FabSwingers.com forum: Repeat meets or one offs?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Personally I like repeat meets, getting to explore more each time. Never been a fan of one offs, think that’s why I don’t enjoy clubs. I know some people enjoy the buzz of someone new so only do one offs.

What’s your preference ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeats. One offs do nothing at all for me. Updated my profile and the mail dried up.

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Repeats, and look where it got me

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By *nlovedpaulMan
over a year ago

stone

Repeats are preferable, like to find out what makes someone tick, get a rapport with then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely repeats for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Repeats. One offs do nothing at all for me. Updated my profile and the mail dried up.

Nah, ya scared 'em off with wielding ya weapon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Repeats, and look where it got me

Such a lovely couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both. I like the thrill of meeting someone new and knowing I'll never see them again once the deed is done.

However I believe sex improves as you get to know someone so I'm definitely up for finding a regular play mate.

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes

Repeats...sex gets better over time as you understand each other’s desires and needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeats. Every time

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By *ust PeachyWoman
over a year ago

Prestonish

I definitely prefer repeat meets if the first meet goes really well!

I find a lot of people will say they’re looking for repeat meets - but in reality they’re still very much in the ‘shiny new fuck’ stage! X

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By *aenMan
over a year ago

Here and There

Repeats. Lots more fun to be had as you get to know each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not many single guys posting here...

Given the choice I would much prefer repeat meets and that learning what makes the girl feel amazing and how we could both explore that connection together.

That choice though;it's not mine alone to make.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Repeats, and look where it got me

Yeah, you're real unlucky

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By *iss SJWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Repeats. I’ve come right out of my shell and felt relaxed and open enough with certain people and one in particular, to really explore my sexuality and discovered a lot of things about myself that have been repressed for a long long time. I was not confident enough to do this with one offs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given the opportunity I would prefer repeat meets as I like sex with intimacy. In my experience (which is surprisingly limited) I cannot develop the level of trust and understanding in a one off meet, even if the build up has taken a while and with a social beforehand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeats. I like the level of trust it builds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One offs for me

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeats. I'm shy so the more i meet the more i come out of my shell.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Repeats, and look where it got me

The best brownies ever

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Love getting to know people properly. Repeats for me. I’ve met people who I can call friends.

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

Prefer repeats any day . Not into this fuck and go..... I don't get anything from it and sure as hell don't cum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeat meets with one or two people I could get to know and explore things with but I'd then enjoy going to clubs and things with them.

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Some repeat meets with the occasional one off in between

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But repeats run the risk of developing feelings.

I know I'm not cut out for this business. My fingers hovering on that button again. I UNDERSTAND is saved on my predictive text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeat meets, get to know everyone better and explore everything we want to do x

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"Repeats, and look where it got me

Yeah, you're real unlucky

You tell him! Rolling his eyes, pfft

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"Repeats, and look where it got me

The best brownies ever

Haha

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By *eothelionMan
over a year ago

chester

Repeats. Getting to know someone from just a one off is difficult.

Sounds strange saying it but the spiritual connection is just as important as the physical.

(All I get are one offs. I must be doing something wrong lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I had the chance I would go for repeats, but it's difficult enough getting one meet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been swinging with the same people for over 10 years and still get a buzz x

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By *ilent.KnightMan
over a year ago

Swindon

"But repeats run the risk of developing feelings.

I know I'm not cut out for this business. My fingers hovering on that button again. I UNDERSTAND is saved on my predictive text. "
what if I promise to be a twat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But repeats run the risk of developing feelings.

I know I'm not cut out for this business. My fingers hovering on that button again. I UNDERSTAND is saved on my predictive text. "

Feelings are ok. It’s how we react and respond to them that is the critical thing. The feelings are part of feeling fully alive and fully engaged. Cutting myself off from my feelings is deeply unsatifying. But the challenge for me has been fully feeling them but then acting appropriately. That meant changing how I thought about the, rather than not feeling them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeats if it suits all involved and your into each other and the chemistry is there x

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By *hinypants77Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Definitely repeats. The thrill of a new partner and not knowing what to expect is definitely a turn on but sex gets better the more you know someone, learn their noises, what each other likes how to turn them on and get them off.

Plus the better you know someone the more you build trust which always makes for more adventurous kinkiness and a better experience.

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By *rMisterMan
over a year ago

Near the Wall

I only ever have repeats so far except those I meet in clubs because they are often difficult to track down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Repeats. I’ve come right out of my shell and felt relaxed and open enough with certain people and one in particular, to really explore my sexuality and discovered a lot of things about myself that have been repressed for a long long time. I was not confident enough to do this with one offs. "

Same, it's amazing to be able to really let go with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Repeats, and look where it got me

The best brownies ever

I need this fucking brownie recipe!

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"Repeats, and look where it got me

The best brownies ever

I need this fucking brownie recipe!"

I’ve got it and made some more today

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

First time meets are exciting because you don't know how it's going to be but they're also nerve wracking if you're lacking in confidence and, for me, I think the nerves outweigh the excitement so however good it's been I usually feel it could have been better, wish I'd done something different etc.

Therefore repeat meets - when you find someone you click with sexually - are so much more satisfying for me. Those initial nerves diminish, your ego gets boosted because they want to meet you again, you start to build up trust and confidence together as you get more physically attuned to each other, and all of that means you can relax more, lose inhibitions, have more fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rinse repeat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely repeats, but i know it might take a few one offs to see find that repeat both are looking for. Although I hope not.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Repeats every time. I can't fully relax with someone I think might be a one off.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Repeats. I'm shy so the more i meet the more i come out of my shell."

This is you being shy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not sure any more I have done the fwb / fb but it has always gone way past that point and you get too involved, yes the sex is great, but that level of commitment is too much.so it's a difficult one for me to say which is best!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Repeats.

I'm definitely not into one offs.

I like to get to know someone, push boundaries explore different things.

For me there's things I'd only do with someone I knew well & trusted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeat meets, enables you to get to know someone better, you learn how to turn them on more, what they like and dislike. I've been lucky enough to have a couple of fuck buddies and the sex just got better and better. Then I stopped meeting. Remind me why I did that again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my meets are repeat meets...some guys I've been seeing for a few years (and I've never developed feelings). But I'm not averse to one-offs either to mix things up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally I like repeat meets, getting to explore more each time. Never been a fan of one offs, think that’s why I don’t enjoy clubs. I know some people enjoy the buzz of someone new so only do one offs.

What’s your preference ? "

I like repeats. I like to exhaust all avenues with someone first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeat meets but every now and then you meet that one person who tells you they want to meet again but never contact you again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeats...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeats for me - but trying to find a regular is like looking for a needle in a haystack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeat meets, if and when it ever happens.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Definitely repeats are better you get to know what each other likes and build trust.

But new meets are exciting too - the thrill of novelty and you need to meet for the first time to know if you want to meet again anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a mix of both. And that's the joy of fab for me. I only do repeat meets with those who are completely compatible with my way of meeting. They are very few and far between. So many guys just don't get it. For those they are perfect for a one off. Can't quite beat that nervous excitement of a first meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Repeats for me but I have had serious problems achieving this, hence I've kinda given up meeting because I hate one off fucks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One-off meets for us every time..

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