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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Schadenfreude is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.

When did you last experience it? Come on, be honest, we won't judge!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time, it's called karma

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't recall ever having that pleasure. I don't usually feel joy about someone else's misfortunes. I believe this may be a flaw in my psyche.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every time Man Utd or Chelsea lose

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

It's quite natural to feel it when people who are antagonistic towards you are thwarted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's quite natural to feel it when people who are antagonistic towards you are thwarted! "

Wich one is you in that pic?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"It's quite natural to feel it when people who are antagonistic towards you are thwarted!

Wich one is you in that pic?"

The cutest

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

When that nasty racist troll got banned or whatever made him go away earlier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's quite natural to feel it when people who are antagonistic towards you are thwarted!

Wich one is you in that pic?

The cutest "

Of course it is,should have known

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't recall ever having that pleasure. I don't usually feel joy about someone else's misfortunes. I believe this may be a flaw in my psyche. "

Same. I don't think we are flawed though.

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Gore Vidal said: "whenever someone succceeds a little part of me dies ..."

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham


"Gore Vidal said: "whenever someone succceeds a little part of me dies ...""

But that's summat else of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Schadenfreude is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.

When did you last experience it? Come on, be honest, we won't judge! "

I'm too busy trying to recover from fucking up/ failing/ humiliating myself to notice anyone else's fuck ups. Or if I do notice something I'm usually thinking ohhh crap I did that but worse.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Last night when the totally inept waitress tipped a plate of poppadoms over one of the customers at another table.

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By *oncupiscentTonyMan
over a year ago

Kent

Saw a guide dog puppy pissing on a guys cane once

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I can't recall ever having that pleasure. I don't usually feel joy about someone else's misfortunes. I believe this may be a flaw in my psyche. "

That’s just what I was thinking... I’m a fucking disappointment!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Saw a guide dog puppy pissing on a guys cane once "

Oh crap I'm going to hell.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously, I’ve never felt any satisfaction in another’s misfortune even when it has happened to people who wronged me. I have felt a degree of compassion instead.

There was one ex close friend who really hurt me when I was a teenager. I was surprised that my emotional response was to feel compassion for him when I heard of the troubles he was having, rather than feeling smug.

I think I find it relatively easy to forgive even if I don’t forget.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What goes around is never more accurate in life...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't recall ever having that pleasure. I don't usually feel joy about someone else's misfortunes. I believe this may be a flaw in my psyche.

That’s just what I was thinking... I’m a fucking disappointment!! "

I look at people who bully and do bad stuff and feel sorry for them. They must have really shit lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What goes around is never more accurate in life..."

It doesn't though. Or, my husband would be having a really shit life with his new partner. He's having a wonderful time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What goes around is never more accurate in life...

It doesn't though. Or, my husband would be having a really shit life with his new partner. He's having a wonderful time. "

For now...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What goes around is never more accurate in life...

It doesn't though. Or, my husband would be having a really shit life with his new partner. He's having a wonderful time.

For now..."

Think it would have happened by now.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Schadenfreude is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.

When did you last experience it? Come on, be honest, we won't judge! "

Almost daily, if I'm honest; I receive so many video clips (in a Whats'app group) from all round the world, of people doing stupid things, and coming a cropper

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Schadenfreude is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.

When did you last experience it? Come on, be honest, we won't judge!

Almost daily, if I'm honest; I receive so many video clips (in a Whats'app group) from all round the world, of people doing stupid things, and coming a cropper "

I think that’s a different thing though... it’s human nature to laugh at people doing stupid things but I’d like to think I’ve never felt joy over someone else’s failures or humiliations... even if I don’t really like someone, I may consider it as serving them right but I’m not sure it would give me any joy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What goes around is never more accurate in life...

It doesn't though. Or, my husband would be having a really shit life with his new partner. He's having a wonderful time.

For now...

Think it would have happened by now. "

Oh it will happen..

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Schadenfreude is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.

When did you last experience it? Come on, be honest, we won't judge!

Almost daily, if I'm honest; I receive so many video clips (in a Whats'app group) from all round the world, of people doing stupid things, and coming a cropper

I think that’s a different thing though... it’s human nature to laugh at people doing stupid things but I’d like to think I’ve never felt joy over someone else’s failures or humiliations... even if I don’t really like someone, I may consider it as serving them right but I’m not sure it would give me any joy. "

You've never laughed at someone walking into a lamp post while looking at their phone or stepping in a big puddle or dropping their freshly bought coffee/ice cream on the floor or anything like that? That's schadenfreude.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Schadenfreude is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.

When did you last experience it? Come on, be honest, we won't judge!

Almost daily, if I'm honest; I receive so many video clips (in a Whats'app group) from all round the world, of people doing stupid things, and coming a cropper

I think that’s a different thing though... it’s human nature to laugh at people doing stupid things but I’d like to think I’ve never felt joy over someone else’s failures or humiliations... even if I don’t really like someone, I may consider it as serving them right but I’m not sure it would give me any joy.

You've never laughed at someone walking into a lamp post while looking at their phone or stepping in a big puddle or dropping their freshly bought coffee/ice cream on the floor or anything like that? That's schadenfreude.

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Ah that’s not as described in the OP though... those are funny mishaps and yes of course, I think we’ve all laughed at that. I misunderstood the post in that case. My view still stands on getting joy out of other people’s failures. Finding humour in nonsense spillages isn’t quite the same.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Schadenfreude is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.

When did you last experience it? Come on, be honest, we won't judge!

Almost daily, if I'm honest; I receive so many video clips (in a Whats'app group) from all round the world, of people doing stupid things, and coming a cropper

I think that’s a different thing though... it’s human nature to laugh at people doing stupid things but I’d like to think I’ve never felt joy over someone else’s failures or humiliations... even if I don’t really like someone, I may consider it as serving them right but I’m not sure it would give me any joy.

You've never laughed at someone walking into a lamp post while looking at their phone or stepping in a big puddle or dropping their freshly bought coffee/ice cream on the floor or anything like that? That's schadenfreude.

Ah that’s not as described in the OP though... those are funny mishaps and yes of course, I think we’ve all laughed at that. I misunderstood the post in that case. My view still stands on getting joy out of other people’s failures. Finding humour in nonsense spillages isn’t quite the same. "

Well that's how I understande schadenfreude anyway lol I might be wrong

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Having consulted google... the OP is the wiki definition and the google definition is: schadenfreude

'???dn?fr??d?,German '???d?n?fr?yd?/Submit

noun

pleasure derived by someone from another person's misfortune.

"a business that thrives on Schadenfreude"

I guess to a certain extent it’s an absolute yes... I laugh at lots of misfortunate things but it’s such a wide definition in wiki it makes it sound a bit mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Schadenfreude is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.

When did you last experience it? Come on, be honest, we won't judge!

I'm too busy trying to recover from fucking up/ failing/ humiliating myself to notice anyone else's fuck ups. Or if I do notice something I'm usually thinking ohhh crap I did that but worse. "

That's about the story of it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I heard the ex is bickering with the sea whore he left our 20 year marriage for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The important aspect in schadenfreude is malice in the joy one feels over another’s misfortune. Jeremy Beadle ‘You’ve been framed’ type humour is not really a good example of its real meaning.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Schadenfreude is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.

When did you last experience it? Come on, be honest, we won't judge! "

I don't get pleasure from seeing others fail.

Ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's wrong to laugh at other people's misfortunes, unless they deserved it of course,.......and she did!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I found out they had arrested my ex, who’d turned up to the police station to put in a counter claim about him attacking me. It was so sweet!

L x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The death of an evil person made me smile ever so, 15 years ago. The day was brighter, flowers more fragrant and birdsong more melodious.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"What goes around is never more accurate in life...

It doesn't though. Or, my husband would be having a really shit life with his new partner. He's having a wonderful time.

For now...

Think it would have happened by now.

Oh it will happen.."

Are you being serious ? My mind boggles sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every man's death diminishes me

every man's misfortune does the same...

If I laugh at the misfortunes of others am I any better than those who laugh when misfortune strikes me...

Where is the love....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Tonight's gonna be a good night.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What goes around is never more accurate in life...

It doesn't though. Or, my husband would be having a really shit life with his new partner. He's having a wonderful time.

For now...

Think it would have happened by now.

Oh it will happen..

Are you being serious ? My mind boggles sometimes. "

I really don't think it will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The important aspect in schadenfreude is malice in the joy one feels over another’s misfortune. Jeremy Beadle ‘You’ve been framed’ type humour is not really a good example of its real meaning."

I never enjoyed that program either. Even as a child it made me feel uncomfortable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The important aspect in schadenfreude is malice in the joy one feels over another’s misfortune. Jeremy Beadle ‘You’ve been framed’ type humour is not really a good example of its real meaning.

I never enjoyed that program either. Even as a child it made me feel uncomfortable. "

It never appealed to me either

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's not really me to appreciate this in others -

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By *appy squirrelWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

Schadenfreude can be mean or just funny- whatever any dictionary tells you it means both.

I always make fun of friends who have done something silly and can laugh about small misfortunes of others. that doesn't mean I underestimate or dismiss the discomfort they feel. I laugh at a friend and then help them to get things sorted again.

it makes life more enjoyable and can lighten the situation if done respectfully and doesn't have to be mean!

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I think it comes down to our opinion of a given person. If, for whatever reason we dislike them in the first place, we may well derive some semblance of satisfaction from their downfall in any given area of their lives (hopefully within moral reasoning of course). Take a commonly reviled public figure as an example; the very same people who show disdain for them will likely rejoice in any form of public humiliation that befalls them.

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Schadenfreude is the experience of pleasure, joy, or self-satisfaction that comes from learning of or witnessing the troubles, failures, or humiliation of another.

When did you last experience it? Come on, be honest, we won't judge! "

Years ago I worked at Windsor Safari Park...In the Top Section they had a monkey jungle where you could walk through a tunnel with the monkeys above you where you could feed them peanuts. One guy started teasing one of the monkeys and I told him to stop or he would have to leave. I was then called away to another part of the jungle. When I came back I could still see him teasing the monkey as I went to tell him to go the monkey had enough and reached down to pull his hair...it was a wig...the guy was bald as a coot...he went dashing out in embarrassment and all you could see was this shoulder length wig haring round the cage with a monkey underneath...I did eventually retrieve the wig...for the monkeys safety...but was laughing the whole time...Did I experience joy pleasure and satisfaction...damn right I did...and I still can, makes me smile every time I remember it lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last week whilst on holiday; cocky skier cutting too close to other skiers on the slope, makes a misjudgement and ended up going straight into a tree

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By *oiretblancCouple
over a year ago

London


"Gore Vidal said: "whenever someone succceeds a little part of me dies ...""

Not quite what he said. The correct quote is much nastier...

"Whenever a friend succeeds, a little something in me dies."

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

Had a bf once who got visibly excited when he had bad news to impart, whether it was people we knew breaking up or a natural disaster on the news. He's a complete psycho with zero empathy for others. When I think of schadenfreude I think of him.

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By *KMaxMan
over a year ago

Bristol


"Had a bf once who got visibly excited when he had bad news to impart, whether it was people we knew breaking up or a natural disaster on the news. He's a complete psycho with zero empathy for others. When I think of schadenfreude I think of him."

Damn, I should have known someone from Brigadoon would have a hidden profile!

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon


"Had a bf once who got visibly excited when he had bad news to impart, whether it was people we knew breaking up or a natural disaster on the news. He's a complete psycho with zero empathy for others. When I think of schadenfreude I think of him.

Damn, I should have known someone from Brigadoon would have a hidden profile!"

It will be back in 2118

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a bf once who got visibly excited when he had bad news to impart, whether it was people we knew breaking up or a natural disaster on the news. He's a complete psycho with zero empathy for others. When I think of schadenfreude I think of him.

Damn, I should have known someone from Brigadoon would have a hidden profile!

It will be back in 2118 "

Very clever

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London


"Gore Vidal said: "whenever someone succceeds a little part of me dies ..."

Not quite what he said. The correct quote is much nastier...

"Whenever a friend succeeds, a little something in me dies.""

My opinion about this is that someone who derives pleasure/satisfaction from a friends failures is an insecure loser who can't or won't try to accomplish anything for themselves

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By *atcherwankerMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I laughed when I heard the "Presidents Club" had completely collapsed within 24 hours of everything coming to light. Good fucking riddance, creepy old cunts

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By *oiretblancCouple
over a year ago

London


"Gore Vidal said: "whenever someone succceeds a little part of me dies ..."

Not quite what he said. The correct quote is much nastier...

"Whenever a friend succeeds, a little something in me dies."

My opinion about this is that someone who derives pleasure/satisfaction from a friends failures is an insecure loser who can't or won't try to accomplish anything for themselves"

You haven't quite grasped it babe!

He doesn't want his friends to fail or suffer or have a bad time...he just feels pain when he sees them succeed.

Of course the irony is that Gore Vidal was a hugely successful and influential journalist author and social commentator. So maybe it was his friends who felt the jealous and envy?

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