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Hard life for over 45!

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By *aked Angel OP   Man
over a year ago

Hampshire / Surrey / Berkshire

45 is the age limit for many ladies, and when turned 46 almost the half of Fab became forbidden to contact.

What's wrong after this age ladies? Can just 1 year change things so dramatically?

And what is the point in setting age limit to 99 and then reply "sorry you are too old" or even "too young" if the lady is over 55?

Hard life isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is the line needs to be set somewhere.

If it’s set at 46, when you get to 47 the same question applies, what difference would one more year make?

Same question at 48. Then 49. Then 50 ... and so on. Until you do hit 99!

Where would you draw the line?

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over a year ago

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

One of life's inevitabilities is growing older. Accepting it the many benefits and few disadvantages makes it much easier

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I’ll be leaving fab soon then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ll be leaving fab soon then "

Due to being 46 instead of 45...good luck at 50 sir...

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By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom

I must be strange... I like an older man,

Also some 54 year olds are in far better shape than 43 year olds!

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By *witch4Fun24Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

Some people like older men, hang around a little longer and you get into the silver fox category :D

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By *awklord69Man
over a year ago

Bridgnorth


"I must be strange... I like an older man,

Also some 54 year olds are in far better shape than 43 year olds! "

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Omfg OP, don't say that it's my birthday soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a lot of truth in it. And when you see this same topic appear weekly you do feel for those over that common break out point.

It'll be my last year here but I've mad a lot of friends on here and many no longer on it whom I keep in touch with so will make it easier I guess. Not relying on fab for regular meets does help too.

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By *elvet RopeMan
over a year ago

by the big field

40 is more of a cut off age than 45- you're well in the old bastard club, so you might as well pull up a chair and wait for the coffin dodger fetishists to request your presence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ... "

Christ if they can get away with knocking 10 years off I need to invest in some Oil of Olay shares....and I am hoping you mean to their height and not their whojammaflix...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I agree in the saying there's still life in the old dog yet

And there are some very sexy 50plus guys on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then roll on 50 and roll away the years..

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We're 60 and 61 and still tottering about and getting the odd meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see why...

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Speak up, sonny?

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By *r and mrs sanddancerCouple
over a year ago

BOLDON COLLIERY


"45 is the age limit for many ladies, and when turned 46 almost the half of Fab became forbidden to contact.

What's wrong after this age ladies? Can just 1 year change things so dramatically?

And what is the point in setting age limit to 99 and then reply "sorry you are too old" or even "too young" if the lady is over 55?

Hard life isn't it?"

I still manage to find fun at my age (69) you just have to be more selective

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

It's normally about the stamina in my experience. If I can ride a bike for 5 hrs at a time. I find guys over 40 cant keep up..note I say normally. So don't hit me with a stick

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By *arry WindsorMan
over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ... "

Is that where I went wrong?

Dammit now you tell me!

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over a year ago

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By *arry WindsorMan
over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester


"It's normally about the stamina in my experience. If I can ride a bike for 5 hrs at a time. I find guys over 40 cant keep up..note I say normally. So don't hit me with a stick "

I wouldn't dream of hitting you with a stick. Something else that rhymes with stick perhaps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've accepted our fate, we realise that time's up for us, and while not quite raising the white flag and surrendering to old father time, we're fighting a mildly desperate rearguard action!

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"It's normally about the stamina in my experience. If I can ride a bike for 5 hrs at a time. I find guys over 40 cant keep up..note I say normally. So don't hit me with a stick

I wouldn't dream of hitting you with a stick. Something else that rhymes with stick perhaps! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you can ride a bike for 5 hours..?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

Christ if they can get away with knocking 10 years off I need to invest in some Oil of Olay shares....and I am hoping you mean to their height and not their whojammaflix... "

They add inches to both! And no, they can't get away with 10 years, you just think 'Goodness he looks really rough for 53!!'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm fast approaching 50 and prefer men my age. The converse of OP's complaint is true for me - I get fed up with younger men contacting me so have a clear age range set on my profile. We all have our preferences!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm thinking of lowering mine. No bloody way are some of the guys 50, despite claiming to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's normally about the stamina in my experience. If I can ride a bike for 5 hrs at a time. I find guys over 40 cant keep up..note I say normally. So don't hit me with a stick "

I'll hide round the corner and stick it through your spokes, cheeky young lady..

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

Christ if they can get away with knocking 10 years off I need to invest in some Oil of Olay shares....and I am hoping you mean to their height and not their whojammaflix...

They add inches to both! And no, they can't get away with 10 years, you just think 'Goodness he looks really rough for 53!!' "

This reminds me of the time I was invited for coffee with a woman who purported to be 51. When she opened her front door, I genuinely almost asked if her daughter was home

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"So you can ride a bike for 5 hours..? "

Yes Im training for London to Paris in a few mths

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro


"It's normally about the stamina in my experience. If I can ride a bike for 5 hrs at a time. I find guys over 40 cant keep up..note I say normally. So don't hit me with a stick

I'll hide round the corner and stick it through your spokes, cheeky young lady.."

No not with cleats on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ... "

I may have added a few inches on, and not in a good way.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

Christ if they can get away with knocking 10 years off I need to invest in some Oil of Olay shares....and I am hoping you mean to their height and not their whojammaflix...

They add inches to both! And no, they can't get away with 10 years, you just think 'Goodness he looks really rough for 53!!'

This reminds me of the time I was invited for coffee with a woman who purported to be 51. When she opened her front door, I genuinely almost asked if her daughter was home "

Sorry to laugh.

We met a guy who forgot how old he'd told us he was and began telling us about a lads holiday he'd been on. The year he said he went would have made him 9

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

We get plenty of attention, including in real life and from MUCH younger people. But to be fair, we do look OK for our age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't hoist white flag yet op I'm 51 and cut off age in my area is 45 those looking for older start at 60 but if I can keep hope so can you there will be someone on here for you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Age hasn't had any impact on my enjoyment of the site and I only joined when I was almost 51!!

There's something for everyone if you have your expectations set correctly and are realistic

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By *ingAlMan
over a year ago

hereford

I'm 65 and consider myself in better shape than most 40 year olds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"45 is the age limit for many ladies, and when turned 46 almost the half of Fab became forbidden to contact.

What's wrong after this age ladies? Can just 1 year change things so dramatically?

And what is the point in setting age limit to 99 and then reply "sorry you are too old" or even "too young" if the lady is over 55?

Hard life isn't it?"

You need to do several things:

1. Adjust the parameters of your search to match with people interested in your age group

2. Go to chat rooms and be seen (people make exceptions to rules and may contact you even though you can't message them initially)

3. Go to Forums and do as 2.

I haven't faked my age and I'm just over the 55 cut off for many people ... I prefer to be honest and just live with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you can ride a bike for 5 hours..?

Yes Im training for London to Paris in a few mths "

Wow, good for you Spider, that's a long old jaunt, but worth it for the views alone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

Christ if they can get away with knocking 10 years off I need to invest in some Oil of Olay shares....and I am hoping you mean to their height and not their whojammaflix...

They add inches to both! And no, they can't get away with 10 years, you just think 'Goodness he looks really rough for 53!!' "

Rough for 53...crikey, you wouldn't think there was much point once you reach that age...

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Better to know you're not what is wanted, otherwise people would moan that they waste efforts messaging people when it was avoidable.

Some ages and genders are more in demand. Target your efforts instead of asking why they don't want you. It's futile.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

Christ if they can get away with knocking 10 years off I need to invest in some Oil of Olay shares....and I am hoping you mean to their height and not their whojammaflix...

They add inches to both! And no, they can't get away with 10 years, you just think 'Goodness he looks really rough for 53!!'

This reminds me of the time I was invited for coffee with a woman who purported to be 51. When she opened her front door, I genuinely almost asked if her daughter was home "

Yes, I had one of those two, used a photo 15 years and 2 stone out of date.... embarrassing!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

I may have added a few inches on, and not in a good way..... "

Haha, tell me about it....

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

Christ if they can get away with knocking 10 years off I need to invest in some Oil of Olay shares....and I am hoping you mean to their height and not their whojammaflix...

They add inches to both! And no, they can't get away with 10 years, you just think 'Goodness he looks really rough for 53!!'

This reminds me of the time I was invited for coffee with a woman who purported to be 51. When she opened her front door, I genuinely almost asked if her daughter was home

Sorry to laugh.

We met a guy who forgot how old he'd told us he was and began telling us about a lads holiday he'd been on. The year he said he went would have made him 9 "

Haha, yes, it would be far better to have people think he looks great for 63 than rough for 53! And there have literally been one or two that I have not replied to simply because I am sure they are lying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

I may have added a few inches on, and not in a good way.....

Haha, tell me about it.... "

You look fine to me

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

I may have added a few inches on, and not in a good way.....

Haha, tell me about it....

You look fine to me "

Smoke, mirrors and tight elastic knickers!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

I may have added a few inches on, and not in a good way.....

Haha, tell me about it....

You look fine to me

Smoke, mirrors and tight elastic knickers!! "

Hehe must be see through from some of your pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I’m over 45. I may be wrong but I’ve found men more likely to lie about their age than women on here. Many men who say they’re 48 are more like 55, either that or they’ve had a hard life. That may be why people have lower age limits.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

Christ if they can get away with knocking 10 years off I need to invest in some Oil of Olay shares....and I am hoping you mean to their height and not their whojammaflix...

They add inches to both! And no, they can't get away with 10 years, you just think 'Goodness he looks really rough for 53!!'

This reminds me of the time I was invited for coffee with a woman who purported to be 51. When she opened her front door, I genuinely almost asked if her daughter was home

Yes, I had one of those two, used a photo 15 years and 2 stone out of date.... embarrassing! "

Another local Fabster I was seeing at the time, called me for a chat, and I mentioned I'd had a social with this lady. Really, she said, how did you get on? I haven't seen her since her 50th birthday party! Was that last year, I asked? Don't be daft she replied, it must be 15 years ago now! Why, how old did she say she was? Cue fits of laughter........

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By *r n Mrs NaughtyCouple
over a year ago

eccles

Jen here.

I love the older guys

They know how to treat a lady and I find most of the single guys on here lie about there age

Just be who you are age shouldn't matter xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh shit, I fear I should retire my pussy right now. This is so depressing.

I have actually tried and tried to find a guy older than me that I'm attracted to but it's not happened. Maybe I have been unlucky as most of the messages I have received from older gentleman have been great but their pictures do not reflect their age or look 10 years out of date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just hit 55 and proud of it.....

we all are entitled to choices, it seems some have more prefs than others........their choice !

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I turn 45 in under two weeks.... Should I be worried?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quitting fab next week then cos I get to 40ten... Life must be over for me then

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By *ookingforlustMan
over a year ago

northants

50 in May. Better get booked in to Dignitas......or the vets, whichever’s cheaper.....

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I turn 45 in under two weeks.... Should I be worried? "

No mate, you've got another year until you fall off the radar (when you turn 46 your profile drops off the majority of searches)

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By *oblovesyouMan
over a year ago

poole

That's me screwed come Aug.... still, at least i'll eventually get screwed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

retired last year and life has become even more amazing

life is getting so much better without work to worry about

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With age just comes more experience plenty of ' younger' people looking for 'older'- how else they going to learn?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm 56 in 2 months time and most women in my area that set the limits to co we my age have a maximum age of 55 set!!

I will definitely be adjusting my date of birth and letting them know in had to lie at the first opportunity. Needs must

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

Not long hit the ripe old age of 56. Not quite ready for a zimmer frame yet and I still have my own hair and teeth.

Never seen the need to lie about my age, it's only a number after all.

I don't let people's cut off points bother me. They are there for a reason and they are entitled to use them as they see fit.

I don't particularly eant to meet people many years younger than me, I prefer people around my own age or older.

At the end of the day it's personal choice and we all have that freedom, thankfully.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"50 in May. Better get booked in to Dignitas......or the vets, whichever’s cheaper....."

Book me in with you please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"50 in May. Better get booked in to Dignitas......or the vets, whichever’s cheaper.....

Book me in with you please "

Lmfao!! I just looked at your profile and you like like my kind of interesting person - guess what, your cut off is 54 and I'm 55

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most middle aged men knock 10 years off and add a few inches on anyway. ...

Christ if they can get away with knocking 10 years off I need to invest in some Oil of Olay shares....and I am hoping you mean to their height and not their whojammaflix...

They add inches to both! And no, they can't get away with 10 years, you just think 'Goodness he looks really rough for 53!!' "

I think this is where I'm going wrong. I'm not adding anything!? Women are obviously doing the deductions and think I'm a micro penised dwarf pensioner!!!

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