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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton

So as I’ve been made clearly aware on the forums, a lot of females and couples hate it when single guys message them! And it always come down to the Male not reading your profiles properly apparently but one thing I have noticed is that a lot of these people have it down that they’re willing to meet single males where it also shows the age range! Frankly, I’d consider myself polite and respectful but if you are attractive and show the previously mentioned, I would still chance it as you never know till you try! So what are your opinions on this?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I don’t hate it when single men message me unless they’ve ignored my profile and decide to ‘take a chance’.

My preferences are clear and simple.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We dont mind single men messaging us.

What We do object to is when it shows they haven't read our profile, when the message is badly thought out or they just assume its Becky reading the messages and ignore that we are on here as a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like when my profile clearly states I'm not into men but still get stupid messages ffs

Yes I can set filters but every now and then I drop them as I also chat to male forumites....life a bitch eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want single men to message me! But I want them to read my profile, be respectful and not get butt hurt if I don't reply because as the FAQs say, it just means I'm not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I want single men to message me! But I want them to read my profile, be respectful and not get butt hurt if I don't reply because as the FAQs say, it just means I'm not interested. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t hate it when single men message me unless they’ve ignored my profile and decide to ‘take a chance’.

My preferences are clear and simple. "
you look amazing id take a chance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t hate it when single men message me unless they’ve ignored my profile and decide to ‘take a chance’.

My preferences are clear and simple. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have men set to allow purely to laugh at those who do try.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

We are sort of HmmmMaybe on this one, met H when I was 38, As she says "If you'd looked nearly 40 I'd probably not given you a second glance", now many pick my age at around 45ish..

Many that contact us are my age rather than H's, a big percentage look older than their stated age as many lie to get around filters or their genes weren't as favorable,I dunno but naff all I can do about that.

Our logic is if you don't want messaging by people a little outside your preferences then set hard filters? Or maybe block all & do the hunting yourself.

If we like the look of someone with the age range up to 50 we'd chance a polite message, though with H being 37 its rare tbh but not unheard of. If a profile said under 50 & a gym bunny or BBC, BWC, BBW only, then we wouldn't. In the same way if a 20/30 something's profile said 18-60 but all their veris were from 20/30 something's we wouldn't bother sending a message.

Ours currently says 45 but that's not set in stone as there are a lot of good looking over 50's out there, its the outlook that needs to be younger & in our opinion the average older couples swinging profile usually doesn't purvey that outlook.

S&H

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton

I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j"

Fuck themselves over?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only hate when couples message us. Single guys are always welcome to drop by

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?"

Purely aimed at the ones who put they’re seeking single males but apparently aren’t! Probably wasn’t best choice of words lol

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"We only hate when couples message us. Single guys are always welcome to drop by "

Shame there’s not many couples like yourselves around me aha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have filters set to allow single males to contact us, but state on our profile not straight males as we are looking for bi males.... unfortunately there's no filter for that.

We still get contacted by straight males wanting to meet so I guess they either don't read profile notes or they're feeling lucky?

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By *ehind closed curtainsCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands

We always try to respond to messages, even if it is a no thank you. Like most who have replied on here we do get a bit bored of chancers, one liners & guys who just haven't read our profile. When / if we do respond single guys can get a bit shirty/rude if you use sarcasm if they keep messaging once we've said "no thanks"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I don't fit what they're looking for then I don't message them. There's plenty of other profiles.

I've also started to block profiles so that they don't come up in my searches, no point reading the same profile again and again.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Purely aimed at the ones who put they’re seeking single males but apparently aren’t! Probably wasn’t best choice of words lol"

Well we're seeking single men but not all single men. We're not rude to anyone who messages us but we don't answer every message we receive. No matter how polite the message if the person or people messaging don't meet the criteria on our brief profile pointing out that we're not actually what they're looking for often offends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't hate single men who message me. There are lots who waste their time writing a message, because they haven't read my profile, or read it but thought they would chance their arm. I've only had 3 messages back, from hundreds, with abuse after I said no thank you.

People will be wanting to meet single men; not every one of them that messages them.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Purely aimed at the ones who put they’re seeking single males but apparently aren’t! Probably wasn’t best choice of words lol"

"Seeking single males" doesn't mean they're seeking every single male on the planet. They're seeking single males who appeal to them personally. If they don't reply to you it's due to the simple fact you don't appeal to them.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?"

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind single men messaging me at all

But I reckon if guys actually read my profile before deciding it was appropriate to message me or not if probably receive about a quarter of the messages I do now lol .

But I'm not sure what's worse guys who don't read it and message me or guys who do, don't fit what I'm looking for and message me "I know you're looking for xyz but I thought I'd message you anyway"

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"We have filters set to allow single males to contact us, but state on our profile not straight males as we are looking for bi males.... unfortunately there's no filter for that.

We still get contacted by straight males wanting to meet so I guess they either don't read profile notes or they're feeling lucky? "

Yeah that’s unfortaunate! I have made that mistake once or twice but as a slightly lonely youngster I get quite a thrill from potentially talking to like minded people I sometimes over look that vital bit of info lol bloody wish I was Bi ahaha

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"We always try to respond to messages, even if it is a no thank you. Like most who have replied on here we do get a bit bored of chancers, one liners & guys who just haven't read our profile. When / if we do respond single guys can get a bit shirty/rude if you use sarcasm if they keep messaging once we've said "no thanks""

I guess I’m being slightly cynical mainly pointing the finger at couples/females, guess we’re all dicks deep down aha

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Purely aimed at the ones who put they’re seeking single males but apparently aren’t! Probably wasn’t best choice of words lol

Well we're seeking single men but not all single men. We're not rude to anyone who messages us but we don't answer every message we receive. No matter how polite the message if the person or people messaging don't meet the criteria on our brief profile pointing out that we're not actually what they're looking for often offends.

"

Yeah fair enough, at least you have stated what you are seeking! I see a lot of profiles who don’t state that and then get a bit arsey when I chance it lol and sometimes, like myself, I have a fantasy that is quite precise and frankly there’s a limited amount of the certain females I dream to meet lol so sometimes I just pray that I catch their attention on the off chance? Should I stop doing that? Last thing I want to be is the type of guys we despise! Lol

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7."

Purely because their profiles says they want to meet single males but truly don’t and the moan about being messages by single males lol don’t understand what you mean about couples having sex on tap 24/7? Am I just being a tit? Lol

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams

Mine clearly states I hav a fella and dont meet or play wiv males unless im wiv my fella and I also dont do private meets without him either. It pisses me off wen I get messaged asking for mff so obviously not read my profile. I put restrictions up for a reason and detail wot I am/am not after hoping to stop questions being asked xx

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams


"Mine clearly states I hav a fella and dont meet or play wiv males unless im wiv my fella and I also dont do private meets without him either. It pisses me off wen I get messaged asking for mff so obviously not read my profile. I put restrictions up for a reason and detail wot I am/am not after hoping to stop questions being asked xx"

This also applies to single males as I used to allow males message me up til over a year ago and now blocked but the ones who I replied to previously STIL message asking to meet xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine clearly states I hav a fella and dont meet or play wiv males unless im wiv my fella and I also dont do private meets without him either. It pisses me off wen I get messaged asking for mff so obviously not read my profile. I put restrictions up for a reason and detail wot I am/am not after hoping to stop questions being asked xx"

Why don't you have a couples profile?

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By *azza80Woman
over a year ago

Your wildest Dreams


"Mine clearly states I hav a fella and dont meet or play wiv males unless im wiv my fella and I also dont do private meets without him either. It pisses me off wen I get messaged asking for mff so obviously not read my profile. I put restrictions up for a reason and detail wot I am/am not after hoping to stop questions being asked xx

Why don't you have a couples profile?"

Mine used to be couples profile but I changed it so I can meet fems and arrange club meets xx

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7.

Purely because their profiles says they want to meet single males but truly don’t and the moan about being messages by single males lol don’t understand what you mean about couples having sex on tap 24/7? Am I just being a tit? Lol"

Read our post immediately before this one in the thread.

As for couples having sex on tap 24/7, they're couples. They're together and can have sex anytime they want day or night. So really how are they losing out?

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7.

Purely because their profiles says they want to meet single males but truly don’t and the moan about being messages by single males lol don’t understand what you mean about couples having sex on tap 24/7? Am I just being a tit? Lol

Read our post immediately before this one in the thread.

As for couples having sex on tap 24/7, they're couples. They're together and can have sex anytime they want day or night. So really how are they losing out?"

Sorry, had replied to that one separately, didn’t read the profile names properly! My bad! But yeah I get what you are saying but how are they not losing out? The main idea of this site is to meet other likeminded people for fun is it not? I appreciate there is a social side, which I do enjoy, but that’s not the root purpose of this site.. there are plenty of swinging social sites around as well.. they could end up missing out on a genuine guy/couple/TV/TS etc who they could end up clicking with extremely well, in which could spice their sex life up even more? Lol I’d prefer that if I was in a couple

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7.

Purely because their profiles says they want to meet single males but truly don’t and the moan about being messages by single males lol don’t understand what you mean about couples having sex on tap 24/7? Am I just being a tit? Lol

Read our post immediately before this one in the thread.

As for couples having sex on tap 24/7, they're couples. They're together and can have sex anytime they want day or night. So really how are they losing out?

Sorry, had replied to that one separately, didn’t read the profile names properly! My bad! But yeah I get what you are saying but how are they not losing out? The main idea of this site is to meet other likeminded people for fun is it not? I appreciate there is a social side, which I do enjoy, but that’s not the root purpose of this site.. there are plenty of swinging social sites around as well.. they could end up missing out on a genuine guy/couple/TV/TS etc who they could end up clicking with extremely well, in which could spice their sex life up even more? Lol I’d prefer that if I was in a couple "

It comes down to that old "personal choice" thing again. How do you know they don't get meets? Just because they choose not to meet you doesn't keen they aren't meeting someone else and having a mind blowing time.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Just show respect and assume that people know themselves better than you will. As such it's desperate and potentially annoying to people where they've made efforts, to behave in ways that were seemingly patronising or just insulting.

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7.

Purely because their profiles says they want to meet single males but truly don’t and the moan about being messages by single males lol don’t understand what you mean about couples having sex on tap 24/7? Am I just being a tit? Lol

Read our post immediately before this one in the thread.

As for couples having sex on tap 24/7, they're couples. They're together and can have sex anytime they want day or night. So really how are they losing out?

Sorry, had replied to that one separately, didn’t read the profile names properly! My bad! But yeah I get what you are saying but how are they not losing out? The main idea of this site is to meet other likeminded people for fun is it not? I appreciate there is a social side, which I do enjoy, but that’s not the root purpose of this site.. there are plenty of swinging social sites around as well.. they could end up missing out on a genuine guy/couple/TV/TS etc who they could end up clicking with extremely well, in which could spice their sex life up even more? Lol I’d prefer that if I was in a couple

It comes down to that old "personal choice" thing again. How do you know they don't get meets? Just because they choose not to meet you doesn't keen they aren't meeting someone else and having a mind blowing time."

Oh yeah totally! Am not suggesting they’re not getting action at all but they are potentially missing out on me a lot of the time all for other guys getting lucky, especially if pics come up after aha

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7.

Purely because their profiles says they want to meet single males but truly don’t and the moan about being messages by single males lol don’t understand what you mean about couples having sex on tap 24/7? Am I just being a tit? Lol

Read our post immediately before this one in the thread.

As for couples having sex on tap 24/7, they're couples. They're together and can have sex anytime they want day or night. So really how are they losing out?

Sorry, had replied to that one separately, didn’t read the profile names properly! My bad! But yeah I get what you are saying but how are they not losing out? The main idea of this site is to meet other likeminded people for fun is it not? I appreciate there is a social side, which I do enjoy, but that’s not the root purpose of this site.. there are plenty of swinging social sites around as well.. they could end up missing out on a genuine guy/couple/TV/TS etc who they could end up clicking with extremely well, in which could spice their sex life up even more? Lol I’d prefer that if I was in a couple

It comes down to that old "personal choice" thing again. How do you know they don't get meets? Just because they choose not to meet you doesn't keen they aren't meeting someone else and having a mind blowing time.

Oh yeah totally! Am not suggesting they’re not getting action at all but they are potentially missing out on me a lot of the time all for other guys getting lucky, especially if pics come up after aha "

If they don’t want to meet you, they are not missing out on you. At all. They don’t want to meet you.

If they ignore your message or say no thanks, that’s it.

Nobody has to give you a chance or meet you because you are a bloke and they want to meet blokes. Nobody.

Have you got it yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We always try to respond to messages, even if it is a no thank you. Like most who have replied on here we do get a bit bored of chancers, one liners & guys who just haven't read our profile. When / if we do respond single guys can get a bit shirty/rude if you use sarcasm if they keep messaging once we've said "no thanks""
a lovely woman the other day was telling us she got a 1000 messages and responded to all

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7.

Purely because their profiles says they want to meet single males but truly don’t and the moan about being messages by single males lol don’t understand what you mean about couples having sex on tap 24/7? Am I just being a tit? Lol

Read our post immediately before this one in the thread.

As for couples having sex on tap 24/7, they're couples. They're together and can have sex anytime they want day or night. So really how are they losing out?

Sorry, had replied to that one separately, didn’t read the profile names properly! My bad! But yeah I get what you are saying but how are they not losing out? The main idea of this site is to meet other likeminded people for fun is it not? I appreciate there is a social side, which I do enjoy, but that’s not the root purpose of this site.. there are plenty of swinging social sites around as well.. they could end up missing out on a genuine guy/couple/TV/TS etc who they could end up clicking with extremely well, in which could spice their sex life up even more? Lol I’d prefer that if I was in a couple

It comes down to that old "personal choice" thing again. How do you know they don't get meets? Just because they choose not to meet you doesn't keen they aren't meeting someone else and having a mind blowing time.

Oh yeah totally! Am not suggesting they’re not getting action at all but they are potentially missing out on me a lot of the time all for other guys getting lucky, especially if pics come up after aha

If they don’t want to meet you, they are not missing out on you. At all. They don’t want to meet you.

If they ignore your message or say no thanks, that’s it.

Nobody has to give you a chance or meet you because you are a bloke and they want to meet blokes. Nobody.

Have you got it yet?

"

Woah. Jeeze, why so serious! I’m not saying they HAVE to give me a chance but people are so close minded nowadays and well according to you, rather shallow! I’ve met a couple people I didn’t necessarily find attractive straight away but once I got chatting with them... damn! Couldn’t get their clothes off quick enough! Doesn’t always have to be just a physical attraction? But then, I guess that comes down to personal preference again! Just saying they could miss someone they really click with! And why wouldn’t that be a shame?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7.

Purely because their profiles says they want to meet single males but truly don’t and the moan about being messages by single males lol don’t understand what you mean about couples having sex on tap 24/7? Am I just being a tit? Lol

Read our post immediately before this one in the thread.

As for couples having sex on tap 24/7, they're couples. They're together and can have sex anytime they want day or night. So really how are they losing out?

Sorry, had replied to that one separately, didn’t read the profile names properly! My bad! But yeah I get what you are saying but how are they not losing out? The main idea of this site is to meet other likeminded people for fun is it not? I appreciate there is a social side, which I do enjoy, but that’s not the root purpose of this site.. there are plenty of swinging social sites around as well.. they could end up missing out on a genuine guy/couple/TV/TS etc who they could end up clicking with extremely well, in which could spice their sex life up even more? Lol I’d prefer that if I was in a couple

It comes down to that old "personal choice" thing again. How do you know they don't get meets? Just because they choose not to meet you doesn't keen they aren't meeting someone else and having a mind blowing time.

Oh yeah totally! Am not suggesting they’re not getting action at all but they are potentially missing out on me a lot of the time all for other guys getting lucky, especially if pics come up after aha

If they don’t want to meet you, they are not missing out on you. At all. They don’t want to meet you.

If they ignore your message or say no thanks, that’s it.

Nobody has to give you a chance or meet you because you are a bloke and they want to meet blokes. Nobody.

Have you got it yet?

Woah. Jeeze, why so serious! I’m not saying they HAVE to give me a chance but people are so close minded nowadays and well according to you, rather shallow! I’ve met a couple people I didn’t necessarily find attractive straight away but once I got chatting with them... damn! Couldn’t get their clothes off quick enough! Doesn’t always have to be just a physical attraction? But then, I guess that comes down to personal preference again! Just saying they could miss someone they really click with! And why wouldn’t that be a shame? "

As I thought, you just can’t see it. The 38 messages from single men I’ve had since 5am, could you organise my diary so I can ‘give them all a chance’ please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7.

Purely because their profiles says they want to meet single males but truly don’t and the moan about being messages by single males lol don’t understand what you mean about couples having sex on tap 24/7? Am I just being a tit? Lol

Read our post immediately before this one in the thread.

As for couples having sex on tap 24/7, they're couples. They're together and can have sex anytime they want day or night. So really how are they losing out?

Sorry, had replied to that one separately, didn’t read the profile names properly! My bad! But yeah I get what you are saying but how are they not losing out? The main idea of this site is to meet other likeminded people for fun is it not? I appreciate there is a social side, which I do enjoy, but that’s not the root purpose of this site.. there are plenty of swinging social sites around as well.. they could end up missing out on a genuine guy/couple/TV/TS etc who they could end up clicking with extremely well, in which could spice their sex life up even more? Lol I’d prefer that if I was in a couple

It comes down to that old "personal choice" thing again. How do you know they don't get meets? Just because they choose not to meet you doesn't keen they aren't meeting someone else and having a mind blowing time.

Oh yeah totally! Am not suggesting they’re not getting action at all but they are potentially missing out on me a lot of the time all for other guys getting lucky, especially if pics come up after aha

If they don’t want to meet you, they are not missing out on you. At all. They don’t want to meet you.

If they ignore your message or say no thanks, that’s it.

Nobody has to give you a chance or meet you because you are a bloke and they want to meet blokes. Nobody.

Have you got it yet?

Woah. Jeeze, why so serious! I’m not saying they HAVE to give me a chance but people are so close minded nowadays and well according to you, rather shallow! I’ve met a couple people I didn’t necessarily find attractive straight away but once I got chatting with them... damn! Couldn’t get their clothes off quick enough! Doesn’t always have to be just a physical attraction? But then, I guess that comes down to personal preference again! Just saying they could miss someone they really click with! And why wouldn’t that be a shame?

As I thought, you just can’t see it. The 38 messages from single men I’ve had since 5am, could you organise my diary so I can ‘give them all a chance’ please?"
cut and paste cmon

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Yes lol. How do you come to this conclusion? Especially with couples who have sex on tap 24/7.

Purely because their profiles says they want to meet single males but truly don’t and the moan about being messages by single males lol don’t understand what you mean about couples having sex on tap 24/7? Am I just being a tit? Lol

Read our post immediately before this one in the thread.

As for couples having sex on tap 24/7, they're couples. They're together and can have sex anytime they want day or night. So really how are they losing out?

Sorry, had replied to that one separately, didn’t read the profile names properly! My bad! But yeah I get what you are saying but how are they not losing out? The main idea of this site is to meet other likeminded people for fun is it not? I appreciate there is a social side, which I do enjoy, but that’s not the root purpose of this site.. there are plenty of swinging social sites around as well.. they could end up missing out on a genuine guy/couple/TV/TS etc who they could end up clicking with extremely well, in which could spice their sex life up even more? Lol I’d prefer that if I was in a couple

It comes down to that old "personal choice" thing again. How do you know they don't get meets? Just because they choose not to meet you doesn't keen they aren't meeting someone else and having a mind blowing time.

Oh yeah totally! Am not suggesting they’re not getting action at all but they are potentially missing out on me a lot of the time all for other guys getting lucky, especially if pics come up after aha

If they don’t want to meet you, they are not missing out on you. At all. They don’t want to meet you.

If they ignore your message or say no thanks, that’s it.

Nobody has to give you a chance or meet you because you are a bloke and they want to meet blokes. Nobody.

Have you got it yet?

Woah. Jeeze, why so serious! I’m not saying they HAVE to give me a chance but people are so close minded nowadays and well according to you, rather shallow! I’ve met a couple people I didn’t necessarily find attractive straight away but once I got chatting with them... damn! Couldn’t get their clothes off quick enough! Doesn’t always have to be just a physical attraction? But then, I guess that comes down to personal preference again! Just saying they could miss someone they really click with! And why wouldn’t that be a shame?

As I thought, you just can’t see it. The 38 messages from single men I’ve had since 5am, could you organise my diary so I can ‘give them all a chance’ please?"

Aha look, you obviously dislike meeting/talking to single males and letting them message you, so why not just block them and do the work yourself? That way, you haven’t got 38 messages! The filters are there, if you choose not to use them, you know the consequences! Unfortunately, there are too many time wasting persons on this site! But like the previous quote, why not copy and paste a reply to the ones who have at least tried! But I also respect that we are busy people with busy lives! But sometimes just ignoring a message isn’t a clear sign, cos as you’ve said you get shit loads of messages and the genuine guys messages can be swallowed up from all the dicks! Yeah fuck the one liners etc but I get the feeling you’ve had enough of the males who have messaged ya, so switch things up? We are not all complete pricks! I was intrigued and that why I’m asking for people’s opinions on this

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

As others have said....we have no problem with single males messaging, or anyone else for that matter, but the responses will vary depending on whether our profile has been read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As others have said....we have no problem with single males messaging, or anyone else for that matter, but the responses will vary depending on whether our profile has been read."
you're so strict can you be that strict with me

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"As others have said....we have no problem with single males messaging, or anyone else for that matter, but the responses will vary depending on whether our profile has been read.you're so strict can you be that strict with me "

We can be strict, we can have a giggle, we can be pedantic...all depends on our mood or how much time we have....it's just a bit of fun after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As others have said....we have no problem with single males messaging, or anyone else for that matter, but the responses will vary depending on whether our profile has been read.you're so strict can you be that strict with me

We can be strict, we can have a giggle, we can be pedantic...all depends on our mood or how much time we have....it's just a bit of fun after all "
exactly its fun let's make it fun

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"As others have said....we have no problem with single males messaging, or anyone else for that matter, but the responses will vary depending on whether our profile has been read."

Yeah I know what you’re saying! Always read a profile and 90% of my messages are still ignored or deleted, so guess I’m just picking the wrong people aha

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"As others have said....we have no problem with single males messaging, or anyone else for that matter, but the responses will vary depending on whether our profile has been read.

Yeah I know what you’re saying! Always read a profile and 90% of my messages are still ignored or deleted, so guess I’m just picking the wrong people aha "

Or they're not picking you...

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"As others have said....we have no problem with single males messaging, or anyone else for that matter, but the responses will vary depending on whether our profile has been read.

Yeah I know what you’re saying! Always read a profile and 90% of my messages are still ignored or deleted, so guess I’m just picking the wrong people aha "

They. Do. Not. Want. To. Meet. You.

I’m not going to thank you for your advice on how I run my profile, I’m lucky, I get exceptional sex with exceptional men who get what this is all about.

Really, actually read what people are telling you, it will help you understand how this works.

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"As others have said....we have no problem with single males messaging, or anyone else for that matter, but the responses will vary depending on whether our profile has been read.

Yeah I know what you’re saying! Always read a profile and 90% of my messages are still ignored or deleted, so guess I’m just picking the wrong people aha

They. Do. Not. Want. To. Meet. You.

I’m not going to thank you for your advice on how I run my profile, I’m lucky, I get exceptional sex with exceptional men who get what this is all about.

Really, actually read what people are telling you, it will help you understand how this works. "

Perhaps the OP has an immense sense of entitlement. Or that he is right and everyone else is at fault.

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By *astRider600 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton


"As others have said....we have no problem with single males messaging, or anyone else for that matter, but the responses will vary depending on whether our profile has been read.

Yeah I know what you’re saying! Always read a profile and 90% of my messages are still ignored or deleted, so guess I’m just picking the wrong people aha

They. Do. Not. Want. To. Meet. You.

I’m not going to thank you for your advice on how I run my profile, I’m lucky, I get exceptional sex with exceptional men who get what this is all about.

Really, actually read what people are telling you, it will help you understand how this works. "

I understand they don’t want to meet me, that’s why I never double message/pester anyone I contact! How you run your profile is entirely up too you! Wasn’t meant to come across as me telling you what to do! Just a suggestion to your statement about getting a lot of messages from males! And frankly, it’s gone stlightly off topic! I do not consider myself entitled nor right, completely the opposite tbh! I have accepted what others have said and continued to try and explain what I meant! But no matter what I say, I’m getting myself in trouble! Once again, that was not my intention! I apologise if you ended up taking whatever I said as an attack! But no need to get so rude! Was just a conversation! And by fuck, I’m still learning my feet in here!

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"I can appreciate what you’re saying regarding them not reading your profile but even when we do, we don’t necessarily even get a “no ty” kinda reply! It takes a lot of time to read and then portray a message that might interest them to just get no response like we are shit on a shoe! The couples and females I have messaged can also be rather rude considering they’re the ones who fuck themselves over lol j

Fuck themselves over?

Purely aimed at the ones who put they’re seeking single males but apparently aren’t! Probably wasn’t best choice of words lol"

You do realise that just because a profile is looking to meet a single guy it doesn't necessarily mean they want any guy within their age range with a cock and a pulse.

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rushden Lakes

When I was a single Twat (without moobs Topsy) I never minded zero response. It taught me to focus my efforts, write messages that referred to the profile or status, and not to get offended by rejection. That’s mainly because (on another site a long time ago) I put up a woman’s profile to see what I was up against. Whilst I am NOT suggesting (dear mods) that anybody does this on fab, it taught me that any first message needs to stand out from the crowd. It rather opened my eyes to what single women experienced. Btw I never replied to any messages from men...at all...that would have been unfair.

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