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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some girl has said said she wants to be used and abused. She mentioned she wants to play rough.

Does anyone have any ideas what else i can do so i can go in there with confidence. Its all new to me...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

You need to understand what her likes and dislikes are. What her hard limits are. Basically you need to talk to her about it.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Very slowly. Her idea of that and yours could be worlds apart. You might think her limits are quite tame.

Needs good communication.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

The only person who can tell you is her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best person to ask is her - be clear what her limits are and what she’s particularly in to rather than rely on others who may well have different kinks and preferences.

Have you known her long? Verified her identity? You’re definitely sure it isn’t a guy on the other end pretending to be a lass?

Have fun and enjoy the ride!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

What Evie said, also by the sound of it your not that experienced so communication is paramount..

meet socially certainly and to clarify if its not just a fantasy..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys. Unanimous replies say it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She wants to be fucked hard, hair pulling, spanked and covered in scratches and bite marks. But ask her first what she wants from you.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"She wants to be fucked hard, hair pulling, spanked and covered in scratches and bite marks"

And you know that how exactly? You don't know the person in question so how can you have the slightest clue as to what "used and abused" means to them?!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"She wants to be fucked hard, hair pulling, spanked and covered in scratches and bite marks. But ask her first what she wants from you."

Good to see you had second thoughts about your original post, although even with the qualifier you added at the end the replacement one isn't much better!!

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville


"She wants to be fucked hard, hair pulling, spanked and covered in scratches and bite marks

And you know that how exactly? You don't know the person in question so how can you have the slightest clue as to what "used and abused" means to them?! "

He’s a spanker. It says on his profile.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land


"She wants to be fucked hard, hair pulling, spanked and covered in scratches and bite marks. But ask her first what she wants from you."

The relevant bit of this is the last sentence

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"She wants to be fucked hard, hair pulling, spanked and covered in scratches and bite marks

And you know that how exactly? You don't know the person in question so how can you have the slightest clue as to what "used and abused" means to them?!

He’s a spanker. It says on his profile. "

I prefer a spinnaker myself or perhaps a good old fashioned top sail

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales


"Some girl has said said she wants to be used and abused. She mentioned she wants to play rough.

Does anyone have any ideas what else i can do so i can go in there with confidence. Its all new to me..."

Simple. Give her a job on zero hours and no holiday entitlement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask her properly what she will like. if you are both new to it, I will give you one word of advice. Once finished, make sure you spend an appropriate amount of time holding her. Rough play like that sometimes requires aftercare

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need a hand ive got a Wowcher code for 30% off a Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check my post out on communication. The journal I've learned how to please my sub utilising this method

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ask her properly what she will like. if you are both new to it, I will give you one word of advice. Once finished, make sure you spend an appropriate amount of time holding her. Rough play like that sometimes requires aftercare "

Saturday for spanking Sunday for spooning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the first thing you need to ask yourself is this: is it something you also want, have you thought about doing something like this before etc?

I know when Ads and I first got together I had experienced some rougher play than he was used to and it’s something that has happened over time, we’ve gone at his pace what he feels comfy with.

Also I second the communication thing.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I would back away as it's not for me but like previous posters, communication I'd say is key.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Find what it means to her and then see how it sparks you op.

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Ask her properly what she will like. if you are both new to it, I will give you one word of advice. Once finished, make sure you spend an appropriate amount of time holding her. Rough play like that sometimes requires aftercare

Saturday for spanking Sunday for spooning "

Beatiiful x

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish


"Some girl has said said she wants to be used and abused. She mentioned she wants to play rough.

Does anyone have any ideas what else i can do so i can go in there with confidence. Its all new to me..."

This kind of play requires; clear communication, time to build a 'relationship', a lot of trust from both parties.

Dont rush into it first meet.

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