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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well like alot on here we message but with little reply.. now im no tom cruise or brad pit i know so that just leads me to is it how i.word things?

So im asking for a little help!! Is there any females who could help? Maybe let me.message them and get their verdict??

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics

Start off by reading their profile and then if you'll suit what they are looking for and you feel that you might have enough in common, send them a message and structured around that.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Thing is OP it's not just about the content of the message, although that is of course important, a lot of users will look at your profile before even considering opening a message so you need to consider the whole package and make sure your profile is up to scratch too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing is OP it's not just about the content of the message, although that is of course important, a lot of users will look at your profile before even considering opening a message so you need to consider the whole package and make sure your profile is up to scratch too

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Inclined to agree with this comment. It's not all about the message, I always check out a profile before reading a message, profile/pics need to be interesting, clear and well taken/written.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there's any rhyme or reason to it. You'll either catch someone's eye or not. Just don't sound needy or desperate or angry is the best I can offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear Hotstuff

You make my crotch sing. Fancy a meet?

Sincerely Yours

(Insert relevant username)

It's yet to work for me but i'm nothing if not persistent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its more knowing wat not to put ...fancy fuck...can we meet....I'm in a hotel...here's pic my cock..etc..etc..etc Zzzzz

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

Hi op!

I tend to put my efforts into my profile rather than messaging as such.

It’s your free advertising space where you can market yourself effectively to your intended audience - and yet most people put a couple of nondescript pictures and a few lines of crappy text!

Take time to create the best pictures and profile text you can - then your messages only need to be brief - essentially to declare an interest and let them decide whether you’re for them!

I occasionally message single males. I simply ask that they take a look at my profile and get in touch if they’re interested! That’s who I have face pics on show - no need to keep adding pics to the message - though if my face pics are hidden I add one or two recent ones to the message!

Hope that helps op! X

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"Thing is OP it's not just about the content of the message, although that is of course important, a lot of users will look at your profile before even considering opening a message so you need to consider the whole package and make sure your profile is up to scratch too

Inclined to agree with this comment. It's not all about the message, I always check out a profile before reading a message, profile/pics need to be interesting, clear and well taken/written.

Poppy "

This

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

‘Fancy a fuck?’, ‘Wanna suck my cock?’, ‘I want to bone you!’ - all perfectly good messages as long as a note of, ‘I’ll treat you with respect’ is added as an afterthought

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Dear Hotstuff

You make my crotch sing. Fancy a meet?

Sincerely Yours

(Insert relevant username)

It's yet to work for me but i'm nothing if not persistent "

Why did my brain immediately start singing "You make my crotch sing" to the tune of Wild Thing!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dear Hotstuff

You make my crotch sing. Fancy a meet?

Sincerely Yours

(Insert relevant username)

It's yet to work for me but i'm nothing if not persistent "

Really!?

I found myself replying automatically, before remembering it was just a forum post and not actually addressed to me personally!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dear Hotstuff

You make my crotch sing. Fancy a meet?

Sincerely Yours

(Insert relevant username)

It's yet to work for me but i'm nothing if not persistent

Why did my brain immediately start singing "You make my crotch sing" to the tune of Wild Thing!! "

If only we could add music to our messages! That would definately work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dear Hotstuff

You make my crotch sing. Fancy a meet?

Sincerely Yours

(Insert relevant username)

It's yet to work for me but i'm nothing if not persistent

Really!?

I found myself replying automatically, before remembering it was just a forum post and not actually addressed to me personally!?! "

was it a "no thanks!! jog on missy" reply? No don't tell me, i don't handle rejection well!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi op!

I tend to put my efforts into my profile rather than messaging as such.

It’s your free advertising space where you can market yourself effectively to your intended audience - and yet most people put a couple of nondescript pictures and a few lines of crappy text!

Take time to create the best pictures and profile text you can - then your messages only need to be brief - essentially to declare an interest and let them decide whether you’re for them!

I occasionally message single males. I simply ask that they take a look at my profile and get in touch if they’re interested! That’s who I have face pics on show - no need to keep adding pics to the message - though if my face pics are hidden I add one or two recent ones to the message!

Hope that helps op! X"

That would only work for the ladies on here. If a single male sent that message, they would be instantly blocked for not being imaginative enough...

Your profile pic alone would get you responses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dear Hotstuff

You make my crotch sing. Fancy a meet?

Sincerely Yours

(Insert relevant username)

It's yet to work for me but i'm nothing if not persistent

Really!?

I found myself replying automatically, before remembering it was just a forum post and not actually addressed to me personally!?!

was it a "no thanks!! jog on missy" reply? No don't tell me, i don't handle rejection well!! "

OMG! It's like you're psychic!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dear Hotstuff

You make my crotch sing. Fancy a meet?

Sincerely Yours

(Insert relevant username)

It's yet to work for me but i'm nothing if not persistent

Why did my brain immediately start singing "You make my crotch sing" to the tune of Wild Thing!! "

Yeah, I did that too. Then I just started thinking about singing genitalia. I'm not sure I could turn that down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dear Hotstuff

You make my crotch sing. Fancy a meet?

Sincerely Yours

(Insert relevant username)

It's yet to work for me but i'm nothing if not persistent

Really!?

I found myself replying automatically, before remembering it was just a forum post and not actually addressed to me personally!?!

was it a "no thanks!! jog on missy" reply? No don't tell me, i don't handle rejection well!!

OMG! It's like you're psychic!!! "

I knew you'd say that

i'll get my coat...let me just pick up my shattered self esteem first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dear Hotstuff

You make my crotch sing. Fancy a meet?

Sincerely Yours

(Insert relevant username)

It's yet to work for me but i'm nothing if not persistent

Really!?

I found myself replying automatically, before remembering it was just a forum post and not actually addressed to me personally!?!

was it a "no thanks!! jog on missy" reply? No don't tell me, i don't handle rejection well!!

OMG! It's like you're psychic!!!

I knew you'd say that

i'll get my coat...let me just pick up my shattered self esteem first "

can you pick mine up too please, I found that funny haha!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't think there's any rhyme or reason to it. You'll either catch someone's eye or not. Just don't sound needy or desperate or angry is the best I can offer. "

Well i have to say im non of what you say im a reapectful guy who just want to.meet new friends who think alike.. ohh and lady thats a lovely bum!!

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