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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal? "You're a couple??? 
By the way I'm 50 next week and I had a wobble but now I'm gonna embrace it and, in fact, kick it's arse  | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
You're a couple???
By the way I'm 50 next week and I had a wobble but now I'm gonna embrace it and, in fact, kick it's arse "Not all couples are in a relationship 
Perfectly normal. I quite often have times where I wonder where I'm going and what I'm doing with my life. This is not where I thought I'd be at this stage of my life. | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
You're a couple???
By the way I'm 50 next week and I had a wobble but now I'm gonna embrace it and, in fact, kick it's arse "No we are just FWBs he’s a very good friend but in a way it’s worse as he knows exactly what he wants from life and I still don’t know 
Aww congratulations for next week, do you have anything exciting planned? X | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
You're a couple???
By the way I'm 50 next week and I had a wobble but now I'm gonna embrace it and, in fact, kick it's arse
Not all couples are in a relationship
Perfectly normal. I quite often have times where I wonder where I'm going and what I'm doing with my life. This is not where I thought I'd be at this stage of my life. "I always forget we are the same age xx | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
You're a couple???
By the way I'm 50 next week and I had a wobble but now I'm gonna embrace it and, in fact, kick it's arse
Not all couples are in a relationship
Perfectly normal. I quite often have times where I wonder where I'm going and what I'm doing with my life. This is not where I thought I'd be at this stage of my life.
I always forget we are the same age xx"Which one is younger in your head? | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
You're a couple???
By the way I'm 50 next week and I had a wobble but now I'm gonna embrace it and, in fact, kick it's arse
Not all couples are in a relationship
Perfectly normal. I quite often have times where I wonder where I'm going and what I'm doing with my life. This is not where I thought I'd be at this stage of my life.
I always forget we are the same age xx
Which one is younger in your head? "You you’re younger (although mature in out look) | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
You're a couple???
By the way I'm 50 next week and I had a wobble but now I'm gonna embrace it and, in fact, kick it's arse
No we are just FWBs he’s a very good friend but in a way it’s worse as he knows exactly what he wants from life and I still don’t know
Aww congratulations for next week, do you have anything exciting planned? X"Ahhh, I get that... Was like that when I got to 40 but wasn't really bothered by it. I had a big wobble over 50 (or 40ten as I am now calling it ) but not now. I'm in the best shape I've been in 25 years so have decided to embrace it!
I am having several meals/drinks out and if I get really lucky... A meet at some point to mark it 
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal? "Totally normal! I had a giant wobble when I turned 30 but I feel like I’ve figured myself out now. When I hit 40 I went to NYC for a couple of weeks by myself and it really did rock. I’m past the will I have kids thing now but for a long time in my late 30’s it swallowed me up. I guess I still believe that what’s meant for you won’t go by you so I made peace with that. It’s not unusual to take stock of your life when you hit a milestone birthday but I think if you’re happy in yourself and don’t rely on other people to make you happy then you’re halfway there.  | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
Totally normal! I had a giant wobble when I turned 30 but I feel like I’ve figured myself out now. When I hit 40 I went to NYC for a couple of weeks by myself and it really did rock.
I’m past the will I have kids thing now but for a long time in my late 30’s it swallowed me up. I guess I still believe that what’s meant for you won’t go by you so I made peace with that.
It’s not unusual to take stock of your life when you hit a milestone birthday but I think if you’re happy in yourself and don’t rely on other people to make you happy then you’re halfway there. "Wow nyc alone?! That’s brave. That’s one thing I need to do this year travel alone (get my big girl panties on!) | |||
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"Yeah I occasionally have moments like this having just turned 39. Went for a walk today and started thinking these things but didn't last long. It's only when I have time on my hands I start to reflect" That’s true I probably have too much time on my hands at times. I work hard, study hard but switch off by being alone maybe I need new ways to switch off and occupy myself x | |||
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"Yeah I occasionally have moments like this having just turned 39. Went for a walk today and started thinking these things but didn't last long. It's only when I have time on my hands I start to reflect That’s true I probably have too much time on my hands at times. I work hard, study hard but switch off by being alone maybe I need new ways to switch off and occupy myself x" No! You need some down time lady or you will burn out! | |||
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"Travelling alone is totally liberating. I find that you’re much more approachable when you’re not in a crowd and I met lots of people just hanging around the city. You should definitely go get your big girl pants on, I can’t recommend it highly enough. "Thank you I will | |||
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"Yeah I occasionally have moments like this having just turned 39. Went for a walk today and started thinking these things but didn't last long. It's only when I have time on my hands I start to reflect That’s true I probably have too much time on my hands at times. I work hard, study hard but switch off by being alone maybe I need new ways to switch off and occupy myself x No! You need some down time lady or you will burn out! " I know but you’re alwats on the go and the j man is I need stuff to talk about lol | |||
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"Absolutely normal! The good news is I found that I relaxed about a lot of things once I reached 50! Not only that but the enjoyment of sex improved too!" Ooo that’s exciting plenty of time to practice in between | |||
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"I semi-dreaded turning 40 in but when I did I realised I didn't feel any differently than I had before. I still feel no more grown up, or have any urge to do all those grown up things. Maybe it'll catch up with me some day but I'm pretty content and the oddest thing about being 41 is other people's reaction when they ask me my age, because they always seem surprised. Maybe I ought to act more like it but I honestly wouldn't have a clue what that would entail." Haha that’s good to know. I guess it’s just a state of mind | |||
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"I semi-dreaded turning 40 in but when I did I realised I didn't feel any differently than I had before. I still feel no more grown up, or have any urge to do all those grown up things. Maybe it'll catch up with me some day but I'm pretty content and the oddest thing about being 41 is other people's reaction when they ask me my age, because they always seem surprised. Maybe I ought to act more like it but I honestly wouldn't have a clue what that would entail." This rings true for me too... gonna be 45 in April and I genuinely don’t feel any different than I did when I was 25. Sure I’m older and wiser and I often chuckle to myself cause when my parents were this age I thought they were friggin ancient!
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal? "I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year  | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal? ". I hit 50 on Friday and like you I asked my self all of the questions you asked your self I even thought about the mistakes of the past which just got me even more down.As you know you can't change the past but you can shape your future.Decide what you want and give it your best shot.I always say to myself there is always someone worse off than me.Good luck with everything. | |||
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"I am 51 and my view is that most of us are pretty insignificant in the broader historical sweep of things. . Unless you're famous you can pretty much guarantee that one hundred years from now no one will be aware you ever existed. That may seem depressing, but it's actually hugely liberating in the that what you do is unlikely to matter much in a wider sense. Hence think about what you want and don't think you have to conform to societal expectation. Oh and the great thing about getting old is ceasing to give a fuck about what other people think "Haha thanks look forward to not giving a fuck | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal? . I hit 50 on Friday and like you I asked my self all of the questions you asked your self I even thought about the mistakes of the past which just got me even more down.As you know you can't change the past but you can shape your future.Decide what you want and give it your best shot.I always say to myself there is always someone worse off than me.Good luck with everything."Thanks you too. Happy belated birthday | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year "Yeah I guess I’m making it bigger in my head than it is in reality | |||
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"Well im 63 I went through a bad patch in my early 40s which ended in a divorce. Now I just take each day as it comes which in most cases mean work work n more work " All work and no play isn’t good | |||
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"I semi-dreaded turning 40 in but when I did I realised I didn't feel any differently than I had before. I still feel no more grown up, or have any urge to do all those grown up things. Maybe it'll catch up with me some day but I'm pretty content and the oddest thing about being 41 is other people's reaction when they ask me my age, because they always seem surprised. Maybe I ought to act more like it but I honestly wouldn't have a clue what that would entail. This rings true for me too... gonna be 45 in April and I genuinely don’t feel any different than I did when I was 25. Sure I’m older and wiser and I often chuckle to myself cause when my parents were this age I thought they were friggin ancient!
I finally know what I want to be when I grow up though! "Haha when’s grown up? | |||
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"I semi-dreaded turning 40 in but when I did I realised I didn't feel any differently than I had before. I still feel no more grown up, or have any urge to do all those grown up things. Maybe it'll catch up with me some day but I'm pretty content and the oddest thing about being 41 is other people's reaction when they ask me my age, because they always seem surprised. Maybe I ought to act more like it but I honestly wouldn't have a clue what that would entail. This rings true for me too... gonna be 45 in April and I genuinely don’t feel any different than I did when I was 25. Sure I’m older and wiser and I often chuckle to myself cause when my parents were this age I thought they were friggin ancient!
I finally know what I want to be when I grow up though!
Haha when’s grown up? "Definitely not nearly 50 | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year
Yeah I guess I’m making it bigger in my head than it is in reality "I think it's normal to do that with a milestone birthday. I was worse for my 30th. I was on full on breakdown mode | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year
Yeah I guess I’m making it bigger in my head than it is in reality
I think it's normal to do that with a milestone birthday. I was worse for my 30th. I was on full on breakdown mode "My best friend was but 30 didn’t bother me at all 40 though | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year
Yeah I guess I’m making it bigger in my head than it is in reality
I think it's normal to do that with a milestone birthday. I was worse for my 30th. I was on full on breakdown mode
My best friend was but 30 didn’t bother me at all 40 though "Oh don't say that please, I'm just excepting that I'm 40 soon. | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year
Yeah I guess I’m making it bigger in my head than it is in reality
I think it's normal to do that with a milestone birthday. I was worse for my 30th. I was on full on breakdown mode
My best friend was but 30 didn’t bother me at all 40 though "I don't feel it at all.... Perhaps I'm in denial | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year
Yeah I guess I’m making it bigger in my head than it is in reality
I think it's normal to do that with a milestone birthday. I was worse for my 30th. I was on full on breakdown mode
My best friend was but 30 didn’t bother me at all 40 though
Oh don't say that please, I'm just excepting that I'm 40 soon. "You'll be fine. I'm still alive and smiling at 40 | |||
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"My dad is in his 60's and still says he doesn't know what he wants to do when he grows up "Haha. Good man | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal? "It is normal and the crazy thing is that the majority of people won't do anything about it, as in set targets and work towards them so in 1,2,3 plus years they'll still have the same thoughts but be no nearer achieving them | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year
Yeah I guess I’m making it bigger in my head than it is in reality
I think it's normal to do that with a milestone birthday. I was worse for my 30th. I was on full on breakdown mode
My best friend was but 30 didn’t bother me at all 40 though
Oh don't say that please, I'm just excepting that I'm 40 soon. "I might be wrong but isn’t it different for men ie not having to worry about the biological clock | |||
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"My dad is in his 60's and still says he doesn't know what he wants to do when he grows up "Bless him, I’ve got ages then x | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year
Yeah I guess I’m making it bigger in my head than it is in reality
I think it's normal to do that with a milestone birthday. I was worse for my 30th. I was on full on breakdown mode
My best friend was but 30 didn’t bother me at all 40 though
Oh don't say that please, I'm just excepting that I'm 40 soon.
I might be wrong but isn’t it different for men ie not having to worry about the biological clock "Apologies I never thought of that. Selfish of me. | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
It is normal and the crazy thing is that the majority of people won't do anything about it, as in set targets and work towards them so in 1,2,3 plus years they'll still have the same thoughts but be no nearer achieving them"That’s true. For me when I know what I want I always achieve it it’s the stuff I have no control over that worries me most. The finding a man thing | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year
Yeah I guess I’m making it bigger in my head than it is in reality
I think it's normal to do that with a milestone birthday. I was worse for my 30th. I was on full on breakdown mode
My best friend was but 30 didn’t bother me at all 40 though
Oh don't say that please, I'm just excepting that I'm 40 soon.
I might be wrong but isn’t it different for men ie not having to worry about the biological clock
Apologies I never thought of that. Selfish of me. "No need to apologise I was just saying, I don’t even know if I want my own kids to be fair. I guess if I decide to I may be too late | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal? "It is very normal as when you look at your lifespan only a small part of it can we say this is the bit of my life when i am going to make a difference or do something that will last so its is very normal! | |||
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"If you decide in 5 years that you really want children, you can always adopt My boss at work suggested this to me. I couldn’t do it I’m not ready and don’t have the support mechanisms in place" That’s fine but if you decide you want children at age 45 you can still do it with adoption | |||
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"Ive never been bothered about getting old as it comes to us all (in theory) I appreciate some people aren’t lucky and have their lives cut short early. However I’m going to be 40 in a couple of years and it’s already in the back of my mind. It’s making me reflect. Where have the years gone? What have I done with my life? What do I still want to do? Will I meet anyone and settle down? Will I have children?
Is this normal?
I'm 40 and still winging it. I always thought at this age I'd be married, but it just hasn't happened. 40 seems like such a big age when you are looking forward at it, but it's really just another year
Yeah I guess I’m making it bigger in my head than it is in reality
I think it's normal to do that with a milestone birthday. I was worse for my 30th. I was on full on breakdown mode
My best friend was but 30 didn’t bother me at all 40 though
Oh don't say that please, I'm just excepting that I'm 40 soon.
I might be wrong but isn’t it different for men ie not having to worry about the biological clock
Apologies I never thought of that. Selfish of me.
No need to apologise I was just saying, I don’t even know if I want my own kids to be fair. I guess if I decide to I may be too late "Aww no not too late. Kids are great but all depends on you. | |||
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"I’m really not looking forward to my son hitting 38 this year In my head I’m still that age myself, I’m still fit enough to compete with him in extreme sports but I know I’m slowing down and I know that number 60 isn’t far away I’ll contunue acting like I’m in my 30’s until they nail down my box and cart me away " Aww where does time go? | |||
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"I hate to say it but, fertility declines from 35 for women. " Dammit x | |||
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"I was 40 when I had my first and only child. Im over 50 now. Once you get your head around the "age thing" lifes great. With age comes many benifits so it's not all bad. "I am over 50 and love life. Ms | |||
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"I semi-dreaded turning 40 in but when I did I realised I didn't feel any differently than I had before. I still feel no more grown up, or have any urge to do all those grown up things. Maybe it'll catch up with me some day but I'm pretty content and the oddest thing about being 41 is other people's reaction when they ask me my age, because they always seem surprised. Maybe I ought to act more like it but I honestly wouldn't have a clue what that would entail. This rings true for me too... gonna be 45 in April and I genuinely don’t feel any different than I did when I was 25. Sure I’m older and wiser and I often chuckle to myself cause when my parents were this age I thought they were friggin ancient!
I finally know what I want to be when I grow up though!
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"Yeah, normal. The more years that pass the more frequently you assess your life and where it's going. Then you sit down on the sofa with a nice cup of tea, a bourbon and watch Homes Under The Hammer "You forgot to mention the weird involuntary noise that escapes when you get up though! | |||
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"Yeah, normal. The more years that pass the more frequently you assess your life and where it's going. Then you sit down on the sofa with a nice cup of tea, a bourbon and watch Homes Under The Hammer "Haha true | |||
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"Yeah, normal. The more years that pass the more frequently you assess your life and where it's going. Then you sit down on the sofa with a nice cup of tea, a bourbon and watch Homes Under The Hammer
You forgot to mention the weird involuntary noise that escapes when you get up though! "Haha oh yeah “uh” | |||
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"I've started counting backwards I don’t think there’s one of you near my Lidl "There probably is . | |||
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"I've started counting backwards With you there mate "lol you’re still young and fit | |||
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"I've started counting backwards I don’t think there’s one of you near my Lidl There probably is . "Nothing happens in Worcester | |||
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OP when you are 50 you'll laugh at how you feel now about 40 and at 60 laugh at 50, and so on. It's natural to not want to get older.
But on the other hand age can make you motivated to do all the things you've always wanted to. And hopefully you'll have gained the confidence and financial security to be able to pursue any dreams.
So turning 40 will be great as you'll get to to more stuff | |||
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"I've started counting backwards I don’t think there’s one of you near my Lidl There probably is .
Nothing happens in Worcester "God I hate that flavour crisps . | |||
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"I had my first age crisis turning 10. Since then I've had moments but they've tended to be when I'm something and 1 like 31, 41. As if reaching the big 0 was ok, But now I'm even passed that
OP when you are 50 you'll laugh at how you feel now about 40 and at 60 laugh at 50, and so on. It's natural to not want to get older.
But on the other hand age can make you motivated to do all the things you've always wanted to. And hopefully you'll have gained the confidence and financial security to be able to pursue any dreams.
So turning 40 will be great as you'll get to to more stuff "Thank you. You’re right it is spurring me on to do the things I want to do | |||
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"I've started counting backwards I don’t think there’s one of you near my Lidl There probably is .
Nothing happens in Worcester God I hate that flavour crisps . "You should smell the stuff in the summer poooowweeee | |||
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"I've started counting backwards I don’t think there’s one of you near my Lidl There probably is .
Nothing happens in Worcester God I hate that flavour crisps .
You should smell the stuff in the summer poooowweeee"haha x | |||
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"Yeah, normal. The more years that pass the more frequently you assess your life and where it's going. Then you sit down on the sofa with a nice cup of tea, a bourbon and watch Homes Under The Hammer
You forgot to mention the weird involuntary noise that escapes when you get up though! "That was the dog! Honest. | |||
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