FabSwingers.com forum: Forum Etiquette

By *emmefatale OP Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

So what are the unwritten rules on posting in the forums? We all have access to the site rules, just wondered what your advice to watchers n newbie posters would be, make it useful information, stuff that they can use to help them understand how the forums and the people who use them regularly work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont take it to seriously or you in for a fall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell it like it is, just so that Ruggers and Honeypot don't get bored

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

have fun!!!!

People might overlook you at first in favour of banter with friends but just keep jumping in and soon you will be part of the family (thats what i did)

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

oh and remember, just because you have oe opinion, doesnt mean others will have the same so be prepared for the fact that not everyone will agree with you!!

dont hrow your toys out of the pram when this happens!!!

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Never be afraid to speak your mind on a subject, providing your post doesn't contain abuse to another member or breach site rules, then just go for it.

Better to stand out for your beliefs than fall in line just to please a more vocal member....

Even if I don't agree with a post I will always respect someone more for having the guts to stand up for their beliefs....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit of a newbie but I'm loving the forums!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never be afraid to speak your mind on a subject, providing your post doesn't contain abuse to another member or breach site rules, then just go for it.

Better to stand out for your beliefs than fall in line just to please a more vocal member....

Even if I don't agree with a post I will always respect someone more for having the guts to stand up for their beliefs...."

*Nods in agreement*

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Be true to yourself.

Never lie.

Look at your own possible issues first rather than focus on other peoples.

Be prepared that if you have a difference of opinion/disagreement once, it may last longer than just that thread.

If you fall out with someone, you may find you have fallen out with 2 or 3 of their chums.

and there are always more than one side to any story

and if you make a mistake, put your hand up and say sorry... we all make them.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

but many great laughs can be had, great friendships formed....

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Irrationally disagree with thread makers and make sure you spell pivotal words incorrectly in your posts when making your argument.

Really fuck's people off.

Trollolololololololololololol

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"Irrationally disagree with thread makers and make sure you spell pivotal words incorrectly in your posts when making your argument.

Really fuck's people off.

Trollolololololololololololol"

And don't forget, it's profeshinawl

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"I'm a bit of a newbie but I'm loving the forums!

Good for you and welcome

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

Dont expect a forum of any sort to give a single answer. Good forums(and this is one of them) have a wide variety of opinions,treat this as a strength.

If you do get a general answer u dont like..ie most posters seem to agree, dont assume conspiracy...they might just be right

Dont ask any question you wont like the answers too

And remember people have memories, they notice if you praise BBWs one week then have a dig at fat birds the next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ave a laugh and avoid the serious threads if possible lol xx

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Read everything I write on a thread.

Ignore everthing else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have a fun time dont be afraid to disagree with someone, and always be polite and DONT SHOUT or be agressive, or come on after a few beers and flame people

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Oh, and don't come on here to whinge non stop about timewasters in thread after thread, and to dictate to others what they put on their own personal profiles....

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

My advice would be...don't think the regulars are any different than you that they need understanding so you can use the forums better....they are members just like you, and were all new at some point.

Jump in, don't take threads too seriously as even serious threads get some humour through them and most of all have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

watch who u make the butt of a joke. some people will report u for anything

its good to them out tho

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

If it is out there, no one need report it

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Sleeping with as many Mods as possible allegedly gets you a bit of extra 'leeway'.

Of course I couldn't possibly comment on whether that's true or not. You cunts.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sleeping with as many Mods as possible allegedly gets you a bit of extra 'leeway'.

Of course I couldn't possibly comment on whether that's true or not. You cunts."

+1 lol

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

For the record, i DID hesitate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have the courage to speak your _iews, even if everyone else disagrees.

Don't put up with put downs or members trying to take the piss - stand up and challenge it

Don't send private messages to members in relation to a forum post, if you've got something to say don't be a coward, say it in public or not at all

Don't suck up to more vocal members trying to hang off their coat tails

Don't be a fence sitter and wait for a braver person to post with comments like 'ill get the popcorn' - speak up if you disagree with something

Join in as much as you can or wish to

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

If you set out to impress people, you probably won't.

Just because someone types it, it doesn't make it true... often people are talking out of their arse and most people know it … even if they don’t type it.

People are rarely as nice as they like to type they are…. pushing keys is far easier than living the values they bang on about.

The forum isn’t one big homogonous entity, so basically don't give a rats arse about sucking up in an attempt to make other people happy... you might befriend one group and alienate another…. and anyone with their own mind will see straight through it.

Not everyone will like you.

Not everyone will hate you.

Not everyone will even notice you.

Be true to yourself.

Don’t be a twat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you set out to impress people, you probably won't.

Just because someone types it, it doesn't make it true... often people are talking out of their arse and most people know it … even if they don’t type it.

People are rarely as nice as they like to type they are…. pushing keys is far easier than living the values they bang on about.

Not everyone will like you.

Not everyone will hate you.

Not everyone will even notice you.

Be true to yourself.

Don’t be a twat.

sooo negative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would steer clear of posting threads about really common subjects or use the search tool first.

And never post threads about comfortable flat shoes.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"If you set out to impress people, you probably won't.

Just because someone types it, it doesn't make it true... often people are talking out of their arse and most people know it … even if they don’t type it.

People are rarely as nice as they like to type they are…. pushing keys is far easier than living the values they bang on about.

Not everyone will like you.

Not everyone will hate you.

Not everyone will even notice you.

Be true to yourself.

Don’t be a twat.

sooo negative "

I rest my case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have fun and make new friends not new enemies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont troll and all will be well

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

just go out there and be yourself..

not everyone is going to like everything you say (and yes, fence sitters and people whose opinions change on whichever way the wind blows are noticed) but as long as you back up whatever you say in a reasonable manor then you'll survive the madhouse...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would steer clear of posting threads about really common subjects or use the search tool first.

And never post threads about comfortable flat shoes."

Hey, what do you have against flat shoe wearers? You shoeist, you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont troll and all will be well

whats trolling mean? never understood the term

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

Would advise to ignore a lot of what has been posted as most are just reiterating what THEY dislike! Just post exactly what you want and be mindful of the rules.

Be careful not to deliberately upset people and if you do, stand your ground on point of _iew but try to stay even and pleasant!

Forget the forum “back catalogue”. If no one asked questions that had been asked before, this place would be dead! It also gives chance for new _iewpoints on older subjects.

Don’t get sucked into the “Race” thing! Accept that some have a preference for a particular race, colour or creed. And remember that word.. Preference! We all have them and that is OK.

If you are new to the scene and a bit nervous, take no notice of those who would have you believe they are more worthy because they have been here longer. They won’t directly say that, but they will use phrases such as. “This has been done to death” and similar.

Above all, don’t rise to the bait set by some on here. (me included!) If what I say is not your _iew, post to that effect but remember, to argue the point will not change a mind, but seem like you are trying to convince yourself.

But number one? Have fun and enjoy yourself. Grow a tough exterior and practice banter. Everyone including those who are a little difficult at times, have worth and their opinion is as valid as yours.

Oh and use these!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would advise to ignore a lot of what has been posted as most are just reiterating what THEY dislike! Just post exactly what you want and be mindful of the rules.

Be careful not to deliberately upset people and if you do, stand your ground on point of _iew but try to stay even and pleasant!

Forget the forum “back catalogue”. If no one asked questions that had been asked before, this place would be dead! It also gives chance for new _iewpoints on older subjects.

Don’t get sucked into the “Race” thing! Accept that some have a preference for a particular race, colour or creed. And remember that word.. Preference! We all have them and that is OK.

Oh and use these!

What Rumour said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont troll and all will be well

whats trolling mean? never understood the term"

think its like purposely posting stuff to get a negative response and offend people

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

try log off at least as sane as when you logged on.

it's hard, but that's another topic.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"dont troll and all will be well

whats trolling mean? never understood the term"

nor me.

the term "trolling" is seriously misused on here

PS it's also an unwritten truism that you cannot be a troll if your avatar is a fit arse pic.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"just go out there and be yourself..

yes, it helps to let the occasional aberration wash over you like a light autumnal breeze

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

" PS it's also an unwritten truism that you cannot be a troll if your avatar is a fit arse pic. "

(Rumour goes off to find an arse pic!)

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

"dont troll and all will be well

whats trolling mean? never understood the term

think its like purposely posting stuff to get a negative response and offend people"

more fool those who respond negatively, easier to move on

new threads are easy to start and they're FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"dont troll and all will be well

whats trolling mean? never understood the term"

Kimbles all theese looosers have no idea what a troll is bro.

They is jelly or mad bro. I could win the internets with one finger. Problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"dont troll and all will be well

whats trolling mean? never understood the term

Kimbles all theese looosers have no idea what a troll is bro.

They is jelly or mad bro. I could win the internets with one finger. Problem?"

am mirin brah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

R.I.P Zyzz

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

Most of all be yourself.

Never be afraid to post your opinion even if it is different from others, diversity is the key.

But the most important thing to remember is we are all here for the fun and enjoyment.

Happy posting whoever you are

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"dont troll and all will be well

whats trolling mean? never understood the term

nor me.

the term "trolling" is seriously misused on here

PS it's also an unwritten truism that you cannot be a troll if your avatar is a fit arse pic. "

says the arse with a silhouette for his avatar

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

PS it's also an unwritten truism that you cannot be a troll if your avatar is a fit arse pic.

says the arse with a silhouette for his avatar

anyone know how to dry trousers quickly?

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

If you're going to post a thread, or reply to something, or make a point it would be just smashing if you could just have the tiniest stab at throwing even the minimum of punctuation and spelling at whatever it is you want to say.

We're not looking for Proust but it's so much easier to take someone and their point of _iew seriously if they can spell words of up to four letters at least close to correctly.

To reiterate, we don't care if you're thick, it takes allsorts to make the site an interesting and fun place to be, we'd just rather you didn't spell it 'fick'.

We're even relaxed about people splitting infinitives. More so if you know what an infinitive is.

And, FYI, when the person below you says 'yes' in answer to the question 'would you fuck the person above', they don't mean it, they are merely being polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and dont believe them that tell you im a nutter,...totally untrue

my doctor told me

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

And hot from another thread!

Whatever you do, don't go onto a thread and say "There are a lot of very ignorant people on here" just because you don't get replies to mail! It kinda makes people edgy or pissed with you!

DOH!!

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

join a clique,after that it's all plain sailing.

....(....

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"join a clique,after that it's all plain sailing.

....(...."

You jelly bro? Wanna join mine? It is so big now it has sub cliques, I might even let you head one.

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"join a clique,after that it's all plain sailing.

....(...."

The first rule of the clique is don't talk about the clique.

See me after the clique meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bitching gets you a ban.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"join a clique,after that it's all plain sailing.

....(....

The first rule of the clique is don't talk about the clique.

See me after the clique meeting.

....(....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"join a clique,after that it's all plain sailing.

....(....

The first rule of the clique is don't talk about the clique.

See me after the clique meeting

No-one told us about a clique meeting! Bastards!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"join a clique,after that it's all plain sailing.

....(....

The first rule of the clique is don't talk about the clique.

See me after the clique meeting

No-one told us about a clique meeting! Bastards!

serves ya right, yer not old OR young. tch. .... mumble mumble ... some people ..... world ... living .........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to the single men:

if its a couple posting try and ignore the male half....hes out of our interests...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"join a clique,after that it's all plain sailing.

....(....

The first rule of the clique is don't talk about the clique.

See me after the clique meeting

No-one told us about a clique meeting! Bastards!

serves ya right, yer not old OR young. tch. .... mumble mumble ... some people ..... world ... living ........."

We were discussing these very same cliques last night at the Fab Paranoids Social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have fun, respect others even if their opinions are different to your own.

Some of us have been on here for a while and have met at social events, therefore, the banters flow better, which can be perceived as cliquey.

However, please remember we were all newbies once.

So jump in and join in.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"join a clique,after that it's all plain sailing.

....(....

You jelly bro? Wanna join mine? It is so big now it has sub cliques, I might even let you head one."

A sub clique....ohh does cali know, and are there whip rounds

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

The best advice is a response to what someone asks.

All of the above is superfluous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bit of a newbie but I'm loving the forums!

Good for you and welcome

Awww thanks!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rule 1. Don't type with your tongue just because you are still tied up.

Rule 2. Being a regular doesn't mean that you have to write at exactly 5 past 3 every day.

Rule 3. Male forum fans must remain naked at all times.

Rule 5. There is no rule 4.

Rule 6. If you have managed to read this far, you are far to clever to contribute to the forum and will be banned.

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

What I don't think has been mentioned so far is that you also have to be a tad insane!

Other than that, you'll fit in perfectly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NEVER be un P.C.

And above all.......... it's T.O.N.G.U.E not T.O.U.N.G.E !

XXXX

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"So what are the unwritten rules on posting in the forums? We all have access to the site rules, just wondered what your advice to watchers n newbie posters would be, make it useful information, stuff that they can use to help them understand how the forums and the people who use them regularly work.

I would say to the newibies done expect people to reply/respond to your comments for a while, they normally give their friends or other regualrs priority..even when you make the same point before them..

But stick at it and eventually youl get yourself noticed/accepted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But stick at it and eventually youl get yourself noticed/accepted.

Or maybe not, as the case may be.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't expect to get on with everyone.

Some people are nicer than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't kill spiders, get a glass and a piece of cardboard and chuck em outside.

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By *umourCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

"don't kill spiders, get a glass and a piece of cardboard and chuck em outside."

But not in the winter, that will kill them and spiders really are your friends!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"don't kill spiders, get a glass and a piece of cardboard and chuck em outside.

But not in the winter, that will kill them and spiders really are your friends!

no flies on you then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let the trolls get your goat!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never be afraid to speak your mind on a subject, providing your post doesn't contain abuse to another member or breach site rules, then just go for it.

Better to stand out for your beliefs than fall in line just to please a more vocal member....

Even if I don't agree with a post I will always respect someone more for having the guts to stand up for their beliefs...."

no if u do pepl just take the piss and get nasty so no respct 4 doin it

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple
over a year ago

Lisburn

"Never be afraid to speak your mind on a subject, providing your post doesn't contain abuse to another member or breach site rules, then just go for it.

Better to stand out for your beliefs than fall in line just to please a more vocal member....

Even if I don't agree with a post I will always respect someone more for having the guts to stand up for their beliefs....

no if u do pepl just take the piss and get nasty so no respct 4 doin it

we will always have a difference of opinions (mine always rite) (sticks tounge out) but as ive already said diversity is the name of the game, would be a boring place if we all thought the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody is equal, just some more equal than others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and talk to anybody, well anybody that matters!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fuck the lot of yas!

oops, i meant I'd...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take much notice of the people who spread hate, don't believe all you read as many people like to exagerate on line.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

"Never be afraid to speak your mind on a subject, providing your post doesn't contain abuse to another member or breach site rules, then just go for it.

Better to stand out for your beliefs than fall in line just to please a more vocal member....

Even if I don't agree with a post I will always respect someone more for having the guts to stand up for their beliefs....

no if u do pepl just take the piss and get nasty so no respct 4 doin it

we will always have a difference of opinions (mine always rite) (sticks tounge out) but as ive already said diversity is the name of the game, would be a boring place if we all thought the same

i tell my kids,respect is earned not a right

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