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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

Ive had a tough couple of days due to various different reasons and my mind is in overdrive. A bit of peace for a few hours would be great.

What do you do to help calm the mind and get a break from reality for a few hours?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Colouring in. It's mental masturbation.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Normally walk the dog and just chill or a long soak in the bath.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Colouring in. It's mental masturbation.

Books? I may try that

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Colouring in. It's mental masturbation.

Ive thought about this, it may have to be tried once im home

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Crochet octopus, run, yoga

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Normally walk the dog and just chill or a long soak in the bath. "

Quietness is giving me too much time to think. I need to do something. But usually a great idea to relax in a bath

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yoga.

Look up yoga by Adrienne on YouTube if you’ve never done it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you go on youtube there are some great meditation things on there. I use them all the time as my job gets stressful!! Some of them talk to you and get you to think of stuff

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Crochet octopus, run, yoga "

Wouldnt know where to start with crocheting, thinking of trying running (well jogging) in the morning in daylight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had a tough couple of days due to various different reasons and my mind is in overdrive. A bit of peace for a few hours would be great.

What do you do to help calm the mind and get a break from reality for a few hours?"

Hypnotherapy, EFT, Meditation and binaural beats are a few of the things I use. If you want pointing the right direction, let me know.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Mindfullness.... meditation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Qi Gong is great for relaxing the mind without having to try and empty it

I tend to turn on a great playlist , play it loudly and either dance about like an idiot or clean. I can't do quiet or my mind goes into overdrive!!

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

Yoga - not tried but its worth a shot- ill look it up

If meditation get you yo think of things i need the opposite. I need to stop for a while justvto give myself a break temporarily

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By *oupleofkooksCouple
over a year ago

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When my MH starts getting the better of me I’ve got a Spotify playlist of maybe 30 songs I know real well, headphones in, I pick one and then pick an instrument or riff and just focus on that one piece throughout the whole song. Helps me focus through the din of everything and concentrate on what I need to

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Ive had a tough couple of days due to various different reasons and my mind is in overdrive. A bit of peace for a few hours would be great.

What do you do to help calm the mind and get a break from reality for a few hours?

Hypnotherapy, EFT, Meditation and binaural beats are a few of the things I use. If you want pointing the right direction, let me know."

Whats EFT?

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Qi Gong is great for relaxing the mind without having to try and empty it

I tend to turn on a great playlist , play it loudly and either dance about like an idiot or clean. I can't do quiet or my mind goes into overdrive!! "

Overdrive - Thats exactly what mines doing but im stuck at work for another half hour. Emotions galore

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"When my MH starts getting the better of me I’ve got a Spotify playlist of maybe 30 songs I know real well, headphones in, I pick one and then pick an instrument or riff and just focus on that one piece throughout the whole song. Helps me focus through the din of everything and concentrate on what I need to"

Id just end up singing lol. Worth a shot if i can focus on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had a tough couple of days due to various different reasons and my mind is in overdrive. A bit of peace for a few hours would be great.

What do you do to help calm the mind and get a break from reality for a few hours?

Hypnotherapy, EFT, Meditation and binaural beats are a few of the things I use. If you want pointing the right direction, let me know.

Whats EFT?"

Emotional Freedom Techniques. Like acupuncture but without any needles. We tap on meridian points on the face hands and body.

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Ive had a tough couple of days due to various different reasons and my mind is in overdrive. A bit of peace for a few hours would be great.

What do you do to help calm the mind and get a break from reality for a few hours?

Hypnotherapy, EFT, Meditation and binaural beats are a few of the things I use. If you want pointing the right direction, let me know.

Whats EFT?

Emotional Freedom Techniques. Like acupuncture but without any needles. We tap on meridian points on the face hands and body."

Never heard of it sounds interesting though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I colour a lot, it's the only thing that I've found that rids any stress, depression and anxiety for me.

And I get to create pretty things while taking care of my mental health.

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"I colour a lot, it's the only thing that I've found that rids any stress, depression and anxiety for me.

And I get to create pretty things while taking care of my mental health.

Went through a phase of colouring all the time. Must try if again. I have a number of books at home

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over a year ago

"I colour a lot, it's the only thing that I've found that rids any stress, depression and anxiety for me.

And I get to create pretty things while taking care of my mental health.

Went through a phase of colouring all the time. Must try if again. I have a number of books at home"

Definitely try again. Just don't ask me for book/pen/pencil suggestions. Apparently I'm an enabler.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't do the calming and relaxing methods that I used to anymore.

For months, actually probably more than a year now I've been steamrolling through my days and not properly unwinding. I am going to make myself start as of tonight!

Ten minutes meditation is gonna happen in a mo.

Thank you OP. This has made me make a positive step to get back in to it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Colouring in. It's mental masturbation.

I go with actual masturbation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Colouring in. It's mental masturbation.

I go with actual masturbation

I also go with masturbating over g3orgie's pictures tbh.

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"I don't do the calming and relaxing methods that I used to anymore.

For months, actually probably more than a year now I've been steamrolling through my days and not properly unwinding. I am going to make myself start as of tonight!

Ten minutes meditation is gonna happen in a mo.

Thank you OP. This has made me make a positive step to get back in to it!

What did you used to do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gym class. It’s hard to think about anything when you’re trying not to vomit on your yoga mat

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Colouring in. It's mental masturbation.

I go with actual masturbation

Unfortunately thats the last thing on my mind

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I have had hypnotism partly because I was fascinated by it and partly because I needed help.

He also undertook some NLP with me and between the two techniques it chilled me brilliantly. To this day I have an “Anchor” which I can use to chill and remove negative thoughts.

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Gym class. It’s hard to think about anything when you’re trying not to vomit on your yoga mat "

No gym but jogging in the morning sun or rain

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

lay on your bed, close your eyes set timer for 15mins. Stand back feeling energetic.

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"I have had hypnotism partly because I was fascinated by it and partly because I needed help.

He also undertook some NLP with me and between the two techniques it chilled me brilliantly. To this day I have an “Anchor” which I can use to chill and remove negative thoughts. "

Sounds fascinating and really worked for you by the sounds of it.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"I have had hypnotism partly because I was fascinated by it and partly because I needed help.

He also undertook some NLP with me and between the two techniques it chilled me brilliantly. To this day I have an “Anchor” which I can use to chill and remove negative thoughts.

Sounds fascinating and really worked for you by the sounds of it. "

I was a sceptic but it worked for me and I can still do the relaxation techniques now. Great for dropping off and letting the stress of the day away.

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"I have had hypnotism partly because I was fascinated by it and partly because I needed help.

He also undertook some NLP with me and between the two techniques it chilled me brilliantly. To this day I have an “Anchor” which I can use to chill and remove negative thoughts.

Sounds fascinating and really worked for you by the sounds of it.

I was a sceptic but it worked for me and I can still do the relaxation techniques now. Great for dropping off and letting the stress of the day away. "

Sounds great. Stress is a major factor for me

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"I have had hypnotism partly because I was fascinated by it and partly because I needed help.

He also undertook some NLP with me and between the two techniques it chilled me brilliantly. To this day I have an “Anchor” which I can use to chill and remove negative thoughts.

Sounds fascinating and really worked for you by the sounds of it.

I was a sceptic but it worked for me and I can still do the relaxation techniques now. Great for dropping off and letting the stress of the day away.

Sounds great. Stress is a major factor for me"

Shame you are miles away from my therapist. He works wonders.

It’s worth a google for someone nearby to you. Do research though. R.eddit also have a forum dedicated to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, Can I Private message you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't do the calming and relaxing methods that I used to anymore.

For months, actually probably more than a year now I've been steamrolling through my days and not properly unwinding. I am going to make myself start as of tonight!

Ten minutes meditation is gonna happen in a mo.

Thank you OP. This has made me make a positive step to get back in to it!

What did you used to do?"

Meditation (focus on breathing properly) was the method I used the most. I've slipped in to the bad habit of shallow breaths, not fully inhaling or exhaling as I get more stressed or tired again.

At least I am aware of it though.

I also sometimes did stretches to loosen up beforehand too.

A half hour a day shouldn't be too much to give yourself, but somehow I let myself slip out of the habit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use breathing techniques from yoga called pranayama. There are lots of variations.

Use a biofeedback machine to teach you how to relax.

Learn progressive relaxation techniques.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had a tough couple of days due to various different reasons and my mind is in overdrive. A bit of peace for a few hours would be great.

What do you do to help calm the mind and get a break from reality for a few hours?"

Read a good book. You get to sit and do nothing so relax the body but your mind has no time to wander to stresses if you're engrossed in a story instead. I've just spent a few days reading and let all the stress pass me by. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The beach with my dogs and watching the moonlight on the waves. On a good night you can even see the stars...or occasionally the Aurora.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a walk on the beach

or walk round a park

a bath with candles and soft music

no tv or phone and just lie and relax

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I find driving relaxes me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lights out. Music. Cuppa tea

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"I have had hypnotism partly because I was fascinated by it and partly because I needed help.

He also undertook some NLP with me and between the two techniques it chilled me brilliantly. To this day I have an “Anchor” which I can use to chill and remove negative thoughts.

Sounds fascinating and really worked for you by the sounds of it.

I was a sceptic but it worked for me and I can still do the relaxation techniques now. Great for dropping off and letting the stress of the day away.

Sounds great. Stress is a major factor for me

Shame you are miles away from my therapist. He works wonders.

It’s worth a google for someone nearby to you. Do research though. R.eddit also have a forum dedicated to it. "

I will have a look. Thankyou

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"OP, Can I Private message you?"

Sure

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"I don't do the calming and relaxing methods that I used to anymore.

For months, actually probably more than a year now I've been steamrolling through my days and not properly unwinding. I am going to make myself start as of tonight!

Ten minutes meditation is gonna happen in a mo.

Thank you OP. This has made me make a positive step to get back in to it!

What did you used to do?

Meditation (focus on breathing properly) was the method I used the most. I've slipped in to the bad habit of shallow breaths, not fully inhaling or exhaling as I get more stressed or tired again.

At least I am aware of it though.

I also sometimes did stretches to loosen up beforehand too.

A half hour a day shouldn't be too much to give yourself, but somehow I let myself slip out of the habit. "

Habits like that are easily lost if you miss a few days. Maybe something to try generally

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Use breathing techniques from yoga called pranayama. There are lots of variations.

Use a biofeedback machine to teach you how to relax.

Learn progressive relaxation techniques.

I will have to look them up, sure theres information to be found

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to bed really early and try and get ten hours plus sleep. It's amazing how easily you slip into not getting anywhere near enough sleep (says he staring at his phone rather than going to bed!)

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Ive had a tough couple of days due to various different reasons and my mind is in overdrive. A bit of peace for a few hours would be great.

What do you do to help calm the mind and get a break from reality for a few hours?

Havent read in a while, i get engrossed and nothing else gets done

Could be the way forward

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"The beach with my dogs and watching the moonlight on the waves. On a good night you can even see the stars...or occasionally the Aurora."

Thought about the beach earlier actually, space and time, maybe take a book/colouring/ with me as suggested earlier

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"a walk on the beach

or walk round a park

a bath with candles and soft music

no tv or phone and just lie and relax

Getting outdoors walking and listening to is often helpful

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over a year ago

"Go to bed really early and try and get ten hours plus sleep. It's amazing how easily you slip into not getting anywhere near enough sleep (says he staring at his phone rather than going to bed!)"

10 hours. Wow im lucky to get 6

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"I find driving relaxes me."

Ive found i can be quite reflective in the car whilst pottering about. Sometimes productive othertimes the wrong time to be overcome with emotions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have medication for it, but I also give myself a bit of a talking to and do my deep breathing exercises. If there's a lot going around my mind at night, stopping me from sleeping, I distract myself by thinking about how I'm going to decorate my bedroom, or do in the garden.

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Lights out. Music. Cuppa tea

2 out of 3 at the minute. Tea was my first port of call when i got home. Actually its always the first thing i do

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over a year ago

"Ive had a tough couple of days due to various different reasons and my mind is in overdrive. A bit of peace for a few hours would be great.

What do you do to help calm the mind and get a break from reality for a few hours?

Havent read in a while, i get engrossed and nothing else gets done

Could be the way forward"

That's why i have to read smallish books now. Everyone has to fend for themselves when I'm in a book.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A long walk in daylight

Meditation

Music

Sleep

Wine

Sex

Masturbation

Laughter

Solitude and reflection x

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Go to bed really early and try and get ten hours plus sleep. It's amazing how easily you slip into not getting anywhere near enough sleep (says he staring at his phone rather than going to bed!)"

That i can completely understand. Being tired doesnt help 6 hours is about average for me most of the time. Bad i know

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By *entenTeaCouple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

Man cave and scale models for Lenten. Cider TV and pets for Tea.

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"I have medication for it, but I also give myself a bit of a talking to and do my deep breathing exercises. If there's a lot going around my mind at night, stopping me from sleeping, I distract myself by thinking about how I'm going to decorate my bedroom, or do in the garden. "

Usually i can distract myself, with other thoughts or mindlessly watching tv. Not the past few nights though

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Ive had a tough couple of days due to various different reasons and my mind is in overdrive. A bit of peace for a few hours would be great.

What do you do to help calm the mind and get a break from reality for a few hours?

Havent read in a while, i get engrossed and nothing else gets done

Could be the way forward

That's why i have to read smallish books now. Everyone has to fend for themselves when I'm in a book.

Yesh butbthen theres the next book or the next series. Once i start i usually go through my whole bookshelf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try breathing exercises, they slow the heart rate..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ive had a tough couple of days due to various different reasons and my mind is in overdrive. A bit of peace for a few hours would be great.

What do you do to help calm the mind and get a break from reality for a few hours?

Havent read in a while, i get engrossed and nothing else gets done

Could be the way forward

That's why i have to read smallish books now. Everyone has to fend for themselves when I'm in a book.

Yesh butbthen theres the next book or the next series. Once i start i usually go through my whole bookshelf

Oh wow really. We'll have to keep you away from the library then. Perhaps a magazine instead

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"A long walk in daylight

Meditation

Music

Sleep

Wine

Sex

Masturbation

Laughter

Solitude and reflection x"

Sleep is much needed if i can switch off, maybe a drink would help (although it vould go one of 2 ways with that). Plenty f thinking and reflection going on, maybe overthinking moreso

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By *lla_mai OP Woman
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Man cave and scale models for Lenten. Cider TV and pets for Tea."

Can i have a woman cave instead?

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