FabSwingers.com forum: I know it’s in my head

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know what these forums can be like so would really appreciate the piss taking is limited!!

Ended up at the doctors recently and eventually confided that my manhood wasn’t performing like it should be.

I can wake up in the morning with a good hard on but when it comes down to the sexual side of things, I’ve been having a little trouble to maintain myself!

I DO know it’s in my head - trouble is I then feel a bit of a failure.... which then becomes a bit of a viscous circle.

Doctors have prescribed me the old blue pill for a month but even before trying it am concerned that it’s the downhill road.

Just reaching out for anyone that can give me an uplift or tell me to get a grip!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve done the right thing in seeking help.

A Doctor will be best placed to offer advice and hopefully the blue pill will help and also help the underlying psychological side too!

Fingers crossed my friend, keep seeking help if the initial prescription doesn’t help!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you taking any other medication?

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

You've gone to the doctor that's great.

Maybe your just feeling the pressure to perform and that's why it's in your head, relax and do loads of foreplay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was the same for a while. You’d be having sex and it would go a bit limp, then you start worrying about it so it goes even limper.

Not a lot you can do apart from get your head straight, easier said than done I know. But you’ll get there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he offered you any other advice about getting it out of your head?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am on taramusolin (spell check) for possible enlarged prostate.’

In the scrap heap pile I think

Nothing else though.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Get a grip

In all honesty, I think when you're with the right person, relaxed and comfortable and horny as hell, you'll be absolutely fine. And it's something that can happen to anyone at any time if they feel the pressure is on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you watch femdom porn at all? That can cause ED. It did with me anyway. Soon as I stopped watching it, it returned to normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to try to relax and switch you worries off... Which I know is easier said than done.

The more you overthink something, the worse it becomes... Believe me I know (on a different issue)

Try to relax and remember you get morning glory so it's not completely gone xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you been tested for diabetes, that could have a lot to do with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally understand your problem mate, some of the females I've been with ain't all that either, making it difficult to maintain an erection.

Just try and think of hotter women if this occurs again. Job done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally understand your problem mate, some of the females I've been with ain't all that either, making it difficult to maintain an erection.

Just try and think of hotter women if this occurs again. Job done. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You need to try to relax and switch you worries off... Which I know is easier said than done.

The more you overthink something, the worse it becomes... Believe me I know (on a different issue)

Try to relax and remember you get morning glory so it's not completely gone xxx "

Thankyou to all for replying. It actually means a lot.

Over thinking is a big part... I really don’t think it’s a physical thing...but as it’s happening more and more I need to clear this out of my head.

Maybe it’s a realisation of age..

But thankyou for sharing your thoughts x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am on taramusolin (spell check) for possible enlarged prostate.’

In the scrap heap pile I think

Nothing else though."

One of the possible side effects is reduced erection efficacy.

It certainly seems like using the blue pill for a bit may help you get over the psychological element and negate any effects the tamsulosin is having.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"Totally understand your problem mate, some of the females I've been with ain't all that either, making it difficult to maintain an erection.

Just try and think of hotter women if this occurs again. Job done. "

I'd make a quick exit if someone "ain't all that". Could never shag anyone I don't find attractive

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Hopefully the pills will help you keep going & that will in turn reduce any related ‘performance anxiety’ ... reduce the anxiety, and hopefully it’ll solve the problem

fingers crossed it’s that simple OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am on taramusolin (spell check) for possible enlarged prostate.’

In the scrap heap pile I think

Nothing else though."

Prostate medicine generally tends to have female hormones in which can change a mans sexual appetite also potentially the enlarged prostate itself can prevent fluid and blood flow to the penis thus making a full erection impossible.

You’ve done the right thing by seeking help. I would try the viagra you never know but you could definitely do with speaking to someone regarding the self esteem side of things. Hopefully you’ll find a partner who is more than understanding of these things.

Ps you don’t always need a hard cock to please a woman just saying... as a female sometimes my best orgasms are from foreplay. So get really into that and you never know little man might wake up on his own.

Good luck. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feel for you,my friend, as in the same situation but on Cialis daily instead.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"Totally understand your problem mate, some of the females I've been with ain't all that either, making it difficult to maintain an erection.

Just try and think of hotter women if this occurs again. Job done.

Gosh i hope none of those you have been with are reading this

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