FabSwingers.com forum: Flirting - can you read the signals and are you any good at it?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Quite often I can’t see even if it comes up and slaps me around the face!

How good is your flirting game?

Can you easily spot when someone is flirting with you??

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Sorry mate, you’re not my type

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Maybe I’m not very good at spotting the signs then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a terrible flirt, I can't read the signs at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't fancy them yes. If I do no.

I think it's probably down to lack of confidence and assuming they won't fancy me back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a school of thought for women that suggests that if we’re approached by a guy for a chat, that isn’t related to something they need from us, that it’s a flirt. Guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God no, I’m crap at reading the signs. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not very good at reading signals, I tend to think people are just being friendly.

I can be quite good at it when I try and actually realise what's going on m

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

like most men am crap at both haha

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"There’s a school of thought for women that suggests that if we’re approached by a guy for a chat, that isn’t related to something they need from us, that it’s a flirt. Guys? "

No, sometimes it’s just for a chat and a laugh. Women aren’t much different to men, some of them are a real laugh to talk to

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"If I don't fancy them yes. If I do no.

I think it's probably down to lack of confidence and assuming they won't fancy me back

But once you’ve discounted the 4 blokes on the planet that don’t fancy you, it must be easier?

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

No and I’m rubbish at it! I’m quite literal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I don't fancy them yes. If I do no.

I think it's probably down to lack of confidence and assuming they won't fancy me back

But once you’ve discounted the 4 blokes on the planet that don’t fancy you, it must be easier?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite often I can’t see even if it comes up and slaps me around the face!

How good is your flirting game?

Can you easily spot when someone is flirting with you?? "

I’m cheeky and chatty, but can’t really flirt,

Never had the confidence to chat someone up. Same as you, wouldn’t have a clue if someone was into me unless they wore a sign saying so !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm useless and oblivious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There’s a school of thought for women that suggests that if we’re approached by a guy for a chat, that isn’t related to something they need from us, that it’s a flirt. Guys?

No, sometimes it’s just for a chat and a laugh. Women aren’t much different to men, some of them are a real laugh to talk to"

If a guy is chatting to me and touching my arm occasionally etc, it’s a blatantly obvious signal. I’m pretty good at picking up signals I think, also if a guy is taking the mick out of me etc, I know really they wouldn’t say no if I was to give them the nod

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Totally hopeless unless a flirt comes up and introduces itself as Flirty McFlirtface, of Flirty Towers, Flirt Avenue, Flirtsville and uses about 20

's I'm oblivious

As for DOING the actual flirting....equally hopeless!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally hopeless unless a flirt comes up and introduces itself as Flirty McFlirtface, of Flirty Towers, Flirt Avenue, Flirtsville and uses about 20

's I'm oblivious

As for DOING the actual flirting....equally hopeless!!"

True story x

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Im useless at both, ive been told i can come across as quite aloof... not sure what that means. Im rather shy til i get to know someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I talk to everyone and anyone when I'm out. Been surprised a few times when people have asked for my number. I'm a bit WTF we were only having a bit of banter not realising how they see it. Just politely decline and enjoy the rest of the night x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"There’s a school of thought for women that suggests that if we’re approached by a guy for a chat, that isn’t related to something they need from us, that it’s a flirt. Guys?

No, sometimes it’s just for a chat and a laugh. Women aren’t much different to men, some of them are a real laugh to talk to

Saying no if you give them the nod is different, try it with me just to check

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I’m friendly/chatty and quite often unintentionally ‘flirt’, apparently. I’m crap at reading signals though and often need it spelling out to me. I think part of it is a confidence thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pretty crap apparently.

I can flirt quite well just in normal chat but if I try to flirt I try too hard and mess it up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My flirting technique is woeful! The only time I get a message in my inbox these days is when it’s hate mail*!

(*true story!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be really quite an excellent flirt, and equally pretty good at picking up the signs.

Im now desperately out of practise, much older and probably more likely to induce panic from my intended flirtee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a fucking brilliant flirt but I wouldn't have a clue if anyone was flirting with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im naturally flirty so im told, but unless you spell it out to me i aint got a fuckin clue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh, I'm awful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do it, causes more trouble than its worth, as an introvert I don't particularly care for meaningless interactions.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh, I'm awful"

Am I the only one reading that in a Dick Emery voice?

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Oh, I'm awful

Am I the only one reading that in a Dick Emery voice?

No.

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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago

Cardiff

I'm crap at spotting the signs, I need obvious not hints. I'm also crap at spotting that I'm flirting! I think I'm just being nice and then I get comments from others about how much I was flirting when I didn't realise I was flirting at all!

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By *ineMan
over a year ago

In cave behind a waterfall on a hill

I'm so bad at recognising anyone flirting with me that I'll never get it not even if it came in me in lights or skywriting

Maybe that's why I'm no good at doing the flirting...and why I live in a cave...im just..

Flirtless in the firmament

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I used to be really quite an excellent flirt, and equally pretty good at picking up the signs.

Im now desperately out of practise, much older and probably more likely to induce panic from my intended flirtee.

Yes, panic, sweaty palms and looking frantically around for the emergency exit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good during conversation in real life im naturally a chatty cheeky fella so im quite prepared to fire of the odd flirty comment to a beautiful woman and see if she can keep up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In real life yes and great at reading body language .

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"In real life yes and great at reading body language .

I would like to read your body language in Braille

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

Im never sure...walk away thinking was he or wasnt he

Girls let me know though

its embarrassing.

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"God no, I’m crap at reading the signs. X "

And me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alas wouldn't recognise flirting if it slapped me in the face and unfortunately a couple of times when I thought I had I rather embarrassed myself and the ladies in question!

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I'm crap at spotting the signs, I need obvious not hints. I'm also crap at spotting that I'm flirting! I think I'm just being nice and then I get comments from others about how much I was flirting when I didn't realise I was flirting at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crap at spotting signs, but I'm told i flirt without knowing I'm doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m terrible. I had a woman stroking my chest in the queue on my lunch hour at McDonalds once. My female colleague was in tears of laughter.

Unless they make it really obvious. I’m clueless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m terrible. I had a woman stroking my chest in the queue on my lunch hour at McDonalds once. My female colleague was in tears of laughter.

Unless they make it really obvious. I’m clueless. "

That's foreplay, not flirting!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting capper as I get older... Guess that is the complete opposite of what generally should happen lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh, I'm awful

Am I the only one reading that in a Dick Emery voice?

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crap at spotting signs, but I'm told i flirt without knowing I'm doing it. "

You just need someone to practise with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yep. I've got this covered for all you amateurs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crap at spotting signs, but I'm told i flirt without knowing I'm doing it.

You just need someone to practise with

Now I think the was flirting

Or was it just a friendly piece of advise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crap at spotting signs, but I'm told i flirt without knowing I'm doing it.

You just need someone to practise with

Now I think the was flirting

Or was it just a friendly piece of advise

If you don't know I won't bother anymore

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By *kmanMan
over a year ago

Letterkenny

Before fab i was useless now I am a bit more confident and can stop a few signs

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I can't be arsed anymore. My seduction technique basically ammounts to "You seem nice - fancy a shag".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to be really quite an excellent flirt, and equally pretty good at picking up the signs.

Im now desperately out of practise, much older and probably more likely to induce panic from my intended flirtee.

Yes, panic, sweaty palms and looking frantically around for the emergency exit

We've obviously met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite often I can’t see even if it comes up and slaps me around the face!

How good is your flirting game?

Can you easily spot when someone is flirting with you?? "

Off Fab.. I'm the same as you.. I need clubbing round the head.

On Fab.. I'm much quicker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crap at spotting signs, but I'm told i flirt without knowing I'm doing it.

You just need someone to practise with

Now I think the was flirting

Or was it just a friendly piece of advise

If you don't know I won't bother anymore

Wait.... that was all flirting

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Crap at spotting signs, but I'm told i flirt without knowing I'm doing it.

You just need someone to practise with

Now I think the was flirting

Or was it just a friendly piece of advise

If you don't know I won't bother anymore

Wait.... that was all flirting

You need 8 legs for this one Scarlet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck knows anymore. The guys I fancy don't respond much to my subtle hints, and in person, I'm not very confident and probably appear standoffish?

You get to the point, when you've tried and failed to just accept you're past the age of actually being capable of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Crap at spotting signs, but I'm told i flirt without knowing I'm doing it.

You just need someone to practise with

Now I think the was flirting

Or was it just a friendly piece of advise

If you don't know I won't bother anymore

Wait.... that was all flirting

You need 8 legs for this one Scarlet

I'll leave you to it then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to admit I have been slow to pick up the signs sometimes.

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

"Crap at spotting signs, but I'm told i flirt without knowing I'm doing it.

You just need someone to practise with

Now I think the was flirting

Or was it just a friendly piece of advise

If you don't know I won't bother anymore

Wait.... that was all flirting

You need 8 legs for this one Scarlet

I'll leave you to it then. "

It was a joke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm distracted I sometimes realise a little later....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got a Nobel peace prize in body language..I spot it like a tiger spots lunch

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Generally I would miss any signs of flirting, haven't a clue if I'm any good at flirting, don't think I do flirt.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess it’s easy to flirt in here.

Just stick the the ‘fluttering eyelashes’ emoji at the end of your posting.

It doesn’t quite have the same impact when I try that in public!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it’s easy to flirt in here.

Just stick the the ‘fluttering eyelashes’ emoji at the end of your posting.

It doesn’t quite have the same impact when I try that in public!

just makes me look creepy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirting on here just comes across as creepy and false to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I guess it’s easy to flirt in here.

Just stick the the ‘fluttering eyelashes’ emoji at the end of your posting.

It doesn’t quite have the same impact when I try that in public!

Can you imagine

Hey how you doin'?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Flirting on here just comes across as creepy and false to me."

Yeah I get what you’re saying. But if the ultimate aim is to get yourself a NSA Shag then it’s a means to an end really. In past incarnations on here a flirt in the forum, however cheesy it may seem to others, has been the precursor to some nice meets for me. So it can work!

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By *issyme555TV/TS
over a year ago

Motherwell

Carnt flirt or if I can I don't know it and well the opportunitys I've missed because I carnt see the signs is unreal. Your best bet with me would be a big neon sign.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a potential work colleague insinuate I had naughty pics on my Google account and how it was a shame he couldn't see them.

Think he thought it was flirting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Literally have to punch me in the face for me to figure out you're interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always been told I'm a natural flirt but i really don't see it.

I think it's down to the fact i don't go into a conversation expecting anything and can pretty much talk to anyone.

Got myself into a few awkward situations before with people mistaking my friendliness for flirtiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can always tell when I'm being flirted with. Unfortunately though, not until about two or three days later, when I suddenly have one of those

".........oh,! She was totally flirting with me, shit, I should have said......."

Moments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A woman will tip her head to one side and play with her hair when flirting

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"A woman will tip her head to one side and play with her hair when flirting"

She might just have a crick in her neck and be thinking her hair needs a wash

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds

Nope am shit at it. At a wedding a few years ago thought woman was looking at me kept staring. So I thought my look was in. Went over to her and she had a glass eye

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I know nothing other than this

that is flirting isn’t it?

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"Quite often I can’t see even if it comes up and slaps me around the face!

How good is your flirting game?

Can you easily spot when someone is flirting with you?? "

Ive always been a ( call a bucket a bucket ) tipe.

So probably not to arnsar your question op.

Ladies.

If you want me. Make it blunt obvious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I’m ok at seeing the signs but totally pants at acting on it!! No clue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and yes. It's my Latin blood.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

I'm a shameless flirt by nature. I'll always begin with innocent, good natured flirting and progress or not depending on the responses.

I think i've become quite good at it and knowing when to spot it. It's fun and just creates a good, positive vibe when done well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can not read the signs at all!! Either im just crap at it, or im not that used to getting them lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A woman will tip her head to one side and play with her hair when flirting"

Not just women

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"A woman will tip her head to one side and play with her hair when flirting

Not just women"

You definitely do this! You have perfected the skill

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Nope and ermmmmmmmm nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A woman will tip her head to one side and play with her hair when flirting

Not just women

You definitely do this! You have perfected the skill

Throw in a flick and that's my flirting done.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"A woman will tip her head to one side and play with her hair when flirting

Not just women

You definitely do this! You have perfected the skill

Throw in a flick and that's my flirting done. "

No need to change something that works so well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A woman will tip her head to one side and play with her hair when flirting

Not just women"

Wish I could. I just look like a lopsided egg if I do that and the only hair on my head I can play with is eyebrow, ear or nostril hair.

Maybe I should grow my nostril hair long enough to flick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A woman will tip her head to one side and play with her hair when flirting

Not just women

Wish I could. I just look like a lopsided egg if I do that and the only hair on my head I can play with is eyebrow, ear or nostril hair.

Maybe I should grow my nostril hair long enough to flick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a fucking awful flirt, I'm just terrified to send any women messages full stop x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I flirt with all the finesse of a Victorian Gentleman scandalised at the sight of a chair leg

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

If a women strolled up to me and said "hi you're gorgeous and I'm flirting with you " I still wouldn't believe them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shit.

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume everyone is flirting and only after one thing. And then ignore it so even if they are flirting, I like them and they could possibly want more than sex I shut them down pretty quick... no wonder I'm single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've got a Nobel peace prize in body language..I spot it like a tiger spots lunch

"
From behind bushes. Like the footballers you know where all live stalk your prey like a Tiger

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