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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

"Looking for hottest, good looking, perfect etc"

We see this alot in fab and dating sites and i understand that these are preferences etc but they are very subjective terms to use.

Everyone is different in this world we all come in dofferent shapes sizes etc and as such we all have our own preconcieved ideas on who we find attractive.

Also we all have ideas on our own attractiveness. I know i am not everyones cup of tea. (Mt here) but i also know that there are those out in this strange world that do find me sexy and attractive. (I know hard to believe lol)

So why do we feel the need to use this nodescript terms. We could look at it that these terms simply mean "anyone that social media would deem to be attactive" ie thin tall well chisled looks etc.

And if thats someones choice on the person they want to meet why not simply put that.

I think one of the issues is that for some people on here someone being honest with who they are looking for can cause a back lash of unjustified outrage. Normally by people who dont fit into that persons wants and needs.

Almost like what is wrong with me.

I learnt that knock backs are something you have to learn to deal with. Of someone does not want to meet because im not there type. I wish the fun and move on.

If we are more accepting on here that everyone has their idea of what they are attracted too maybe we can be more honest on our profiles and stop wasteing time using nondescript subjective wording

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im the hottest iv got a temp of 109 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m going to guess that using those descriptors are another part of the Fab fantasy.

For me it’s a good filter.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

One of the few things that baffle me and I always state "none of us has universal appeal" but people still get offended if they're excluded.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One of the few things that baffle me and I always state "none of us has universal appeal" but people still get offended if they're excluded.

"

And i think thats one of the problems. We need a more of im not your type fine have fun attitude. Instead of being offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hot in bed does that count lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"One of the few things that baffle me and I always state "none of us has universal appeal" but people still get offended if they're excluded.

And i think thats one of the problems. We need a more of im not your type fine have fun attitude. Instead of being offended "

It's never going to happen. I tend to ignore people who display passive aggressive type behaviour when they're excluded. It's a sign of low self esteem in my opinion and that is too needy for me.

We don't specify types on our profile but we know what we like

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time. "

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"One of the few things that baffle me and I always state "none of us has universal appeal" but people still get offended if they're excluded.

And i think thats one of the problems. We need a more of im not your type fine have fun attitude. Instead of being offended

It's never going to happen. I tend to ignore people who display passive aggressive type behaviour when they're excluded. It's a sign of low self esteem in my opinion and that is too needy for me.

We don't specify types on our profile but we know what we like "

I agree: needy and truculent is far from attractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive "

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!."

That's plain rude of them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they are being honest. They clearly know exactly what they mean... someone that they find hot/ attractive. So when they need to turn someone down they can say "sorry you don't fit what I find attractive". Why is it an issue that some use subjective terms? Surely in the spirit of the op it's live and let live? They have written their profile to reflect what they are looking for. You can't assume to know what that is because, like you said, they are using subjective terms. I say, meh. So what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!.

That's plain rude of them!"

Their loss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"One of the few things that baffle me and I always state "none of us has universal appeal" but people still get offended if they're excluded.

And i think thats one of the problems. We need a more of im not your type fine have fun attitude. Instead of being offended

It's never going to happen. I tend to ignore people who display passive aggressive type behaviour when they're excluded. It's a sign of low self esteem in my opinion and that is too needy for me.

We don't specify types on our profile but we know what we like "

And thats what counts. In the long run everyone has their likes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!.

That's plain rude of them!

Their loss. "

To not have sex with people they didn't find attractive?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Show a variety of people a photo of an old Austin allegro and you'll get a mixed reaction but in the main it's a dam ugly car.

So my theory is that beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and where as some people would happily ride in that car even if they think it's ugly as they just want to get from a-b others wouldn't be seen dead in it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!.

That's plain rude of them!

Their loss. "

This is what i mean. Its no ones loss etc.

People find who they find attractive. Unless yiur someone who would sleep with anything breathing we have all turned down someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find u can be attracted to someone beautiful but if they are as intelligent as a Gnat then it takes some of the polish off if you get what I'm saying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!.

That's plain rude of them!

Their loss.

This is what i mean. Its no ones loss etc.

People find who they find attractive. Unless yiur someone who would sleep with anything breathing we have all turned down someone "

Hmm.

They paid to enter a private sex party and left without any inkling of participating, many times , so financially they were at a loss I suppose.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!.

That's plain rude of them!

Their loss.

This is what i mean. Its no ones loss etc.

People find who they find attractive. Unless yiur someone who would sleep with anything breathing we have all turned down someone

Hmm.

They paid to enter a private sex party and left without any inkling of participating, many times , so financially they were at a loss I suppose.

"

I dont play at all the events we go to but can still have great fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!.

That's plain rude of them!

Their loss.

This is what i mean. Its no ones loss etc.

People find who they find attractive. Unless yiur someone who would sleep with anything breathing we have all turned down someone

Hmm.

They paid to enter a private sex party and left without any inkling of participating, many times , so financially they were at a loss I suppose.

"

Yes it's frustrating when you pay good money to go to these places and there's no one there that takes your fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Show a variety of people a photo of an old Austin allegro and you'll get a mixed reaction but in the main it's a dam ugly car.

So my theory is that beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and where as some people would happily ride in that car even if they think it's ugly as they just want to get from a-b others wouldn't be seen dead in it.

"

Exactly this! I'm not 'social media pretty' & I am grand with that.

If that's what someone is looking for, then I'm not going to be offended if they don't want to be seen dead in me!

I wouldn't be interested in having them be seen dead in me either!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!.

That's plain rude of them!

Their loss.

This is what i mean. Its no ones loss etc.

People find who they find attractive. Unless yiur someone who would sleep with anything breathing we have all turned down someone

Hmm.

They paid to enter a private sex party and left without any inkling of participating, many times , so financially they were at a loss I suppose.

Yes it's frustrating when you pay good money to go to these places and there's no one there that takes your fancy. "

We tend to go with the attitude to socialise if we play we play if we dont we dont. But always had a great time no matter

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!.

That's plain rude of them!

Their loss.

This is what i mean. Its no ones loss etc.

People find who they find attractive. Unless yiur someone who would sleep with anything breathing we have all turned down someone

Hmm.

They paid to enter a private sex party and left without any inkling of participating, many times , so financially they were at a loss I suppose.

"

We've left private sex parties without playing. We didn't make derogatory comments about the other guests though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It used to effect me, made me wonder about myself and how I looked etc.

Now though I like me, yes there is room for improvement but more in a fitness way than how I look. So these days if people don't like me then fair enough. Someone will and people have.

Seems I am popular with gay and bisexual males, bit sad as it would be nice to have females like me haha, still nice to be appriciated though

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Show a variety of people a photo of an old Austin allegro and you'll get a mixed reaction but in the main it's a dam ugly car.

So my theory is that beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and where as some people would happily ride in that car even if they think it's ugly as they just want to get from a-b others wouldn't be seen dead in it.

Exactly this! I'm not 'social media pretty' & I am grand with that.

If that's what someone is looking for, then I'm not going to be offended if they don't want to be seen dead in me!

I wouldn't be interested in having them be seen dead in me either! "

Love your soh, it's as bad as mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Show a variety of people a photo of an old Austin allegro and you'll get a mixed reaction but in the main it's a dam ugly car.

So my theory is that beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder and where as some people would happily ride in that car even if they think it's ugly as they just want to get from a-b others wouldn't be seen dead in it.

Exactly this! I'm not 'social media pretty' & I am grand with that.

If that's what someone is looking for, then I'm not going to be offended if they don't want to be seen dead in me!

I wouldn't be interested in having them be seen dead in me either!

Love your soh, it's as bad as mine"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We live in a society where celebrity looks dominate the papers and magazines and people attain to look their best and think they are better than they are that they forget we are all essentially the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We used to go the Sutton House parties and they were an eclectic mix.

Sometimes, quite late, a group of " beautiful people" would turn up,totter from room to room peering at us "ordinary" people and then, disappointed not to find their ilk there, they would totter off into the night.

We would briefly look up and then carry on having fun.

I often wonder if they found what they were looking for, we did, every time.

Aren't beautiful people ordinary then? Your post seems to imply that because they look a certain way you know who they will find attractive

Well,we saw them probably half a dozen times.

The comments from them were derogatory about all of us there so yes, we did presume we knew what they found attractive, themselves!.

That's plain rude of them!

Their loss.

This is what i mean. Its no ones loss etc.

People find who they find attractive. Unless yiur someone who would sleep with anything breathing we have all turned down someone

Hmm.

They paid to enter a private sex party and left without any inkling of participating, many times , so financially they were at a loss I suppose.

"

Many times they went to the same place with the same result. And you watched them everytime for long enough to know they werent having a good time. Were you?

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