FabSwingers.com forum: Bad Manners

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Deleting messages before you have even read them, I know women do get a lot of Messages but that's a good thing right? But to Delete a message that is more than just a hi or one line message I think is ignorant and just Bad Manners.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

No mysogony here then

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I think you might need to toughen up buttercup or Fab might not be the place for you.

Also read the FAQs.

(Serial unread message deleter)

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By *KMaxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Ne ne na na na na nooo.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

Sorry but have to disagree. Depending on people’s messaging filters some couples and individuals get bombarded with messages. If they want to delete a message without reading they will have their reasons (they may have read the profile) and it’s their prerogative if they want to respond or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always look at profile before we read message and if they clearly havn't read our profile or not what we are looking for we delete..dont have time to chat to people we wouldn't meet

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

I think it’s bad manners of people who message us who clearly haven’t read our profile. But I don’t write a thread, I hit the delete button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ne ne na na na na nooo."

You’ll bust a blood vessel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You wouldn't want to meet people with bad manners. They've done you a favour.

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"I think it’s bad manners of people who message us who clearly haven’t read our profile. But I don’t write a thread, I hit the delete button

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down."

Do they? They have control over themselves. No one else lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No mysogony here then

So the OP may want to reconsider his outlook on unread messages but there's no misogyny going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also the first thing most couples and females look at before even reading a message is a profile if the profile doesn’t have much to say about the person there interests what there looking for then chances are they will just delete messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What entitles you to a reply? This feeling of women should reply to a message is why so many people end up with a chip on their shoulder on here!

If it's clear someone has read my profile, is respectful of my preferences and is polite I'll always reply but if someone has the bad manners to waste time and send me a message without considering what I'm looking for why should I waste my time to reply?

If you never expect a reply you'll never be disappointed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No its not. Stop moaning about it, it happens all the time on here. Most women read the profile before opening the message so if its crap and holds no appeal why would they bother reading it. As others have said, toughten up sugar tits, its life on here. Why don't you delete all your sent messages as soon as its sent then you'll not know what the recipient has done with it. Get on with your life and forget about it, you'll either get a reply or you won't. No point stressing about stuff you have no control over.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I can tell by the profile pic/username that person isnt fir me or there's something I can see in the message I don't like I'll delete it before reading.

If that's bad manners then it's bad manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

Do they? They have control over themselves. No one else lol"

There's that white knight again. Does this tactic work?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

Do they? They have control over themselves. No one else lol

There's that white knight again. Does this tactic work?"

Erm yeah. Look in the mirror. You are the one white knighting haha

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down."

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I didn't ask them to mail me?

They made that choice.

I make the choice not to reply.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others"

Nonsense. The region of men to women must be 20/1. There are absurdly unattractive women kn here receiving hundreds of messages per day. Great for them. Let's not claim this is some how an equal playing field.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

Unattractive to you maybe, not so to others perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

Do they? They have control over themselves. No one else lol

There's that white knight again. Does this tactic work?"

That isn't a White Knight comment.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I think it’s bad manners of people who message us who clearly haven’t read our profile. But I don’t write a thread, I hit the delete button

This. Too many people moaning about this subject. It's been done to death. READ THE FAQ SECTION ON JOINING.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

Unattractive to you maybe, not so to others perhaps?"

Certainly not to the thousands of desperados on here. Good luck to them I say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One guy once wrote in the forums that he was sick of not getting replied. He said that a response of "Fuck off" would be better than no response at all.

So now I just respond "Fuck off" to everyone who messages. Is that ok with you, OP? If not, then you guys seems to be sending mixed messages

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By *eardedProctologistMan
over a year ago

Here and there but more here than there

'Rudeness is the weak man's imitation of strength'

Eric Hoffer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One guy once wrote in the forums that he was sick of not getting replied. He said that a response of "Fuck off" would be better than no response at all.

So now I just respond "Fuck off" to everyone who messages. Is that ok with you, OP? If not, then you guys seems to be sending mixed messages

I also enjoy a nice straight fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

We don't have the power over who messages us. Every man has the power to message or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

We don't have the power over who messages us. Every man has the power to message or not. "

Yes we do, with the use of filters.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I think it’s bad manners of people who message us who clearly haven’t read our profile. But I don’t write a thread, I hit the delete button

This. Too many people moaning about this subject. It's been done to death. READ THE FAQ SECTION ON JOINING. "

Difficuilt one. Faq probably gets read as many times as terms and conditions do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One guy once wrote in the forums that he was sick of not getting replied. He said that a response of "Fuck off" would be better than no response at all.

So now I just respond "Fuck off" to everyone who messages. Is that ok with you, OP? If not, then you guys seems to be sending mixed messages

I also enjoy a nice straight fuck off."

Good to know I'm doing something right, then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One guy once wrote in the forums that he was sick of not getting replied. He said that a response of "Fuck off" would be better than no response at all.

So now I just respond "Fuck off" to everyone who messages. Is that ok with you, OP? If not, then you guys seems to be sending mixed messages

Haha love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

We don't have the power over who messages us. Every man has the power to message or not.

Yes we do, with the use of filters. "

We still can't make men message us. That's in their hands. We can stop some people messaging us only.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"One guy once wrote in the forums that he was sick of not getting replied. He said that a response of "Fuck off" would be better than no response at all.

So now I just respond "Fuck off" to everyone who messages. Is that ok with you, OP? If not, then you guys seems to be sending mixed messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it’s bad manners of people who message us who clearly haven’t read our profile. But I don’t write a thread, I hit the delete button

This. Too many people moaning about this subject. It's been done to death. READ THE FAQ SECTION ON JOINING.

Difficuilt one. Faq probably gets read as many times as terms and conditions do."

Normative. Should. Just because people don't doesn't change the fact that they should...

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

I never said it was an “equal playing field” in fact I even said some have more options than others. But I still don’t think it gives anyone “more power”. I don’t see how your comment regarding “absurdly unattractive women” supports your case. So unattractive women (to you) shouldn’t be having sex?

That is a misogynistic comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One guy once wrote in the forums that he was sick of not getting replied. He said that a response of "Fuck off" would be better than no response at all.

So now I just respond "Fuck off" to everyone who messages. Is that ok with you, OP? If not, then you guys seems to be sending mixed messages

I also enjoy a nice straight fuck off.

Good to know I'm doing something right, then

For some men, the base act of eliciting any response from a sexy woman turns them on

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife

Absurdly unattractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it would be different if women were sending the men messages and the message being deleted straight away. I cant see why you can't be polite and respond with a thanks but no thanks. Half the time the message hasn't even been read so how do you even know the contents of the message. So I agree completely its rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

That is a misogynistic comment."

If you get over the faux outrage you'll see I enjoy the fact people are having lots of sex. I'm no oil painting myself. You've picked up the wrong point entirely. Perhaps next time you can turn down the outraged woman dial.

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham

Well if you get around 50 to 100 messages every morning .you simply havnt got the time to reply to every single one .so its not all about bad manners

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I think it would be different if women were sending the men messages and the message being deleted straight away. I cant see why you can't be polite and respond with a thanks but no thanks. Half the time the message hasn't even been read so how do you even know the contents of the message. So I agree completely its rude. "

Ooo it's popcorn time.

Apologies to Miss Innocent (see another thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are missing the point a bit I feel. Women get off on deleting and blocking loads of men. My wife did.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I think it’s bad manners of people who message us who clearly haven’t read our profile. But I don’t write a thread, I hit the delete button

This. Too many people moaning about this subject. It's been done to death. READ THE FAQ SECTION ON JOINING.

Difficuilt one. Faq probably gets read as many times as terms and conditions do.

Normative. Should. Just because people don't doesn't change the fact that they should...

True dat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here we go again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll accept ignorant but I've not got bad manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When playing as a single fem, I would often get messages from guys who had obviously not read my profile, or who didn't care what my preferences were and messaged me anyway. I started off being polite writing a 'no thank you, I don't think we have interests in common', but had to resort to the delete message and block the sender routine. This was because men would pester, not all to be fair, some took it on the chin and wished me well, but so many resorted to abuse: 'who do you think you are? God's gift? You are so up yourself there's no room for anything else ' and more and worse besides. So if you look at it from a female's point of view, the easiest way to avoid nastiness is to ignore /delete unwanted messages and possibly block the sender to prevent future approaches.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

People look at the profile before opening the message. If there are no pictures, no info...delete unopened!

Instead of a soliloquy to rival Shakespeare as an opening message, perhaps more attention to detail on the profile front?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not different for me. I message guys as I've blocked everyone. I delete my sent message as soon as I've sent it and wouldn't give a flying fuck if I didn't get a reply. They are under no obligation to reply, no one is. You can do whatever you want.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"We always look at profile before we read message and if they clearly havn't read our profile or not what we are looking for we delete..dont have time to chat to people we wouldn't meet"

There you go op!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are missing the point a bit I feel. Women get off on deleting and blocking loads of men. My wife did."

I dunno. I don't get off on it and I'm a woman. I think plenty of women just get tired of answering all the messges.

I used to respond to everyone. Marc would even get a bit annoyed because I don't like just deleting because I thought it was rude. But I can't even explain how often guys would forget that they messaged us and send the exact same message again in a day or two. Or where they would ask for things explicitly denied in our profile. Or any other number of equally rude behavior.

I personally now do delete certain messages. Ones from people I see as being equally rude as myself in deleting the message. It's not a power thing, though. I consider it conservation of energy.

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

That is a misogynistic comment.

Nothing on Fab outrages me

just curious about your stance, hence the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just smacks of the terrible attitude of so many on here. How dare men not wade through your profile and just send a cheeky message based on physical attraction! You sound lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for a start, you cant actually tell if its been read a lot of the time, it can be read, then marked unread. If someone is not interested for whatever reason, they are under no obligation to reply to your message. Very often, the reason women dont bother to reply is because of bad manners on the behalf of men..a polite reply saying 'no thank you' will often get either' why not?' type stupid questions, or downright abuse...once thats happened a few times, some decide not to bother with the grief and insults and just delete the message. just delete al your sent mail the second you send it, and then you can stop agonising over people being 'rude' to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did they ask For the message no they didn’t it was the senders choice to message like it’s the receivers choice if they message back. 9 times out of 10 you say no thanks then you get a message asking why then you get insulted. So it’s a lot less hassle all round just to delete. If it was rude then it wouldn’t be supported by the site. Do you answer every piece of mail that comes through your door even just to say thanks but no thanks nope you don’t. So is that not being rude then?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down."

Bollocks!

Some men assume, by virtue of the site, the women on here are dick starved nymphos waiting on their backs legs akimbo so no effort needed.

Massive shock to fragile egos when they find this isn't the case.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Let's look at this another way via an analogy OP (and any other people who think it's rude to delete messages unread) - I am sure you all receive unsolicited messages from your local pizza place, or a Nigerian Prince offering to make you rich - do you open and respond to each and every one of them you receive?

No? Does that mean you have bad manners and are rude then?

Thought not!! I rest my case!!

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

"No mysogony here then

a little perhaps but when put up against the misandry it pales into insignificance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was to read all the messages I get every day I would be on fab 24,7 so I just delete I have not got the time to read them all I do have another life apart from fab lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nonsense. Rarely does a couple or lady receive follow up abuse. Excuses for being power tripping women. It's fine, but just be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another reason for not replying many don't realise is that it breaks any subsequent blocks/filters the user may want to apply in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just smacks of the terrible attitude of so many on here. How dare men not wade through your profile and just send a cheeky message based on physical attraction! You sound lovely."

well thats a completely stupid attitude! if you think its fine to send messages to people without bothering to read their profile just because you like the look of them, then you can hardly be suprised when they delete messages

why bother joining a profile based site, then not using it as such.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are missing the point a bit I feel. Women get off on deleting and blocking loads of men. My wife did."

Yeah maybe some do just like the timewasters get off on wasting people’s time but do these moaning threads ever do anything to change that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Setting preferences and settings helps us alot and there's nothing wrong with straight deleting at all.If you don't like the look of them for whatever reason or haven't got the time to read them all it's just down to personal preference,if someone just deletes your message oh well just move on simple as that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

Bollocks!

Some men assume, by virtue of the site, the women on here are dick starved nymphos waiting on their backs legs akimbo so no effort needed.

Massive shock to fragile egos when they find this isn't the case."

I think men see the pics and the profiles and just act accordingly. You get what you give.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are missing the point a bit I feel. Women get off on deleting and blocking loads of men. My wife did.

Yeah maybe some do just like the timewasters get off on wasting people’s time but do these moaning threads ever do anything to change that? "

No. Just a place to vent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Deleting messages before you have even read them, I know women do get a lot of Messages but that's a good thing right? But to Delete a message that is more than just a hi or one line message I think is ignorant and just Bad Manners. "
that the name of the game on this site lately delete or read message without reply so if happen just keep trying..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nonsense. Rarely does a couple or lady receive follow up abuse. Excuses for being power tripping women. It's fine, but just be honest."

I have to disagree with you on the follow up abuse, it happens a lot. Not every person you say no thanks to thankfully but some send some uncalled for personal abuse. One message like this could put the user off replying in the future so instead of saying women are rude for not replying, blame the people that are being abusive. If everyone could respectfully accept a polite no thanks then maybe, just maybe, more poeple would reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another reason for not replying many don't realise is that it breaks any subsequent blocks/filters the user may want to apply in the future. "

Very true! We've had messages from men (and couples, to be fair!) while our profile was hidden asking for meets, saying they liked the look of our profile. All because we had responded with a "no thanks" once and now our filters are useless even when our profile is hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Setting preferences and settings helps us alot and there's nothing wrong with straight deleting at all.If you don't like the look of them for whatever reason or haven't got the time to read them all it's just down to personal preference,if someone just deletes your message oh well just move on simple as that x "

That's what I do, but I can understand hoe hurtful this could be to many mem. A lot of guys on here are struggling a great deal . A polite response would go a long way to making fab a lot nicer.

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By *KMaxMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

Bollocks!

Some men assume, by virtue of the site, the women on here are dick starved nymphos waiting on their backs legs akimbo so no effort needed.

Massive shock to fragile egos when they find this isn't the case."

Just as an aside, do you know of any sites where the women are dick starved nymphos and could you pm me the details please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give about 3 days and if messages are deleted or ignored I send a polite message saying as per fab rules I understand you're not interested. Its us nothing personal but as such I'm blocking you so as not to annoy you in the future and waste each others time. Saves me or them messaging later in time as it's going to be a wasted message on both parts. I've got some grief by some who think that's unfair and and they should be entitled to have access to my profile or something later on but for me the switch has clearly gone off and it'll never happen anyway. As I say a polite reply goes along way even if it's a no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nonsense. Rarely does a couple or lady receive follow up abuse. Excuses for being power tripping women. It's fine, but just be honest."

no, its not rare at all.

i fail to see how any woman getting a bunch of messages from people who cant be arsed to read, or often write, a profile, is a power trip. Its not flattering, or ego boosting to get messages from people who clearly couldnt give a shit who they message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My filters are only ever off for very short periods of time, so I can join in forum games.

My profile basically states I won't answer messages if my filters happen to be off, so don't waste both of our times. Guess what. I still get messages.

Why should I answer when my very very short profile tells them not to message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just lazy....I can't even be bothered to delete my messages when I'm not interested. No one considers the lazy amongst us power hungry bad mannered women! Won't somebody think of the lazy people (We're too lazy to do it)

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By *eardedProctologistMan
over a year ago

Here and there but more here than there

"My filters are only ever off for very short periods of time, so I can join in forum games.

My profile basically states I won't answer messages if my filters happen to be off, so don't waste both of our times. Guess what. I still get messages.

Why should I answer when my very very short profile tells them not to message me. "

*erasing the message I was about to send you. Disapointed as I took the best cock picture above a toilet ever*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I think this site should take away the ability to see what a person has done with their message. Causes way too much angst. Its just a bit of fun this site, get a grip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm just lazy....I can't even be bothered to delete my messages when I'm not interested. No one considers the lazy amongst us power hungry bad mannered women! Won't somebody think of the lazy people (We're too lazy to do it)

I'm so lazy that I have messages from friends that I haven't replied to in weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My filters are only ever off for very short periods of time, so I can join in forum games.

My profile basically states I won't answer messages if my filters happen to be off, so don't waste both of our times. Guess what. I still get messages.

Why should I answer when my very very short profile tells them not to message me.

*erasing the message I was about to send you. Disapointed as I took the best cock picture above a toilet ever* "

Ooo my favourite. Please tell me you didn't flush either, as I just love seeing the contents of someone's bowels.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

Bollocks!

Some men assume, by virtue of the site, the women on here are dick starved nymphos waiting on their backs legs akimbo so no effort needed.

Massive shock to fragile egos when they find this isn't the case.

Just as an aside, do you know of any sites where the women are dick starved nymphos and could you pm me the details please

Yeah me too haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read profiles first and if they’re are short, uninteresting or generic I just delete the message. Also if they have repeatedly messaged me or have messaged me on previous profiles and they’re not for me. Other reasons are if I see the first line and done like it or if there are no pics attached or if they don’t live near me. So plenty of reasons there for deleting without reading.

As someone pointed out you nobody deserves a reply, a reply is something you get if you have taken the time and effort to write a good profile and message and are contacting people that are looking for the same thing as you. I probably speak to on average 10 to 15 men a day, most don’t last longer than a day but this doesn’t free up much time to speak to chancers so my advice would be make sure you are messaging the right people not just playing the numbers game.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

Bollocks!

Some men assume, by virtue of the site, the women on here are dick starved nymphos waiting on their backs legs akimbo so no effort needed.

Massive shock to fragile egos when they find this isn't the case.

Just as an aside, do you know of any sites where the women are dick starved nymphos and could you pm me the details please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nonsense. Rarely does a couple or lady receive follow up abuse. Excuses for being power tripping women. It's fine, but just be honest."

And you know this how? Funny that we’ve had 4 or 5 today. All down to the fact they didn’t read our profile and when it was pointed out what we were looking for the abuse started. Again do you answer all the mail you get through your door or every email you get? No. It’s freedom of choice and if you don’t like it your not being forced to stay on fab.

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

Have to agree with some serial deletes. Our profile states only looking for men between 22-30 anc we’ll be bombarded with men twice the age range. We’re not interested and can only presume that the person hasn’t read our profile, so an unread deleted message is a kind way to let them down compared to telling them they can’t read!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have to agree with some serial deletes. Our profile states only looking for men between 22-30 anc we’ll be bombarded with men twice the age range. We’re not interested and can only presume that the person hasn’t read our profile, so an unread deleted message is a kind way to let them down compared to telling them they can’t read!"

Change your settings to block people outside your age ranges.

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By *eardedProctologistMan
over a year ago

Here and there but more here than there

"My filters are only ever off for very short periods of time, so I can join in forum games.

My profile basically states I won't answer messages if my filters happen to be off, so don't waste both of our times. Guess what. I still get messages.

Why should I answer when my very very short profile tells them not to message me.

*erasing the message I was about to send you. Disapointed as I took the best cock picture above a toilet ever*

Ooo my favourite. Please tell me you didn't flush either, as I just love seeing the contents of someone's bowels. "

Of course, like that you can look at the Bristol Tool Chart you have in your toilet to check if my stool is healthy or not .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I answer all messages .. usually about two a year

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Nonsense. Rarely does a couple or lady receive follow up abuse. Excuses for being power tripping women. It's fine, but just be honest.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

That's what I do, but I can understand hoe hurtful this could be to many mem. A lot of guys on here are struggling a great deal . A polite response would go a long way to making fab a lot nicer."

If someone finds it "hurtful" that a message is deleted unread then I'd suggest that person really shouldn't be here at all or should grow a pair to be honest.

The problem is too many people (and it is mainly men I'm sad to say) sign up for this site expecting it to be an immediate sex fest when it's far far from that - they then get frustrated that it's not and look for something (other than their unrealistic expectations, poor profiles and equally poor messages) to blame - perhaps if they took their time to understand the site and the way it works better and were realistic in their expectations "Fab would be a lot nicer"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More like 100/1. I'm a complete munter but apparently attractive enough for a dozen new messages a day. Still delete lots unread for many reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what I do, but I can understand hoe hurtful this could be to many mem. A lot of guys on here are struggling a great deal . A polite response would go a long way to making fab a lot nicer.

If someone finds it "hurtful" that a message is deleted unread then I'd suggest that person really shouldn't be here at all or should grow a pair to be honest.

A bad workman always blames his tools!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No mysogony here then

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-feminism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

Iron is I'm not sure spelling police at all but as there could be some rather misconstrued messages from both muspelling and misunderstanding of either meaning I felt the need to point it out for benefit of others and to highlight your antagonistic comment which was the only to serve as stirring. However I'm willing to admit I'm wrong if this was clearly not the case.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

"No mysogony here then

???

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-Semitism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

Okay I admit I mis-spelt misogyny. Not a clue what else you mean as neither definition is right and your post is too unclear to answer fairly. I do get the impression you’re attempting to have a go at me though, so if you’d like to rewrite that in a form I can clearly understand

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

More like 100/1. I'm a complete munter but apparently attractive enough for a dozen new messages a day. Still delete lots unread for many reasons"

Your not a bloody munter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And maybe 100s of other men think the same.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"No mysogony here then

???

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-Semitism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

I think basically you are the only one who saw mysogowotsit in the original post lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No mysogony here then

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-feminism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

Misogyny I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not really. Firstly, Fab has rules which say that no reply is a valid answer. Secondly, you have no public pictures except your profile pic and so we would feel that you haven’t revealed enough of yourself to warrant a reply. Thirdly, it is sex you’re after and “you have to answer me” is pressuring, as are multiple messages; a sex site does not change basic rules of sexual engagement.

It is also doing you a favour: message gone means no deal so you know to move on.

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By *a Fee VerteWoman
over a year ago

Limbo

I will reply to messages only IF I have the time, IF I have the inclination and IF I think some genuine effort has gone into contacting me (i.e. the message isn't generic, they've read my profile, it's polite and legible).

In reality, these three factors only rarely align so yes, I often delete without a response. Not because I'm naturally inclined to be 'rude' but because Fab isn't my life and, to be frank, we're all on here to satisfy our own individual wants/needs first and foremost rather than provide a charitable service to those who believe they're entitled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things would not be the same if the numbers where reversed as the majority of women, unlike alot of men, would not message people they were not attracted to, for a fuck, for a start. Whether we would all read profiles etc before messaging...I don't know, I usually only read one if I like the pics, quite often they just put me off. Also, if you are getting at least 50 to 100 new messages every time you come online and then more are coming in while you are trying to sort the ones ya had already (yes, I used to get 2 new ones for every one I read/deleted), why and how would you reply to all of them, you make a quick decision and delete the ones that don't interest you with no time to read most let alone reply. Oh and who "gets off" on deleting and blocking people? Wtf is that about? I only block people with a shitty attitude or that I know I would never be interested in meeting due to their name/profile/pics maybe, not because of my "power" or alot more would probably be on my list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No mysogony here then

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-feminism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

Misogyny I think."

No no, the word was definitely masogyny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being honest is a good quality on here.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

That's what I do, but I can understand hoe hurtful this could be to many mem. A lot of guys on here are struggling a great deal . A polite response would go a long way to making fab a lot nicer.

If someone finds it "hurtful" that a message is deleted unread then I'd suggest that person really shouldn't be here at all or should grow a pair to be honest.

This!

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"No mysogony here then

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-feminism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

Misogyny I think.

No no, the word was definitely masogyny.

In fairness I am not sure how it is spelt. Currently fighting the urge to google it

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By *xyzptlk088Man
over a year ago

Galway

I kinda agree with the deletion of messages that have not read the profile until you come across profiles that have the rough draft for war and peace typed up on them and looking for hidden codewords to begin messages with that would take a team of archaeologists months to uncover due to them being hidden under a mountain of psychobabble.Apart from that I have had a recent fondness for custard creams and a lifetime love of cheese sandwiches,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No mysogony here then

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-feminism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

Misogyny I think.

No no, the word was definitely masogyny.

In fairness I am not sure how it is spelt. Currently fighting the urge to google it

See, I know how it's spelt. But because I understood the intent behind the originally misspelled word, I didn't feel the need to give a patronizing response correcting the misspelling of the originally misspelled word with an equally misspelled word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No mysogony here then

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-feminism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

Misogyny I think.

No no, the word was definitely masogyny.

In fairness I am not sure how it is spelt. Currently fighting the urge to google it

There's only one way to spell it, but give the OED time and I'm sure they'll change that too, literally.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

What an ugly way of expressing yourself you have, did you not realise that makes you absurdly unattractive whatever you look like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I kinda agree with the deletion of messages that have not read the profile until you come across profiles that have the rough draft for war and peace typed up on them and looking for hidden codewords to begin messages with that would take a team of archaeologists months to uncover due to them being hidden under a mountain of psychobabble.Apart from that I have had a recent fondness for custard creams and a lifetime love of cheese sandwiches,"

Haha. This is hilarious

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

That is a misogynistic comment."

Just plain ugly I call it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"No mysogony here then

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-feminism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

Misogyny I think.

No no, the word was definitely masogyny.

In fairness I am not sure how it is spelt. Currently fighting the urge to google it

Some people can't help being arses. It was crystal clear what was meant...but hey, whatever floats some people's boat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always read profiles first and if they’re are short, uninteresting or generic I just delete the message. Also if they have repeatedly messaged me or have messaged me on previous profiles and they’re not for me. Other reasons are if I see the first line and done like it or if there are no pics attached or if they don’t live near me. So plenty of reasons there for deleting without reading.

LOL am fxxked then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are men really that desperate for message that they prefer a no thanks than nothing. I feel it would be soul destroying to get dozen of no thanks every day. I’d much rather take a no response as a not interested, because after all if they were interested they would reply

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Which came first though? The overlong profiles with lots of rules and codewords etc., or the ridiculous messages from users that had obviously not read the profile and were entitled and expecting instashag just because they sent a message?

Whilst I'm personally not a fan of the rulesy/codeword strewn profiles I do understand how they came to be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No mysogony here then

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-feminism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

Misogyny I think.

No no, the word was definitely masogyny.

In fairness I am not sure how it is spelt. Currently fighting the urge to google it

Glad you saw the spelling mistakes too...lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

We all have the same “huge power”. You say yes or no. Just some more may have more options than others

That is a misogynistic comment.

Just plain ugly I call it."

YOU woman have all the power LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

Bollocks!

Some men assume, by virtue of the site, the women on here are dick starved nymphos waiting on their backs legs akimbo so no effort needed.

Massive shock to fragile egos when they find this isn't the case.

I think men see the pics and the profiles and just act accordingly. You get what you give."

Your unappealing and entitled attitude, and your low opinion of the women on this site are coming across loud and clear on this thread. Also on your profile. And I'm guessing probably in your messages too. But far easier just to decide women are all on a power trip than face the idea that maybe, just maybe you are not the amazing catch you clearly think you are.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Are men really that desperate for message that they prefer a no thanks than nothing. I feel it would be soul destroying to get dozen of no thanks every day. I’d much rather take a no response as a not interested, because after all if they were interested they would reply

I don't get dozens of no thanks replies a day! How very dare you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No mysogony here then

Mysogony is the hate of marriage.

Mysogony is anti-feminism.

I don't see anywhere in the PPS comment any of these.

I think I know what word you're trying to use Masogyny, and from the green arrow it would say you're more about string up hatred than actually identifying it.

Misogyny I think.

No no, the word was definitely masogyny.

In fairness I am not sure how it is spelt. Currently fighting the urge to google it

Glad you saw the spelling mistakes too...lmao"

Yes. I saw *all* the spelling mistakes.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Nonsense. Rarely does a couple or lady receive follow up abuse. Excuses for being power tripping women. It's fine, but just be honest.

no, its not rare at all.

Exactly. Someone within my stated age bracket messaged me the other day and started off 'It's a shame you aren't interested in older mature men......'.

Not only is it whinging, and cut and paste, it's not even correct, what a turnoff!! So yes, I deleted unopened, I needed to read no more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women on here have huge power. No point moaning about it. Just don't let it get you down.

Bollocks!

Some men assume, by virtue of the site, the women on here are dick starved nymphos waiting on their backs legs akimbo so no effort needed.

Massive shock to fragile egos when they find this isn't the case.

I think men see the pics and the profiles and just act accordingly. You get what you give.

Big fan of down to earth women. Not a fan of those who view the site as in any sense real life.

I rarely send a message. I've likely sent less than ten since joining.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You wouldn't want to meet people with bad manners. They've done you a favour."

What fantastic logic, catch 22.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can lift a finger just about once a year to 'delete all' .is that power hungry enough

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"One guy once wrote in the forums that he was sick of not getting replied. He said that a response of "Fuck off" would be better than no response at all.

So now I just respond "Fuck off" to everyone who messages. Is that ok with you, OP? If not, then you guys seems to be sending mixed messages

I also enjoy a nice straight fuck off."

Is that a FAB straight fuck off lol.

Anyway, if you decide to donate to charity does that charity automatically owe you something back? If you decide to help a neighbour who is struggling with a task does the neighbour automatically owe you anything in return? If you decide to send someone a message on here does the recipient automatically owe you a reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually don't mind messages being deleted, either read or unread, to me it at least shows some sort of action taken.

I much prefer that than a message showing as unread and still sitting there, that leaves me not knowing whether the person has not got round to reading it or is just ignoring it.

but I will say I always read a profile before messaging and I never message unless I fit what the profile requires.

but whatever response, take it on the chin and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One guy once wrote in the forums that he was sick of not getting replied. He said that a response of "Fuck off" would be better than no response at all.

So now I just respond "Fuck off" to everyone who messages. Is that ok with you, OP? If not, then you guys seems to be sending mixed messages

I also enjoy a nice straight fuck off.

Is that a FAB straight fuck off lol.

I'm owed at least a blow job per message, surely??

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"I will reply to messages only IF I have the time, IF I have the inclination and IF I think some genuine effort has gone into contacting me (i.e. the message isn't generic, they've read my profile, it's polite and legible).

Yes, this is reasonable behaviour, it's the entitled egotistical reaction that is at fault.

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By *anetandNickCouple
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

I feel bad about it but some days with 50-100 messages and only a few minutes to look at them, there's just nothing else you can do except look at a few messages with eye catching titles, and delete the rest. Sorry.

Janet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyway....all these types of threads always revolve around women deleting messages. I've sent messages to guys (from our MF profile) that went unanswered and deleted. What about the men who do this? Are they power-hungry as well? Do they get off on being able to delete our message? Or were they just not interested? I assumed we just weren't their type, but now I'm thinking it was just another example of the patriarchy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it may very well be but I don't really care if a stranger off the internet that I'm never going to enter into dialogue with or meet thinks I am. You can probably add arrogant and selfish in there too...

if we send a message and it's deleted, they're clearly not interested and we move on...would a message rejecting us make it any clearer...nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I actually don't mind messages being deleted, either read or unread, to me it at least shows some sort of action taken.

I much prefer that than a message showing as unread and still sitting there, that leaves me not knowing whether the person has not got round to reading it or is just ignoring it.

but I will say I always read a profile before messaging and I never message unless I fit what the profile requires.

but whatever response, take it on the chin and move on."

Funnily enough I only message women who take it on the chin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you might need to toughen up buttercup or Fab might not be the place for you.