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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have been guilty of thisi n the past for sure but never again will I judge someone before getting to know them as humans we are all the same easy to be nasty but if you try just as easy to be nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we're none of us perfect.

Except me of course.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor

It's not judging it's just having an opinion,I can't be arsed enough to judge what others do it doesn't concern me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we're human xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do not judge anybody and I am not a hypocrite x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judging is perfectly normal, it's like making a risk assessment subconsciously. Sharing that judgement where it's not wanted or needed is what usually causes problems. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think judging based on an initial impression is just an instinct. And a hard one to not undertake. We judge things other than people based on nothing more than appearance so why would people be any different?

It's also possible to judge people or things in a positive way only for them to turn round and be an absolute pain!

I've had my fair share of judgement in the past. People, friends even have looked at me and thought one thing only to later tell me their judgements were incredibly inaccurate.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

Its human nature to analyze and question .... we all have differing opinions .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I do not judge anybody and I am not a hypocrite x"
exactly my point we judge but don't like being judged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Judging is perfectly normal, it's like making a risk assessment subconsciously. Sharing that judgement where it's not wanted or needed is what usually causes problems. ."

Risk assessment! Yes that!! I love that thought, thank you. Never thought of it that way but it sums it up for me at least. Assess risk, then reassess as more information is available.

Why does it matter if someone judges us? It doesn't change who we are.

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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

It personal choice, preferences

I will chat and socialise with anyone but doesn't mean I'd like to "play" with them. I'm not judging them.

I'm sure some people feel the same way about me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another forumite has raised this in the past.

Judgement can be both positive and negative. Ultimately it is forming an opinion.

How and if you express that opinion is the tricky part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Judging is perfectly normal, it's like making a risk assessment subconsciously. Sharing that judgement where it's not wanted or needed is what usually causes problems. ."

Perfect!

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By *urlesque!Woman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Judging is perfectly normal, it's like making a risk assessment subconsciously. Sharing that judgement where it's not wanted or needed is what usually causes problems. ."

Absolutely - it is a remnant from thousands of years ago when we had to quickly make that distinction of "friend or foe" to survive.

It is still a useful tool in today's life but unhelpful if we do not critically question our instant assessment of others as sometimes we could be wrong, I think.

In other words, we need to be prepared to consider why we judged and if there are reasons to abandon that first impression and look at the person again in a different light.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple
over a year ago

London

We all judge people all the time. It's nonsense to suggest otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We all judge people all the time. It's nonsense to suggest otherwise. "
I get that just maybe tactile in our approach

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because we're none of us perfect.

Except me of course."
obvious I'm perfection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we are all a bunch of gobshites

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because we are all a bunch of gobshites "

Busted haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all judge people all the time. It's nonsense to suggest otherwise. I get that just maybe tactile in our approach"

no idea what being tactile has to do with it, but i think it's an important survival technique...if i get a bad feeling about someone, i am certainly able to change my mind and be proved wrong, but the fact that im wary to begin with can prove to be a good safety net.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much a judgement, I just decide whether I want to get to know a person or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judging is a selection process. Some are better at it than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understood the OP to be about judging as in "You're a bad person because ...", as opposed to just assessing people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been guilty of thisi n the past for sure but never again will I judge someone before getting to know them as humans we are all the same easy to be nasty but if you try just as easy to be nice "

I don't want to get to know them, I want to make fuck with them XXX

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

It's true. I was guilty of prejudging a guy i met who killed a pregnant woman. But he turned out to be alright really. . I try not to now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understood the OP to be about judging as in "You're a bad person because ...", as opposed to just assessing people."

I understand them to be one and the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do not judge anybody and I am not a hypocrite x"

Simply not true ... judging someone is simply assessing them and forming an opinion based on the information you have available at that time ... so everytime you look at a message / profile and decide it doesnt seem like someone you want to fuck ... you have judged them ... which you are perfectly entitled to do ... its human nature

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I judge positively and negatively all the time.

If I am about to walk home alone in the dark via a route that takes me down an unlit road and I see a man loitering in the shadows I'm sure as hell going to judge him to be a risk and call a taxi.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I make judgements, both good and bad about people and things all the time.

I'd say that most people do if they're honest.

Some people just choose to vocalise them more than others. It's also depends on how it's done/said, whether people often take offense or not.

People rarely complain when someone vocalises a good judgement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We all judge people all the time. It's nonsense to suggest otherwise. I get that just maybe tactile in our approach

no idea what being tactile has to do with it, but i think it's an important survival technique...if i get a bad feeling about someone, i am certainly able to change my mind and be proved wrong, but the fact that im wary to begin with can prove to be a good safety net."

I read tactile as a typo... meant tactful maybe

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

I don't judge, and don't expect to be judged , but i know i will be judged,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think to me that is exactly what enlightenment is! When you can look at someone, something and not instantly judge. You can truely be such a better person once you achieve this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think to me that is exactly what enlightenment is! When you can look at someone, something and not instantly judge. You can truely be such a better person once you achieve this "

I must admit it's sometimes very hard to draw a conclusion on all that's available on here

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

There are plenty lof people in prison with ‘only god can judge me’ tattoos who fail to see the irony

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan
over a year ago

salisbury

Survival. If we couldn't judge people and situations we wouldn't survive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you know what I learnt on Thursday? I work for residents living with dementia, some in their later stages and I went to the funeral of a lady that had become for what of a better word ‘difficult’ and while I had lots of time for her as it wasn’t her fault but there were times where I looked at her and thought ‘she must have been a right pain to live with’ because up until her funeral I just saw her as living with dementia and judged her so much, when her son did her eulogy and he explained what she used to be like my opinion of her and my other residents changed, almost in an instant because these residents had a life and had a story to tell, so now I’m going to try my hardest not to judge anyone anymore.

Geeky x

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