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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury

What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?"

I wanted sex, pronto.

What I found was a lot more social interaction, social invitations, a community, and some great fb/fwb.

So I got sex and a lot more.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

It seemed better than the other site we had been on

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?"

what made you join?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted sex, but not a life partner.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

what made you join?"

Went to a few swinging clubs and parties, people mentioned the site.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

what made you join?"

How about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex. And finding people to talk about sex with.

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By *affquestCouple
over a year ago

Rotherham

Went to a club and we were asked if we were on it. Joined to see what all the fuss was about

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Went to a club and we were asked if we were on it. Joined to see what all the fuss was about "

So you use clubs, but don't think you're swingers? How does that work?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Sex,threesomes etc

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Sex. And finding people to talk about sex with."

So when you were meeting, did you just feel that you were having sex with random guys, rather than swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sex. And finding people to talk about sex with.

So when you were meeting, did you just feel that you were having sex with random guys, rather than swinging? "

Yeah I guess so. It felt more like swinging at clubs and with couples for some reason

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Sex. And finding people to talk about sex with.

So when you were meeting, did you just feel that you were having sex with random guys, rather than swinging?

Yeah I guess so. It felt more like swinging at clubs and with couples for some reason "

So you were a swinger?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted the ride!

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer. "

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Define what you think a "Swinger" is as everyone will have their own thoughts on the subject matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not actually sure, sex I guess and as I lived in a small village at the time and the ‘pool’ was rather empty!!

Geeky x

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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I wanted to talk about music, food and get advice on all things

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Define what you think a "Swinger" is as everyone will have their own thoughts on the subject matter."

I'm interested in those who KNOW that they definitely are NOT swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came here to chat to and meet like minded people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex. I’m here for the sex

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I was already on another site but came here to keep in touch with a friend who left many moons ago

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Define what you think a "Swinger" is as everyone will have their own thoughts on the subject matter.

I'm interested in those who KNOW that they definitely are NOT swingers. "

Yes but people will have their own views on what they see as BEING or NOT

The real definition is couples who swap partners for sexual gratification without looking for commitment from the other party.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"I came here to chat to and meet like minded people "

And you include "swingers" in with those like minded people? But you're not a swinger yourself?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are. "

Do they I haven't really seen that to be honest. The only reason I don't say I'm a swinger is because I'm single and not part of a couple. I don't see why people would look down on someone else on here.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?"

Sex

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Define what you think a "Swinger" is as everyone will have their own thoughts on the subject matter.

I'm interested in those who KNOW that they definitely are NOT swingers.

Yes but people will have their own views on what they see as BEING or NOT

The real definition is couples who swap partners for sexual gratification without looking for commitment from the other party. "

Yes but many people are ADAMANT that they are NOT swingers. So why join?

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

Do they I haven't really seen that to be honest. The only reason I don't say I'm a swinger is because I'm single and not part of a couple. I don't see why people would look down on someone else on here."

We were amazed on how small minded many are on here to be honest.

At least in the clubs people don't seem to be so judgemental.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Define what you think a "Swinger" is as everyone will have their own thoughts on the subject matter.

I'm interested in those who KNOW that they definitely are NOT swingers.

Yes but people will have their own views on what they see as BEING or NOT

The real definition is couples who swap partners for sexual gratification without looking for commitment from the other party.

Yes but many people are ADAMANT that they are NOT swingers. So why join? "

We think a lot like the idea and are intrigued but then cant handle the reality from what we can see.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

Do they I haven't really seen that to be honest. The only reason I don't say I'm a swinger is because I'm single and not part of a couple. I don't see why people would look down on someone else on here."

Yes! Read through the in appropriate touching thread. Just for one example. But there are others on other threads.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

Do they I haven't really seen that to be honest. The only reason I don't say I'm a swinger is because I'm single and not part of a couple. I don't see why people would look down on someone else on here.

We were amazed on how small minded many are on here to be honest.

At least in the clubs people don't seem to be so judgemental."

You'd think, but apparently even in swinging clubs many punters consider themselves to not be swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancied a bit of excitement,and fantasy fulfilment along the way had some great times with great people,shame it’s now being wasted by those on hear of late

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined for one off sexual encounters and to look for fwbs XXX

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By *londieddWoman
over a year ago

fife


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

what made you join?

How about you? "

Someone I met on a dating site send me a picture of themselves with the fabswinger logo on it curiosity got the better of me and here I am 10 years later still on here but actually I do not consider myself a swinger in the true sense of partner swapping I also thought it would be easy to get a threesome but that never happened

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

Do they I haven't really seen that to be honest. The only reason I don't say I'm a swinger is because I'm single and not part of a couple. I don't see why people would look down on someone else on here.

We were amazed on how small minded many are on here to be honest.

At least in the clubs people don't seem to be so judgemental.

You'd think, but apparently even in swinging clubs many punters consider themselves to not be swingers."

How can they, they have joined a club designed to promote the lifestyle

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By *affquestCouple
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Went to a club and we were asked if we were on it. Joined to see what all the fuss was about

So you use clubs, but don't think you're swingers? How does that work? "

It was a knitting club

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By *onnie And Clyde9070Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are. "

It's called double standards and hypocrisy.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

Do they I haven't really seen that to be honest. The only reason I don't say I'm a swinger is because I'm single and not part of a couple. I don't see why people would look down on someone else on here.

Yes! Read through the in appropriate touching thread. Just for one example. But there are others on other threads. "

I still don't understand,I've read the comments on that thread,but not getting what you're saying exactly. Which of the comments were talking down to you?

From that thread I just got that you thought it was exceptable for someone to touch you without asking,where most people didn't think that was acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People can join what they like, and if they feel they aren’t swingers, then so be it. What’s the issue? Your comments back seem to be very rude and it seems as though you’re looking down on people who are saying they’re not swingers, whilst moaning that they look down on you. Pot kettle comes to mind.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"People can join what they like, and if they feel they aren’t swingers, then so be it. What’s the issue? Your comments back seem to be very rude and it seems as though you’re looking down on people who are saying they’re not swingers, whilst moaning that they look down on you. Pot kettle comes to mind. "

I'm very sorry I'm you feel at all offended by my comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People can join what they like, and if they feel they aren’t swingers, then so be it. What’s the issue? Your comments back seem to be very rude and it seems as though you’re looking down on people who are saying they’re not swingers, whilst moaning that they look down on you. Pot kettle comes to mind.

I'm very sorry I'm you feel at all offended by my comments."

I’m in no way offended, but the way I’m reading it, it looks as though you’re fishing for an argument or trying to say that people who don’t define themselves as swingers shouldn’t be on the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wasn't the op just asking what attracts people to a swinging site when they aren't swingers? I wouldn't join a golfing site as I'm not a golfer. Seems some like to make a big point of mentioning that they aren't swingers. Like there's something wrong with you if you are. I think that's what the op finds odd. Not sure why anyone would take offense at the question or why people think that's rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I came here to chat to and meet like minded people

And you include "swingers" in with those like minded people? But you're not a swinger yourself? "

Yes. If that’s what these like minded people would like to call themselves.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

In fairness to the OP.

There are many on here who think its Instashag.

Or just another sex site.

Those in the lifestyle know what they do and don't want and that is isn't just about a hook up.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

Do they I haven't really seen that to be honest. The only reason I don't say I'm a swinger is because I'm single and not part of a couple. I don't see why people would look down on someone else on here.

Yes! Read through the in appropriate touching thread. Just for one example. But there are others on other threads.

I still don't understand,I've read the comments on that thread,but not getting what you're saying exactly. Which of the comments were talking down to you?

From that thread I just got that you thought it was exceptable for someone to touch you without asking,where most people didn't think that was acceptable."

I highlighted them for you.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"People can join what they like, and if they feel they aren’t swingers, then so be it. What’s the issue? Your comments back seem to be very rude and it seems as though you’re looking down on people who are saying they’re not swingers, whilst moaning that they look down on you. Pot kettle comes to mind.

I'm very sorry I'm you feel at all offended by my comments.

I’m in no way offended, but the way I’m reading it, it looks as though you’re fishing for an argument or trying to say that people who don’t define themselves as swingers shouldn’t be on the site. "

I'm just wondering why people who don't define themselves as swingers would join fabswingers. I wouldn't join "fabsnookerplayers" because I'm not a snooker player. You see?

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"I came here to chat to and meet like minded people

And you include "swingers" in with those like minded people? But you're not a swinger yourself?

Yes. If that’s what these like minded people would like to call themselves. "

For a non swinger, you have an impressive record

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We want to meet guys for mfm and this site gives us the opportunity to do so

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"We want to meet guys for mfm and this site gives us the opportunity to do so"

Hmmm, that kinda sounds like swinging to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like someone wants to the the authority on why people joined a website.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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Wait no.

I came here to try and fuck strangers.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Sounds like someone wants to the the authority on why people joined a website. "

*be. You're welcome.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Wasn't the op just asking what attracts people to a swinging site when they aren't swingers? I wouldn't join a golfing site as I'm not a golfer. Seems some like to make a big point of mentioning that they aren't swingers. Like there's something wrong with you if you are. I think that's what the op finds odd. Not sure why anyone would take offense at the question or why people think that's rude. "

The OP isn’t rude correct . I have mentioned that I’m not a swinger on several occasions not because I don’t want to be classified as one but merely because I’m not one. As for joining a swinging site I was led to believe that the site wasn’t populated by swingers alone. That is true not everyone wants group sex or swap partners myself included. I do not look down or judge those that do, that just isn’t what I find fulfilling when it comes to sex. A lot of the things I’ve encountered on the site aren’t for me but that doesn’t mean they’re wrong or I judge those that do them. I am more likely to want to engage in conversation to understand their preferences it’s incredibly interesting. The thing that I find rude is being told I need to try or do something

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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"Wait no.

I came here to try and fuck strangers."

You are going to tell me I could have done that at the pub, right?

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

Do they I haven't really seen that to be honest. The only reason I don't say I'm a swinger is because I'm single and not part of a couple. I don't see why people would look down on someone else on here.

Yes! Read through the in appropriate touching thread. Just for one example. But there are others on other threads.

I still don't understand,I've read the comments on that thread,but not getting what you're saying exactly. Which of the comments were talking down to you?

From that thread I just got that you thought it was exceptable for someone to touch you without asking,where most people didn't think that was acceptable.

I highlighted them for you. "

I don't see The Brain looking down on swingers though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like someone wants to the the authority on why people joined a website.

*be. You're welcome. "

Ah. One of those people. It should have been obvious from the interrogative tone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wait no.

I came here to try and fuck strangers.

You are going to tell me I could have done that at the pub, right?"

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Wasn't the op just asking what attracts people to a swinging site when they aren't swingers? I wouldn't join a golfing site as I'm not a golfer. Seems some like to make a big point of mentioning that they aren't swingers. Like there's something wrong with you if you are. I think that's what the op finds odd. Not sure why anyone would take offense at the question or why people think that's rude.

The OP isn’t rude correct . I have mentioned that I’m not a swinger on several occasions not because I don’t want to be classified as one but merely because I’m not one. As for joining a swinging site I was led to believe that the site wasn’t populated by swingers alone. That is true not everyone wants group sex or swap partners myself included. I do not look down or judge those that do, that just isn’t what I find fulfilling when it comes to sex. A lot of the things I’ve encountered on the site aren’t for me but that doesn’t mean they’re wrong or I judge those that do them. I am more likely to want to engage in conversation to understand their preferences it’s incredibly interesting. The thing that I find rude is being told I need to try or do something "

What did i tell you to try or do?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are. "

I'm not a swinger because I hate the term and what many people believe it to mean. I don't hate the swingers, I hate the term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think swingers would class me as a swinger, but I joined this site because the last swinging site I was on had gone to pot.

Why was I on a swinging site at all?

I enjoyed sexual experimentation and wanted to experience threesomes and gangbangs and push my sexual boundaries. I thought I’d meet like-minded individuals. The reality was I found many people who didn’t think like me at all.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Sounds like someone wants to the the authority on why people joined a website.

*be. You're welcome.

Ah. One of those people. It should have been obvious from the interrogative tone. "

If you dont like my thread, its easy not to join in..

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham

I joined to have a range of experiences without cheating on anyone. Someting wich would not be possible in a relationship where the other party is only interested in a traditional, vanilla experience. Hasn't quite worked out yet

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Wasn't the op just asking what attracts people to a swinging site when they aren't swingers? I wouldn't join a golfing site as I'm not a golfer. Seems some like to make a big point of mentioning that they aren't swingers. Like there's something wrong with you if you are. I think that's what the op finds odd. Not sure why anyone would take offense at the question or why people think that's rude.

The OP isn’t rude correct . I have mentioned that I’m not a swinger on several occasions not because I don’t want to be classified as one but merely because I’m not one. As for joining a swinging site I was led to believe that the site wasn’t populated by swingers alone. That is true not everyone wants group sex or swap partners myself included. I do not look down or judge those that do, that just isn’t what I find fulfilling when it comes to sex. A lot of the things I’ve encountered on the site aren’t for me but that doesn’t mean they’re wrong or I judge those that do them. I am more likely to want to engage in conversation to understand their preferences it’s incredibly interesting. The thing that I find rude is being told I need to try or do something

What did i tell you to try or do?"

Oh you haven’t done that at all, apologies for the misunderstanding, but some males on the site have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We aren’t sure we know the formal definition of “swinger” but we joined for sex with other people in a variety of combinations. We found getting to know them made it more enjoyable and heated the sex nicely.

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham

...and you can join any bloody website you want. Mumsnet is chocka with folk who like a robust arguement apparently. It's not called Bolshienet.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Wasn't the op just asking what attracts people to a swinging site when they aren't swingers? I wouldn't join a golfing site as I'm not a golfer. Seems some like to make a big point of mentioning that they aren't swingers. Like there's something wrong with you if you are. I think that's what the op finds odd. Not sure why anyone would take offense at the question or why people think that's rude.

The OP isn’t rude correct . I have mentioned that I’m not a swinger on several occasions not because I don’t want to be classified as one but merely because I’m not one. As for joining a swinging site I was led to believe that the site wasn’t populated by swingers alone. That is true not everyone wants group sex or swap partners myself included. I do not look down or judge those that do, that just isn’t what I find fulfilling when it comes to sex. A lot of the things I’ve encountered on the site aren’t for me but that doesn’t mean they’re wrong or I judge those that do them. I am more likely to want to engage in conversation to understand their preferences it’s incredibly interesting. The thing that I find rude is being told I need to try or do something

What did i tell you to try or do?

Oh you haven’t done that at all, apologies for the misunderstanding, but some males on the site have "

Then thanks for your open and honest post.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"...and you can join any bloody website you want. Mumsnet is chocka with folk who like a robust arguement apparently. It's not called Bolshienet. "

I wouldn't know. I'm not a mum, so never thought to join...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We want to meet guys for mfm and this site gives us the opportunity to do so

Hmmm, that kinda sounds like swinging to be honest. "

But I thought swinging was all about the 'lifestyle'. Socials and clubs and all that jazz. We're only here for the sex.

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham


"...and you can join any bloody website you want. Mumsnet is chocka with folk who like a robust arguement apparently. It's not called Bolshienet.

I wouldn't know. I'm not a mum, so never thought to join..."

That's my point: it's full of non mums. I'm not on it by the way...

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"We want to meet guys for mfm and this site gives us the opportunity to do so

Hmmm, that kinda sounds like swinging to be honest.

But I thought swinging was all about the 'lifestyle'. Socials and clubs and all that jazz. We're only here for the sex. "

I wouldn't be caught dead at a social!

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"...and you can join any bloody website you want. Mumsnet is chocka with folk who like a robust arguement apparently. It's not called Bolshienet.

I wouldn't know. I'm not a mum, so never thought to join...

That's my point: it's full of non mums. I'm not on it by the way... "

So its full of people that just like to stick their noses in, is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?"

Because SH went downhill and everyone was jumping ship...

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

What actually is the full definition of a swinger?

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Wasn't the op just asking what attracts people to a swinging site when they aren't swingers? I wouldn't join a golfing site as I'm not a golfer. Seems some like to make a big point of mentioning that they aren't swingers. Like there's something wrong with you if you are. I think that's what the op finds odd. Not sure why anyone would take offense at the question or why people think that's rude.

The OP isn’t rude correct . I have mentioned that I’m not a swinger on several occasions not because I don’t want to be classified as one but merely because I’m not one. As for joining a swinging site I was led to believe that the site wasn’t populated by swingers alone. That is true not everyone wants group sex or swap partners myself included. I do not look down or judge those that do, that just isn’t what I find fulfilling when it comes to sex. A lot of the things I’ve encountered on the site aren’t for me but that doesn’t mean they’re wrong or I judge those that do them. I am more likely to want to engage in conversation to understand their preferences it’s incredibly interesting. The thing that I find rude is being told I need to try or do something

What did i tell you to try or do?

Oh you haven’t done that at all, apologies for the misunderstanding, but some males on the site have

Then thanks for your open and honest post. "

You’re welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We want to meet guys for mfm and this site gives us the opportunity to do so

Hmmm, that kinda sounds like swinging to be honest.

But I thought swinging was all about the 'lifestyle'. Socials and clubs and all that jazz. We're only here for the sex.

I wouldn't be caught dead at a social! "

So if you're not a swinger why are you on here?

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"We want to meet guys for mfm and this site gives us the opportunity to do so

Hmmm, that kinda sounds like swinging to be honest.

But I thought swinging was all about the 'lifestyle'. Socials and clubs and all that jazz. We're only here for the sex.

I wouldn't be caught dead at a social!

So if you're not a swinger why are you on here? "

Where did i say I'm not?

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"What actually is the full definition of a swinger?"

That's another thread. I'm interested in those who are here who are ADAMANT that they are NOT swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We want to meet guys for mfm and this site gives us the opportunity to do so

Hmmm, that kinda sounds like swinging to be honest.

But I thought swinging was all about the 'lifestyle'. Socials and clubs and all that jazz. We're only here for the sex.

I wouldn't be caught dead at a social!

So if you're not a swinger why are you on here?

Where did i say I'm not? "

What makes you a swinger then?

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

I have considered myself a swinger from the moment I realised that I wanted more than the vanilla normal and I believe it's regardless of your relationship status whether you are joining a couple, part of a couple or individuals pairing up for group sex. Swinging, for me, is a mindset as well as the act of engaging in sex with more than one person at a time.

Have seen some people post that they would not engage in a relationship with someone who swings but they were here for the sex until they met someone in their vanilla life! Attitudes towards the lifestyle vary.

Madame B

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

Because SH went downhill and everyone was jumping ship... "

But you don't think that you're a swinger, even after being a member of another site as well as this one?

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"We want to meet guys for mfm and this site gives us the opportunity to do so

Hmmm, that kinda sounds like swinging to be honest.

But I thought swinging was all about the 'lifestyle'. Socials and clubs and all that jazz. We're only here for the sex.

I wouldn't be caught dead at a social!

So if you're not a swinger why are you on here?

Where did i say I'm not?

What makes you a swinger then?"

You'd have to start another thread. That's a different question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To initially look at a guy's pictures. I was chatting to him on pof. He had no pictures on there, so led me to here, where he had quite a few. I had no idea that there were sites like this. I did get very involved with the lifestyle as a result (kid in a candy shop syndrome). But now I'm just happy with my fwb and chatting to liberal minded people, who are like minded and fun

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"What actually is the full definition of a swinger?

That's another thread. I'm interested in those who are here who are ADAMANT that they are NOT swingers. "

Yes,but just because someone says they are not a swinger doesn't mean that's a bad thing and they look down on those that are.

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By *lanPartridgeMan
over a year ago

nottingham


"...and you can join any bloody website you want. Mumsnet is chocka with folk who like a robust arguement apparently. It's not called Bolshienet.

I wouldn't know. I'm not a mum, so never thought to join...

That's my point: it's full of non mums. I'm not on it by the way...

So its full of people that just like to stick their noses in, is it?"

Apparently, yes.

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria

We are definitely swingers as we go to swingers clubs and hold swingers parties. Mostly soft swing, but hard too. We may even open a swingers club in the near future if we find the right venue. I

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure why labels are that important anyway? I don't like any sort of label about anything really!

Surely this community is just people who like sex and enjoy the company of others, which may or may not involve actual physical interaction? It's not about looking up, down or sideways at anyone.

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By *ornyandwellhungMan
over a year ago

belfast


"I wanted sex, but not a life partner."

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are not looking to swing but looking for voyeurism exhibitionists so on so for even majority of the fet scene don't have sex with others this site is full of lots of fabulous people who can seek what interests them each to their own

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By *ornyandwellhungMan
over a year ago

belfast


"I wanted the ride!"

My kinda girl Bold. ??

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester


"I wanted the ride!

My kinda girl Bold. ??"

Evans Cycles.com

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By *abrielle247Couple (FF)
over a year ago

PDI Gran Canaria


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

Do they I haven't really seen that to be honest. The only reason I don't say I'm a swinger is because I'm single and not part of a couple. I don't see why people would look down on someone else on here.

We were amazed on how small minded many are on here to be honest.

At least in the clubs people don't seem to be so judgemental."

Believe me, some clubs and some club members are very judgemental. You would think swingers would have a more liberal view on life.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I'm not sure why labels are that important anyway? I don't like any sort of label about anything really!

Surely this community is just people who like sex and enjoy the company of others, which may or may not involve actual physical interaction? It's not about looking up, down or sideways at anyone."

Yes, and some people, the OP particularly seems to feel that if you don't actively want something you must judge and condemn it, which is a very paranoid perception.

I could also say I came here cos I was fucking a swinger, something I sometimes choose to do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I was told there were single men on here that I might find suitable for a fwb/fb with. He was correct.

I considered meeting couples when I first joined, but soon went off the idea. I did try again a few times to meet couples, but gave up every time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guy I met on pof 7 years ago told me about this place. He's actually on here now I chatted to him the other day. Apparently he initially wanted to be my cuck so showed me this place then he created a monster and I just couldn't get enough of the place!

It's bittersweet here for me, it's perfect for swingers and people who want fetishes and fantasies fulfilled and just sex that's it but I don't want just a fuck so I shouldn't be here. The guys here will only ever see me as a fuck so will treat me as such.

I'm just comfy here, there's guys here that are on traditional dating sites yet still looking for fucks so may as well be on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex. On my terms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone from another site introduced me to Fab.

At first I was like a kid in a sweet shop - I tried a bit of everything

Now I know what I don't want lol.

I'm not a swinger - I like sex and talking about sex with sexy people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Got bored of trainspotting

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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago

Traffic land

I don’t know if I am or not? I suppose I always thought of swinging as a couples thing, not that it matters, I’m really not a fan of labels.

I came to Fab as it was suggested to me by a couple who swing, I’m long term single and liked the idea of a more upfront way of meeting men for nsa sex

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Initially for threesomes, I live the forums now

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By *agermeisterMan
over a year ago

Leeds

To smash the Patriarchy.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I didn’t pay any attention to the fact the site was a Swingers site, even though it’s in the name. I was told about the site by a man that I was chatting to in a hotel bar one night. I have always wanted to experience a certain something and this seemed like a good place to explore the possibility.

Whether people consider themselves to be swingers or not isn’t something I pay any attention to either. I don’t particularly see myself as a swinger but I think that’s primarily because I see swinging as a couples thing, rightly or wrongly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted amazing sexual experiences. Soon found out I’m not a swinger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?"

I am a lifestyle swinger that got a lot of meets when I was married and partnered up. Nowadays single guys think swinging is just sex and leaving you in a mess. Well I do not meet those guys.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"I'm not sure why labels are that important anyway? I don't like any sort of label about anything really!

Surely this community is just people who like sex and enjoy the company of others, which may or may not involve actual physical interaction? It's not about looking up, down or sideways at anyone.

Yes, and some people, the OP particularly seems to feel that if you don't actively want something you must judge and condemn it, which is a very paranoid perception.

I could also say I came here cos I was fucking a swinger, something I sometimes choose to do! "

No no, I'm just fascinated by those who joined yet love to say "I'm not a swinger" like being a swinger is some how sub-human and something to be reviled. Like they have the moral high ground because they're fucking strangers, but certainly not "swinging".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not a swinger only because I don’t enjoy stranger sex, i also don’t like the feeling of being used so the single guys just looking to get their ends away and nothing else (friendship) really makes me feel shit about myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure why labels are that important anyway? I don't like any sort of label about anything really!

Surely this community is just people who like sex and enjoy the company of others, which may or may not involve actual physical interaction? It's not about looking up, down or sideways at anyone.

Yes, and some people, the OP particularly seems to feel that if you don't actively want something you must judge and condemn it, which is a very paranoid perception.

I could also say I came here cos I was fucking a swinger, something I sometimes choose to do!

No no, I'm just fascinated by those who joined yet love to say "I'm not a swinger" like being a swinger is some how sub-human and something to be reviled. Like they have the moral high ground because they're fucking strangers, but certainly not "swinging"."

I don't fuck.people in clubs, cans or groups and I'm not part of any couple or play relationship.

So to me I'm not a swinger.

In fact, I've rarely had meets with couples as I'm a single woman and not what they want.

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are. "

Who says we have a low opinion of swingers ??!!

I have a lot of life friends who are swingers and I respect them and never think low of them. They respect me and my choice . I even go to clubs with them and a lot of people know me and respect my decision that I don’t play.

So I don’t think it’s acceptable what you said in your post.

Everyone have their own reason why joining this site and everyone get from this site what they want .

If you don’t like it ... tough !

I get party and events invitations from clubs and people although they know I am not a swinger and I won’t be having sex . They invite me as I am a nice person and a lot of people think I am funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

Who says we have a low opinion of swingers ??!!

I have a lot of life friends who are swingers and I respect them and never think low of them. They respect me and my choice . I even go to clubs with them and a lot of people know me and respect my decision that I don’t play.

So I don’t think it’s acceptable what you said in your post.

Everyone have their own reason why joining this site and everyone get from this site what they want .

If you don’t like it ... tough !

I get party and events invitations from clubs and people although they know I am not a swinger and I won’t be having sex . They invite me as I am a nice person and a lot of people think I am funny. "

Wow! Very aggressively offended by a comment that wasn't directed at you! I think clem was referring to a specific type of person. That clearly isn't you!

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By *eardedProctologistMan
over a year ago

Here and there but more here than there

I am selling my fiat punto if any of you is interested in it, please PM with a picture of your tits.

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think I'm a swinger yet but I'm working on it.

I was go googling wife swapping and swinger stories and this site popped up.

I'm looking to develop/indulge in some filthy kinks with others. I'm a swinger in training

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure why labels are that important anyway? I don't like any sort of label about anything really!

Surely this community is just people who like sex and enjoy the company of others, which may or may not involve actual physical interaction? It's not about looking up, down or sideways at anyone.

Yes, and some people, the OP particularly seems to feel that if you don't actively want something you must judge and condemn it, which is a very paranoid perception.

I could also say I came here cos I was fucking a swinger, something I sometimes choose to do!

No no, I'm just fascinated by those who joined yet love to say "I'm not a swinger" like being a swinger is some how sub-human and something to be reviled. Like they have the moral high ground because they're fucking strangers, but certainly not "swinging"."

I say I'm not a swinger, if someone asks me, simply because I don't meet couples or go to clubs and parties. I'm not saying it because I don't want to be associated with swinging. I don't think I truly fit the criteria, people like to spout at us singles on here. To some, we're just fucking around. I don't get humpety over them saying that. As far as I'm concerned we're all just fucking around.

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

I’ve said so many times on here that I fail to understand why anyone would join a swinging site and say they aren’t swingers .

It certainly doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else whether they are or aren’t a swinger .

We are swingers , we do what we do because we love it . We epitomise what swinging is , and are proud to be hardened or seasoned swingers .

Anyone who thinks that the fact they don’t see themselves as swingers on a swingers site , and that somehow makes them better than us is deluded .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I’ve said so many times on here that I fail to understand why anyone would join a swinging site and say they aren’t swingers .

It certainly doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else whether they are or aren’t a swinger .

We are swingers , we do what we do because we love it . We epitomise what swinging is , and are proud to be hardened or seasoned swingers .

Anyone who thinks that the fact they don’t see themselves as swingers on a swingers site , and that somehow makes them better than us is deluded . "

Because being on a website that has swinging in it's name doesn't automatically make someone a swinger. There are people on here who don't meet; some only use the cam rooms, some wank over photos, some want attention. Would you call those swingers?

I don't particularly care if someone sees me as a swinger or not; I just think my behaviour doesn't warrant it.

I could be on a baking website; that wouldn't necessarily make me a baker, even if I made a cake once in a blue moon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I woke up here, still trying to find my way out.

Sometimes it's lovely, sometimes it's more hostile than a war zone. But it's the internet it's funny

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By *ollyGWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer. "

Me too x

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By *hamboy69Man
over a year ago

huddersfield


"In fairness to the OP.

There are many on here who think its Instashag.

Or just another sex site.

Those in the lifestyle know what they do and don't want and that is isn't just about a hook up."
Speak for yourself it is for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?"

You

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It just sounded so much more fun than the train spotting web sites

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I joined just to see if it was like POF and then I found 'The Lounge' and stayed ever since.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"I'm not sure why labels are that important anyway? I don't like any sort of label about anything really!

Surely this community is just people who like sex and enjoy the company of others, which may or may not involve actual physical interaction? It's not about looking up, down or sideways at anyone.

Yes, and some people, the OP particularly seems to feel that if you don't actively want something you must judge and condemn it, which is a very paranoid perception.

I could also say I came here cos I was fucking a swinger, something I sometimes choose to do!

No no, I'm just fascinated by those who joined yet love to say "I'm not a swinger" like being a swinger is some how sub-human and something to be reviled. Like they have the moral high ground because they're fucking strangers, but certainly not "swinging"."

Maybe you're imagining their attitide, or maybe they despise swingers but have been told there's easy meat here, who cares!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swapping recipes..

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By *uteLittleGeekWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"I am selling my fiat punto if any of you is interested in it, please PM with a picture of your tits.

Thank you. "

Ha ha love it ! Mwah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I love cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Define what you think a "Swinger" is as everyone will have their own thoughts on the subject matter.

I'm interested in those who KNOW that they definitely are NOT swingers.

Yes but people will have their own views on what they see as BEING or NOT

The real definition is couples who swap partners for sexual gratification without looking for commitment from the other party.

Yes but many people are ADAMANT that they are NOT swingers. So why join? "

My experience is generally the opposite ... some couples (not all) adamantly tell singles we are not swingers and cannot be as we are single

I dont identify as a swinger anyway ... i joined because someone told me about it and i was curious and wanted to experiment a little ... and then i caught the fab bug so no matter how many times i leave i always wnd up back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to admit, we had quite a surprise when we joined a Fab as a couple primarily looking for single men to join us for threeesome fun. We found most guys were just looking for one on one second with single ladies and had no interest in activities normally associated with swinging.

Mrs

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I told someone there were things I'd always been curious about, things I really needed to find out about myself, but never had chance to try.

He was on already on here & convinced me I should join.

So far I've managed to tick quite a few boxes but what I've also found, is more than just sex.

A social side I never expected.

I've made the most amazing friends, had the craziest of days out, laughed more than I thought I could, and have already filled my 2018 diary upto June.

Life is good!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came on here to get my Willy wet. Simple as that.

But rather unsurprisingly I found fantastic forumites, engaging conversations and some great friends.

And got my Willy wet too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not sure why labels are that important anyway? I don't like any sort of label about anything really!

Surely this community is just people who like sex and enjoy the company of others, which may or may not involve actual physical interaction? It's not about looking up, down or sideways at anyone.

Yes, and some people, the OP particularly seems to feel that if you don't actively want something you must judge and condemn it, which is a very paranoid perception.

I could also say I came here cos I was fucking a swinger, something I sometimes choose to do!

No no, I'm just fascinated by those who joined yet love to say "I'm not a swinger" like being a swinger is some how sub-human and something to be reviled. Like they have the moral high ground because they're fucking strangers, but certainly not "swinging"."

You've got it the wrong way round. Swingers are the elite. They invented sex. Everyone else having sex that isn't a Swinger is doing it wrong.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"

I’ve said so many times on here that I fail to understand why anyone would join a swinging site and say they aren’t swingers .

It certainly doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else whether they are or aren’t a swinger .

We are swingers , we do what we do because we love it . We epitomise what swinging is , and are proud to be hardened or seasoned swingers .

Anyone who thinks that the fact they don’t see themselves as swingers on a swingers site , and that somehow makes them better than us is deluded .

Because being on a website that has swinging in it's name doesn't automatically make someone a swinger. There are people on here who don't meet; some only use the cam rooms, some wank over photos, some want attention. Would you call those swingers?

I don't particularly care if someone sees me as a swinger or not; I just think my behaviour doesn't warrant it.

I could be on a baking website; that wouldn't necessarily make me a baker, even if I made a cake once in a blue moon. "

best answer!

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

I joined for the forums. I heard they were full of enlightened, non-judgemental folk.

I stayed for the sex.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

What's a swinger then? And don't quote the old couples & wife swapping crap

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"What's a swinger then? And don't quote the old couples & wife swapping crap "

I don't care. I'm interested in people who KNOW that they aren't! How do those people know that throughout the random sex and 3-somes they still aren't swingers.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To find a woman with similar outlook and desires, abject failure by the way.

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"I joined for the forums. I heard they were full of enlightened, non-judgemental folk.

I stayed for the sex."

You didn't google "forum".

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By *loswingersCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester


"

I’ve said so many times on here that I fail to understand why anyone would join a swinging site and say they aren’t swingers .

It certainly doesn’t make anyone better than anyone else whether they are or aren’t a swinger .

We are swingers , we do what we do because we love it . We epitomise what swinging is , and are proud to be hardened or seasoned swingers .

Anyone who thinks that the fact they don’t see themselves as swingers on a swingers site , and that somehow makes them better than us is deluded .

Because being on a website that has swinging in it's name doesn't automatically make someone a swinger. There are people on here who don't meet; some only use the cam rooms, some wank over photos, some want attention. Would you call those swingers?

I don't particularly care if someone sees me as a swinger or not; I just think my behaviour doesn't warrant it.

I could be on a baking website; that wouldn't necessarily make me a baker, even if I made a cake once in a blue moon.

best answer! "

agreed .

Now I’m off to join a baking website

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I joined for the forums. I heard they were full of enlightened, non-judgemental folk.

I stayed for the sex.

You didn't google "forum"."

I use Bing, it's the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm writing a book titled

The day

The week

The month

In the life of a vagina.

I use fab for info on fannys and there daily feelings happenings dry and wet moments twinges leaks needs wants smells itches etc etc etc

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"I joined for the forums. I heard they were full of enlightened, non-judgemental folk.

I stayed for the sex.

You didn't google "forum".

I use Bing, it's the future.

"

Come on! You know that's a fib!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?"

Nothing made me join. I came here of my own free will.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Think I heard about it on Trisha or something, or someone on Mel's told me, it's where the open minded women hang out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because pussy

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

Because SH went downhill and everyone was jumping ship... "

SH went downhill when the former owner sold out and the site that "would always be free" became a paysite.

Did you know there membership jumped by over 400% the day that happened?

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By *eviant Duo 2016Couple
over a year ago

Colchester

I met my partner on here and we both wanted to “swing” with others but found it more satisfying to do so together. Prior to this I (fem) had been on various adult sites and actually all I wanted then and now is honesty.

Sex if all involved are agreed however no expectation and when all x

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By *eviant Duo 2016Couple
over a year ago

Colchester

If all are agreed and truly understand the dynamics of swinging then it can be be amazing xx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford


"If all are agreed and truly understand the dynamics of swinging then it can be be amazing xx"

Yes, this!

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

Because SH went downhill and everyone was jumping ship...

SH went downhill when the former owner sold out and the site that "would always be free" became a paysite.

Did you know there membership jumped by over 400% the day that happened? "

Ahh SH bbw cam room. Good ol'days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

Because SH went downhill and everyone was jumping ship...

SH went downhill when the former owner sold out and the site that "would always be free" became a paysite.

Did you know there membership jumped by over 400% the day that happened? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like to keep tge spark alive in our marriage, so we started to cam on another site and post pics. Somehow it brought us to this site, and we found the interactions with likeminded people on this site, far better than any others we tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What's a swinger then? And don't quote the old couples & wife swapping crap

I don't care. I'm interested in people who KNOW that they aren't! How do those people know that throughout the random sex and 3-somes they still aren't swingers..... "

Because I'm bloody antisocial, that's why. And, I keep being told that single people can't be swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly the sex without the commitment.

Interesting people with open minds.

Liked the lifestyle since a friend and his wife in Germany invited me to a party as their +1 lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A swinger from another site recommended fab and here I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because it's free.

The question of the year award goes to .....

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Because it's free.

The question of the year award goes to ..... "

Do tell

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"Why are you saying so many of us aren't swingers anyway,does that include yourself? Personally I'm not,I was just a single person looking for more than the sex site I was on.

Ignore that I know you won't answer.

Lots of members like to say that they are not swingers, and talk down their noses at us. I just wondered why on earth they joined if they're not swingers and have such a low opinion of those who are.

Do they I haven't really seen that to be honest. The only reason I don't say I'm a swinger is because I'm single and not part of a couple. I don't see why people would look down on someone else on here.

We were amazed on how small minded many are on here to be honest.

At least in the clubs people don't seem to be so judgemental."

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By *eviantdeliteWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

what made you join?

How about you?

Someone I met on a dating site send me a picture of themselves with the fabswinger logo on it curiosity got the better of me and here I am 10 years later still on here but actually I do not consider myself a swinger in the true sense of partner swapping I also thought it would be easy to get a threesome but that never happened "

What sort of a threesome are you looking for? Perhaps your profile is not clear about what you are offering or would like?.....my profile when viewable says exactly what I want.....and I do get the right kind of messages really.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because it's free.

The question of the year award goes to .....

Do tell "

you only get one more guess

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Because it's free.

The question of the year award goes to .....

Do tell

you only get one more guess "

Do you join everything that's free? Blimy you must be busy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because it's free.

The question of the year award goes to .....

Do tell

you only get one more guess

Do you join everything that's free? Blimy you must be busy. "

sad submission , too easy

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"Because it's free.

The question of the year award goes to .....

Do tell

you only get one more guess

Do you join everything that's free? Blimy you must be busy.

sad submission , too easy"

Too right it was! Have some self respect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad to hear it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

what made you join?

How about you?

Someone I met on a dating site send me a picture of themselves with the fabswinger logo on it curiosity got the better of me and here I am 10 years later still on here but actually I do not consider myself a swinger in the true sense of partner swapping I also thought it would be easy to get a threesome but that never happened

What sort of a threesome are you looking for? Perhaps your profile is not clear about what you are offering or would like?.....my profile when viewable says exactly what I want.....and I do get the right kind of messages really....."

och...

nipple avatar enticement...fulla hate now!

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS
over a year ago

Darlaston

Poped up on the fab guys site so had a look and have not looked back fucking love it xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined for the forums. I heard they were full of enlightened, non-judgemental folk.

I stayed for the sex.

You didn't google "forum".

I use Bing, it's the future.

Come on! You know that's a fib! "

I've just started using Bing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t really understand why so many people are saying they are not swingers when their profiles suggest they are pursuing activities typically associated with swinging.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t really understand why so many people are saying they are not swingers when their profiles suggest they are pursuing activities typically associated with swinging.

Mrs"

Like what activities?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t really understand why so many people are saying they are not swingers when their profiles suggest they are pursuing activities typically associated with swinging.

Mrs

Like what activities? "

Things like threesomes, swing clubs, adult parties

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?"

Instant shags.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To meet like-minded people who are not into conventional monogamous relationships and to explore the club scene

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


"To meet like-minded people who are not into conventional monogamous relationships and to explore the club scene "

Sounds like the kinda thing swingers do. Are you really sure you're not a swinger?

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury


" What made you join the community of "fabswingers"?

Instant shags."

Well you've come to the right place for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wanted sex, but not a life partner."

^^^^^^ this

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Do you have a conclusion OP?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I don’t really understand why so many people are saying they are not swingers when their profiles suggest they are pursuing activities typically associated with swinging.

Mrs

Like what activities?

Things like threesomes, swing clubs, adult parties"

Maybe because it's OK to do that when they are single but they wouldn't when they are in a relationship and so have been told they aren't proper swingers by the swinging illuminati

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To meet like-minded people who are not into conventional monogamous relationships and to explore the club scene

Sounds like the kinda thing swingers do. Are you really sure you're not a swinger?"

Completely. I don't like watching or being watched, and prefer a long sensual one-on-one session or maximum MMF in private

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined as i wanted sex lol but within days of joing i had my first threesome which blew my mind and within 2 weeks had a gangbang and i had the bug then lol met alot of people through fab and love it

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By *lem-H-Fandango OP   Man
over a year ago

salisbury

^You sound like a swinger^

I think people say it to belittle the scene and those within it. It makes them feel superior somehow. The same kind of person who would say "oh i never watch television" or "i only ever read broadsheets" or "I've never heard of the Spice girls". Its just a way of saying "I'm better than you". You filthy swinger..... that's what i think.

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