FabSwingers.com forum: why younger guys always seem to be labeled as not genuine????

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why is it you're under 30 and sraight away labelled as non genuine does my nut in really!!!!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Who said that? Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cos its the young lads under 30 that spend ages chatting, then dont turn up in my experience

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

just seems true on this site no decency to reply to messages just strange as i am lost of how to prove genuine when you cant meet as people always assume your timewasting????

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

but then you get oh i do like to know someone b4 fucking them!!!!

so you go round in bloody circles lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"just seems true on this site no decency to reply to messages just strange as i am lost of how to prove genuine when you cant meet as people always assume your timewasting????"

oh lord its the not replying to messages again....

from the FAQ at the bottom of the page...

"There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you can safely assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've managed to get a meet in the short 3 months you have been here... not bad for a single guy regardless of age

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ha no its when you're chatting to people who have on there profile ''no time wasters'', A few messages later in never hear from them again lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

p.s ... i also have this rule where if the moan is longer than the profile.. I don't bother helping...

yours was close...

fab doesn't charge by the word..

would you really answer your own profile.. hand on heart??? theres ya answer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes i would as the lady above says is a poxy swingers website if you want a chat and banter pi** off to MSN

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not that that was intended to you mate but do you not even see what i mean???

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Yes i would as the lady above says is a poxy swingers website if you want a chat and banter pi** off to MSN"

well if you would really answer your own profile then you don't need out help and the moan is rendered useless cause there is no one who is going to be able to change your opinion and get you to look at the bigger picture...

if you really think 15 words is going to cut it... then good luck to you

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Yes i would as the lady above says is a poxy swingers website if you want a chat and banter pi** off to MSN"

Really sorry to say it but thats exactly the kind of post that demonstrates why a lot of people dont want to meet young guys....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But how is this true if i have met people on here?? i wanted a rant and rave yet again age comes into it and no-one can deny that reading a 40 minute long profile bores the living SH*T out of you at the end of the day if they wanna chat then thats why you have messaging for TRUE??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes i would as the lady above says is a poxy swingers website if you want a chat and banter pi** off to MSN"

Want to chat pi** off to msn ermmm am i missing some thing here does fab not have CHATROOMS

you will find alot of couples and fems like to chat in chatrooms 1st instead of endless messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes i would as the lady above says is a poxy swingers website if you want a chat and banter pi** off to MSN

Really sorry to say it but thats exactly the kind of post that demonstrates why a lot of people dont want to meet young guys...."

here here !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes i would as the lady above says is a poxy swingers website if you want a chat and banter pi** off to MSN

Really sorry to say it but thats exactly the kind of post that demonstrates why a lot of people dont want to meet young guys...."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes but thats to get to know eachother and to prove that yet again you're not a timewaster i use the chat room but mainly find its full of blokes just wanting a quick wank

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

It may say Fab Swingers, but it has truly not been a proper swingers site for a long time. IN MY OPINION!

Because it is free, people who want titilation, to cam, to chat, to post and yes, to meet all mix on here. Most free sites have that problem and they are overrun because it is difficult to trace membership!

However, that is not a bad thing. Loads of people all wanting different things and they will find someone, usually! The big mistake you (the OP) has made is to come on here moaning. That is most certainly NOT allowed and you will be told so...

If you are, try to get an answer to a question that I have been asking for a while: To those who moan constantly about posts (Ironic, eh?) please give us an idea of what YOU want to see posted!! Simple really

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"just seems true on this site no decency to reply to messages just strange as i am lost of how to prove genuine when you cant meet as people always assume your timewasting????"

No one really thinks all younger guys are timewasters....

It's just easier to say timewaster than it is to say ....ugly , illiterate , boring etc....

Think of it as an act of kindness.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"But how is this true if i have met people on here?? i wanted a rant and rave yet again age comes into it and no-one can deny that reading a 40 minute long profile bores the living SH*T out of you at the end of the day if they wanna chat then thats why you have messaging for TRUE??"

Well age comes into it because you raise the issue in your opening post.

Never yet seen a profile that takes me 40 minutes to read.

Why would anyone want to message someone when there is nothing on their profile that they find vaguely interesting?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I think you wree the first one to brign age into this. However, it is good to have a moan, but there's general moaning and being pretty insulting about the site and its members. I come on here to arrange meets and coincidentally have a few chats on the forums. Shoudl i only be here for sex? If so, maybe you should have a word with teh admin and get them to stop the chatrooms and forums so people are only on here for what you think is appropriate.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

and you still don't get it....

there are a ton more single guys than couples

couples can be as chossy as they want.. so how do your 15 words of wisdom stand out from anyone else...

do your 15 words talk about you? do they talk about what type of person you are after? do they give people a feel for you....

it screams minimal effort.. sorry.. it does

do your 15 words scream i stand out and this is the reason why you should choose me???

you want to argue.. cool.. do that... but remember YOU were the person who started the rant/thread....

it looks like it is going in one ear and out of the other.....

you might answer your 15 word profile... but ask couples if they would?? I think you might be in for a surprise/shock

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

and you still don't get it....

there are a ton more single guys than couples

couples can be as chossy as they want.. so how do your 15 words of wisdom stand out from anyone else...

do your 15 words talk about you? do they talk about what type of person you are after? do they give people a feel for you....

it screams minimal effort.. sorry.. it does

do your 15 words scream i stand out and this is the reason why you should choose me???

you want to argue.. cool.. do that... but remember YOU were the person who started the rant/thread....

it looks like it is going in one ear and out of the other.....

you might answer your 15 word profile... but ask couples if they would?? I think you might be in for a surprise/shock "

But, I have to agree with this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with most of the other posters on this thread however just wanted to mention my thoughts...

First of all I believe there is a blurring of the lines between "Not Genuine" and "Time Waster"

In my mind "Not Genuine" would equate to someone pretending they are someone they are not e.g. a guy posing as a couple of female whereas a timewaster is someone (Genuinely single guys - although women and couples too) who like the fantasy of swinging but dont follow it through so get their enjoyment from web cams or phone sex or msn etc.

I think its fair to say there is nothing wrong with that except it involves stringing the other party along with no intention of ever meeting.

I do think there are a lot of guys who will join a site like this to use photos and writtenj word as porn.

Maybe a solution would be a fab style "Sex chat" site where no one has the intention of meeting but enjoy online fun...to my recolection no such FREE site exists and the benefit would be less people get strung along which can be so frustrating!

Having been on this site as both a single guy and a as part of a couple it is actually quite weird to see the other side of the coin and its quite nice to be able to play devils advocate.

From a single guy perspective it is often very tempting to go down the copy and past route of messaging couples and single fems as ultimately you know that 99% of messages sent will either be unread or the person receiving the message will not have time or the inclination to reply. Hence playing the numbers game of messaging out as many as possible should hopefully retur a positive response.

On the flip side of that a couple who receives 200 messages a day simply cannot read all of them never mind respond so there has to be a method of filtering them and for me and my partner it was a glance at avatar pics and subject titles...anything that caught our eye got read everythign else got deleted.

Please excuse this rambling response however I was in a "typie" mood

r x

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I feel like Thursday and Sunday have all rolled in together today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm Genuine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree with most of the other posters on this thread however just wanted to mention my thoughts...

First of all I believe there is a blurring of the lines between "Not Genuine" and "Time Waster"

I think its fair to say there is nothing wrong with that except it involves stringing the other party along with no intention of ever meeting.

I do think there are a lot of guys who will join a site like this to use photos and writtenj word as porn.

Having been on this site as both a single guy and a as part of a couple it is actually quite weird to see the other side of the coin and its quite nice to be able to play devils advocate.

Please excuse this rambling response however I was in a "typie" mood

r x"

Thanks i have sort of been trying to explain myself but as people who have been commenting will have seen on my profile i am not one to write a essay be it on here or my profile so if it was like facbook i would have liked this comment! Thanks

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Yes i would as the lady above says is a poxy swingers website if you want a chat and banter pi** off to MSN"

A poxy swingers website...oh my you make yourself so attractive

May i suggest that any exchange of messages with you will reveal your immature attitude,which is the reason why ppl do not meet.

You and others like you are the reason so many here wont meet under 30s,swinging can be as much about the banter as the sex...the social side i an integral part of it.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I've got a mate who has a JCB if the OP feels the need to dig himself a bigger hole.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and you still don't get it....

there are a ton more single guys than couples

couples can be as chossy as they want.. so how do your 15 words of wisdom stand out from anyone else...

do your 15 words talk about you? do they talk about what type of person you are after? do they give people a feel for you....

it screams minimal effort.. sorry.. it does

do your 15 words scream i stand out and this is the reason why you should choose me???

you want to argue.. cool.. do that... but remember YOU were the person who started the rant/thread....

it looks like it is going in one ear and out of the other.....

you might answer your 15 word profile... but ask couples if they would?? I think you might be in for a surprise/shock "

A totally honest answer... if this guy was 36, 37, 38, 38, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50 years of age (my preferences),;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Boring.

We don't.

/thread.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

39 ?

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By *ittlemorespiceCouple
over a year ago

North Cornwall

Love meeting the genuine young hotties. Don't assume anything but have quite a good bs radar.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

"I feel like Thursday and Sunday have all rolled in together today

Im thinking the same ...bed time me thinks, opps already in bed , time to turn laptop off me thinks

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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago

near bury st edmunds

"ha no its when you're chatting to people who have on there profile ''no time wasters'', A few messages later in never hear from them again lol "

Its not just young single giuys who get that. We have chatted to couples and single guys, all seemed to be going well, then they just vanish.

But if you have had a meet in just 3 months, your not doing bad.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Thanks i have sort of been trying to explain myself but as people who have been commenting will have seen on my profile i am not one to write a essay be it on here or my profile so if it was like facbook i would have liked this comment! Thanks"

ok glad thats sorted then.

But still not sure what that has to do with the original post which was about young guys...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and you still don't get it....

there are a ton more single guys than couples

couples can be as chossy as they want.. so how do your 15 words of wisdom stand out from anyone else...

do your 15 words talk about you? do they talk about what type of person you are after? do they give people a feel for you....

it screams minimal effort.. sorry.. it does

do your 15 words scream i stand out and this is the reason why you should choose me???

you want to argue.. cool.. do that... but remember YOU were the person who started the rant/thread....

it looks like it is going in one ear and out of the other.....

you might answer your 15 word profile... but ask couples if they would?? I think you might be in for a surprise/shock "

We read the OP profile and it does not interest us at all. Quite boring in fact. We think he may have added a few words since this thread has started though.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Young cock, medium age cock... Or a bit of old cock...

It's all just cock.

Live in peace

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Young cock, medium age cock... Or a bit of old cock...

It's all just cock.

Live in peace

And there no better word on which to take my leave and go to bed

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