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Consequences of being outed.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

There's been some discussion re this, so thought I would do a mini poll..

If you were involuntarily outed as a swinger what would the consequences be?

1. I'd be embarrassed but they're would be no major consequences.

2. It would have a major adverse effect on my life in terms of my work, relationships etc

3. Wouldn't bother me at all.

4. I am out already.

Just type a number.

We would be a 1 probably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be a 4 for us

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

1 for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably a 1 here too.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

2

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

2 for me

Red

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd hope it would be a 1, but as I work for the NHS possibly a 2, might depend on the discretion of my managers.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 and 4 to a degree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Number 2. Unfortunately I’ve been outed a number of years ago but thankfully managed to limit most of the damage and moved on from it. I don’t think I’d be so fortunate a second time around or if more detail was disclosed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the moment, 1. After I move home in May, probably 2.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4. I'm quite open about it, with both friends and family. They may not all understand my lifestyle choices, but they don't judge or criticise and that's enough for me.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

1 for me

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

4 & a bit of 1!

My good friends & my eldest children know & a few of my colleagues have guessed something but aren't 100% fully aware of exactly all the details.

I wouldn't want my youngest children to know, they're still only teenagers & not mentally able to comprehend the facts.

Anybody else, think they'd be more embarrassed than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1

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By *uss in bootsxxxMan
over a year ago

bradford

1n3

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2. Mainly work

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

2. Family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure how I feel about people revealing exactly the impact of exposure on their lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 - 2

Family and because of my husband's job fear of being stereotyped.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how I feel about people revealing exactly the impact of exposure on their lives. "

I kinda had that reaction. People give too much away too freely. Why expose vulnerability like that?

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By *xycpl699Couple
over a year ago

kilmarnock

a 1 for us

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Not sure how I feel about people revealing exactly the impact of exposure on their lives.

I kinda had that reaction. People give too much away too freely. Why expose vulnerability like that?"

No one is obliged to respond.

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By *eplicant JoWoman
over a year ago

Sussex countryside

A mix of 1 and 3, depending who it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how I feel about people revealing exactly the impact of exposure on their lives.

I kinda had that reaction. People give too much away too freely. Why expose vulnerability like that?

No one is obliged to respond. "

I know. And my post may have made someone think twice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been some discussion re this, so thought I would do a mini poll..

If you were involuntarily outed as a swinger what would the consequences be?

1. I'd be embarrassed but they're would be no major consequences.

2. It would have a major adverse effect on my life in terms of my work, relationships etc

3. Wouldn't bother me at all.

4. I am out already.

Just type a number.

We would be a 1 probably.

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It depends who knew. If everyone in my life knew it could have some big consequences. Its' how it would bother other people.

The lads in work would want want to know all about it. Don't know if I'd get the sack from jobs cause of it, though.

My family would probably think I was some pervert, I wouldn't give a stuff about that anyway.

People who work in the pubs I go in, could be strange with me, the girls especially. Could be awkward going into some of them for a while.

I don't know what any of my mates would say. Probably get a mixed response off them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how I feel about people revealing exactly the impact of exposure on their lives.

I kinda had that reaction. People give too much away too freely. Why expose vulnerability like that?

No one is obliged to respond.

I know. And my post may have made someone think twice. "

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By *oshker71Man
over a year ago

Cardiff

2 as my close friends & family don’t know I like t girls.

Plus I have a customer facing job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 and 4. It wouldn’t bother us if anyone found out, I don’t think my work would be affected and my close friends know about what we get up to lol.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No 2....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There's been some discussion re this, so thought I would do a mini poll..

If you were involuntarily outed as a swinger what would the consequences be?

1. I'd be embarrassed but they're would be no major consequences.

2. It would have a major adverse effect on my life in terms of my work, relationships etc

3. Wouldn't bother me at all.

4. I am out already.

Just type a number.

We would be a 1 probably.

"
1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No 2 deffo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how I feel about people revealing exactly the impact of exposure on their lives.

I kinda had that reaction. People give too much away too freely. Why expose vulnerability like that?

No one is obliged to respond. "

I am obliged if I feel it may put us at risk to look out for my fellow fabbers. Just chiming in to say be cautious and safe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1 n 4

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Not sure how I feel about people revealing exactly the impact of exposure on their lives.

I kinda had that reaction. People give too much away too freely. Why expose vulnerability like that?

No one is obliged to respond.

I am obliged if I feel it may put us at risk to look out for my fellow fabbers. Just chiming in to say be cautious and safe x"

Seems to me a pretty minimal risk that someone might come on here, find out who thinks it would effect them a lot and then take steps to work out their identity.

Up to everyone of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how I feel about people revealing exactly the impact of exposure on their lives.

I kinda had that reaction. People give too much away too freely. Why expose vulnerability like that?

No one is obliged to respond.

I am obliged if I feel it may put us at risk to look out for my fellow fabbers. Just chiming in to say be cautious and safe x

Seems to me a pretty minimal risk that someone might come on here, find out who thinks it would effect them a lot and then take steps to work out their identity.

Up to everyone of course.

"

Minimal risk is still a risk. It just deserves pointing out that a list of fabbers who will suffer greatly if they're exposed does potentially put them at risk of exploitation. I wouldn't understand why anyone would object to that simply being mentioned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 and 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 - family

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

5.... Complete disbelief lol

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

4. The only consequence would be the ‘outer’ looking like a complete prat

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

1 and 4.

Possibly a little embarrassing, depends on who knows but I'm generally completely fine. Their problem.

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Not sure how I feel about people revealing exactly the impact of exposure on their lives.

I kinda had that reaction. People give too much away too freely. Why expose vulnerability like that?

No one is obliged to respond.

I am obliged if I feel it may put us at risk to look out for my fellow fabbers. Just chiming in to say be cautious and safe x

Seems to me a pretty minimal risk that someone might come on here, find out who thinks it would effect them a lot and then take steps to work out their identity.

Up to everyone of course.

Minimal risk is still a risk. It just deserves pointing out that a list of fabbers who will suffer greatly if they're exposed does potentially put them at risk of exploitation. I wouldn't understand why anyone would object to that simply being mentioned. "

I don't object but if you are concerned at that low level of risk and being outed as a swinger would have dire consequences for you, you probably shouldn't be a swinger...

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We just have been and I was a little pissed off at the time but nothing major has come of it

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Depending on who it was I was outed to would be elements of 1 and 3 probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

0.

Most folk including family and employers know. No shits given

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By *evil_u_knowMan
over a year ago

city

4. I already told everyone I swing, but that it's depressing cause its nothing like an austin powers movie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs - 1

Mr - 4

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hmm no option of "will be celebrated?"

I mean lots of people around me are swinging without calling themselves swingers?

I'm just dabbling in it for a while lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how I feel about people revealing exactly the impact of exposure on their lives.

I kinda had that reaction. People give too much away too freely. Why expose vulnerability like that?

No one is obliged to respond.

I am obliged if I feel it may put us at risk to look out for my fellow fabbers. Just chiming in to say be cautious and safe x

Seems to me a pretty minimal risk that someone might come on here, find out who thinks it would effect them a lot and then take steps to work out their identity.

Up to everyone of course.

Minimal risk is still a risk. It just deserves pointing out that a list of fabbers who will suffer greatly if they're exposed does potentially put them at risk of exploitation. I wouldn't understand why anyone would object to that simply being mentioned. "
I change mine to a 10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

2 for some family

4 with some friends already

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