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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What do you think is the best way to deal with it?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"What do you think is the best way to deal with it?"

Depends how it manifests itself to be honest - but like most bullies I tend to find you stand up to them and they back down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Click the 'x' button.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 25/01/18 15:08:57]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block, close your browser, turn off the computer.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Click the 'x' button."

Is that a kiss?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you think is the best way to deal with it?

Depends how it manifests itself to be honest - but like most bullies I tend to find you stand up to them and they back down "

This is oh so true I've started challenging "my" bullies and it takes them aback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Option 1. Ignoring it.

Easy to say I know, but if an online bully is starved of attention, it gets bored and moved on.

Option 2. Education.

Friendly encouragement to educate the offender that what they are doing is wrong. They may be unaware that they are bullying and may see what they are doing as banter.

Option 3. Report it.

This leads back to education and ignoring. We have seen too often trolls who like nothing better than to harrass people online. If option 1 or 2 fail, use the correct channels to get someone in authority to do something.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do you think is the best way to deal with it?

Depends how it manifests itself to be honest - but like most bullies I tend to find you stand up to them and they back down "

I've found the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depends how it manifests itself to be honest - but like most bullies I tend to find you stand up to them and they back down "

This!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"What do you think is the best way to deal with it?

Depends how it manifests itself to be honest - but like most bullies I tend to find you stand up to them and they back down

I've found the opposite."

As I said it depends how it manifests itself - sometimes the best policy is to ignore them but where that's not possible, confronting them often works in my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you think is the best way to deal with it?"

Use a specialist to trace their address - then shoot them dead.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What do you think is the best way to deal with it?

Depends how it manifests itself to be honest - but like most bullies I tend to find you stand up to them and they back down

I've found the opposite.

As I said it depends how it manifests itself - sometimes the best policy is to ignore them but where that's not possible, confronting them often works in my experience."

Yep sorry I didn't mean you're wrong, just saying my experience too. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you think is the best way to deal with it?

Use a specialist to trace their address - then shoot them dead."

You'll have to go on the dark web for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep sorry I didn't mean you're wrong, just saying my experience too. x"

How is this manifesting? Male to Female , Female to Female?

What site/apps is it happening on?

More info required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I struggle with this whole online bullying nonsense. How can someone bully you when there's an on/off button that stops it dead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle with this whole online bullying nonsense. How can someone bully you when there's an on/off button that stops it dead?"

Someone was trying to have a go at me on here the other day. I just took the piss till they blocked me. Easy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep sorry I didn't mean you're wrong, just saying my experience too. x

How is this manifesting? Male to Female , Female to Female?

What site/apps is it happening on?

More info required."

The OP is just a general question, not a personal one. Thank you for caring though, that means a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I struggle with this whole online bullying nonsense. How can someone bully you when there's an on/off button that stops it dead?"

It depends on the type of bullying - the generic term ‘online bullying’ is wide ranging.

An off button won’t delete the revenge porn someone’s shared of you online or via email to your friends or family.

Nor will it stop the late night obscene phone calls if someone’s been sharing your telephone number on sex sites etc

As ever, nothing is ever really as black and white as we first think!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is just a general question, not a personal one. Thank you for caring though, that means a lot. "

1st: Block them.

2nd: Toy with them and take the piss out of them, till they block you. {funnest option cause you are using the dominance hierarchy against them. Unleash your inner troll to hearts content.}

3rd: If they are real assholes and not taking the hint. Get on the dark web.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here's a general one, if it's targeted at kids.

http://www.connectsafely.org/tips-to-help-stop-cyberbullying/

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The OP is just a general question, not a personal one. Thank you for caring though, that means a lot.

1st: Block them.

2nd: Toy with them and take the piss out of them, till they block you. {funnest option cause you are using the dominance hierarchy against them. Unleash your inner troll to hearts content.}

3rd: If they are real assholes and not taking the hint. Get on the dark web."

Blocking someone doesn't work, they will just come back on another profile.

I'm a lover not a hater. I see no need to be rude back to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blocking someone doesn't work, they will just come back on another profile.

I'm a lover not a hater. I see no need to be rude back to them."

The situation won't change unless you do. Use it as an opportunity for growth.

The psychopaths who are targeting you are using the dominance hierarchy against you.

You have 2 options.

1. Find an alpha male who will take the steps to protect you.

2. You end up leaving the site because you are that much a lover, you have no fight in you.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Some people use the bully word to quickly in my opinion,but that wasn't the question so ignore that.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Ignore.

Or go cray cray with a knife or shotgun (If you can find one).

Either works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people use the bully word to quickly in my opinion,but that wasn't the question so ignore that."

To late youve already said it ner ner

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham


"I struggle with this whole online bullying nonsense. How can someone bully you when there's an on/off button that stops it dead?"

It's obviously distressing if someone is affected by it ... But I don't think it would have any resonance with me. I'm a cyberthicky.

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By *orticiaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"Option 1. Ignoring it.

Easy to say I know, but if an online bully is starved of attention, it gets bored and moved on.

Option 2. Education.

Friendly encouragement to educate the offender that what they are doing is wrong. They may be unaware that they are bullying and may see what they are doing as banter.

Option 3. Report it.

This leads back to education and ignoring. We have seen too often trolls who like nothing better than to harrass people online. If option 1 or 2 fail, use the correct channels to get someone in authority to do something."

This

I like option 1; don’t give them the argument that are looking for!

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Some people use the bully word to quickly in my opinion,but that wasn't the question so ignore that.

To late youve already said it ner ner"

Stop bullying me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people use the bully word to quickly in my opinion,but that wasn't the question so ignore that."

I was going to ask what definitions people had, sorry.

I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The OP is just a general question, not a personal one. Thank you for caring though, that means a lot.

1st: Block them.

2nd: Toy with them and take the piss out of them, till they block you. {funnest option cause you are using the dominance hierarchy against them. Unleash your inner troll to hearts content.}

3rd: If they are real assholes and not taking the hint. Get on the dark web.

Blocking someone doesn't work, they will just come back on another profile.

I'm a lover not a hater. I see no need to be rude back to them."

I'm never rude back. I just ask why they feel the need to be so offensive to someone they do not know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Option 1. Ignoring it.

Easy to say I know, but if an online bully is starved of attention, it gets bored and moved on.

Option 2. Education.

Friendly encouragement to educate the offender that what they are doing is wrong. They may be unaware that they are bullying and may see what they are doing as banter.

Option 3. Report it.

This leads back to education and ignoring. We have seen too often trolls who like nothing better than to harrass people online. If option 1 or 2 fail, use the correct channels to get someone in authority to do something."

Totally agree. Only caveat is that bullying behaviour can come from narcissism and no amount of education will make a difference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The OP is just a general question, not a personal one. Thank you for caring though, that means a lot.

1st: Block them.

2nd: Toy with them and take the piss out of them, till they block you. {funnest option cause you are using the dominance hierarchy against them. Unleash your inner troll to hearts content.}

3rd: If they are real assholes and not taking the hint. Get on the dark web.

Blocking someone doesn't work, they will just come back on another profile.

I'm a lover not a hater. I see no need to be rude back to them.

I'm never rude back. I just ask why they feel the need to be so offensive to someone they do not know "

Do they apologise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid that ignoring is the best way.. Hopefully they will get boared in the end. Getting involved in the discussion will not help. They have their mind set and will not listen to anyone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick your hand though the computer screen down the internet and out of the bully's screen and shake them warmly by the windpipe......

Well it works in cartoons

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

I agree with the ignoring it option. Online bullies are even bigger cowards than real life ones in my opinion.

Don't feed the troll is a saying for a reason. My skin is thicker than a rhino, but then again, I've never encountered it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a child being bullied, stop them from going on the internet other than for school work.

An adult would have to make that decision for themself.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

Online bullying is so silly. The victims should just delete their profile I just don't understand why the victims cry about it when they have the option to delete. People always have choices, in this instance walk away or stay and fight. Because you don't know the person and most are "keyboard warriors" then to save your emotional need just delete the profile. It's so simple it doesn't deserve any news.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you think is the best way to deal with it?"

Same as with bullying in real life, or any situation involving a conflict of opinion - violence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t stand bullying in any form

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online bullying is so silly. The victims should just delete their profile I just don't understand why the victims cry about it when they have the option to delete. People always have choices, in this instance walk away or stay and fight. Because you don't know the person and most are "keyboard warriors" then to save your emotional need just delete the profile. It's so simple it doesn't deserve any news."

Why should the victim delete their profile ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Online bullying is so silly. The victims should just delete their profile I just don't understand why the victims cry about it when they have the option to delete. People always have choices, in this instance walk away or stay and fight. Because you don't know the person and most are "keyboard warriors" then to save your emotional need just delete the profile. It's so simple it doesn't deserve any news.

Why should the victim delete their profile ??? "

I agree with the above. Why should the victim have to delete their profile when they can just keep it and become a bully themselves? And a better one.

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