FabSwingers.com forum: So..is it a "lifestyle" or need fulfilment ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Often read on here how folks refer to this swingy thingy as " the lifestyle " Is it something adapted and incorporated into their mainstream existence or is it deeper than that ? Or..is it just a means toward sexual gratification?

Im being serious for once , just want to gauge how some folk have let all this impact upon their day to day lives. No disrespect is intended as i know a lot of you take this side of your personality very seriously, im just curious as to how you see all this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it's just something we fancy now and again. Like taking a notion for a chippy x

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

It's better than a wank I suppose

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would say it's just something we fancy now and again. Like taking a notion for a chippy x"

Im assuming you mean the food not a carpenter? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would say it's just something we fancy now and again. Like taking a notion for a chippy x

Im assuming you mean the food not a carpenter? Lol

Yeah fish n chips lol x

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

Well for us we consider it a lifestyle on where we as a couple share our partners and socialize with other people with similar sexual intrests .

I get confused when single people think of it as a lifestyle because they aren't swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not a lifestyle for us but something we can get a benefit from when we want it, we would never define ourselves as swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it’s a lifestyle for myself and my partner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Purely needs only for me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's presently a lifestyle.

Our nights out are now purely for swinging, people we speak to on a daily basis are swingers and it's something we talk about on a daily basis.

Whether that changes when we're not as new to it all couldn't say, but right now it's a big part of our lives, and any free time we get revolves around swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well for us we consider it a lifestyle on where we as a couple share our partners and socialize with other people with similar sexual intrests .

I get confused when single people think of it as a lifestyle because they aren't swingers."

Would you say the singles detract from the experience of the site or add a bit of colour ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Neither of us consider it a lifestyle. It doesn't influence the way we live or how we spend our days, it doesn't have any effect on our day to day life at all. Our income, attitudes to life, daily activities,opinions and where we live are our lifestyle.

For us its fantasy fulfilment.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Well for us we consider it a lifestyle on where we as a couple share our partners and socialize with other people with similar sexual intrests .

I get confused when single people think of it as a lifestyle because they aren't swingers."

If single people aren't swingers then why do you meet them?

As a single lady I have no difficulty in finding a fuck.

What I actually prefer is meeting and socialising with other people who have similar sexual interests.

That is exactly what you say you enjoy but just because I don't have a partner I'm not a swinger?

I'm sure all those singles who have left verifications for you will be delighted to hear what you think about them

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

"Well for us we consider it a lifestyle on where we as a couple share our partners and socialize with other people with similar sexual intrests .

I get confused when single people think of it as a lifestyle because they aren't swingers.

Would you say the singles detract from the experience of the site or add a bit of colour ?"

We enjoy 3somes so we won't ever say singles shouldn't be on here but the site has been invaded by them over the years and probably more single people on here than couples now.

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

"If single people aren't swingers then why do you meet them?

As a single lady I have no difficulty in finding a fuck.

What I actually prefer is meeting and socialising with other people who have similar sexual interests.

That is exactly what you say you enjoy but just because I don't have a partner I'm not a swinger?

I'm sure all those singles who have left verifications for you will be delighted to hear what you think about them

Correct. In my opinion your not a swinger.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think OP that you’re going to get every gamete of explanation here because it’s such a broad spectrum of needs/fulfilment/fantasy/desires.

Personally it fits into my life plan at the moment. I am not looking for a conventional relationship. I really can’t be arsed with being tied to someone 24/7. However I do enjoy socialising and love the company of men...... I’m 52 and I still enjoy sex. Why would I deprive myself of these things when I can meet people of the same mindset here.

Sex encompasses so many facets from simply vanilla to outright debauchery..... all of it acceptable and enjoyable by consenting adults. This sight allows a collective to seek out their own matches.

Without sites like these how do you find your release? Your playmates? It’s merely a tool.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We enjoy 3somes so we won't ever say singles shouldn't be on here but the site has been invaded by them over the years and probably more single people on here than couples now.

All sites that are gear towards people meeting are “invaded” by all mindsets eventually because by sheer nature we are opportunistic. You would not believe the number of times I’ve been propositioned on the first message from guys on conventional dating sites....... bugger who’d a thought eh?

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

"All sites that are gear towards people meeting are “invaded” by all mindsets eventually because by sheer nature we are opportunistic. You would not believe the number of times I’ve been propositioned on the first message from guys on conventional dating sites....... bugger who’d a thought eh?"

Yes I agree with what you are saying. Fab being a free site also encourages a wider spectrum of users and as I said before I'm happy that single people are on here. Some of our best meets have been with single people.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"If single people aren't swingers then why do you meet them?

As a single lady I have no difficulty in finding a fuck.

What I actually prefer is meeting and socialising with other people who have similar sexual interests.

That is exactly what you say you enjoy but just because I don't have a partner I'm not a swinger?

I'm sure all those singles who have left verifications for you will be delighted to hear what you think about them

Correct. In my opinion your not a swinger.

So why do you meet so many singles then?

Surely as "swingers" you would only want to meet other swingers.

And what would you call us singles? Unpaid prostitutes?

I'm also curious about your opinions on other people who are in different situations.

What about couples who met on fab when they were both here as singles. I know quite a few people who are now married after meeting on fab. They still go to the same swingers clubs and parties and still have the same circle of friends etc. The only thing that has changed is they now have a piece of paper that says they are married. Would I be right to assume (in your thinking anyway) that before the wedding they weren't swingers but now they are just because they said "I do"?

What is your opinion on same gender couples?

Are they allowed to be called swingers because there are two of them or are they to be considered in the same way as singles because they aren't of opposite genders.

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By *is vixen at playCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

We see it sort of as a hobby. We both enjoy V having sex with others and this is the best format for that out with clubs which we occasionally go to. I may sometimes play but mostly it's about Vs fun, its a thrill when she fucks another guy. So it part of our lifestyle but one we could both leave tomorrow and leave behind. G

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Social fun night out, making sexy new friends. It's a weekend fun thing for us, it's so exciting. Being with like minded people is awesome xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes I agree with what you are saying. Fab being a free site also encourages a wider spectrum of users and as I said before I'm happy that single people are on here. Some of our best meets have been with single people."

Thank you

......... not wanting to be difficult here! You’d be surprised what people would pay if they thought sex was guaranteed, but yes agreed, it’s an easy site to manipulate and achieve your objective. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im mainy here now to have fun on the forum with the odd meet up thrown in there not all that arsed chasing sex like a randy dog

Anymore the forums enough for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is different has different reasons for being here and different expectations...

There are never going to be easy answers and neat boxes to fit people into...

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

"So why do you meet so many singles then?

Surely as "swingers" you would only want to meet other swingers.

And what would you call us singles? Unpaid prostitutes?

I'm also curious about your opinions on other people who are in different situations.

What is your opinion on same gender couples?

Are they allowed to be called swingers because there are two of them or are they to be considered in the same way as singles because they aren't of opposite genders."

Why cant we meet singles??? Just because we only consider swingers as being couples only doesnt mean we dont want or like meeting singles.

Unpaid prostitutes? What the hell are you talking about????

For us swinging is about the swapping partners. And all the emotions that are involved in doing so. If people are not in a relationship then they cant swap partners can they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If single people aren't swingers then why do you meet them?

As a single lady I have no difficulty in finding a fuck.

What I actually prefer is meeting and socialising with other people who have similar sexual interests.

That is exactly what you say you enjoy but just because I don't have a partner I'm not a swinger?

I'm sure all those singles who have left verifications for you will be delighted to hear what you think about them

Correct. In my opinion your not a swinger.

So why do you meet so many singles then?

Surely as "swingers" you would only want to meet other swingers.

And what would you call us singles? Unpaid prostitutes?

I'm also curious about your opinions on other people who are in different situations.

What is your opinion on same gender couples?

Are they allowed to be called swingers because there are two of them or are they to be considered in the same way as singles because they aren't of opposite genders."

I don’t think that was what was being intimated. Historically the term “swingers” was couples swapping partners with other couples. The site was probably started up with that sole purpose in mind. However as everything does..... it evolves and changes. The definition of swingers is as.....

informal

a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.

"one of the oldest swingers in town"

informal

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

"a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping"

By definition what was a preconceived idea by the general media is blown out of the water by definition. A person singular.......

Because we singletons have joined the site en mass....... to find a channel to meet our own needs, this couple have found another enjoyable dimension to their own desires.

I think you’re argument it rather inflammatory in its wording, maybe not in intent.

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

informal

a lively and fashionable person who goes to a lot of social events.

"one of the oldest swingers in town"

informal

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners.

"a twilight world of swingers and wife-swapping"

By definition what was a preconceived idea by the general media is blown out of the water by definition. A person singular.......

Because we singletons have joined the site en mass....... to find a channel to meet our own needs, this couple have found another enjoyable dimension to their own desires.

I think you’re argument it rather inflammatory in its wording, maybe not in intent.

Pretty much this. Thank you!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A big thanks to everyone so far

My my..you are an interesting bunch on here.

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