FabSwingers.com forum: Mutual STD checks before play?.......

By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

Ok im checking out the who's looked at me profiles and have just read one that requires everyone to have mutual STD check before play

If someone suggested that to you would you be happy to go along with it?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

S'funny as it would come across quite badly if you were asked, but at the same time a refusal would seem churlish.

Do't really see a win win situation coming out of it, but as with so many things on here, each to their own.

I guess maybe a nervous 1st time couple would want to be "belt and braces" sure of the other people, but it's kinda like saying anyone who meets us has to shower thoroughly in our house and be inspected for cleanliness before we play...kinda takes the sexiness out of it.

Oh, and how long would a clean bill of helth last after a check - a day, a week, a month?

Depends on who else you met etc etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if we all attended the exact same clinic at exactly the same time, as I'm not so sure that I would trust them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just wash it with Dettol before I arrive them a quick once over with a KFC freshening wipe and I am good to go!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh, and how long would a clean bill of helth last after a check - a day, a week, a month?

Depends on who else you met etc etc...

Exactly - for the day attended until the next time you have sex, and in this game that includes your partner.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
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over a year ago

"S'funny as it would come across quite badly if you were asked, but at the same time a refusal would seem churlish.

Do't really see a win win situation coming out of it, but as with so many things on here, each to their own.

Oh, and how long would a clean bill of helth last after a check - a day, a week, a month?

Depends on who else you met etc etc...

After thinking about it I agree with you

Its a very sensible suggestion,and I hav'nt seen anything like it on a profile before,but Im not sure if I would feel midly offended,but why should I feel that way? its just being safe is'nt it and we all want to stay as safe as we possibly can

I also agree with slidenride,I have a hospital 10 minutes away,don't really feel the need to travel to a clinic elsewhere so if they wanted to come to ours with us then no problem

And of course you're only as safe as the day you had your last bill of health anyway

Do I really think that someone is worth doing that for when we get regular check ups anyway?

If im honest I don't think they are,and I don't know why I feel that way

perhaps its the suggestion that you're unclean and until we have proof you're not we won't go near you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read it as, they have a good gander at your working parts for any obvious tell tale signs of an infection. Not the off to the clinic type thing...

Could be good, but might be off putting if they had the gloves, mask and gown on, hey that could be another story lol

Call me old fashion, but that what foreplay and a quick look before eating or pocking was for;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i just wash it with Dettol before I arrive them a quick once over with a KFC freshening wipe and I am good to go!"

now you sound super clean to me now, shame coz i like the smell of kfc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"S'funny as it would come across quite badly if you were asked, but at the same time a refusal would seem churlish.

Do't really see a win win situation coming out of it, but as with so many things on here, each to their own.

Oh, and how long would a clean bill of helth last after a check - a day, a week, a month?

Depends on who else you met etc etc...

After thinking about it I agree with you

I also agree with slidenride,I have a hospital 10 minutes away,don't really feel the need to travel to a clinic elsewhere so if they wanted to come to ours with us then no problem

And of course you're only as safe as the day you had your last bill of health anyway

Do I really think that someone is worth doing that for when we get regular check ups anyway?

If im honest I don't think they are,and I don't know why I feel that way

perhaps its the suggestion that you're unclean and until we have proof you're not we won't go near you

I agree - there is something that is just not quite right about making such a statement, like refusing to drink from the same cup as a play mate, understandable but equally uncomfortable.

We once met a couple 'socially' that claimed "as long as the STD is curable who cares".

We slot right in the middle of these two couples, a responsible but reasonable balance is all we require.

And as you have claimed I don't know why, but I am beginning to feel unreasonable now

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

Even that is not foolproof as hiv takes 3 months to detect, so you could go and they would be able to say ..it does not appear to be present as we can not find evidence of its presence yet.

However that test could not say it has not started the binding process and a positive result will be come known in 3 months time..for that you would need a initial test then abstinence for a minimum of 3 months then a further test ,for all parties .

Otherwise as soon as you go with someone who was not cleared the same day ..your in the same boat ..condom or not ..thankfully the odds of contracting in this country are still astronomical if you choose your partners wisely.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

The STD test could just be the start of it.

Wait til they ask you to sign a non-dislosure agreement and agree that any photo's taken are their copyright.

Not to mentione a possible list of do's and don'ts running to ten pages covering every aspect of the meet, not just no pain no piss no anal etc etc.

On that basis i would insist on having a stunt double for any particularly athletic positions and i want the guy who does Brad Pitts ass work for him.

Then there's the insurance to think of, not to mention any film or book rights.

I would have to insist on casting input for whos going to play me and of course, final cut decisions.

Are they bringing a script for you to work to, or are you just going to "improv" the whole thing?

There's a lot to think about here. Best you arrange an initial meeting with them to talk about lighting, mood music, wardrobe, location (has your house recenlty been checked by a surveyor? wouldnt want the roof caving in during the act).

And the I.Q test. You may look sexy on your profile, but if you can't solve some basic equations and name some american presidents then it just won't work. Or maybe your TOO intelligent for them and that won't work either.

Copies of both your last appraisales at work please, and don't forget the credit check.

LOT'S for you to be getting on with before you meet them, can't believe you're wasting time dicking about on here.

Off you go now...

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By *resh freddieMan
over a year ago

Penistone

"The STD test could just be the start of it.