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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly this place is rife with male and female time wasters but there are some genuine ones too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you said something that put them off.,

Maybe they aren’t really female.

Just let it go and move on. Never let Fab get to you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sad in it, we are only here to have fun. These people should stick to pof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sad in it, we are only here to have fun. These people should stick to pof "

I would say, having been on both, it’s as bad there, if not worse.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No you ask them if everything is alright, have I said anything out of turn to offend you. And you get back no everything is fine I like you etc etc just time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you get messages from women!?

you don’t know how lucky you are just for that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hard work mate in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does that make them a time waster?

As far as fab is concerned, my only definition of a time waster is someone who arranges to meet with you, then fails to show up.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Been here eight years and yet to encounter a time waster, you've been here two weeks and already starting a thread about time wasters.

May I ask what your expectations were when joining. Did you perchance think this site would be like a takeaway: quick scan of the menu, phone call to place your order and before you could say abracadabra a hottie would appear and you'd be balls deep?

The reality is there are thousands of fit as fuck single men, with engaging profiles to choose from. They also know the pace can't be rushed. It can happen, but ladies seldom "meet now".

If you're looking for a "I'm in your area...how about it as my cock won't suck itself" type hook up, then perhaps this isn't the site for you.

Whatever you decide, lose the sense of entitlement.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You’re not getting me. What I’m saying is chat goes really well. Pictures exchanged etc. Then all goes cold. You message back to see if everything is ok..... it’s yeah yeah I like you can’t wait to meet etc.... all goes quiet again. I don’t mind rejection I know what it’s all about. Just seem to think some women on here create themselves reserve lists that’s all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’re not getting me. What I’m saying is chat goes really well. Pictures exchanged etc. Then all goes cold. You message back to see if everything is ok..... it’s yeah yeah I like you can’t wait to meet etc.... all goes quiet again. I don’t mind rejection I know what it’s all about. Just seem to think some women on here create themselves reserve lists that’s all"

That still doesn't make them timewasters.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"You’re not getting me. What I’m saying is chat goes really well. Pictures exchanged etc. Then all goes cold. You message back to see if everything is ok..... it’s yeah yeah I like you can’t wait to meet etc.... all goes quiet again. I don’t mind rejection I know what it’s all about. Just seem to think some women on here create themselves reserve lists that’s all"

Now you see, your definition of time waster differs to mine.

Chat, exchange pictures etc messages dry up: not time waster.

Arrange to meet, turn up and other party doesn't show: timewaster.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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In between the messages you have sent she has probably been sent 10/20 messages and she might be chatting to some of them, Being kept in reserve might be one way of saying it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’re not getting me. What I’m saying is chat goes really well. Pictures exchanged etc. Then all goes cold. You message back to see if everything is ok..... it’s yeah yeah I like you can’t wait to meet etc.... all goes quiet again. I don’t mind rejection I know what it’s all about. Just seem to think some women on here create themselves reserve lists that’s all"

Maybe they're too busy to meet as soon as you've swapped pictures. In the past I've done that with guys and then once I know I have an evening free I'll drop them a message and make a plan. No point chatting constantly with someone if it's going to be a while before I can meet.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

She could be a he - that happens a lot on here.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"You’re not getting me. What I’m saying is chat goes really well. Pictures exchanged etc. Then all goes cold. You message back to see if everything is ok..... it’s yeah yeah I like you can’t wait to meet etc.... all goes quiet again. I don’t mind rejection I know what it’s all about. Just seem to think some women on here create themselves reserve lists that’s all

Maybe they're too busy to meet as soon as you've swapped pictures. In the past I've done that with guys and then once I know I have an evening free I'll drop them a message and make a plan. No point chatting constantly with someone if it's going to be a while before I can meet. "

Bloody single women again

News flash OP. It’s a swinging site. Are you offended that women won’t exclusively talk to you?

For us we get little time to play and often short notice. In beteeen we keep in touch with many people. I add them to our hotlist or friends list for when both parties are free.

Out of interest if said lady you’re discussing wanted to move the conversation onto a meet, I assume by your moan that whatever day and time she suggested you’d be free?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’re not getting me. What I’m saying is chat goes really well. Pictures exchanged etc. Then all goes cold. You message back to see if everything is ok..... it’s yeah yeah I like you can’t wait to meet etc.... all goes quiet again. I don’t mind rejection I know what it’s all about. Just seem to think some women on here create themselves reserve lists that’s all"

It's ghosting. Maybe reserve lists. Ask for a definite meet and if they won't sort one you can move on to someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????"

Don't worry mate that's all I get the same old story the most selfish people in the world on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks mate frustrating in it.

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Thanks mate frustrating in it. "

maybe they are busy with real life!

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By *ryme101Man
over a year ago

wiltshire

See my "Schoolboy error" thread.

It happens, you need to roll with it, stat positive as the person you do get to meet will have a good connection with you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"See my "Schoolboy error" thread.

It happens, you need to roll with it, stat positive as the person you do get to meet will have a good connection with you!"

Thanks fella

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks mate frustrating in it.

maybe they are busy with real life!"

Maybe they are,, can just say that though can’t they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????"

Oh my goodness...some women message you...? You are one lucky man...I never get messages from women...and you have only been here for a very short while...If I was you I would count my blessings and hopefully one or two will lead to a meet. But ranting on here about the ladies having a reserve list will not help your cause. FAB to most on here is a small snip of their life as a whole, the more poeple rant about others the less enjoyable this place becomes. Negativity creates negativity...OP create some love and pass it on...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????

Oh my goodness...some women message you...? You are one lucky man...I never get messages from women...and you have only been here for a very short while...If I was you I would count my blessings and hopefully one or two will lead to a meet. But ranting on here about the ladies having a reserve list will not help your cause. FAB to most on here is a small snip of their life as a whole, the more poeple rant about others the less enjoyable this place becomes. Negativity creates negativity...OP create some love and pass it on... "

Alright chill.... I have realised my error

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably were talking to a few and decided to meet someone else. Or maybe if you appeared pushy that put them off.

And for the record there are just as many guys time wasting , probably the married or cheating type so guess it’s just what happens on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks mate frustrating in it. "

It does my swede every day,just pointless bullocks,it's getting to the stage where I feel like I don't even want to message anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks mate frustrating in it.

It does my swede every day,just pointless bullocks,it's getting to the stage where I feel like I don't even want to message anyone."

Me too when my subscription runs out I’m probably off here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks mate frustrating in it.

It does my swede every day,just pointless bullocks,it's getting to the stage where I feel like I don't even want to message anyone.

Me too when my subscription runs out I’m probably off here. "

We're better off spending our subscription money on beer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I’m always chatting to several men. It’s just the nature of the site, the ratio of men to women guarantees that.

I’d not thought of it as time wasting, more trying to make sure that if we meet it will be a great experience for both of us. I don’t meet everyone I chat to. I guess reading your post I can see your side too though. Have patience, and when you do meet it should be memorable for the right reasons x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Your witty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly, I’m always chatting to several men. It’s just the nature of the site, the ratio of men to women guarantees that.

I’d not thought of it as time wasting, more trying to make sure that if we meet it will be a great experience for both of us. I don’t meet everyone I chat to. I guess reading your post I can see your side too though. Have patience, and when you do meet it should be memorable for the right reasons x "

Tell that to the ones you just stop talking for no reason they may have a different opinion?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Honestly, I’m always chatting to several men. It’s just the nature of the site, the ratio of men to women guarantees that.

I’d not thought of it as time wasting, more trying to make sure that if we meet it will be a great experience for both of us. I don’t meet everyone I chat to. I guess reading your post I can see your side too though. Have patience, and when you do meet it should be memorable for the right reasons x "

Thanks pandora it’s nice to get a understanding response. Thank you very much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was chatting to a guy on here and they kept messaging to see if I still liked them, I would find it a bit pushy and off putting...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Your witty"

Witty Kitty..... hmmmm I like it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I was chatting to a guy on here and they kept messaging to see if I still liked them, I would find it a bit pushy and off putting..."

Good advice, thanks

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


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Your witty

Witty Kitty..... hmmmm I like it "

witty woo!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell that to the ones you just stop talking for no reason they may have a different opinion? "

Exactly my point. I hadn't thought about this until OP mentioned it. I have been guilty of stopping conversations when I'm overwhelmed with messages. I'll try to do better in future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????

Don't worry mate that's all I get the same old story the most selfish people in the world on here "

Can you substantiate this big claim?

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????

Don't worry mate that's all I get the same old story the most selfish people in the world on here

Can you substantiate this big claim?"

he paid his fiver, never got a meet so that makes it the worst site ever

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By *oloandsaabWoman
over a year ago

Essex


"Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????

Don't worry mate that's all I get the same old story the most selfish people in the world on here "

that's got to be one of the worst lines I've read on here! jeez

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????

Don't worry mate that's all I get the same old story the most selfish people in the world on here

Can you substantiate this big claim?

he paid his fiver, never got a meet so that makes it the worst site ever"

Did I say worst site ever ? I think it’s alright to honest. Go back checking profiles out

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


"Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????

Don't worry mate that's all I get the same old story the most selfish people in the world on here

Can you substantiate this big claim?

he paid his fiver, never got a meet so that makes it the worst site ever

Did I say worst site ever ? I think it’s alright to honest. Go back checking profiles out"

wasn't referring to you!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????

Don't worry mate that's all I get the same old story the most selfish people in the world on here

Can you substantiate this big claim?

he paid his fiver, never got a meet so that makes it the worst site ever

Did I say worst site ever ? I think it’s alright to honest. Go back checking profiles out

wasn't referring to you! "

My sinserest apologies then, everyone else seems to be having a go, so my back was up. Sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some women on here message you, you have a decent chat, see pictures of each other both are happy. Then they seem to cool off with their messages. You ask them if they are still interested. They say yes definitely all that bull. Is it that they create a back up or reserve list ???? I don’t know I’m new to this ????

Don't worry mate that's all I get the same old story the most selfish people in the world on here

Can you substantiate this big claim?

he paid his fiver, never got a meet so that makes it the worst site ever

Did I say worst site ever ? I think it’s alright to honest. Go back checking profiles out

wasn't referring to you! "

My sinserest apologies then, everyone else seems to be having a go, so my back was up. Sorry

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's not about finding one person for immediate and permanent monogamy. So speak with many that may become a meet, all of which will seem really positive until something happens that means they are not.

The great potential meet may turn into something of zero interest and you will become yesterdays news. People have lives, family, jobs and other partners - stop egotistically assuming you deserve anything

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