men than woman . " I wouldn't personally no. I have no moral objection per se if the professional is not being exploited, but not quite sure how one would know that for sure? | |||
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"No. Provided all parties in the transaction are willingly participating and not coerced against their will and are safe and secure. Not all people can get sex easily and we all have needs that sometimes a wank alone can’t satisfy, so paid professionals can definitely provide a valued service to the community! IMHO! " Definitely agree with this. As long as the people providing the service are in a safe environment and there sexual health is checked, regularly. | |||
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"In this day and age is it wrong to pay for sex? Supply and demand is high as we all know . Asking for a friend ??" Rhetorically speaking then. | |||
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"No. Provided all parties in the transaction are willingly participating and not coerced against their will and are safe and secure. Not all people can get sex easily and we all have needs that sometimes a wank alone can’t satisfy, so paid professionals can definitely provide a valued service to the community! IMHO! " And what about those who cannot afford to pay? | |||
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" One women told me she sees women sell sex in different ways such as gifts, meals and nights out in top hotels...but they call it dating!" Or marriage even | |||
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"No. Provided all parties in the transaction are willingly participating and not coerced against their will and are safe and secure. Not all people can get sex easily and we all have needs that sometimes a wank alone can’t satisfy, so paid professionals can definitely provide a valued service to the community! IMHO! And what about those who cannot afford to pay? " Like anything else you can't afford, you don't get it | |||
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"No. Provided all parties in the transaction are willingly participating and not coerced against their will and are safe and secure. Not all people can get sex easily and we all have needs that sometimes a wank alone can’t satisfy, so paid professionals can definitely provide a valued service to the community! IMHO! And what about those who cannot afford to pay? Like anything else you can't afford, you don't get it " But if sex is a "need", aren't they entitled | |||
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"It's an interesting topic, As long as its consenting who cares? Ultimately its down to the wants/needs of the person and if they cant satisfy a certain urge, why shouldn't they pay for it? Go on the internet, you can find escorts, dungeons and mistresses for hire, things that cater to all tastes. Personally I think the government should make it legal and at least that way the police could monitor it properly rather than the darker side of it happen" Interestingly, some countries have seen an increase in illegal trafficking following legalisation of prostitution, it increased demand which then made trafficking more profitable | |||
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"In principle, no. If you work for Oxfam and are supposed to be helping in the reconstruction of a country devastated by a disaster, then yes." But even then I think it depends on who. If it is a legitimate, unexploited service in the area then who's to say what they do with their free time and own money, like (single) soldiers away from home for months? | |||
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"In this day and age is it wrong to pay for sex? Supply and demand is high as we all know . Asking for a friend ??" The question should be is the commodatisation of sex wrong? There will always be an exploited party in this dynamic, be it the worker or the consumer. | |||
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"No. Provided all parties in the transaction are willingly participating and not coerced against their will and are safe and secure. Not all people can get sex easily and we all have needs that sometimes a wank alone can’t satisfy, so paid professionals can definitely provide a valued service to the community! IMHO! And what about those who cannot afford to pay? Like anything else you can't afford, you don't get it But if sex is a "need", aren't they entitled " Some might think so, but no | |||
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"In principle, no. If you work for Oxfam and are supposed to be helping in the reconstruction of a country devastated by a disaster, then yes. But even then I think it depends on who. If it is a legitimate, unexploited service in the area then who's to say what they do with their free time and own money, like (single) soldiers away from home for months?" I'm inclined to agree with this. What they do in their own time is their business, so long as they're not breaking any laws. | |||
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" One women told me she sees women sell sex in different ways such as gifts, meals and nights out in top hotels...but they call it dating! Or marriage even " One would like to think that a loving married couple has an equal investment in such things, I really don’t see that as comparable to what this women was saying. Some women make quite a good career out of “dating” several wealthy men. | |||
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" One women told me she sees women sell sex in different ways such as gifts, meals and nights out in top hotels...but they call it dating! Or marriage even One would like to think that a loving married couple has an equal investment in such things, I really don’t see that as comparable to what this women was saying. Some women make quite a good career out of “dating” several wealthy men. " And other women make a career out of marrying one. | |||
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" One women told me she sees women sell sex in different ways such as gifts, meals and nights out in top hotels...but they call it dating! Or marriage even One would like to think that a loving married couple has an equal investment in such things, I really don’t see that as comparable to what this women was saying. Some women make quite a good career out of “dating” several wealthy men. And other women make a career out of marrying one. " I guess so after they’ve dated several perhaps? I’ll leave this with you as you seem instant that marriage is the same thing. But this doesn’t answer the OP question Is wrong to pay for sex? | |||
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" One women told me she sees women sell sex in different ways such as gifts, meals and nights out in top hotels...but they call it dating! Or marriage even One would like to think that a loving married couple has an equal investment in such things, I really don’t see that as comparable to what this women was saying. Some women make quite a good career out of “dating” several wealthy men. And other women make a career out of marrying one. I guess so after they’ve dated several perhaps? I’ll leave this with you as you seem instant that marriage is the same thing. But this doesn’t answer the OP question Is wrong to pay for sex? " I said some women use marriage in this way, I don't see that there is necessarily anything wrong with it, be it via marriage, dating or prostitution, so long as nobody is being exploited. | |||
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"In principle, no. If you work for Oxfam and are supposed to be helping in the reconstruction of a country devastated by a disaster, then yes. But even then I think it depends on who. If it is a legitimate, unexploited service in the area then who's to say what they do with their free time and own money, like (single) soldiers away from home for months? I'm inclined to agree with this. What they do in their own time is their business, so long as they're not breaking any laws." Or taking advantage of anyone, or their position. | |||
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"In principle, no. If you work for Oxfam and are supposed to be helping in the reconstruction of a country devastated by a disaster, then yes. But even then I think it depends on who. If it is a legitimate, unexploited service in the area then who's to say what they do with their free time and own money, like (single) soldiers away from home for months? I'm inclined to agree with this. What they do in their own time is their business, so long as they're not breaking any laws. Or taking advantage of anyone, or their position." But buying anything from someone who is financially or otherwise vulnerable could be described as taking advantage, could it not? | |||
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"In principle, no. If you work for Oxfam and are supposed to be helping in the reconstruction of a country devastated by a disaster, then yes. But even then I think it depends on who. If it is a legitimate, unexploited service in the area then who's to say what they do with their free time and own money, like (single) soldiers away from home for months? I'm inclined to agree with this. What they do in their own time is their business, so long as they're not breaking any laws. Or taking advantage of anyone, or their position. But buying anything from someone who is financially or otherwise vulnerable could be described as taking advantage, could it not?" Yes, I do believe it can be, which is why I say it depends on who and their circumstances and a whole heap of moral criteria! I don't believe anyone has a right to say 'charity workers in the field can never purchase sex' but it's very easy for them to overstep the mark I would say. | |||
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"In principle, no. If you work for Oxfam and are supposed to be helping in the reconstruction of a country devastated by a disaster, then yes. But even then I think it depends on who. If it is a legitimate, unexploited service in the area then who's to say what they do with their free time and own money, like (single) soldiers away from home for months? I'm inclined to agree with this. What they do in their own time is their business, so long as they're not breaking any laws. Or taking advantage of anyone, or their position. But buying anything from someone who is financially or otherwise vulnerable could be described as taking advantage, could it not? Yes, I do believe it can be, which is why I say it depends on who and their circumstances and a whole heap of moral criteria! I don't believe anyone has a right to say 'charity workers in the field can never purchase sex' but it's very easy for them to overstep the mark I would say." Sex in return for aid, or to prevent withholding of aid is morally questionable. Whilst I wouldn't do it myself, I don't see the fuss about paying for sex with someone who is not coerced, and gets to keep all the money. Surely this means that at the very least one person has benefitted (via an increase in business) from aid workers being in the country!! On a wider note, it strikes me as a shame that there is a need for these organisations to exist at all in a world where people should be able to be helped by international cooperation at government level. What this story has shown is most charities are corrupt at some level. Domestically the employment of fundraisers, the huge bonuses paid to directors and the investment of donations into dodgy hedge fund schemes should be the things questioned by a select committee. | |||
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"No. Provided all parties in the transaction are willingly participating and not coerced against their will and are safe and secure. Not all people can get sex easily and we all have needs that sometimes a wank alone can’t satisfy, so paid professionals can definitely provide a valued service to the community! IMHO! And what about those who cannot afford to pay? Like anything else you can't afford, you don't get it But if sex is a "need", aren't they entitled Some might think so, but no " Maybe if it's legalised you'll be able to approach your doctor. If you can prove it's essential to your health and wellbeing they could write you out a government subsidised prescription good luck But yes it should be legalized and regulated... doubt it will eradicate all the criminal elements and protect all sex workers though but, it would help. | |||
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"I don't think it's wrong, but as others have said, both people consenting, the problem with the vice business is that so many women are forced into it, out of desperation, as a way out of their situation, drug addiction, and those sold into prostitution. Sadly the former make up a huge number of women selling sex. And no I've never paid for sex or ever likely to do so, even when at the lowest in my marriage I never sought solace with a prostitute (I never struggled for a one off ). I spent a winter working in Gran Canaria about 4 years ago and got to know a few of the local prostitites (always waiting outside the clubs and would seen recognise me as not a pynter), they had all been forced into prostitution on arriving in the Canaries. They had paid for someone to provide transport and work from West Africa, but on arrival in the Canaries were told they had no right to work and that they'd have to work on the streets in order to pay their debts. Some of their stories were truly horrific and incredibly humbling, they were trapped with no way out. Sorry to put a dampner on the thread, but the reality of prostitution for many women isn't high class and high society riches " Yes that represents some prostitutes. I know others who simply want to earn the maximum amount of money with the least amount of intellectual effort. I actually think they get a bad wage when you factor the physical and emotional effort but they still prefer it over an admin / reception job and the wages they'd get for that. A lot of sex workers have a cock and bull story about why they can't do anything else but for most, that's just a defence mechanism against the social scorn they face. For most it's the least evil of the choices they have. | |||
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"I would pay for it. Fed up with lousy selfish lovers. Never met anyone on here who was interested whether I was enjoying it or not. " You'd get better quality D if you were in a couple and swapping with couples | |||
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"I would pay for it. Fed up with lousy selfish lovers. Never met anyone on here who was interested whether I was enjoying it or not. You'd get better quality D if you were in a couple and swapping with couples" No I wouldn't. I have no interest in couples. Couples does not equal guaranteed better sex. | |||
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"We all pay for sex anyway. Just I wouldn't pay with cash." just wine and dine em and totting up the Bill with more booze and a kebab later on the way home you mean grooming like? | |||
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"I would pay for it. Fed up with lousy selfish lovers. Never met anyone on here who was interested whether I was enjoying it or not. You'd get better quality D if you were in a couple and swapping with couples No I wouldn't. I have no interest in couples. Couples does not equal guaranteed better sex. " Yeah you would, on average a man is going to put in a better performance when there's another man around. Nobody wants to let the team down. | |||
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"I would pay for it. Fed up with lousy selfish lovers. Never met anyone on here who was interested whether I was enjoying it or not. You'd get better quality D if you were in a couple and swapping with couples No I wouldn't. I have no interest in couples. Couples does not equal guaranteed better sex. Yeah you would, on average a man is going to put in a better performance when there's another man around. Nobody wants to let the team down. " No I wouldn't. Stop trying to tell me what I'll like and wouldn't like. You carry on doing your thing and I'll do mine! | |||
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"I would pay for it. Fed up with lousy selfish lovers. Never met anyone on here who was interested whether I was enjoying it or not. I asked on here before, would paying for it, provide me with a better quality sex? Practically everyone said yes. Someone mentioned morals... well I see it as escorts/ prostitutes have a higher level of self respect. Least they have a higher level of self worth by actually charging for it, instead of giving it away for free to some stranger in a club because he's brought them a drink! Yet no one bats an eyelid to those who have one night stands but will think of escorts and prostitutes in a vile manner! Legalise it, regulate it and tax it!" Hear hear. | |||
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"I would pay for it. Fed up with lousy selfish lovers. Never met anyone on here who was interested whether I was enjoying it or not. You'd get better quality D if you were in a couple and swapping with couples No I wouldn't. I have no interest in couples. Couples does not equal guaranteed better sex. Yeah you would, on average a man is going to put in a better performance when there's another man around. Nobody wants to let the team down. " Assuming of course the man has a decent level of sexual experience and knowledge in the first place. | |||
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"I would pay for it. Fed up with lousy selfish lovers. Never met anyone on here who was interested whether I was enjoying it or not. You'd get better quality D if you were in a couple and swapping with couples No I wouldn't. I have no interest in couples. Couples does not equal guaranteed better sex. Yeah you would, on average a man is going to put in a better performance when there's another man around. Nobody wants to let the team down. No I wouldn't. Stop trying to tell me what I'll like and wouldn't like. You carry on doing your thing and I'll do mine! " Yup you carry on doing that thing you came to the forum to bitch about not working out well | |||
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"I know some very respectable women that sell or have sold sex. As gas as they are concerned it’s a service industry and the customer is paying for the service they require. I guess this is why it’s known as the oldest profession. One women told me she sees women sell sex in different ways such as gifts, meals and nights out in top hotels...but they call it dating! MrsK x" | |||
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"I would pay for it. Fed up with lousy selfish lovers. Never met anyone on here who was interested whether I was enjoying it or not. I asked on here before, would paying for it, provide me with a better quality sex? Practically everyone said yes. Someone mentioned morals... well I see it as escorts/ prostitutes have a higher level of self respect. Least they have a higher level of self worth by actually charging for it, instead of giving it away for free to some stranger in a club because he's brought them a drink! Yet no one bats an eyelid to those who have one night stands but will think of escorts and prostitutes in a vile manner! Legalise it, regulate it and tax it!" | |||
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" Maybe in theory no. But the sex industry is fully of exploited individuals at all levels, and I doubt legalising it will remove the undesirables." Agreed. "Legalise it" as a basic attitude is fine, but making this work practically to make sex workers safer would be very complicated. | |||
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" Maybe in theory no. But the sex industry is fully of exploited individuals at all levels, and I doubt legalising it will remove the undesirables. Agreed. "Legalise it" as a basic attitude is fine, but making this work practically to make sex workers safer would be very complicated." Hard to make it less safe than today where they are forced to work individually in order to stay on the right side of the law. I really question the intellect of anyone who thinks sex workers are safer in the UK than say Germany or Holland. | |||
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" Maybe in theory no. But the sex industry is fully of exploited individuals at all levels, and I doubt legalising it will remove the undesirables. Agreed. "Legalise it" as a basic attitude is fine, but making this work practically to make sex workers safer would be very complicated. Hard to make it less safe than today where they are forced to work individually in order to stay on the right side of the law. I really question the intellect of anyone who thinks sex workers are safer in the UK than say Germany or Holland. " It's hard to say as there isn't a lot of hard evidence either way. Some studies have suggested legalising prostitution drives trafficking up, but these have been quite well criticised. However mighty our intellect may be, this is an area where it's a challenge for us all to understand the cause and effects in play. | |||
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" Maybe in theory no. But the sex industry is fully of exploited individuals at all levels, and I doubt legalising it will remove the undesirables. Agreed. "Legalise it" as a basic attitude is fine, but making this work practically to make sex workers safer would be very complicated. Hard to make it less safe than today where they are forced to work individually in order to stay on the right side of the law. I really question the intellect of anyone who thinks sex workers are safer in the UK than say Germany or Holland. It's hard to say as there isn't a lot of hard evidence either way. Some studies have suggested legalising prostitution drives trafficking up, but these have been quite well criticised. However mighty our intellect may be, this is an area where it's a challenge for us all to understand the cause and effects in play." How difficult is it to find the 'victims of trafficking' when they are stood half naked in a bright pink window next to a central train station? I really struggle to understand how the police would struggle to locate those people relative to the UK where they are dispersed. | |||
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" Maybe in theory no. But the sex industry is fully of exploited individuals at all levels, and I doubt legalising it will remove the undesirables. Agreed. "Legalise it" as a basic attitude is fine, but making this work practically to make sex workers safer would be very complicated. Hard to make it less safe than today where they are forced to work individually in order to stay on the right side of the law. I really question the intellect of anyone who thinks sex workers are safer in the UK than say Germany or Holland. It's hard to say as there isn't a lot of hard evidence either way. Some studies have suggested legalising prostitution drives trafficking up, but these have been quite well criticised. However mighty our intellect may be, this is an area where it's a challenge for us all to understand the cause and effects in play. How difficult is it to find the 'victims of trafficking' when they are stood half naked in a bright pink window next to a central train station? I really struggle to understand how the police would struggle to locate those people relative to the UK where they are dispersed. " Maybe because the situation you describe is absurdly simplistic. | |||
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"I think it should legalised in certain areas of the country so it could be monitored for everyone’s safety especially the workers. Then it can also be taxed and use some of that money for support systems for the people involved. I would think everyone would agree paying for sex where the person selling it has been forced into it is completely wrong. " | |||
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"I would pay for it. Fed up with lousy selfish lovers. Never met anyone on here who was interested whether I was enjoying it or not. I asked on here before, would paying for it, provide me with a better quality sex? Practically everyone said yes. Someone mentioned morals... well I see it as escorts/ prostitutes have a higher level of self respect. Least they have a higher level of self worth by actually charging for it, instead of giving it away for free to some stranger in a club because he's brought them a drink! Yet no one bats an eyelid to those who have one night stands but will think of escorts and prostitutes in a vile manner! Legalise it, regulate it and tax it!" Maybe dont just go for the ripped guys. Tubby guys have more to prove as we cant rely on our bodies to win women over | |||
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"I don't think it's wrong to pay for sex, as long as the person doing the job hasn't been forced into it. I love sex, if I could make a living doing something I love...that's the dream isn't it? To do work you enjoy?" I'd be scared it would feel like work and I wouldn't want to do it recreationally | |||
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"I don't think it's wrong to pay for sex, as long as the person doing the job hasn't been forced into it. I love sex, if I could make a living doing something I love...that's the dream isn't it? To do work you enjoy? I'd be scared it would feel like work and I wouldn't want to do it recreationally " Yes, I can understand that, it might be a hard one to get the right balance. | |||
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