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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey everybody. We're pretty new to this. But some of the stuff I see on here baffles me. We all want to meet clean and respectful people we expect that. The only thing I can't understand is people who are saying they are really fussy!! Can you be fussy on here? After all you have come on here to meet people to have sex . Anyway hello everyone xx

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

seriously?

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By *nlovedpaulMan
over a year ago

stone

I think you can be extremely fussy if you want to, especially as a female or a couple.

You can sometimes be too fussy, and you end up never meeting anyone

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Erm...interesting take you have there!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


" Hey everybody. We're pretty new to this. But some of the stuff I see on here baffles me. We all want to meet clean and respectful people we expect that. The only thing I can't understand is people who are saying they are really fussy!! Can you be fussy on here? After all you have come on here to meet people to have sex . Anyway hello everyone xx"

Of course you can be fussy.... You aren't going to fuck everyone who asks are you?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Hey everybody. We're pretty new to this. But some of the stuff I see on here baffles me. We all want to meet clean and respectful people we expect that. The only thing I can't understand is people who are saying they are really fussy!! Can you be fussy on here? After all you have come on here to meet people to have sex . Anyway hello everyone xx"

Ummm yes... . I may be looking for sex, but that doesn't mean I'm looking for sex with anyone who wants to fuck me. I would never compromise my personal standards to get sex. But each to their own OP. Enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definatley im fussy, i wont meet just amyone for the sake of a shag, id rather go without

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By *eardedProctologistMan
over a year ago

Here and there but more here than there

2 weeks you are on here and you haven't met anyone...you must be fussy somehow

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Some people seem to have a bizarre thinking pattern, I decide who has access to my body, and yes I am extremely fussy

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Interested to know why you think you can't be fussy about who you might want to have sex with?

We all have criteria that make up what attracts us to another person, regardless of whether that be in the context of a relationship, or that of a swinging/NSA environment. I know I wouldn't and couldn't find satisfaction sexually with people I didn't have some level of connection, chemistry with and attraction to - if that makes me fussy, then long may it continue

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside

I would rather fuck no one than someone who I was not attracted to. Fussy? Hell yeh and proud of it! Why do you think you can't be fussy on here OP?

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

I'm extremely fussy too and this is why I don't meet a lot of people. Everything has to be a particular standard or what's the point meeting? If in real life we wouldn't be a match then online we won't be. I think people presume just because you're online you will go with anyone. This may be acceptable for most but not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"2 weeks you are on here and you haven't met anyone...you must be fussy somehow"

They are seeking a single female only to play with. That may explain their lack of meets. You know how damn 'fussy' us single women are

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

It's impossible to fuck somebody you don't fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We'll be as fussy as fuck thank you.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

I don't consider myself 'fussy' .... I just try to ensure that the people who I'm going to get up close and personal with tick all my boxes. Otherwise, what'd be the point? The aim is to try and have the best time possible, not set yourself (and the other party/parties) up for a fall by not bothering to check you're compatible in all the areas important to you beforehand

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple
over a year ago

South Wales

It's impossible to fuck somebody you don't fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the OP's hiding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could never play with someone i wasn't attracted to, that just reeks of desperation

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP's hiding "

It is their first post. They are probably wondering what the hell possessed them ask out loud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not fussy, we either "like" or "don't like". No fussing

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??"

Nope.... Still don't get it.

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By *eardedProctologistMan
over a year ago

Here and there but more here than there


"We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??"

To sleep with ppl you are attracted to

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

What the hell?!?!

Do you happily just fuck any old cock or pussy that happens to pass by?

Swinging isn't about getting as many notches on your bed post as possible! I'm kinda nipped at your "can you be fussy?"

Swinging is mainly a social adventure with like minded individuals and those you find attractive or have a connection to means you can enjoy a physical side to that aspect of your relationship/friendship.

Your comment OP sums up entirely what is wrong with the swinging generation now!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We're not fussy, we either "like" or "don't like". No fussing "

Exactly my point

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I'm very fussy, and I'm bloody proud of it.

I have standards, I'd rather not have sex than compromise them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??"

So because we are on here we have to drop our standards and fuck anyone who asks? No thanks like i said before id go without rather than fucking just anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might be on a sex/swinging site looking for sex but I sure as hell will not lower my standards because of this.

I am fussy outside this site and if anything maybe more fussier on here than I normally would be.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"I could never play with someone i wasn't attracted to, that just reeks of desperation "

this! This! This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??"

Personally speaking OP. I have a hectic home life, which doesn't afford me the time to go out regularly socially... And never on a weekend. This is the next best thing. I could easily pull on a night out, I just can't get out on a night out to pull

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on since November and had no meets had gd few opertunities , so I am very very fussy happy fabbin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very fussy, and I'm bloody proud of it.

I have standards, I'd rather not have sex than compromise them.

"

This

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By *kmanMan
over a year ago

Letterkenny


"I could never play with someone i wasn't attracted to, that just reeks of desperation

this! This! This!

"

Damm right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all have our own standards

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


" Hey everybody. We're pretty new to this. But some of the stuff I see on here baffles me. We all want to meet clean and respectful people we expect that. The only thing I can't understand is people who are saying they are really fussy!! Can you be fussy on here? After all you have come on here to meet people to have sex . Anyway hello everyone xx"

I'm in stoke tomorrow,can you be on the bed waiting naked for me as I need sex and will only have 5 minutes

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??"

I think you will find out exactly how fussy the single fems are on here. Good luck.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what a strange point of view!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??

I think you will find out exactly how fussy the single fems are on here. Good luck."

Give them time. Theyll find out

;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??"

I'll continue to be picky then.

Having sex with someone I'm attracted to......mental. I should be fucking anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them. "

i'm not sure where 'inhibitions' figure in the OP..or in whether people are 'fussy' or not. Aren't they a completely different thing to sexual preferences?..because they certainly are too me..

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Nothing wrong with being fussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??"

Of course we're bloody picky. If you're happy with the opening your legs for anyone, or sticking your cock in anything with a pulse, then good for you.

Just happens a lot of us have higher standards and won't just settle for that will do, for the sake of a fuck.

I wouldn't fuck just anyone away from here, why the hell would that change just because I'm on a site that has people who share a similar lifestyle

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them. "

No it isn't a sex site! Think before you type! To have sex with someone you need to be attracted to them. So yes people are fussy and have standards. Mine are higher than if I were dating. Yes the mystery of what's under the clothes is gone but you still need to have that attraction.

If you want an NSA fuck with whom youve no desire for try a hooker!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them. "

What has inhibitions got to do with physical attraction?? I have next to no inhibitions, doesn't mean I'm going to fuck someone I have zero attraction to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have standards and a life away from fab plus there needs to be a spark and an attraction x

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By *rMisterMan
over a year ago

Near the Wall


" Hey everybody. We're pretty new to this. But some of the stuff I see on here baffles me. We all want to meet clean and respectful people we expect that. The only thing I can't understand is people who are saying they are really fussy!! Can you be fussy on here? After all you have come on here to meet people to have sex . Anyway hello everyone xx"

Kayley I'm one of those who says they are fussy . It simply means that if there is no attraction it won't happen. From my perspective, I HAVE to fancy you before even engaging into conversation about merring. Weach can chat about news weather give and get adevice and share jokes as human on the site but not meeting. There are a lot of members particularly single men who will just meet anyone. The fussy ones chose who they meet : this can range from the appearance to what is written or not written on the profile. If you are nothing like your profile pictures the fussy ones will walk away and the other ones will still go ahead with because they are not fussy, hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"2 weeks you are on here and you haven't met anyone...you must be fussy somehow

They are seeking a single female only to play with. That may explain their lack of meets. You know how damn 'fussy' us single women are "

Too fussy we’re yet to find one too why won’t you just let us use your body how we want? We’re only slight pervs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god possibly the worst post ever

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By *rMisterMan
over a year ago

Near the Wall

Oh and just one more thing I learned after several years of hedonism. You play often with some people in clubs you will never meet on 1 to 1. Alcohol and the atmosphere I suppose .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not that fussy where body, race, religion or political views are concerned, but I have to be attracted to the face and the character of the man.

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By *ornytoonladMan
over a year ago

North East


"I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them. "

But inhibitions and standards are two separate things

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them.

But inhibitions and standards are two separate things "

Exactly!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Oh god possibly the worst post ever "

Really?! I've seen worse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh and just one more thing I learned after several years of hedonism. You play often with some people in clubs you will never meet on 1 to 1. Alcohol and the atmosphere I suppose . "

That is the pleasure of a club and group sex but I still choose who I have sex with x

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By *hinypants77Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Personally I wouldn’t want to shag someone who would have sex with just anyone just because they have a cock or vagina.

If there’s no connection you may as well just have a wank. Selecting your partners wisely is always a good thing on fab or in the real world. Sex is an intimate act and taking time to get to know what someone’s about is the way to go imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a doesn't mean you automatically want to sleep with anyone who asks.

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not that fussy where body, race, religion or political views are concerned, but I have to be attracted to the face and the character of the man. "

Exactly my point. When some one says 'fussy' that what I automatically assume.

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway


"I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them.

No it isn't a sex site! Think before you type! To have sex with someone you need to be attracted to them. So yes people are fussy and have standards. Mine are higher than if I were dating. Yes the mystery of what's under the clothes is gone but you still need to have that attraction.

If you want an NSA fuck with whom youve no desire for try a hooker! "

this is indeed a sex site people do not join up to "fabswingers" because they aren't looking for sex just looking for friends are they?

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By *ornytoonladMan
over a year ago

North East


"2 weeks you are on here and you haven't met anyone...you must be fussy somehow

They are seeking a single female only to play with. That may explain their lack of meets. You know how damn 'fussy' us single women are "

Ahh so now the OP is a hypocrite too

Asking why are people “fussy” but them themselves are only after single females

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm very fussy, and I'm bloody proud of it.

I have standards, I'd rather not have sex than compromise them.

"

Same here i am very fussy .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We're not fussy, we either "like" or "don't like". No fussing "

Put perfectly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you can be extremely fussy if you want to, especially as a female or a couple.

You can sometimes be too fussy, and you end up never meeting anyone "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you can be extremely fussy if you want to, especially as a female or a couple.

You can sometimes be too fussy, and you end up never meeting anyone "

I’d rather wait and meet the right person than be desperate to shag anyone just cos they ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The trick is to be surrounded by people you do fancy, and you can then, very un-fussily shag 'em all.

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By *ornytoonladMan
over a year ago

North East


"I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them.

No it isn't a sex site! Think before you type! To have sex with someone you need to be attracted to them. So yes people are fussy and have standards. Mine are higher than if I were dating. Yes the mystery of what's under the clothes is gone but you still need to have that attraction.

If you want an NSA fuck with whom youve no desire for try a hooker!

this is indeed a sex site people do not join up to "fabswingers" because they aren't looking for sex just looking for friends are they?"

In some cases yes.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them.

No it isn't a sex site! Think before you type! To have sex with someone you need to be attracted to them. So yes people are fussy and have standards. Mine are higher than if I were dating. Yes the mystery of what's under the clothes is gone but you still need to have that attraction.

If you want an NSA fuck with whom youve no desire for try a hooker!

this is indeed a sex site people do not join up to "fabswingers" because they aren't looking for sex just looking for friends are they?"

Of course people are looking for sex on a sex site but that doesn't mean the women or blokes have to drop standards or have to have a connection first.

Appreciate to some men any holes a goal but most of us want attraction as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them.

No it isn't a sex site! Think before you type! To have sex with someone you need to be attracted to them. So yes people are fussy and have standards. Mine are higher than if I were dating. Yes the mystery of what's under the clothes is gone but you still need to have that attraction.

If you want an NSA fuck with whom youve no desire for try a hooker!

this is indeed a sex site people do not join up to "fabswingers" because they aren't looking for sex just looking for friends are they?"

Swinging is not just about sex but the social side too x

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

So because we are swingers we have lower standards?

Don’t get where you are coming from OP.

We are extremely fussy and always will be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately the 'fussy' protagonists aren't quite as diligent as they make out when saying they need a connection and 'fancy' someone first as decisions are often made in the back of one face photo ... not exactly the way to work out if they have a connection. The reality is just skin deep ...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"seriously?

"

I think I know what they mean.

We're here to meet people for sex in the main. We're not looking for a kidney donor or life partner: simply someone we find hot as fuck...to fuck.

Some profiles do read as if the writer is God's gift: we're not here to fuck the whole site, we're not hardened swingers, we only meet exceptional people...you know the ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very selective and if that makes me fussy so be it.

I have turned down a lot of men and as a consequence haven't had a lot of meets but pretty much like everyone else has said I won't have sex with just anyone or for the sake of it.

Very random first post methinks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fussy has such perjorative connotations as a word. I think discerning is a better word to describe what people mean by it. There are a number of factors that most people who use the word take into consideration before deciding to have sex with anyone. Even those that don’t use the word still use differing degrees of discernment in making their decision. However, at its simplest it boils down to physical and mental attraction. Some have quite a brad range of what they find attractive others have a narrower range. Add to that the likelihood that individuals are on here to fulfill fantasies as well, then it is hardly surprising that they are discerning in making their choices.

Is that not the case for you?

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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago

a quandary, could you change my mind?

Even as a mere man,, I wouldn't and haven't gone with every one that approaches me, I know what I like and don't. I know my mind and its the one that makes the decisions

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"seriously?

I think I know what they mean.

We're here to meet people for sex in the main. We're not looking for a kidney donor or life partner: simply someone we find hot as fuck...to fuck.

Some profiles do read as if the writer is God's gift: we're not here to fuck the whole site, we're not hardened swingers, we only meet exceptional people...you know the ones. "

Yes this is exactly what I mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh bollocks to it, I'm convinced. I'll fuck anyone....NOW!

Come n get it bitches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"seriously?

I think I know what they mean.

We're here to meet people for sex in the main. We're not looking for a kidney donor or life partner: simply someone we find hot as fuck...to fuck.

Some profiles do read as if the writer is God's gift: we're not here to fuck the whole site, we're not hardened swingers, we only meet exceptional people...you know the ones.

Yes this is exactly what I mean "

Why would you be any less than fussy? I am very fussy about who gets to swap cum with me!

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"I think the OP has genuine points on this topic,obviously the "this isn't dial a ride" brigade will be lighting their torches and sharpening their pitchforks as I type but primarily this site is a NSA sex site,I can almost hear the gasps of faux indignation from the "it's a swingers site nt a sex site" brigade, if you want to just swing get to the nearest playground and have at it. Obviously we can all be a choosy who we have sex with but sites like this should lower inhibitions not increase them.

No it isn't a sex site! Think before you type! To have sex with someone you need to be attracted to them. So yes people are fussy and have standards. Mine are higher than if I were dating. Yes the mystery of what's under the clothes is gone but you still need to have that attraction.

If you want an NSA fuck with whom youve no desire for try a hooker!

this is indeed a sex site people do not join up to "fabswingers" because they aren't looking for sex just looking for friends are they?"

Yes some do.... I rarely meet cos I'm fussy! Proud to be as well and I've made lots of friends whom I've met from fab and they've never had their bits in me!

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Any holes a goal, right guys?

Guys?

Guys???

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm as fussy as hell and I wouldn't meet anyone that wasn't!!!

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By *eardedProctologistMan
over a year ago

Here and there but more here than there


"Any holes a goal, right guys?

Guys?

Guys???"

Hell yeah ! My dick doesn't have eyes !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any holes a goal, right guys?

Guys?

Guys???"

Wanna fuck?

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K


"It's impossible to fuck somebody you don't fancy."

There’s plenty of threads on here that say otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am very fussy, and unfortunately the ladies I fancy are even fussier...

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places


"I'm as fussy as hell and I wouldn't meet anyone that wasn't!!! "

Very much so! I'm hijacking this as I can't wink you _ady lick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be nice to have offers to be fussy over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Woman can be fussy. Most men desperate haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Interested to know why you think you can't be fussy about who you might want to have sex with?

We all have criteria that make up what attracts us to another person, regardless of whether that be in the context of a relationship, or that of a swinging/NSA environment. I know I wouldn't and couldn't find satisfaction sexually with people I didn't have some level of connection, chemistry with and attraction to - if that makes me fussy, then long may it continue "

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By *olliPineCouple
over a year ago

swingers clubs

Wouldn't it be ironic if all the profiles twisting about not getting replies/meets etc all gave the OP some opportunities they could be 'fussy' about

Yes we want nsa sex (and in some cases sex with swinging friends), hell yeah we get to pick who we do that with.

OP do you suggest that all offers on here should be taken up? Just because we've joined this site and waived our consent rights? Your classification pay didn't really help me understand the difference from your OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m a right fussy bitch... the amount of times mr beast has said what about this person and I’m like hell no!! I know what I like, if people don’t meet that then there is no chance, we may prefer to meet single ladies but we don’t lower our standards to get that meet.

Also if there is attraction all round and then also the personalities all work well together then you get the most amazing sex which is what we are all here for.

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By *orkie321bWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

OP the majority of people on here are fussy, including you.

After all you only want to meet women aged 19-38. That makes you fussy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can’t believe that was even posted In the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a right fussy bitch... the amount of times mr beast has said what about this person and I’m like hell no!! I know what I like, if people don’t meet that then there is no chance, we may prefer to meet single ladies but we don’t lower our standards to get that meet.

Also if there is attraction all round and then also the personalities all work well together then you get the most amazing sex which is what we are all here for. "

That's the thing isn't it? It must be more difficult for you, as you probably have different tastes. Finding someone who fits you both, must be very difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im fussy about a lot of things - im probably fussy what i might put on sandwich - im very very fussy who i have sex with -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you don't excite my mind make my body tingle and make me want more then why would i ever want to fuck with someone...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm extremely fussy but had some good meets when I've gone with instinct .

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over a year ago

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury


" Hey everybody. We're pretty new to this. But some of the stuff I see on here baffles me. We all want to meet clean and respectful people we expect that. The only thing I can't understand is people who are saying they are really fussy!! Can you be fussy on here? After all you have come on here to meet people to have sex . Anyway hello everyone xx"

Damn right I'm fussy I don't let anyone have set with me that I don't have an attraction too whether that's male or female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a right fussy bitch... the amount of times mr beast has said what about this person and I’m like hell no!! I know what I like, if people don’t meet that then there is no chance, we may prefer to meet single ladies but we don’t lower our standards to get that meet.

Also if there is attraction all round and then also the personalities all work well together then you get the most amazing sex which is what we are all here for.

That's the thing isn't it? It must be more difficult for you, as you probably have different tastes. Finding someone who fits you both, must be very difficult "

It can be and vice Versa as it’s important that she likes us both too and not just putting up with me to get to mr or putting up with him to get with me. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

U call it fussy I'd call it having preferences

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"U call it fussy I'd call it having preferences"

Well said (Mrs)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people seem to have a bizarre thinking pattern, I decide who has access to my body, and yes I am extremely fussy "

Yes!

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By *acktar74Man
over a year ago

leeds


"Some people seem to have a bizarre thinking pattern, I decide who has access to my body, and yes I am extremely fussy

Yes! "

What a body it is

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??"

Yes, I'm That fussy. I have a type and anyone I've met from here has been that type.

Why shouldn't anyone fussy be on here?

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By *uitar_antiheroMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Any holes a goal, right guys?

Guys?

Guys???

Wanna fuck? "

Do you have hope that could be my “goal”?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am fussy and proud

I refuse to lower my standards or compromise, as our profile states we do this for fun, and if I don't think it will be fun - I won't do it quite simply.

I need someone to engage my brain, without that doesn't matter how hot someone is, I do not remove my undies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another proud fussy person here!

The thought of just hooking up with anyone and everyone for sex makes me wanna vomit

I need a connection with someone, that spark, the glint in the eye and naughty smile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another proud fussy person here!

The thought of just hooking up with anyone and everyone for sex makes me wanna vomit

I need a connection with someone, that spark, the glint in the eye and naughty smile. "

Couldn't agree more. Everyone should be fussy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you have an age range (fussy)

And you only want to meet a woman (fussy)

It's not about being fussy..... it's personal preference.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Most of us don't have revolving doors where unknown anonymous shags stream in and out. There's a good number of us that look a little deeper than the surface and often have long term connections with people who we shag with.

We make our own rules and have our own tastes - some are more catholic than others. There's nothing wrong with a revolving door approach, where almost any physical body would do but I don't think that's close to what people do.

A final reason to state that one is fussy, is because a lot of people can get push/desperate - it can possibly filter out some less appropriate people ot reassure yourself that you aren't an easy

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I didn't see the op as an attack as most have: but an observation.

I saw a profile from a couple who, in their words, were exceptional and were looking for the same. They further added they were gym fit, in fact they went to great pains to inform how often they went to the gym and only wanted to meet the same: no oompah lumpas as they only wanted to meet people who took care of their bodies.

I have absolutely no problem with that: their body, their rules, their right. What made me smile was they were into barebacking: one could argue that was hardly taking care of yourself.

I think it's that kind of thing the op means. We all have preferences. "Standards" to me imply some are better than others. My preference is for tall men: 6ft and above. It doesn't mean those who meet men 5ft 8 don't have standards: there preference differs to mine.

I'm not putting words in the ops mouth, but I don't think they were implying we should spread em for whoever asks.

Okie dokie as you were...I'm back to the Brothers Grimsby on Netflix.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another proud fussy person here!

The thought of just hooking up with anyone and everyone for sex makes me wanna vomit

I need a connection with someone, that spark, the glint in the eye and naughty smile. "
fully agreed with you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I didn't see the op as an attack as most have: but an observation.

I saw a profile from a couple who, in their words, were exceptional and were looking for the same. They further added they were gym fit, in fact they went to great pains to inform how often they went to the gym and only wanted to meet the same: no oompah lumpas as they only wanted to meet people who took care of their bodies.

I have absolutely no problem with that: their body, their rules, their right. What made me smile was they were into barebacking: one could argue that was hardly taking care of yourself.

I think it's that kind of thing the op means. We all have preferences. "Standards" to me imply some are better than others. My preference is for tall men: 6ft and above. It doesn't mean those who meet men 5ft 8 don't have standards: there preference differs to mine.

I'm not putting words in the ops mouth, but I don't think they were implying we should spread em for whoever asks.

Okie dokie as you were...I'm back to the Brothers Grimsby on Netflix. "

Yeh exactly what I mean. We all have preferences we would not just sleep with anyone. But just in my opinions if I was reading through a profile and I saw the words 'I'm very fussy' I would stop reading there thinking I don't have a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I didn't see the op as an attack as most have: but an observation.

I saw a profile from a couple who, in their words, were exceptional and were looking for the same. They further added they were gym fit, in fact they went to great pains to inform how often they went to the gym and only wanted to meet the same: no oompah lumpas as they only wanted to meet people who took care of their bodies.

I have absolutely no problem with that: their body, their rules, their right. What made me smile was they were into barebacking: one could argue that was hardly taking care of yourself.

I think it's that kind of thing the op means. We all have preferences. "Standards" to me imply some are better than others. My preference is for tall men: 6ft and above. It doesn't mean those who meet men 5ft 8 don't have standards: there preference differs to mine.

I'm not putting words in the ops mouth, but I don't think they were implying we should spread em for whoever asks.

Okie dokie as you were...I'm back to the Brothers Grimsby on Netflix.

Yeh exactly what I mean. We all have preferences we would not just sleep with anyone. But just in my opinions if I was reading through a profile and I saw the words 'I'm very fussy' I would stop reading there thinking I don't have a chance."

I’ve been gobsmacked by the number of ‘fussy’ people who have been interested in me. Don’t read too much into the word, for some it means they won’t fuck a silhouette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We obviously have a different definition of 'fussy'. That in my opinion means your extremely picky who it is you sleep with, certain look certain body etc. Your on a site which is basically to sleep with people. If you were that fussy would you be on here??"

Ohhh so you can be fussy as long as you're not after a certain look or body type ?

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