FabSwingers.com forum: Why ????

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do people use the unread option when they have clearly read the message. ??

I can't think of anything it achieves apart from pissing the sender of message off.

If your not interested. Just say so. Why leave it showing as unread for 2 3 weeks when you have clearly been on site everyday.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Do you mean you've seen a message has been read but then it has been marked unread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they get a lot of mail it will disappear off their inbox page and they'll never see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The aim of marking it unread is to piss the sender off. Good to see its working

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Why do people use the unread option when they have clearly read the message. ??

I can't think of anything it achieves apart from pissing the sender of message off.

If your not interested. Just say so. Why leave it showing as unread for 2 3 weeks when you have clearly been on site everyday. "

Because they can. Have a wank and calm down!

I will leave messages unread until I'm ready to deal with them. I clear the read mail to keep track of messages so if I read one I'm not ready to deal with it will get deleted.

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

I seldom bother looking at my sent mail list. What would it achieve?

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

Just because they've been on the site doesn't mean they've read the mails.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't read all my messages. If it's a message that doesn't interest me, I just let it fall off the bottom of a page. I bulk delete every so often, to tidy up my inbox. I'm not going to change my approach. It works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women should read and reply to every message. I don't care if they have to work or sleep, reply to the message first! Every single one of them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women should read and reply to every message. I don't care if they have to work or sleep, reply to the message first! Every single one of them!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women should read and reply to every message. I don't care if they have to work or sleep, reply to the message first! Every single one of them!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women should read and reply to every message. I don't care if they have to work or sleep, reply to the message first! Every single one of them!"

I'm currently advertising for a pa to manage mine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Attractions. ???

Can I ask you young couples and young ladies what is the attraction of older men ??

I'm fortunate to have a bit of interest from the younger ones on this site.

But the percentage of local ish and therefore realistic meets is low due to distance.

When I look at the profiles that have viewed me. My jaw drops. They are sex on legs. People I would spend hours just eating they are so gorgeouse. .

So when I look in the mirror and see a six pack that has turned into a beer keg, and bleached highlights that have turned grey.

A back that photographed close up would have David Attenborough reminiscing about silver back gorillas.

My question is to all you sexy young minxes and smooth shaven femining Tv's .what should I try to improve to get the more local interest. I'm aware a question like this will generate the odd comedian to respond .??

But any suggestions would be most appreciated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women should read and reply to every message. I don't care if they have to work or sleep, reply to the message first! Every single one of them!"

Sorry sir, I'll try harder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at all these women listening to the man, like they should

Compliance at it's finest!

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By *irtyGirlWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The first three words of a PM tell me whether I should bother. The age shown by the title also let’s me know whether it’s worth reading. I bulk delete generally cause frankly it’s not worth my time wading through shite from people who’ve not read my profile. I certainly wouldn’t read then mark as unread... delete is quicker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" If your not interested. Just say so. Why leave it showing as unread for 2 3 weeks when you have clearly been on site everyday. "

They are saying so, by not responding to your message.

Move on

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

"Attractions. ???

Can I ask you young couples and young ladies what is the attraction of older men ??

I'm fortunate to have a bit of interest from the younger ones on this site.

But the percentage of local ish and therefore realistic meets is low due to distance.

When I look at the profiles that have viewed me. My jaw drops. They are sex on legs. People I would spend hours just eating they are so gorgeouse. .

So when I look in the mirror and see a six pack that has turned into a beer keg, and bleached highlights that have turned grey.

A back that photographed close up would have David Attenborough reminiscing about silver back gorillas.

But any suggestions would be most appreciated.

How young are we talking so we know who can reply to your question?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I try not to look at my sent messages.

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By *ncandiladoCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

As a couple if one of us reads a message we think the other will like we read it then mark as unread. This allows the other person to notice the message, otherwise it gets lost in amongst the others.

OP you're maybe talking about messages you send to single females but when sending to couples guys often don't consider only 1 if us is online at a time and it might be a day before the other one goes on to check messages.

And don't get me started on auto removed pics, I always miss out!

Kat x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people use the unread option when they have clearly read the message. ??

I can't think of anything it achieves apart from pissing the sender of message off.

If your not interested. Just say so. Why leave it showing as unread for 2 3 weeks when you have clearly been on site everyday. "
sometimes we mark it as unread so the other can read it.. or because we are unsure how to reply

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Do you mean you've seen a message has been read but then it has been marked unread? "

No.

I sense that due to either previouse correspondence or the wording of the message that there is no way they have ignored it for 3 weeks.

I feel you can tell after a while what type of profile generates so much interest that you can except they haven't got round to you yet.

But that works both ways.

Example ===

Young 18yr old into everything sexual can accommodate. ???

Above gets so much interest you just wait and hope

I'm no James Dean.

But then I'm not looking for Liz

Taylor.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Us British Males got a bit more respect for our women than that me old fruit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You trying to get me arrested? ?

My profile says it all.

I'm messaging either people who have looked at me or messaged me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you mean you've seen a message has been read but then it has been marked unread?

No.

I sense that due to either previouse correspondence or the wording of the message that there is no way they have ignored it for 3 weeks.

I feel you can tell after a while what type of profile generates so much interest that you can except they haven't got round to you yet.

But that works both ways.

Example ===

Young 18yr old into everything sexual can accommodate. ???

Above gets so much interest you just wait and hope

I'm no James Dean.

But then I'm not looking for Liz

Taylor. "

Messages fall to the bottom of of the page very fast though, in my experience. If I haven't read it within a day, it's no longer accessible unless I delete messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unread messages are a good indicator to me that either they aren’t interested, I’ve managed to bore the pants off them, they’ve found something that sustains and captures their interest more or they’ve had quite a few messages since and can no longer see or have forgotten about it. Either way it means conversation over. Forget about it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Unread messages are a good indicator to me that either they aren’t interested, I’ve managed to bore the pants off them, they’ve found something that sustains and captures their interest more or they’ve had quite a few messages since and can no longer see or have forgotten about it. Either way it means conversation over. Forget about it and move on."

Not always lovely. If I'm speaking to someone regularly, it can be easy to miss a message from them. If I haven't read a message from someone I speak to usually, thats usually the reason. Not because I want to stop talking

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

"Example ===

Young 18yr old into everything sexual can accommodate. ???

Above gets so much interest you just wait and hope

Probably a guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people use the unread option when they have clearly read the message. ??

I can't think of anything it achieves apart from pissing the sender of message off.

If your not interested. Just say so. Why leave it showing as unread for 2 3 weeks when you have clearly been on site everyday. "

I have strayed into my sent messages once. Nothing good came of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they havent replied, that, surely, is the only answer you need. And just because someone looks at your profile you message them?...that's the very reason a lt of women look at profiles in stealth mode..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mark it unread to remind myself to go back and reply when I have more time to send a thought out message. Sometimes I’m not in the mood for chatting and mark it unread for when I am or sometimes it’s so we can get each other to read it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realise that is the case with someone you might speak to regularly but at that time that particular conversation is still over. If I sat around waiting for a reply to every message I sent to my friends I’d go demented. If a particular conversation is retuned to I’ve often forgotten about it because my memory ain’t what it used to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You trying to get me arrested? ?

My profile says it all.

I'm messaging either people who have looked at me or messaged me. "

Just because someone looks at you doesnt mean they want to talk. If they did they'd probably have messaged you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mark it unread to remind myself to go back and reply when I have more time to send a thought out message. Sometimes I’m not in the mood for chatting and mark it unread for when I am or sometimes it’s so we can get each other to read it. "

I use the save function for that if I’ve got quite a bit of traffic. As it’s easier to find in the saved box.

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By *queekyCheesyCouple
over a year ago

newark

Mark unread if it's of interest. So we both can read it AND otherwise the pictures dissapear (if site supporter).

Sometimes the sender see's we have been online and deletes the pics from their end and blows their chance with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha I know that feeling!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they get a lot of mail it will disappear off their inbox page and they'll never see it."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You trying to get me arrested? ?

My profile says it all.

I'm messaging either people who have looked at me or messaged me.

Just because someone looks at you doesnt mean they want to talk. If they did they'd probably have messaged you. "

Yep I look at lots of profiles but it’s frequently not because I’m anything other than nosey and is often for less than positive reasons

Thankfully I’m a

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By *Stud2017Man
over a year ago

North West

"Women should read and reply to every message. I don't care if they have to work or sleep, reply to the message first! Every single one of them!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha I know that feeling!

Give over you’re positively youthful in comparison to an old fart like me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha I know that feeling!

Give over you’re positively youthful in comparison to an old fart like me

Tell my creaking knees that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mark unread if it's of interest. So we both can read it AND otherwise the pictures dissapear (if site supporter).

Sometimes the sender see's we have been online and deletes the pics from their end and blows their chance with it.

Yep that’s a bit of a problem I guess with the pics function for site supporters. Especially if they use the self-destruct when read function

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha I know that feeling!

Give over you’re positively youthful in comparison to an old fart like me

Tell my creaking knees that

I used to have creaking knees but my exercise regime seems to have sorted that out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you just want to fart around the forums, without getting into long conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahaha I know that feeling!

Give over you’re positively youthful in comparison to an old fart like me

Tell my creaking knees that

I used to have creaking knees but my exercise regime seems to have sorted that out

Whoops sorry OP, thread hijack alert

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By *SophiexCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock

"Why do people use the unread option when they have clearly read the message. ??

I can't think of anything it achieves apart from pissing the sender of message off..."

Sometimes people mark as unread to remind them to reply later on e.g. if they need to consider what is the best response...

Anyway who gives a fcuk, go find something important to get pissed off at as life's too short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The aim of marking it unread is to piss the sender off. Good to see its working

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By *etandhorny2017Woman
over a year ago

dartford

"Women should read and reply to every message. I don't care if they have to work or sleep, reply to the message first! Every single one of them!"

That's funny who has time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do it so the other person can see the message

Ads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do people use the unread option when they have clearly read the message. ??

I can't think of anything it achieves apart from pissing the sender of message off.

If your not interested. Just say so. Why leave it showing as unread for 2 3 weeks when you have clearly been on site everyday. "
They're here for the chase mate, nothing more

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