FabSwingers.com forum: Re-messaging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are people's thoughts on this:

As a guy, you message a woman and your message remains unopened.

Is it a good idea to message again, even though the site says not to?

I ask this because women get so many messages it's very possible that your original message got overlooked in the mass of others?

Of course, I wouldn't advise endlessly spamming someone in the desperate attempt to get a response!

Thoughts please...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn’t bother messaging again. Take no response as not interested.

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

No. Assume a no thank you.

Someone pestering me with several messages when I’ve either not read them, said no thanks or simply deleted them is not going to make me respond. Quite the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to resend the message. women get so many messages it could have dropped off the bottom of the page never to be seen again. I would leave it a few days though and dont send the same message

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I've had people send a message, only to realise there was a previous message maybe a few days or even weeks earlier I'd never seen or read, and it's ended with us chatting.

But ones that send multiple messages, on the same day adter the first deleted will get a block.

If I've read, not replied & deleted is an obvious not intrested and no amount of messages is going to change my mind

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I think sending another after a few weeks is ok because they can get lost in the deluge of messages.

After that, she’s really saying no. Don’t let it turn into no and fuck off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are people's thoughts on this:

As a guy, you message a woman and your message remains unopened.

Is it a good idea to message again, even though the site says not to?

I ask this because women get so many messages it's very possible that your original message got overlooked in the mass of others?

Of course, I wouldn't advise endlessly spamming someone in the desperate attempt to get a response!

Thoughts please..."

Not this again!

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"I used to resend the message. women get so many messages it could have dropped off the bottom of the page never to be seen again. I would leave it a few days though and dont send the same message"

This happens to me all the time. If out a new pic up or play a game in the forum, my messages go up and some older ones drop off the bottom. I do try to answer ones that pop up again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We delete, the majority of messages go unread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gods I rarely have the courage to send one message, never mind repeats

The ones that get on my nerves are when I've already politely declined and then they write again a week later.

If I ignore a message and they send another then that's fair enough I guess. I would just reply with a polite no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. Assume a no thank you.

Someone pestering me with several messages when I’ve either not read them, said no thanks or simply deleted them is not going to make me respond. Quite the opposite.

this i agree with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would never send a second message if the first one was left unread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Re-messaging is a good way of getting blocked if that's your thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

Explain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

Explain "

Intrigued too. I use it a lot sometimes.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Messaging is fine, so long as they have read our profile & put a bit of effort into the message. Otherwise they just get deleted, no matter how many times they are sent!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

What do you mean?! *checks settings*

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

What do you mean?! *checks settings*

Say what?!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately re-message. Who cares what the site advises, just do it.

It shows you're keen. Woman like that.

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By *arksMan
over a year ago

in the centre

"Definately re-message. Who cares what the site advises, just do it.

It shows you're keen. Woman like that. "

This

send a pic of your cock next to a sky remote as well it drives them wild

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definately re-message. Who cares what the site advises, just do it.

It shows you're keen. Woman like that.

This

send a pic of your cock next to a sky remote as well it drives them wild

You're know the score mate. Keep up the good fight. They'll wear down eventually.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

"I used to resend the message. women get so many messages it could have dropped off the bottom of the page never to be seen again. I would leave it a few days though and dont send the same message"

Yes this ... I wipe all of mine sometimes.... too many to answer ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need a PA I'll sort your mail for you and categorise it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused now about the "stealth" thingy.

I'm certain it must be working as I'm not receiving any "Hey you looked at my profile" messages, so I don't know what it means if stealth is "not like it was".

Probably the wrong thread for this sorry : )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm confused now about the "stealth" thingy.

I'm certain it must be working as I'm not receiving any "Hey you looked at my profile" messages, so I don't know what it means if stealth is "not like it was".

Probably the wrong thread for this sorry : )"

Maybe people just aren't fussed for messaging you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm confused now about the "stealth" thingy.

I'm certain it must be working as I'm not receiving any "Hey you looked at my profile" messages, so I don't know what it means if stealth is "not like it was".

Probably the wrong thread for this sorry : )

Maybe people just aren't fussed for messaging you?

I wouldn't be at all surprised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

What do you mean?! *checks settings*

i have noticed if i look at someone within a few mins they look at me,

local updates tell me they viewed my profile and they arent on my hotlist

so if it was stealth why would they vist me within seconds at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

What do you mean?! *checks settings*

i have noticed if i look at someone within a few mins they look at me,

local updates tell me they viewed my profile and they arent on my hotlist

so if it was stealth why would they vist me within seconds at times

If stealth isn’t working can you see I viewed your profile about 10 minutes ago?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

What do you mean?! *checks settings*

i have noticed if i look at someone within a few mins they look at me,

local updates tell me they viewed my profile and they arent on my hotlist

so if it was stealth why would they vist me within seconds at times

If stealth isn’t working can you see I viewed your profile about 10 minutes ago?"

tends to work on local updates more than visits

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By *nvercoupleCouple
over a year ago

Inverness

I wouldn't be bothered if a guy sends another mail about a week afterwards.

Not that I ignore many mails.

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By *olieandSlaveCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

I'd say try again in a month or so. I for one, look for different things at different times! I wouldn't go to the same restaurant each week!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

What do you mean?! *checks settings*

i have noticed if i look at someone within a few mins they look at me,

local updates tell me they viewed my profile and they arent on my hotlist

so if it was stealth why would they vist me within seconds at times

If stealth isn’t working can you see I viewed your profile about 10 minutes ago?

tends to work on local updates more than visits"

That’s what I was wondering.... hmmm

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

What do you mean?! *checks settings*

i have noticed if i look at someone within a few mins they look at me,

local updates tell me they viewed my profile and they arent on my hotlist

so if it was stealth why would they vist me within seconds at times

I’ve noticed that too, I just assumed it was because I was online and they were using that search option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm confused now about the "stealth" thingy.

I'm certain it must be working as I'm not receiving any "Hey you looked at my profile" messages, so I don't know what it means if stealth is "not like it was".

Probably the wrong thread for this sorry : )"

Yes it does work just got signal back on train and I have only had 2 views today both from men so must work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

What do you mean?! *checks settings*

i have noticed if i look at someone within a few mins they look at me,

local updates tell me they viewed my profile and they arent on my hotlist

so if it was stealth why would they vist me within seconds at times

If stealth isn’t working can you see I viewed your profile about 10 minutes ago?

tends to work on local updates more than visits

That’s what I was wondering.... hmmm"

Ok I’ve changed my postcode, so have I appear on your local updates as having viewed you?

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

I think I’m still in ninja mode!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm confused now about the "stealth" thingy.

I'm certain it must be working as I'm not receiving any "Hey you looked at my profile" messages, so I don't know what it means if stealth is "not like it was".

Probably the wrong thread for this sorry : )

Yes it does work just got signal back on train and I have only had 2 views today both from men so must work

I just stealthed you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No wouldn't send again tbh I've only sent about 6, 5 were deleted without reading or visiting profile and 1 was you are not my type so obviously not at all interested in me

I’ve just looked at your profile but you wouldn’t have known if I hadn’t told you.

Lots of women look at profiles in stealth mode

actually wrong as Stealth mode isnt like it was

What do you mean?! *checks settings*

i have noticed if i look at someone within a few mins they look at me,

local updates tell me they viewed my profile and they arent on my hotlist

so if it was stealth why would they vist me within seconds at times

If stealth isn’t working can you see I viewed your profile about 10 minutes ago?

tends to work on local updates more than visits

That’s what I was wondering.... hmmm

Ok I’ve changed my postcode, so have I appear on your local updates as having viewed you?"

No no new views still only the 2 guys in last 24 hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What ive found is if you meesage back something rude 3 or 4 times straight after each other they message straight back and love you for it

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