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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!

Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!

Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "

That sounds similar to a message I had the other day, wonder if it was the same person.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!

Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "
WTF . Thats just so wrong . Funny . But wrong !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!

Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "

Better then wasting your time I suppose. Better to get the niche stuff out of the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a fella! Cant beat random kinks!!

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!

Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "

Maybe they don't wish to waste your time or theirs if it's not something you'd be interested in .

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Niche ?

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I can imagine how disappointed you felt. Would of been worse if he'd of asked the same but with the male doing the deep throating!! Ypu have to laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to leave niche suggestions until I've met a few times and know them better and may only suggest something I think they will be in to. Im not that kinky though so never anything bad ha I get a lot of women message me asking can they use a strap on before we have even had a chat. Must say, not appealing at all and usually results in a block. Some sicko's on here though with ridiculous suggestions.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

So......is it a no?

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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.

I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I have enough problems with people thinking that shit in sex is acceptable. Wait till ive got over that one before we introduce the contents of my stomach - hot and stinking - into it too.

It's hardly worth having a bath before a meet...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Work 'up '? Fnarrrrrrrrr......

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.

I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!"

Exactly, any idiot would know that putting something like that in a first message will put off 99% of women and couples.

It's usually a good idea to build up a bit of rapport before talking about your more outre kinks...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!

Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "

Can't believe what goes through peoples minds!

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By *_Yeah19Couple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I had that exact message from a ‘professional footballer’ when I turned off my filters on my single profile for my birthday. Made my day, not!

TB

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.

I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!

Exactly, any idiot would know that putting something like that in a first message will put off 99% of women and couples.

It's usually a good idea to build up a bit of rapport before talking about your more outre kinks... "

To be honest I can't see building rapport would make any change to the outcome . You would either be interested in that kink or not . Talking for a time before bring up isn't going suddenly make some reconsider trying it . Plus would you not then feel you'd wasted time talking to that person ,as most would be put off by it anyway .

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

OP

When are you meeting him?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just get a pizza delivered for him

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!

Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "

I had the same.

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!

Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "

I think that is precisely why those kind of messages act as an immediate 'filter' as the reality is that they don't understand (sadly for them) and more's the point, you at least get a very realistic impression of what they would be like if you were to meet them!

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By *inkyLondonpair OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.

I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!

Exactly, any idiot would know that putting something like that in a first message will put off 99% of women and couples.

It's usually a good idea to build up a bit of rapport before talking about your more outre kinks...

To be honest I can't see building rapport would make any change to the outcome . You would either be interested in that kink or not . Talking for a time before bring up isn't going suddenly make some reconsider trying it . Plus would you not then feel you'd wasted time talking to that person ,as most would be put off by it anyway ."

We are up for some pretty niche kinks, though not this one, but if a guy mentioned them in a first message it would put us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe get the site to add this one to the list of 'Interests'??

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.

I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!

Exactly, any idiot would know that putting something like that in a first message will put off 99% of women and couples.

It's usually a good idea to build up a bit of rapport before talking about your more outre kinks...

To be honest I can't see building rapport would make any change to the outcome . You would either be interested in that kink or not . Talking for a time before bring up isn't going suddenly make some reconsider trying it . Plus would you not then feel you'd wasted time talking to that person ,as most would be put off by it anyway .

We are up for some pretty niche kinks, though not this one, but if a guy mentioned them in a first message it would put us off.

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So as you aren't interested in that kink ....would it then make any difference mentioning right off or after weeks of talking? Surely outcomes the same you aren't interested ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!

Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "

Don't know whether to or at this post!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have had a few messages like that .Men lost the art of flirt and seduction.Go straight in for the kill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's like guys think they only get to have sex this once so has to do everything imaginable within 20 minutes!

Don't they realise that if its a good first session you would probably meet up again and then look to explore things together???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's like guys think they only get to have sex this once so has to do everything imaginable within 20 minutes!

Don't they realise that if its a good first session you would probably meet up again and then look to explore things together??? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Come across this fetish quite a few times (once through an unfortunate accident ). It’s usually a power and control thing.

I’m not sure I’d pop that in a first message though - you work up to this sort of thing!

Exactly, any idiot would know that putting something like that in a first message will put off 99% of women and couples.

It's usually a good idea to build up a bit of rapport before talking about your more outre kinks... "

The site is full of explicit pics, verifications detailing sex meets and sex 'interests' listed/ discussed on profiles. It's an overtly sexual site.

Why would they think they needed to chat a while before discussing sex?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"So we get an email from a nice looking guy, nice words and we think "he looks promising". Then in a "PS" he asks if K will deep throat him and vomit over his cock!!!

Do people like that not realise that putting a very niche suggestion like that in a first message just destroys their chances? "

I seem to remember I was asked that recently, probably the same guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to get all the nasty stuff written on your profile, people always ( ) check there first anyway so they can decide whether to bother replying ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to chat and not bring up sex at all! That keeps them guessing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gets it out of the way, saves the pussyfooting around just to put folk off later (I know, i'm into some pretty sick shit..don't matter how long you wait, folk don't suddenly start liking what they don't like)

Plenty folk about who don't mind you getting to the point right off the bat, lots who don't too but there we go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they like the idea of us reading nasty messages. I got one myself tonight. Unusually for me, I told him what I thought of his message.

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich


"I tend to leave niche suggestions until I've met a few times and know them better and may only suggest something I think they will be in to. Im not that kinky though so never anything bad ha I get a lot of women message me asking can they use a strap on before we have even had a chat. Must say, not appealing at all and usually results in a block. Some sicko's on here though with ridiculous suggestions."

this. kinky doesn't tend to happen during the first meet- trust has to build and then we can experiment!

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By *queekyCheesyCouple
over a year ago

newark

Abit like "Do you want to suck my 8" monster, name your price £££"

Fucking all over that one...

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