FabSwingers.com forum: Messages received by women?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello everyone…

I’ve been browsing the site for a bit and I’ve noticed a number of women stating how many messages they receive. One said they had about 250, some have said they mass deleted 100s, and I think I saw someone say they had 500 to either delete or work through!!! I’m not saying this isn’t true, but is this really the kind of numbers you ladies are receiving? If it is, that’s incredible! I had no idea that some of you receive so many messages. No wonder many of you often feel sceptical about single men and get fed up with being bothered so much, or do you?

Made me think about the odd message I send, that’s for sure, and that the two messages I’ve received from women since I joined six weeks ago makes me a very, very lucky chap!!

All the best…X

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

I get about 5 messages a day not 500 not even anywhere close to it

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By *DSM - CUCKOLD - COUPLECouple
over a year ago

manchester

When we joined we had over 100 waiting the morning after. When we upload a new picture we have about 20/30 waiting

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By *hatYorkLadMan
over a year ago

York

"I get about 5 messages a day not 500 not even anywhere close to it "

I'm surprised! I thought yours would be bursting at the seams!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Us clever clogs' make it so we don't get 100's that we can't be arsed to answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cleared my inbox new years day to 0. It is now on 374 unread. And I do try to respond to the deserving ones daily so probably read 10/15 a day. Alongside all the people I regularly hassle by message

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By *hocoholicWoman
over a year ago

The big D

Yeah I get about 5 a day too, really don’t know where ppl get their figures from. I see women complaining about d amount but honestly there’s probably a need for attention if your complaining & actually getting high amounts of messages. It’s simple if u don’t want so many, put on your filters, end of.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Clear my inbox everyday I’ve had 86 new messages today

A lot have been regarding an event I’m organising though and as an organiser I don’t have many filters set

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah I get about 5 a day too, really don’t know where ppl get their figures from. I see women complaining about d amount but honestly there’s probably a need for attention if your complaining & actually getting high amounts of messages. It’s simple if u don’t want so many, put on your filters, end of. "

I don't bother with filters as I like to be able to talk to people who message from forums etc. I don't mind the numbers I'm not really a moaner. I'll just delete it all next yr again

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Filters definitely help

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Like others i use my filters

On age

No newbies

No profiles with no pics

Cuts down alot on mail

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m currently sitting at 255 unread, and I did a mass clearing today. But I am unfiltered and did put up pics today.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

I think for those women who upload a lot of pics and appear in the hot pics then its possible however i dont think its that common.

If you sensibly use the available filters then its more manageable and cuts out much of the dross, particularly the newbies/non verified/no public pic filters.

I dont understand why people dont use them and then whinge about getting too many messages...use your noggins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen new profiles with no pics, verifications and very little in the bio say they have 200-300 messages just 2 hrs after joining the site. Fucking crazy. I'd believe it. If they weren't getting so many they would have time to text me more cause I only get 1 a week if lucky haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters clearly work well ... it's a shame there isn't a filter for the abusive messages some of you ladies receive ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Filters make it easy for women to control message numbers.

Attention seekers wont use filters, keep putting up new pictures and complain about the numbers.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I've seen new profiles with no pics, verifications and very little in the bio say they have 200-300 messages just 2 hrs after joining the site. Fucking crazy. I'd believe it. If they weren't getting so many they would have time to text me more cause I only get 1 a week if lucky haha "

When I first ever joined the site I left about 5 hours later as I was too overwhelmed by the sheer amount and after replying to the first 100 (as I foolishly used to say thanks no thanks to all) I was timed out from sending messages for that day so I didn’t see the point in staying. by the Time I deleted I had 427 and I’d not even taken pics to upload let alone figure out how to do it.

Rejoined about 3 months later after meeting a couple at my local club that advised me about filters and not replying to all etc, and found navigating the site much easier upon my return

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Blimey, I think I will have to wait until the morning when i have more time to reply to your posts!! (and I will)...mind you, at least I'll have a little idea of what some of you ladies have to deal with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the filters a bit too scatter-gun, I mean my "type" doesn't necessarily belong to a specific gender or age group etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to get a lot on my single profile but not in the 100’s lol. It depends on your filters too. We as a couple would get a few every day but since we put some filters on the other day we don’t get any somedays!!

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get about 5 per day from guys wanting to suck my dick

Its always "nice cock" followed by do u want somewhere to cum

This place is mental

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters clearly work well ... it's a shame there isn't a filter for the abusive messages some of you ladies receive ..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get approx 50 a day.. I mass delete the ones that are clearly miles away or couples though.

Maybe I should think about filters..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I get about 5 per day from guys wanting to suck my dick

Its always "nice cock" followed by do u want somewhere to cum

This place is mental"

Yep, I hear what you are saying!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Clear my inbox everyday I’ve had 86 new messages today

A lot have been regarding an event I’m organising though and as an organiser I don’t have many filters set "

Yeah, that makes sense if you are organising events. I hadn't thought of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So far this morning I've got 257 x

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"Clear my inbox everyday I’ve had 86 new messages today

A lot have been regarding an event I’m organising though and as an organiser I don’t have many filters set

Yeah, that makes sense if you are organising events. I hadn't thought of that. "

I organise 3 different events and still don't end up with the hundreds of messages most women allegedly receive. I don't have filters on for that reason too.

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By *inglehotchickWoman
over a year ago

blackpool

I don’t get hundreds a day anymore now I’ve been on here so long. I would say I get between 30-50 on average

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on a average day about 100 (with filters)

if i post a new photo up or looking for a meet 300+ (with filters)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get about 5 messages a day not 500 not even anywhere close to it "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had about 60 messages in my first half an hour on here and that was with no pics or much profile. I think I got up to almost 1000 u read messages before my first bulk delete, luckily things have quietened down a fair bit these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are on a "social" site so surely we all want to be social and send and received msgs, if you dont want them are you in the right place?

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"We are on a "social" site so surely we all want to be social and send and received msgs, if you dont want them are you in the right place?"

O dear! Get your tin hat on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are on a "social" site so surely we all want to be social and send and received msgs, if you dont want them are you in the right place?

O dear! Get your tin hat on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I get about 5 messages a day not 500 not even anywhere close to it "

Same here, unless I change location. Have filters set, or maybe I am just incredibly unpopular!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are on a "social" site so surely we all want to be social and send and received msgs, if you dont want them are you in the right place?"

exactly people use this to how they want.

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I have a few filters on. I probably get 5-10 a day, triple that if I've been on cam in the chat room for a while. I remember when I first joined a loooong time ago replying to messages in that first week was like a full time job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've used filters. Days where I'm active and posting updates pictures or on here I get more messages.

It can be a bit overwhelming at times.

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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"I get about 5 messages a day not 500 not even anywhere close to it

Same here, unless I change location. Have filters set, or maybe I am just incredibly unpopular! "

Site suporters filter.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When we joined we had over 100 waiting the morning after. When we upload a new picture we have about 20/30 waiting "

Have to say, I'm occasionally of guilty of sending a quick message, not to ask for meets, but just to be friendly, and say how much i like particular photos, and have a nice day! Makes me think now how bothersome this may be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So far this morning I've got 257 x "

....Christ!!...that does make me wonder how to send a message that will come across A) meaningful, B) genuine, and C) how to get noticed!!!...also makes me think that many might feel like this, and realise it IS a numbers game, and just keep hammering away sending messages and hope for the best!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are on a "social" site so surely we all want to be social and send and received msgs, if you dont want them are you in the right place?"

From what I've read, and browsed, i don't really get the impression that many people are complaining as such, it's just about accepting how it is with this site and dealing with the amount of attention received, especially women, appropriately...'filters' seem to be the key!!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I average about 10 a day max and most end up being ignored as they don’t match my preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When we joined we had over 100 waiting the morning after. When we upload a new picture we have about 20/30 waiting

I quite like those. Sometimes it's just some guy trying it on, but a genuine greeting and compliment is always nice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get that many messages but getting my first online T profile in 2000 made me realise the crap women have to put up with 24/7 from men. it made me ashamed to share a chromosome with some of them and that is why I am an unashamed feminist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get that many messages but getting my first online T profile in 2000 made me realise the crap women have to put up with 24/7 from men. it made me ashamed to share a chromosome with some of them and that is why I am an unashamed feminist."

Same. That and going out has been a real eye-opener.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had 1 message when i logged in this morning and that was from a guy i was chatting with last night. I dont get many messages at all but i do havd my filters set but i do reply to them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can imagine that it happens. When I rejoined on my current profile I got 600 views within the first six hours with no pictures or verifications or anything. The messages I got in that time would frighten any actual newbie off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Filters make it easy for women to control message numbers.

Attention seekers wont use filters, keep putting up new pictures and complain about the numbers."

This

Or to brag about the volume of messages

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

With filters for couples and lady’s I got 2 messages today and I uploaded a photo this morning

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By *mallcock43Man
over a year ago

blackpool

I rarely get any lol I do get quiet excited when I do lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have to say, I'm occasionally of guilty of sending a quick message, not to ask for meets, but just to be friendly, and say how much i like particular photos, and have a nice day! Makes me think now how bothersome this may be.

I quite like those. Sometimes it's just some guy trying it on, but a genuine greeting and compliment is always nice x"

Yes, that's my line of thought when i send my complementary messages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hello everyone…

Made me think about the odd message I send, that’s for sure, and that the two messages I’ve received from women since I joined six weeks ago makes me a very, very lucky chap!!

All the best…X

I get nowhere near that amount,never have. I don't know how they cope!

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By *oblovesyouMan
over a year ago

poole

2 from women in 6 wks?!? Flash bastard!!

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

Depends on the day, where I am, if I've posted a new pic, updated my status or forget to log out.

Average day, 50 messages (not counting friends I already chat with.)

If I go out of my local area, it can easily double.. I now switch off location option, when visiting friends/family to avoid that.

New pics & status has effect too.

If I forget to log out at night, which I often do, I can wake to a couple of dozen messages from late night FAFers

I've set my filters, age, newbies, none verified, no public pics.

Short of blocking everyone, not much more I can do.

It can be annoying at times, mainly the ones that have obviously not read my profile, or the ones that have zero profile themselves. Just a waste of both our times

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hello everyone…

Made me think about the odd message I send, that’s for sure, and that the two messages I’ve received from women since I joined six weeks ago makes me a very, very lucky chap!!

I get nowhere near that amount,never have. I don't know how they cope!"

From what I've read so far, and chat elsewhere, some do experience this kind of number. Maybe high numbers reflect regional membership density?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 from women in 6 wks?!? Flash bastard!!

Ha ha!! I think they were desperate! Both were late night messages and of the 'right now' variety!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends on the day, where I am, if I've posted a new pic, updated my status or forget to log out.

Average day, 50 messages (not counting friends I already chat with.)

If I go out of my local area, it can easily double.. I now switch off location option, when visiting friends/family to avoid that.

New pics & status has effect too.

If I forget to log out at night, which I often do, I can wake to a couple of dozen messages from late night FAFers

I've set my filters, age, newbies, none verified, no public pics.

Short of blocking everyone, not much more I can do.

It can be annoying at times, mainly the ones that have obviously not read my profile, or the ones that have zero profile themselves. Just a waste of both our times

Yes, i posted elsewhere just now that it might have something to do with regions. And yeah, i can see that it must be annoying at times. Still, nice to be popular everywhere!!

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By *oblovesyouMan
over a year ago

poole

"2 from women in 6 wks?!? Flash bastard!!

Ha ha!! I think they were desperate! Both were late night messages and of the 'right now' variety!!

Flash & nonchalant!? Dude, you got it all going on! haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Flash & nonchalant!? Dude, you got it all going on! haha

Ha ha !!!!...I'll put that on my CV

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By *s ParisWoman
over a year ago

My Dungeon Room

I'm lucky if I get 5 messages a month on here but do understand a lot of people are inundated I don't know how they cope. I do have filters on plus strict age filters on so that stops most of the messages I get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just on here to have mail to open

Trust me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would fall of the chair if I got one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A normal day it’s about 50, when I put a meet up it was in excess of 500, if I change my status about 100. I don’t moan about the amount of message just the lack of quality messages. Filters are useless to me I’m happy to receive messages from men, newbies, unverified and those outside my age range, but I do wish I could filter out by location, whether they can accommodate, body type etc

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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago

the gym and random places

"A normal day it’s about 50, when I put a meet up it was in excess of 500, if I change my status about 100. I don’t moan about the amount of message just the lack of quality messages. Filters are useless to me I’m happy to receive messages from men, newbies, unverified and those outside my age range, but I do wish I could filter out by location, whether they can accommodate, body type etc"

I wish I could filter height or have different filters for different messages

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Even when I had my filters off I only got a mere handful of messages from new contacts each day. I went through them once a week and there were just over a hundred on average. Maybe some women are just more tantalising than others to get hundreds a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a woman it’s rare to receive an initial message from another female. They’re my favourite kind but rare as rocking horse shit.

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

When I had my single woman profile I'd get maybe a handful a day and always replied to all. I had lots of on going friendships and regular meets.

As a couple we find it helps to be VERY clear in our profile... We still receive 3 or 4 a day plus those from existing friends.

We don't use filters, never had need to and we always reply to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely don't bother messaging girls out the blue as I know they're getting thousands of messages. I just go with the flow and see what happens.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would fall of the chair if I got one lol

Yep, I'm with you on that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Maybe some women are just more tantalising than others to get hundreds a day."

I'm not really convinced that's the case. All women have a tantalising element!! As some have said earlier, it might be down to regional aspects and the number of members in those areas...

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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

I haven't had one today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been off fab for a month and had 135 messages .in the passed I have had more especially when get page 1 hot pics .Few times top of page 1 and then it doubles .

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