FabSwingers.com forum: Sex with someone you DIDN’T fancy?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We always hear people on here saying that unless there’s an attraction or connection they won’t just sleep with anyone.

This thread though is for those that, for whatever reason, have.

Why did you do it? Perhaps your other half wanted to so you took one for the team? Perhaps you’d been looking forward to the meet for a while and although they looked nothing like the pictures you thought ‘ah fuck it’ and shagged them anyway?

Did you regret it after? Would you do it ever again?

I expect most people will say they’d never do that, but there must some tales of times that some of us did?

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

My first meet on fab. I was totally winging it and hadn’t discovered the forums so wasn’t aware of the importance of socials. Been talking to a guy for a bit and he seemed nice and normal and cute. Arranged for him to come to my house (I know!) as he was coming from out of town. He was nice enough but I was incredibly nervous and didn’t really fancy him but thought he’d come all this way, I felt like I should just do it. He was rubbish and didn’t seem to notice that I wasn’t enjoying it. He had obviously been watching too much porn and was trying to be sexy and throw me about a bit and act rough and he even bit me. I tried to enjoy it but it was almost laughable. Thankfully the next meet I had was with an amazing guy who told me about the forums and warned me about not doing socials. Shame I didn’t meet him first. You live and learn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have

I fealt like shit after

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I tried my best... luckily the fact that I didn't fancy them made it... errrrmmmm... not possible if ya know what I mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I took one for the team. He was clearly doing the same. It was horrible. Never again. Our partners loved it though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every now and then I'll get chatting with someone who isn't really my type and I don't fancy them that much, but the personality makes me want to give them a chance. So far it's actually led to some pretty good sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet where his pictures have clearly been taken a few years and a few lbs ago, as soon as I walked through the door he stuck his tongue down my throat, I kind of felt obligated so just let him do his thing then left afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every now and then I'll get chatting with someone who isn't really my type and I don't fancy them that much, but the personality makes me want to give them a chance. So far it's actually led to some pretty good sex!

Theres hope for us all

Were saved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time I have a wank. It’s a shitty job but someone has to do it.

Sex with someone else I didn’t fancy I can only dream of

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I think that's why a lot of women in here appear to be so fussy - you make a couple of mistakes and then try really hard to avoid ever doing it again!! Sometimes everything seems right...... until they touch you.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

My ex finished with me so months later when she was regretting it I fucked her just to lead her on.

The current gf had finished with me yet again for the 12th time so technically I was on a break but it was to get at her too.

I no longer fancied the first ex at this point.

Didn't feel amazing but it was better than a one night stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I took one for the team. He was clearly doing the same. It was horrible. Never again. Our partners loved it though."

As a guy and as a couple, I've been on the receiving end of this.

Usually the lady has gone bi for the night to take one for the team..for a true bi lady, they can tell that you're not really into it.

Same goes for ladies that accept an mmf when they aren't really up for it..you can tell and the sex is very mediocre.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t meet him through fab but I met a guy, I went to his house on the coast, stupid of me really, absolutely no one knew where I was, needless to say it didn’t end well, I still didn’t learn and still went to men’s houses, thankfully that was the only time that anything like that had ever happened to me but it scared me for a while.

Geeky x

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

As a couple... we have been in that situation very early on in our swinging adventures, it’s hard to please 4 people, someone always isn’t quite sure they fancy the others partner. We don’t have sex with couples now unless all the stars are aligned, it’s awful having to “take one for the team”.... so now we don’t, whats the point?!

We generally have MMF fun, as there is only really me

and the Male to please, hubby is happy if I’m happy! Lol

We did meet someone spare of the moment once, never again! He arrived 10 years older than the pic he sent, which was fine till we all got undressed and he had very small equipment, I had to fake nerves and say goodbye to him.... never ever do that again!!!

I always insist on a social, the kiss is very important to me, and you know if they kiss you how you needn’t to be kissed the sex will be amazing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, a friend of a friend, it seemed too good to resist at the time, totally unattracted to her per se, it was more to do with how she was dressed and what was underneath. And that is what got me into having sex with her.

Next morning we were both quite embarrassed, because I wasn't really her type either, she hadn't had sex in ages and it all just came together that one night.

Needless to say we couldn't look each other in the eye or mumble more than a couple of words to each other when our paths crossed, such was the level of our embarrassment.

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By *anejohnkent6263Couple
over a year ago

canterbury

Yes she got the hunk ...i got the bad deal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I much younger and had crap self esteem then yes I did. But in terms of fab meets then no, unless there is definite fanciage on both sides then it just aint happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why would you fuck someone you don't fancy lol that seems bizarre

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago with my ex boyfriend he always wanted to watch guys fuck me and as soon as they are done they would leave and then he would continue fucking me. So twice we had a mmf(if you can even call it an mmf) we both choose the and even tho they were fit they didn't turn me on tbh. But I did it to make me as happy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why would you fuck someone you don't fancy lol that seems bizarre "

To please others? To “take one for the team”? Too afraid to tell them you don’t like them? Desperate for a shag (any holes a goal)?

Who knows!? That’s the point of the thread!

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Its Never happened.

Ive Onley had 2 social,s on hear soon to be 4

Never had sex eather for that matter but that's a different thread

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Once, a long time ago

Never will I allow myself to feel so shit ever again

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Ealing way

A few years ago, I'd arranged a meet, but when I arrived at her home, she just didn't do it for me. She expected more than a social and I would have felt heel as she wasn't a bad person. So I did and frankly that was worse.

I felt grim and I'm pretty sure she knew my heart wasn't in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once. Someone travelled over 5 hours. I let them be inside me for a few seconds out of obligation of the effort they made. Never again.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

In the early days of Fabbing I once took one for the team (no-one coerced me) thinking I could handle it. WRONG - it was awful for me, even though I acted my socks off and the guy concerned wanted to see me again

I was shocked afterwards at the ferocity of self loathing and anger it provoked in me which took a long time to disappear and made me feel terrible. I did however learn a lesson and will never sell myself short again if I have even the slightest doubt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We always hear people on here saying that unless there’s an attraction or connection they won’t just sleep with anyone.

This thread though is for those that, for whatever reason, have.

Did you regret it after? Would you do it ever again?

I expect most people will say they’d never do that, but there must some tales of times that some of us did?

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no never couldn't do it how do you get hard if theirs no attraction ?

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By *oshmanukMan
over a year ago

Bexley

I did once and that was enough, the only good thing to come out of that was we broke the bed! But I learnt a lesson and just before Christmas I bailed on having sex with somebody because no matter how hard she was trying, I just didn't fancy her. Don't get me wrong, I'm in no position to be picky and choosy, I'm an average Joe, but we were in a pub and planning on going back to hers, but after 2 drinks I thought this is what would be known as a courtesy shag, and I'm not sure I want to go there.

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By *axandbooCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We did it once! It was more of a pity thing on the person at a club

Things got a lil out of hand to the point words were exchanged and basically told stop and walk out or get carried out on a stretcher... He took the hint

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

"I think that's why a lot of women in here appear to be so fussy - you make a couple of mistakes and then try really hard to avoid ever doing it again!! Sometimes everything seems right...... until they touch you.

yup, only done it once for the 'team', never again, this is why I am so fussy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's just say there's a reason i dont drink anymore..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did once and that was enough, the only good thing to come out of that was we broke the bed! But I learnt a lesson and just before Christmas I bailed on having sex with somebody because no matter how hard she was trying, I just didn't fancy her. Don't get me wrong, I'm in no position to be picky and choosy, I'm an average Joe, but we were in a pub and planning on going back to hers, but after 2 drinks I thought this is what would be known as a courtesy shag, and I'm not sure I want to go there. "

A courtesy shag. I like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every time I have a wank. It’s a shitty job but someone has to do it.

Sex with someone else I didn’t fancy I can only dream of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A courtesy shag. I like that

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really ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I took one for the team. He was clearly doing the same. It was horrible. Never again. Our partners loved it though.

As a guy and as a couple, I've been on the receiving end of this.

Usually the lady has gone bi for the night to take one for the team..for a true bi lady, they can tell that you're not really into it.

Same goes for ladies that accept an mmf when they aren't really up for it..you can tell and the sex is very mediocre.

I forgot about all the women I've met that clearly were just doing it for the man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never took 1 for the team, once met a couple that looked nothing like their pics on the profile so chatted for a bit then made our excuses and left! Wasn’t what it said on the tin and were chavy

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

Lots of times in a club open room group scenario.... people id never be attracted to have joined the group and on many occassions ive been pleasantly suprised.

Ive never seen it as taking one for the team and feel no sense of shame for allowing it to happen. Once in the moment its felt ok, good even.

Its not that im not fussy, i am, but in that group fun position its really not been so bad.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I left my husband in 2003 but we hadn't shared a bedroom in two years at that point.

I discovered internet dating and travelled to meet a man in Tewkesbury. I didn't tell anyone where I was going, never met him before (I know, I know

...madness).

He met me at the station, a really nice guy: I just didn't fancy him. He showed me around the area, he'd told his parents and kids about me

which I found weird and we had dinner with them.

Perhaps he was making sure his family knew who he was taking into his home so he had more sense than I!

He was a really kind, generous and giving person and lover...I just didn't fancy him.

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By *igJandTheBlondeCouple
over a year ago

Kings Hill

For me, as a guy, it’s virtually impossible to do the deed without an attraction. Fingers and tongue always work but not so much the cock.

We learned early on how to communicate about not taking one for the team. We’ve never been offended or regretted anything we’ve done but we could have been clearer so now we make sure we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had sex with a guy and even though I kinda fancied him, the sex was just awful. His smell, his thick load all over me and his manky feet literally made me want to puke. I scrubbed myself for days.

Oh god, this is why I'm struggling at the moment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I guess as the OP I should add my contribution!

As a young ‘un I visited a friend at his university in Exeter. He had been going through a bit of a barren spell with the ladies so when he caught the eye of an average looking lass on a night out I agreed to be ‘wing man’ and keep her mate occupied while he chatted up this lady.

To cut a long story short, he pulled so we all had to go back to the girls’ student digs together.

I was in a city I didn’t know, had no idea where I was or how to get back to my mates place, so ended up spending the night with this young lady, her room was a tip, she wasn’t my type at all, had a bit of a fumble which she seemed to enjoy, and had to lie there next to her as she snored all night long afterwards.

It was a terrible experience and definitely a life lesson for me that no sex is better than bad sex!

Still, my mate was glad to break his duck so it was definitely a case of taking one for the team for me.

That was years ago, since then I think I’ve mainly been the one people regret sleeping with rather than the other way around!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have, it is just a shag, not a marriage lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I have, many years ago in clubs, can’t say I’ve really thought about it too much after tho.

Haven’t done it in a long time as I know what I like and don’t these days.

MrsK x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only once when I was 20, only the third time I had sex. I did it to make someone else jealous and it worked rather well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This completely. Sometimes someone's personality is so engaging, that even though I haven't found them physically attractive, it has led to a really great time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had sex with a guy and even though I kinda fancied him, the sex was just awful. His smell, his thick load all over me and his manky feet literally made me want to puke. I scrubbed myself for days.

Oh god, this is why I'm struggling at the moment

dear me this is putting me off sex!

I guess it's down to moods and being hinest no matter how horny you feel? I'm not sure I could if I didn't fancy them regardless of what I felt.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I had sex with a guy and even though I kinda fancied him, the sex was just awful. His smell, his thick load all over me and his manky feet literally made me want to puke. I scrubbed myself for days.

Oh god, this is why I'm struggling at the moment

Shame!!

Sadly, as I said, even if you DO fancy someone, the sex can still turn out to be rubbish, you might even be half way through before you think 'Never again!'.

I'm afraid that's why new guys have to work quite hard to get me anywhere near a bed, I'm trying really hard to make sure we are truly compatible.

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By *othrockercplCouple
over a year ago

Halloween Town

So, one year I (Mr GR) was at Donnington monsters of rock, it was during the Fear of the dark tour.

Moshing away like your average metaller d*unk on Newcastle brown, tnt cider and what every else we'd crammed into the cars for the trip.

Some totally random chick grabs me, we suck face for a while and spend the next day and a half either screwing or out moshing.

We exchanged names once, didn't know each other and never saw each other again after that.

We both seemed to have enjoyed ourselves greatly.

/shrug

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