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"I don't do jealousy, on or off of here, whether to do with casual sex or love. I have come across a few that really do though, on here more than off tbh, insecurity is a terrible thing!" Well that's clearly not true, though, is it? | |||
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"It's a perfectly normal, natural human emotion. ![]() It depends. By definition any swinging situation is a relationship agreement.two or more parties enter into a mutual agreement. Great! Everyone's happy. Except emotions will inevitably creep in at some point. I've never ever considered a swinging/FB relationship but there are people I've been with that I've not really been emotionally attached to. Nor did I become jealous of. And there are people I've been insane over. You can't control it | |||
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"Jealousy is part of human emotion and so is on here as in real life. The problem seems to be that some people come on here for an ego boost and these people are maybe not as well adjusted as most and so react much more severely than ‘normal’ people. I’ve had and have seen lots of instances of people reacting very badly to rejection or meeting other people. Just ignore them, they ain’t worth the argument, that’s what the block button is for!" This is a horrible stance to take and is a lazy stereotype. I would consider deleting. "Not well adjusted" and categorising what is "normal"? Normal as opposed to what? | |||
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"I don't do jealousy, on or off of here, whether to do with casual sex or love. I have come across a few that really do though, on here more than off tbh, insecurity is a terrible thing! Well that's clearly not true, though, is it?" What isn't? | |||
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"I don't do jealousy, on or off of here, whether to do with casual sex or love. I have come across a few that really do though, on here more than off tbh, insecurity is a terrible thing! Well that's clearly not true, though, is it? What isn't? " Nope...checked what I have said and it is all definitely true ![]() | |||
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"Oh this is a very, very, very good question . Can I let out a huge, massive, manic cackle please as I formulate a reply ![]() Permission granted! ![]() | |||
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"Jealousy is part of human emotion and so is on here as in real life. The problem seems to be that some people come on here for an ego boost and these people are maybe not as well adjusted as most and so react much more severely than ‘normal’ people. I’ve had and have seen lots of instances of people reacting very badly to rejection or meeting other people. Just ignore them, they ain’t worth the argument, that’s what the block button is for! This is a horrible stance to take and is a lazy stereotype. I would consider deleting. "Not well adjusted" and categorising what is "normal"? Normal as opposed to what?" Normal as in the average, we as a society have a considered norm. It’s not a lazy stereotype at all, it’s the truth. Normal as opposed to unusual | |||
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"I've copy/pasted the answer I gave on a similar thread last week below, as it hasn't really changed from then - the only thing I'd add to that is that the only "jealousy" I get, if you can call it that, is of others ability to have more self-confidence and quick wittedness about them than I do but that's more a personal awareness thing than anything so not green eyed monster as such....as I said the answer I gave last week still holds good: "It honestly never crosses my mind to be jealous or concerned about other people's experiences of Fab whether that be other single guys who may, on the face of it, have a better body than me or be perceived to be more popular, or women who'd not meet me anyway. I prefer to focus on my own experience of the site, which for the most part is good and so long as the actions of others don't have a direct impact on me in any way, then all will remain to be good. What people I meet are doing when they're not meeting me, is frankly, none of my business and therefore not something for me to get upset about."" A perfect answer, the last paragraph being especially pertinent ![]() | |||
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"I've copy/pasted the answer I gave on a similar thread last week below, as it hasn't really changed from then - the only thing I'd add to that is that the only "jealousy" I get, if you can call it that, is of others ability to have more self-confidence and quick wittedness about them than I do but that's more a personal awareness thing than anything so not green eyed monster as such....as I said the answer I gave last week still holds good: "It honestly never crosses my mind to be jealous or concerned about other people's experiences of Fab whether that be other single guys who may, on the face of it, have a better body than me or be perceived to be more popular, or women who'd not meet me anyway. I prefer to focus on my own experience of the site, which for the most part is good and so long as the actions of others don't have a direct impact on me in any way, then all will remain to be good. What people I meet are doing when they're not meeting me, is frankly, none of my business and therefore not something for me to get upset about."" ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Jealousy happens, yes. We've seen it. For us, personally, we don't get jealous of seeing each other with other people. No.It's a turn on for us. At the very beginning, when we first started doing this, there was an issue with me having far more opportunities to meet guys than Marc has with women. However, I wouldn't really call it jealousy. Envy, maybe. But it was easy to fix with a few discussions and a decision between the two of us to find a balance between couple meets and single guy meets (I don't include meets with single women because they happen so rarely). It was discussed and a balance was found. Simple. For us, anyway. " So in other words, you sleep with whoever you like and he sleeps with you. A cuckold. | |||
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" Oh and sorry everyone if this is a recently or often discussed topic! I should have done a forum search first! ![]() No apology necessary and I honestly wasn't calling you out on it - the previous thread was framed slightly differently just I liked the answer I gave there so copy/pasted and thought I should cross-reference is all. "Interesting" threads like this always bear repeating anyway ![]() | |||
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"Jealousy happens, yes. We've seen it. For us, personally, we don't get jealous of seeing each other with other people. No.It's a turn on for us. At the very beginning, when we first started doing this, there was an issue with me having far more opportunities to meet guys than Marc has with women. However, I wouldn't really call it jealousy. Envy, maybe. But it was easy to fix with a few discussions and a decision between the two of us to find a balance between couple meets and single guy meets (I don't include meets with single women because they happen so rarely). It was discussed and a balance was found. Simple. For us, anyway. So in other words, you sleep with whoever you like and he sleeps with you. A cuckold." I'm going to assume English isn't your first language, as you have completely misunderstood that post. They meet who they want to meet, that's how a relationship works. | |||
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"Jealousy happens, yes. We've seen it. For us, personally, we don't get jealous of seeing each other with other people. No.It's a turn on for us. At the very beginning, when we first started doing this, there was an issue with me having far more opportunities to meet guys than Marc has with women. However, I wouldn't really call it jealousy. Envy, maybe. But it was easy to fix with a few discussions and a decision between the two of us to find a balance between couple meets and single guy meets (I don't include meets with single women because they happen so rarely). It was discussed and a balance was found. Simple. For us, anyway. So in other words, you sleep with whoever you like and he sleeps with you. A cuckold." Interesting that that is what you got from what I said. Perhaps I could have worded it better. No, not really cuckold. We mostly meet couples, where we both swap, so we are both playing with other people. And there have been a few rare occasions, at clubs, where we done ffm meets. So again, not a cuckold. We have more mfm meets because it is easier, yes. But there isn't really a cuckold vibe to it (no submission, etc.). Its more that we have to balance out our meets with single guys with our meets with couples so that Marc doesn't feel like the action is entirely for me. I would absolutely love for him to meet women on his own, and he's working on it. Its just difficult, especially with his job. | |||
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"I’ve been envious of someone having the opportunity to meet someone I really wanted to meet but logistical issues etc were getting in the way. That felt pretty horrible but once I named it, it dissipated. But I haven’t experienced jealousy. I can’t claim I’m immune, just I have not had anything that’s triggered it yet." ![]() | |||
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"I’ve been envious of someone having the opportunity to meet someone I really wanted to meet but logistical issues etc were getting in the way. That felt pretty horrible but once I named it, it dissipated. But I haven’t experienced jealousy. I can’t claim I’m immune, just I have not had anything that’s triggered it yet. ![]() Yep. I hope I never feel it but you can’t always legislate for experiencing an emotion. The trick is spotting it and dealing with it in a healthy way ![]() | |||
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"Does it happen? Have people got jealous or even protective when the objects of their affection meet other people? Do YOU get envious or jealous when you read others verifications or see who’s shagging who? Do you ever find yourself thinking ‘what!? They won’t meet me but they’ll meet THEM!’ ![]() ![]() I can answer yes to all of those. I'm human. ![]() | |||
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"Jealousy is rife here. Don’t believe anyone who tells you otherwise. Haven’t you ever noticed the pissing up the lamppost posts too." ![]() | |||
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"I've had twinges, but just that. I can "logic them out". The "It's what we agreed, everyone is happy, no one's doing anything wrong" conversation in your own head. But on the whole, by nature, I'm not particularly the jealous sort." I would totally agree with that! I’ve had them before and no doubt will have them again at some point, it’s just natural reactions that triggers the brain at times ![]() | |||
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"For me Absolutely! I feel jealousy when someone I had a great connection with\great time meets someone new and the verifications sting a bit! However, thats my personal issue, the other person never knows and I deal with it. Personally if I like someone enough for them to share their bits with me, then jealousy is only natural. Its if that jealousy gets out if hand or causes trouble then it's an issue. The best way to get over someone is to get under someone!" This is how I feel too. I can handle it though and soon get over it plus it’s not like that with everyone I meet. Although when someone you thought you had a connection and great sex with would rather go without than see you, that stings a little bit too ![]() | |||
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"I posted something similar to this on another thread about emotions recently...so it may sound familiar... We are human a complex mix of the physical and emotional elements that make us the complete person. Emotions of all sorts love hate happy sad etc are hard wired into us and form part of our whole being. Fab is no different to the rest of the world emotions do not just get switched off and put in a box. They drive who we connect with and who we don't even here. To suggest that they can ever be set aside is a false premise. It's no more logical than saying today I'm going to remove my left leg and see how the day goes! All you have to do is read the number of threads like this one or the hurt angry sad and happy etc threads that appear here every day to grasp the concept that no matter what anyone may claim emotions are an integral part of us and always we be the driver of our actions and interactions with others. " It's how we deal with our emotions, especially the difficult ones though that is most important . | |||
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"I've had twinges, but just that. I can "logic them out". The "It's what we agreed, everyone is happy, no one's doing anything wrong" conversation in your own head. But on the whole, by nature, I'm not particularly the jealous sort." ![]() | |||
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"Jealousy is rife here. Don’t believe anyone who tells you otherwise. Haven’t you ever noticed the pissing up the lamppost posts too." : ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I think a lot of jealousy can be prevented if ppl are honest with each other. Even then intentions can change as we’re human after all. It’s important to keep communicating and discuss what you both want and be brutally honest when you need to be. Luckily we both wanted the same thing, no sharing. We both came to this decision individually and then discussed it openly. Had one of us felt differently that’s where problems and jealousy could have arisen. If you are meeting someone who wants different things you have to ask yourself are you meeting the right person? Anything that involves the intimacy of meeting others and letting them get so close to you - physically and in some cases emotionally - will cause a myriad of feelings. If you haven’t been open with each other from the start then it is easy for jealousy to creep in and we see it regularly here where one party assumed an exclusive set up but the other was unaware (or just ignored those wishes). We trust each other completely because we are so open - shockingly so to some. Distance and the situation we find ourselves in require that we make this effort but it applies to anyone else. As Stephen Hawking said ‘mankind’s greatest achievements have come about by talking and it’s greatest failures by not talking’. This can equally apply to Fab Pink & Swing" ![]() | |||
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"I think a lot of jealousy can be prevented if ppl are honest with each other. Even then intentions can change as we’re human after all. It’s important to keep communicating and discuss what you both want and be brutally honest when you need to be. Luckily we both wanted the same thing, no sharing. We both came to this decision individually and then discussed it openly. Had one of us felt differently that’s where problems and jealousy could have arisen. If you are meeting someone who wants different things you have to ask yourself are you meeting the right person? Anything that involves the intimacy of meeting others and letting them get so close to you - physically and in some cases emotionally - will cause a myriad of feelings. If you haven’t been open with each other from the start then it is easy for jealousy to creep in and we see it regularly here where one party assumed an exclusive set up but the other was unaware (or just ignored those wishes). We trust each other completely because we are so open - shockingly so to some. Distance and the situation we find ourselves in require that we make this effort but it applies to anyone else. As Stephen Hawking said ‘mankind’s greatest achievements have come about by talking and it’s greatest failures by not talking’. This can equally apply to Fab Pink & Swing" Far more eloquently put than I could ever hope to manage. ![]() | |||
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"I think a lot of jealousy can be prevented if ppl are honest with each other. Even then intentions can change as we’re human after all. It’s important to keep communicating and discuss what you both want and be brutally honest when you need to be. Luckily we both wanted the same thing, no sharing. We both came to this decision individually and then discussed it openly. Had one of us felt differently that’s where problems and jealousy could have arisen. If you are meeting someone who wants different things you have to ask yourself are you meeting the right person? Anything that involves the intimacy of meeting others and letting them get so close to you - physically and in some cases emotionally - will cause a myriad of feelings. If you haven’t been open with each other from the start then it is easy for jealousy to creep in and we see it regularly here where one party assumed an exclusive set up but the other was unaware (or just ignored those wishes). We trust each other completely because we are so open - shockingly so to some. Distance and the situation we find ourselves in require that we make this effort but it applies to anyone else. As Stephen Hawking said ‘mankind’s greatest achievements have come about by talking and it’s greatest failures by not talking’. This can equally apply to Fab Pink & Swing Far more eloquently put than I could ever hope to manage. ![]() That’s how he makes my knickers fall off so easily ![]() | |||
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"One of the wonderful things that fab has shown me is that i'm past petty feelings of jealously...particularly in this scene where people are attracted to multiple people and act on their desires. Individuals who become jealous when they see someone else's veris should probably question if being here is indeed the right thing for them. Just my opinion...feel free to disagree! ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Jeez it's all over this, I avoid some men because I can't be bothered with the drama that'll come from someone I know that'll get jealous. 9/10 the reason there's jealousy is because believes it has been led to believe there's more to it. People should be upfront and honest about what they want and if they start noticing jealous behaviour then steer well clear unless it's someone you want more to do with." I agree...communication is the best water to stop it on the onset. But when things aren't spelt out right from the beginning there is alway one the the two who will take the ending of a relationship worse then the other. Does that make them bad? Methinks no but maybe a little hurt. | |||
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"Does it happen? Have people got jealous or even protective when the objects of their affection meet other people? Do YOU get envious or jealous when you read others verifications or see who’s shagging who? Do you ever find yourself thinking ‘what!? They won’t meet me but they’ll meet THEM!’ ![]() ![]() Follow the green arrow! ![]() | |||
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"I've had twinges, but just that. I can "logic them out". The "It's what we agreed, everyone is happy, no one's doing anything wrong" conversation in your own head. But on the whole, by nature, I'm not particularly the jealous sort. ![]() ![]() | |||
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"To answer the OP. In the very beginning I used to feel pangs of jealousy when the guy I had met went on to meet others even though I knew that was what this site entailed. It was down to the way I thought at the time, I threw myself into the meet, had the most incredible time along with a massive adrenaline rush. I couldn’t sustain the low feelings so I made myself change the way I met / felt about people, it took a long time but now I know it’s right for here. The only thing is ,I don’t feel the same rush as I did before which is a shame. " Yeah I Get you...we can all let people have too much of us when it feels right with someone. But I get that as I'm always learning. ..it's a thing I wouldn't let happen again which is sad to some extent ![]() | |||
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"To answer the OP. In the very beginning I used to feel pangs of jealousy when the guy I had met went on to meet others even though I knew that was what this site entailed. It was down to the way I thought at the time, I threw myself into the meet, had the most incredible time along with a massive adrenaline rush. I couldn’t sustain the low feelings so I made myself change the way I met / felt about people, it took a long time but now I know it’s right for here. The only thing is ,I don’t feel the same rush as I did before which is a shame. Yeah I Get you...we can all let people have too much of us when it feels right with someone. But I get that as I'm always learning. ..it's a thing I wouldn't let happen again which is sad to some extent ![]() I agree with it being a sharp learning curve on here, regards how much of ourselves we let go to someone else. | |||
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