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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Guys have you ever gone soft during sex?

Recently experienced this and not sure if it’s me or a normal thing, never experienced it before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes - it was definitely me. Medication I was on coupled with a condom phobia caused me to droop whenever I tried to have penetrative sex for quite a while

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It can happen for any number of reasons - tiredness, drink, perceived pressure to perform, not feeling relaxed and any number of others - I wouldn't take it as any reflection on you or your partner if it was a one off.

Just take some time out or focus on other things (he still has fingers and a tongue ) until he comes back to life.

If it's an on going problem with one partner particularly then encourage him to get checked out by his GP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be surprised if it hasn't happened to most blokes, especially as they get older.

We're not machines.

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

Yes, it’s entirely normal - but if it happens a lot, see your GP of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never experienced it to be honest.

If I'm erect and horny and turned on it stays that way ...

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"Guys have you ever gone soft during sex?

Recently experienced this and not sure if it’s me or a normal thing, never experienced it before.

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Trust me it's not you. Every guy has experienced this at one point , me included . So don't fret . It's usually nerves or over thinking things . Guys get nervous too you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it’s entirely normal - but if it happens a lot, see your GP of course."

Bearing in mind she's a girl lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes, it’s entirely normal - but if it happens a lot, see your GP of course.

Bearing in mind she's a girl lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh christ yes, too much drink, fatigue, illness have all caused me to push rope in the past, never often enough to be a concern though thankfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys have you ever gone soft during sex?

Recently experienced this and not sure if it’s me or a normal thing, never experienced it before.

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When it's happened to me it's been cause of too much booze and the first time being with that girlfriend. So whoever the guy was, is probably feeling a lot of pressure and that's why it happened. It's a mental problem for the guy, unless he has a medical condition which is causing it.

It's not your fault at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys have you ever gone soft during sex?

Recently experienced this and not sure if it’s me or a normal thing, never experienced it before.

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Sorry I'd had a long day at work. Didnt need to make a post about it though

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By *ynetaurusMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Could be a case of " Fanny Fright "also take vallium and viagra and so if you dont get a shag you dont care....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys have you ever gone soft during sex?

Recently experienced this and not sure if it’s me or a normal thing, never experienced it before.

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Yes.. it used to upset me a lot when it happened. Now I understand why it happened.. it never happens anymore.

Confidence was the key issue to begin with.. after a bad break up.. I was left feeling fat, unattractive and unwanted. I wasn't innocent in the break up. So also riddled with guilt and felt a little unworthy. When it happens and you think you've got a problem.. it's a vicious circle.. you worry it may happen, so it starts to happen.

Met a few women who gave me back my confidence. Patience, genuine sincerity and real attraction can turn that around, if it's more a mental than a physical issue. If it's physical, help and support from doctors and medicine may be required.

I get it occasionally now.. but it'll only happen if something happens that I dislike. She may reveal a bit more of her personality, views, or sexual kinks that were not mentioned previously and I find a turn off.

I experimented with a little BDSM not long ago.. but the level of impact play they took it too as a couple horrified me. I was instantly turned off and told them straight away. Told them I was done and dusted.

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

Not happened to me always rock hard

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I would just like to point out it was no-one from here. It’s someone I have known for a while xx

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I’ve had it happen a couple of times with guys. Usually they’ve been in long relationships and not used to using condoms. I find its best not to make a big deal of it and do anything to embarrass the guy or make him feel like I’m bothered. Also sitting on their faces for a bit seems to help restore their glory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had it happen a couple of times with guys. Usually they’ve been in long relationships and not used to using condoms. I find its best not to make a big deal of it and do anything to embarrass the guy or make him feel like I’m bothered. Also sitting on their faces for a bit seems to help restore their glory "

That's the kind of woman I meant before

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Guys have you ever gone soft during sex?

Recently experienced this and not sure if it’s me or a normal thing, never experienced it before.

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Not one man that has ever existed can, for the whole of his adult life, get an erection every time he wants or needs one. They are human, not robot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tiredness or stress do it for me. It just happens and I have no control over it. Take a break, kiss, cuddle, foreplay etc. And it soon returns.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would just like to point out it was no-one from here. It’s someone I have known for a while xx"

I blamed myself too but he got checked out at the doc's and it was a blood pressure issue. Remember the times he was ok. It can happen to any man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Guys have you ever gone soft during sex?

Recently experienced this and not sure if it’s me or a normal thing, never experienced it before.

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whenever you get too much of something the enjoyment fades

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

Nodders and booze dot do me any favours , but bizarrely tiredness gives me a raging hard on

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Guys have you ever gone soft during sex?

Recently experienced this and not sure if it’s me or a normal thing, never experienced it before.

Not one man that has ever existed can, for the whole of his adult life, get an erection every time he wants or needs one. They are human, not robot."

I never said there were robots, just never experienced it during sex

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