FabSwingers.com forum: Messaging

By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Hey everyone,

Now I ask this because I don’t really ever get replies! I know I’m not a ugly lad but can’t be everyone’s type I get that, but It’s rare I get a reply & I think I’m doing something wrong obviously! How do you start a message? I used to start with the obvious hey how are u? But never got a reply maybe because it was a boring message, so trying it different with a naughty message & still no reply! How do most of you start a message? As people either think I’m boring or fucking weird haha!

But like I said I don’t expect to be everyone’s type! I’m photo verified so clearly not a fake profile.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a guys perspective. I would say the line about the blowjob and the line about sharing videos from previous meets may put people off.

Could be wrong, but that's my two pence worth

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I can't stand the basic 'how are you' message, I just delete those now. Because invariably it goes how are you how was your weekend what you up to... Follows a very predictable pattern.

The messages that catch my eye tend to be the ones that make me laugh or at least smile, and show that they've read my profile.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"From a guys perspective. I would say the line about the blowjob and the line about sharing videos from previous meets may put people off.

Could be wrong, but that's my two pence worth"

Yeah... I'd agree. Videos with previous meets should be private. And you make it sound like you're just in this to get a decent bj. What's in it for anyone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume you have permission to share video's from your previous meets?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Candy i read your profile and u deleted my arse lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps all the ladies out there are " shit at sucking dick?" and dont want to waste your valuable time

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Your profile comes across as being very negative if I’m honest. It wouldn’t appeal to me.

As others have said, I find the how are you message dull. If I really like the profile, I’ll reply in the hope things will pick up but it frequently fizzles out.

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By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

Profile edited thanks for the advice so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profile edited thanks for the advice so far

Its just all about you really

All about what you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profile edited thanks for the advice so far

Jeez, if that's the improved one!

Slightly off-topic, but why would anyone think a single guys profile is fake??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Profile edited thanks for the advice so far

Didn't see it before, but if this is meant to be better, I hate to think what it looked like before.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i didn't see it before, but for me, the first paragraph could go, doesn't say anything relevant..and the last line could go...if you don't want men messaging you, block them! other than that, it still doesn't really say much.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

To be honest OP it's not just the content of the message that counts but the quality of the profile - people will often read the profile before even looking at the message.

You've not asked for profile advice so I can't give it - but ask yourself this: Does your profile reflect you, what you are looking for and more importantly what you think you can offer a prospective meet? Does it do so in a positive way that lets your personality shine through a little? Is it backed up by a series of well thought out pics that show off your body and not your cock?

Be brutally honest about it and if the answer to any of those is "no" then you might want to make changes accordingly.

Is also worth considering getting along to organised socials or clubs near you or even getting more active in the forums, which are all great ways of getting to know people and letting them get to know the person beyond the profile

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

"Candy i read your profile and u deleted my arse lol"

So what do you sit on now?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Profile edited thanks for the advice so far

Didn't see it before, but if this is meant to be better, I hate to think what it looked like before.

Poppy"

He's listened to the first few posts here.

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By *ieran2210 OP Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I will have a fix up on the profile tonight & thanks for the replies

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