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The Dilemma

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you had the choice, would you go for the guy you find very attractive but with whom it’s just meaningless sex although you’re hoping you can change his mind about that or do you go for the guy you don’t find as attractive but who is offering more than just meaningless sex and hope you grow to find him more attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The former

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not sure exactly, but in my recent experience avoid the first one!!! Unless you have very thick skin and can keep your heart in check

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Neither,but if I had to choose the former.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Neither,but if I had to choose the former."

Why the former?

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By *irestorm 500Couple
over a year ago

coventry

Neither ..I would never make do x storm x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The latter, assuming I wanted more than meaningless sex with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither. And my god how my cunt aches.

I’d fuck the guy I fancied but wouldn’t expect to “change” him, and if I really had feelings but knew it was nothing more for him, I’d get out.

I couldn’t have sex with someone I didn’t fancy. So that’s that.

I also couldn’t have sex ongoing with someone who I knew had developed feelings for me when it was not reciprocated at the same level by me.

I need someone funny, intelligent and attractive where I like them but don’t want anything more from them and they don’t from me. Or someone who loves me and I them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New name xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither. And my god how my cunt aches.

I’d fuck the guy I fancied but wouldn’t expect to “change” him, and if I really had feelings but knew it was nothing more for him, I’d get out.

I couldn’t have sex with someone I didn’t fancy. So that’s that.

I also couldn’t have sex ongoing with someone who I knew had developed feelings for me when it was not reciprocated at the same level by me.

I need someone funny, intelligent and attractive where I like them but don’t want anything more from them and they don’t from me. Or someone who loves me and I them. "

Exactly this x

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Neither,but if I had to choose the former.

Why the former?"

It's important I find the guy attractive,if I didn't find the other guy hugely attractive to me at the beginning then I'm not going to further down the line.

But what do I know I'm clearly single for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Neither. And my god how my cunt aches.

I’d fuck the guy I fancied but wouldn’t expect to “change” him, and if I really had feelings but knew it was nothing more for him, I’d get out.

I couldn’t have sex with someone I didn’t fancy. So that’s that.

I also couldn’t have sex ongoing with someone who I knew had developed feelings for me when it was not reciprocated at the same level by me.

I need someone funny, intelligent and attractive where I like them but don’t want anything more from them and they don’t from me. Or someone who loves me and I them. "

Oh, this was much more what I would have said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here attractive guys only please. I won't chat unless I find them attractive. I just want meaningless sex so I guess what your looking for will sway your answer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok, the second guy is attractive just not in the same league as the first guy but the second guy is funny, kind and good company.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, the second guy is attractive just not in the same league as the first guy but the second guy is funny, kind and good company."

Then my answer still stands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, the second guy is attractive just not in the same league as the first guy but the second guy is funny, kind and good company."

If I’m attracted to him, then yes please.

If it’s just aesthetics with the first guy, nah - then with this additional qualification, second guy sounds awesome.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Ok, the second guy is attractive just not in the same league as the first guy but the second guy is funny, kind and good company."

Yeah go for him then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, the second guy is attractive just not in the same league as the first guy but the second guy is funny, kind and good company."

I still don't want anything more than sex. My answers the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, the second guy is attractive just not in the same league as the first guy but the second guy is funny, kind and good company."

This is a no brainer for me. I would definitely go for the second guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah, I agree.

The second guy is an all round nice guy whereas the first may be better looking but if it’s not just meaningless sex I want, I should steer clear of him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Following this..... might pick up tips

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Ok, the second guy is attractive just not in the same league as the first guy but the second guy is funny, kind and good company.

I still don't want anything more than sex. My answers the same. "

I can understand that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit like the dilemma I currently have. Do I hang around waiting for the former FWB I adore to come back, with his meaningless sex. Or do I go for it with the new FWB who is into me and wants more. XXX

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It depends what you're looking for I think. For me, I'd go for the meaningless sex with the guy I find most attractive. I wouldn't be thinking about hoping he would want anything more than that either because I'm not offering it myself.

If I was looking for more than nsa sex I'd be more likely to go for man no 2

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By *zamiWoman
over a year ago

LONDON

Can you change people - this is a rhetorical question xx

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