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Does it put people off too though?. I know I (mr) might be more inclined to answer back in a thread with someone who says something I think is bad. That might give a bad impression, I don't know?
One advantage we have got is only a tiny percentage if fab come here, so lots of misdemeanors go unoticed... | |||
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 but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense | |||
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense"I notice you all the time. Look at your profile everyday and you are on my hotlist x | |||
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Yes, I realise that by adopting the above approach and interacting almost exclusively with forumites I may be limiting my opportunities but as my time and opportunities are limited by my circumstances that works just right for me | |||
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"Op. You once said my profile is basic in a thread. I've been told my presence on the forum could put people off. There's little I can do about people's views of me if posts and my profile is all they will read. And I've heard lots of views about me that are way off track. If they're not wanting to interact, what can you do? Pester them? Men already currently have a sharp big brother eye looking at our behaviour. I honestly believe I have no need to pm a woman. She has much more choice in line before that make from me. That is just my opinion. How many times do I read that women are inundated? My mail will be in a pile of unread. That's what I imagine. " So how do you expect to get what you are looking for if you don't contact someone because of your assumption it will go unread? | |||
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense"If your a woman......I've probably noticed you. | |||
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"I've only met one guy through chatting via the forums I mostly get ignored on forum threads but I just take it with a pinch of salt ,most of the time" How can you be ignored with such a spankable arse  | |||
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense
I notice you all the time. Look at your profile everyday and you are on my hotlist x"So why dont you mail her?! | |||
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"I've found my fab forum celebrity status does intimidate the ladies. They all obviously want to contact me but are too shy/feel unworthy. Like a moth flying to close to my flame. Is what I choose to believe. "You don’t intimidate me | |||
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"Personally I'm just here nowadays to chat bollocks and talk on these threads . Occasionally I click with someone ( as I have lately I hope ?) . But as for you posting lots of threads Rubi I say keep it up . Your threads are always amongst the most interesting and diverse "Thank you. Still doesnt make people mail me  | |||
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"I've found my fab forum celebrity status does intimidate the ladies. They all obviously want to contact me but are too shy/feel unworthy. Like a moth flying to close to my flame. Is what I choose to believe. "Sorry. I just cant face the rejection  | |||
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"I've only met one guy through chatting via the forums I mostly get ignored on forum threads but I just take it with a pinch of salt ,most of the time" Could never ignore you!  | |||
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"I've found my fab forum celebrity status does intimidate the ladies. They all obviously want to contact me but are too shy/feel unworthy. Like a moth flying to close to my flame. Is what I choose to believe.
Sorry. I just cant face the rejection "It’s being worried I’ll get turned into a human lampshade that worries me about messaging Funky | |||
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense
I notice you all the time. Look at your profile everyday and you are on my hotlist
So why dont you mail her?!" I can't I'm outside her age range | |||
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"I see the forums and the rest of Fab as almost two separate sites. The forums are there when I’m at home and I just want something quick and easy to read. It’s the men who don’t use the forums that I am more likely to meet and chat to privately. I just don’t see the men who use the forums in any sexual way at all." I can see this too. Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. I guess with non forumites its more about finding a common ground so its more of a challenge maybe? You havent seen them around so have to actively find out more? | |||
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense
I notice you all the time. Look at your profile everyday and you are on my hotlist
So why dont you mail her?! I can't I'm outside her age range"Yep that’s the main reason I stopped messaging too. I’m out of the age range of most of the women I really fancy. Thankfully a few take pity on me and message me first | |||
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"I've found my fab forum celebrity status does intimidate the ladies. They all obviously want to contact me but are too shy/feel unworthy. Like a moth flying to close to my flame. Is what I choose to believe.
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"I've found my fab forum celebrity status does intimidate the ladies. They all obviously want to contact me but are too shy/feel unworthy. Like a moth flying to close to my flame. Is what I choose to believe.
Sorry. I just cant face the rejection "It's OK my sweet. That's normal. x | |||
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"I've found my fab forum celebrity status does intimidate the ladies. They all obviously want to contact me but are too shy/feel unworthy. Like a moth flying to close to my flame. Is what I choose to believe.
Sorry. I just cant face the rejection
It’s being worried I’ll get turned into a human lampshade that worries me about messaging Funky "Bro I would never convert you into a lampshade!!! 
Well, not until you start moisturising your botty like I have requested countless times now! | |||
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense
If your a woman......I've probably noticed you. "oh I'm a woman....Ive just checked | |||
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"Personally I'm just here nowadays to chat bollocks and talk on these threads . Occasionally I click with someone ( as I have lately I hope ?) . But as for you posting lots of threads Rubi I say keep it up . Your threads are always amongst the most interesting and diverse
Thank you. Still doesnt make people mail me "I think guys assume you get a thousand messages a day so don't bother because they don't think they stand a chance  | |||
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense
I notice you all the time. Look at your profile everyday and you are on my hotlist
So why dont you mail her?! I can't I'm outside her age range"my filters used to be off.I'll open them again for a while  | |||
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"I'm still not sold on this single woman's mail box being inundated.... I host socials and parties and on average get around 5 messages a day. I post on the forums so occasionally get the odd message from someone who wishes to comment privately but that's it. ...... " Interesting | |||
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"I've found my fab forum celebrity status does intimidate the ladies. They all obviously want to contact me but are too shy/feel unworthy. Like a moth flying to close to my flame. Is what I choose to believe.
Sorry. I just cant face the rejection
It’s being worried I’ll get turned into a human lampshade that worries me about messaging Funky
Bro I would never convert you into a lampshade!!!
Well, not until you start moisturising your botty like I have requested countless times now!"*hides moisturiser used to massage his saggy arse* Phew that’s ok then Bro | |||
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense
I notice you all the time. Look at your profile everyday and you are on my hotlist
So why dont you mail her?! I can't I'm outside her age rangemy filters used to be off.I'll open them again for a while "That's made my day | |||
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"Personally I'm just here nowadays to chat bollocks and talk on these threads . Occasionally I click with someone ( as I have lately I hope ?) . But as for you posting lots of threads Rubi I say keep it up . Your threads are always amongst the most interesting and diverse
Thank you. Still doesnt make people mail me I think guys assume you get a thousand messages a day so don't bother because they don't think they stand a chance "Exactly! Whilst I'm sat home alone weeping | |||
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I believe that the forums are a light hearted place for initial interactions. Some people believe all the hype of being a hottie and popular but it's how you interact outside of the forums that gets you the desired meets you want. For me the forums represent a fairy tale, bit of nonsense and not real. | |||
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"I think if you use the forums for your only supply of interaction and meets then the persona you display on threads are what people perceive, they have nothing else to go on. I'm a stand offish stuck up cow as I don't flirt. I believe that the forums are a light hearted place for initial interactions. Some people believe all the hype of being a hottie and popular but it's how you interact outside of the forums that gets you the desired meets you want. For me the forums represent a fairy tale, bit of nonsense and not real. "Your hot. Are you real? | |||
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"I think if you use the forums for your only supply of interaction and meets then the persona you display on threads are what people perceive, they have nothing else to go on. I'm a stand offish stuck up cow as I don't flirt. I believe that the forums are a light hearted place for initial interactions. Some people believe all the hype of being a hottie and popular but it's how you interact outside of the forums that gets you the desired meets you want. For me the forums represent a fairy tale, bit of nonsense and not real.
Your hot. Are you real? "Last time I touched myself. | |||
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"I see the forums and the rest of Fab as almost two separate sites. The forums are there when I’m at home and I just want something quick and easy to read. It’s the men who don’t use the forums that I am more likely to meet and chat to privately. I just don’t see the men who use the forums in any sexual way at all. I can see this too. Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. " MsV will quickly say, you see them you are interested in flirting with others (I hope she doesn't mind me mentioning her) it's then, that doubt sets in if they were ever interested in you, or, your now down the pecking order. It's a swinging site, I'd like to meet all of my friends or those I like eventually, but I'm not competing like it's a competition or a race into someone's knickers. My interest only wanes occasionally, but my friends list speaks volumes. | |||
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"I think if you use the forums for your only supply of interaction and meets then the persona you display on threads are what people perceive, they have nothing else to go on. I'm a stand offish stuck up cow as I don't flirt. I believe that the forums are a light hearted place for initial interactions. Some people believe all the hype of being a hottie and popular but it's how you interact outside of the forums that gets you the desired meets you want. For me the forums represent a fairy tale, bit of nonsense and not real. "Whilst I'd agree with most of that to an extent and there are certainly some forum users who believe the hype or take stupid things like the hot or not threads far too seriously, they can also be a good conduit to moving to that off forum interaction you mention and as you say it's there that real perceptions are formed - although the forums themselves remain a great initial filter | |||
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"I hardly ever search for people and never look at who has looked at me. Any communications I have are predominantly a result of ladies making the first move, (fabs, winks or messages) although I have messaged first as a result of the forums. I generate little interest generally and none locally, but that works for me. I do wish I was a little bit bolder and made the first move more often. I do wonder though if I am secretly on hotlists somewhere, with the ladies waiting for me to make the first move. I doubt it, but I can dream!" Can I copy and paste this for me? | |||
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"I see the forums and the rest of Fab as almost two separate sites. The forums are there when I’m at home and I just want something quick and easy to read. It’s the men who don’t use the forums that I am more likely to meet and chat to privately. I just don’t see the men who use the forums in any sexual way at all. I can see this too. Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. I guess with non forumites its more about finding a common ground so its more of a challenge maybe? You havent seen them around so have to actively find out more?" I think you’re right about non-forumites being more of a challenge. I find them more interesting too. Most on the forums are nice, but nice is boring. | |||
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" MsV will quickly say, you see them you are interested in flirting with others (I hope she doesn't mind me mentioning her) it's then, that doubt sets in if they were ever interested in you, or, your now down the pecking order. It's a swinging site, I'd like to meet all of my friends or those I like eventually, but I'm not competing like it's a competition or a race into someone's knickers. My interest only wanes occasionally, but my friends list speaks volumes. " Yeah I get this. It recently happened to me where someone I was talking to and interested in I withdrew from because of watching them flirt and interact with someone else on the forums who I couldn't compete with as such, their connection is much stronger and better suited than I would have with him. | |||
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"I see the forums and the rest of Fab as almost two separate sites. The forums are there when I’m at home and I just want something quick and easy to read. It’s the men who don’t use the forums that I am more likely to meet and chat to privately. I just don’t see the men who use the forums in any sexual way at all. I can see this too. Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. I guess with non forumites its more about finding a common ground so its more of a challenge maybe? You havent seen them around so have to actively find out more? I think you’re right about non-forumites being more of a challenge. I find them more interesting too. Most on the forums are nice, but nice is boring. " We all like a bad boy | |||
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"I hardly ever search for people and never look at who has looked at me. Any communications I have are predominantly a result of ladies making the first move, (fabs, winks or messages) although I have messaged first as a result of the forums. I generate little interest generally and none locally, but that works for me. I do wish I was a little bit bolder and made the first move more often. I do wonder though if I am secretly on hotlists somewhere, with the ladies waiting for me to make the first move. I doubt it, but I can dream!" Well, I'm glad you looked at me this morning! | |||
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"Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. " Isn't that the same regardless of whether it's from the forums or not though and in fact could be applied to life in general? It's always exciting to get to know new people - with some that initial buzz will fizzle out, others it remains and continues and grows - it's just the natural course of things. And when it continues and grows and messages or conversation flows naturally then they're the ones you gravitate towards regardless of where you met | |||
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"I see the forums and the rest of Fab as almost two separate sites. The forums are there when I’m at home and I just want something quick and easy to read. It’s the men who don’t use the forums that I am more likely to meet and chat to privately. I just don’t see the men who use the forums in any sexual way at all. I can see this too. Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. I guess with non forumites its more about finding a common ground so its more of a challenge maybe? You havent seen them around so have to actively find out more? I think you’re right about non-forumites being more of a challenge. I find them more interesting too. Most on the forums are nice, but nice is boring. " Spot on
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"Personally I'm just here nowadays to chat bollocks and talk on these threads . Occasionally I click with someone ( as I have lately I hope ?) . But as for you posting lots of threads Rubi I say keep it up . Your threads are always amongst the most interesting and diverse
Thank you. Still doesnt make people mail me I think guys assume you get a thousand messages a day so don't bother because they don't think they stand a chance
Exactly! Whilst I'm sat home alone weeping "Awwww let me wipe the tears away | |||
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" MsV will quickly say, you see them you are interested in flirting with others (I hope she doesn't mind me mentioning her) it's then, that doubt sets in if they were ever interested in you, or, your now down the pecking order. It's a swinging site, I'd like to meet all of my friends or those I like eventually, but I'm not competing like it's a competition or a race into someone's knickers. My interest only wanes occasionally, but my friends list speaks volumes. Yeah I get this. It recently happened to me where someone I was talking to and interested in I withdrew from because of watching them flirt and interact with someone else on the forums who I couldn't compete with as such, their connection is much stronger and better suited than I would have with him. " Yep. I can relate. I like when I read 'we have a close circle of friends, on some posts. That would be a nice scenario. A group that all get along with the same view if what they want with each other. But, everyone is sensitive about what the other people perceive if they meet a b or c. Swinging is more complicated the more people you want to swing with. Mines 3. | |||
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"I see the forums and the rest of Fab as almost two separate sites. The forums are there when I’m at home and I just want something quick and easy to read. It’s the men who don’t use the forums that I am more likely to meet and chat to privately. I just don’t see the men who use the forums in any sexual way at all. I can see this too. Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. I guess with non forumites its more about finding a common ground so its more of a challenge maybe? You havent seen them around so have to actively find out more? I think you’re right about non-forumites being more of a challenge. I find them more interesting too. Most on the forums are nice, but nice is boring. " I'm a complete asshole | |||
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"Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. Isn't that the same regardless of whether it's from the forums or not though and in fact could be applied to life in general? It's always exciting to get to know new people - with some that initial buzz will fizzle out, others it remains and continues and grows - it's just the natural course of things. And when it continues and grows and messages or conversation flows naturally then they're the ones you gravitate towards regardless of where you met "Yeah definitely, if you're compatible then the conversation will grow. I just meant it often has a starting point of a shared view or interested as highlighted by a forum thread whereas with someone you haven't seen in the forums you still need to find one so it may take more effort which is interesting and can hold attention longer. | |||
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As far as forum popularity goes? It's like a self contained bubble really - the majority of swingers have no idea who is flavour of the month currently and not being it doesn't seem to affect their ability to meet.
Right now, I interact with both types of fabbers probably an equal amount (well one forum user more than others!). As far as opinions of myself go, meh. I post how I want and people can interpret language how they want (even if you clarify intent and incorrect perception they still bloody will...). I imagine most are indifferent to me, as I am to them.
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"I see the forums and the rest of Fab as almost two separate sites. The forums are there when I’m at home and I just want something quick and easy to read. It’s the men who don’t use the forums that I am more likely to meet and chat to privately. I just don’t see the men who use the forums in any sexual way at all. I can see this too. Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. I guess with non forumites its more about finding a common ground so its more of a challenge maybe? You havent seen them around so have to actively find out more? I think you’re right about non-forumites being more of a challenge. I find them more interesting too. Most on the forums are nice, but nice is boring. I'm a complete asshole "That's where the nice guys finish last comes from. | |||
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"Wanders in... Reads thread. Sees all the popular people... Slips out unnoticed..." ....and don't come back!!! ... | |||
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"I see the forums and the rest of Fab as almost two separate sites. The forums are there when I’m at home and I just want something quick and easy to read. It’s the men who don’t use the forums that I am more likely to meet and chat to privately. I just don’t see the men who use the forums in any sexual way at all. I can see this too. Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. I guess with non forumites its more about finding a common ground so its more of a challenge maybe? You havent seen them around so have to actively find out more? I think you’re right about non-forumites being more of a challenge. I find them more interesting too. Most on the forums are nice, but nice is boring. I'm a complete asshole "And there was me thinking you were more of a cock | |||
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"i dont post in the forums much .. and just last night and before that ive had people say to me no point in me trying as im punching ...... i dont get it as that persin does not know my type at all ... he or she cud be what im looking for .... strange .... "Thats kinda how this train of thought started. Someone was questioning if/why I liked them, they assumed I had my pick of suitors. Even if I did have a queue out the door I questioned why that would matter, I still choose who I intetact with and in what way. | |||
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"I mostly get ignored on the forum here. It's a tad annoying but that's life. Most likely because I'm married but cheating or maybe I just annoy people, I've no idea. I have started talking to a few people because of being on the forum. Possibility of meeting is slim as they are a million miles away But I do like to talk to interesting people. " Yep I do too haha and I’m not married. Just think most of them are too wrapped up in themselves. Not all as I’ve met a lot of great people from the forums. Just keep having fun how you want to. The forums are just a tiny part of fab | |||
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"does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on? Yes I get compliments on here but so do most people, I am a frequent poster so i interact with people, does that make it seem like my inbox is overflowing with suitors therefore there's no point in trying? Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? " Being on the forums has only hindered me when gossip and rumours were being spread around about me (which also links in to hearing opinions of me I don't agree with). The worst thing was not knowing if the people chatting with me on here or in private were a part of it or not. But on a more positive note, I've come back from a self imposed break with a more relaxed attitude and not so determined to try and please everyone (not in that way you filthy minded lot!)
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"So many questions! I thought my stream of consciousness was chaotic at times.
As far as forum popularity goes? It's like a self contained bubble really - the majority of swingers have no idea who is flavour of the month currently and not being it doesn't seem to affect their ability to meet.
Right now, I interact with both types of fabbers probably an equal amount (well one forum user more than others!). As far as opinions of myself go, meh. I post how I want and people can interpret language how they want (even if you clarify intent and incorrect perception they still bloody will...). I imagine most are indifferent to me, as I am to them.
It is easier for me to go off forum users though. "One question always leads to another
Oh yeah! I hadn't really thought of that fact that I judge too. There are a few people have put me off by things they have said on here! | |||
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"I see the forums and the rest of Fab as almost two separate sites. The forums are there when I’m at home and I just want something quick and easy to read. It’s the men who don’t use the forums that I am more likely to meet and chat to privately. I just don’t see the men who use the forums in any sexual way at all. I can see this too. Out of the people i speak to from the forums most have been exciting at first, most conversations have started because of a thread but after a while the conversation fades and interest wanes. I guess with non forumites its more about finding a common ground so its more of a challenge maybe? You havent seen them around so have to actively find out more? I think you’re right about non-forumites being more of a challenge. I find them more interesting too. Most on the forums are nice, but nice is boring. I'm a complete asshole
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense
I notice you all the time. Look at your profile everyday and you are on my hotlist x
So why dont you mail her?!"I do mail her | |||
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Probably does influence people's image of me - does that bother me? Not one bit.
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"does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on? Yes I get compliments on here but so do most people, I am a frequent poster so i interact with people, does that make it seem like my inbox is overflowing with suitors therefore there's no point in trying? Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? Being on the forums has only hindered me when gossip and rumours were being spread around about me (which also links in to hearing opinions of me I don't agree with). The worst thing was not knowing if the people chatting with me on here or in private were a part of it or not. But on a more positive note, I've come back from a self imposed break with a more relaxed attitude and not so determined to try and please everyone (not in that way you filthy minded lot!)
I would say that it's a 50/50 split between forum folk and those not on them though. And my in box has never been close to inundated! "I love the gossip.
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"does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on? Yes I get compliments on here but so do most people, I am a frequent poster so i interact with people, does that make it seem like my inbox is overflowing with suitors therefore there's no point in trying? Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? Being on the forums has only hindered me when gossip and rumours were being spread around about me (which also links in to hearing opinions of me I don't agree with). The worst thing was not knowing if the people chatting with me on here or in private were a part of it or not. But on a more positive note, I've come back from a self imposed break with a more relaxed attitude and not so determined to try and please everyone (not in that way you filthy minded lot!)
I would say that it's a 50/50 split between forum folk and those not on them though. And my in box has never been close to inundated! "I always thought your box would be inundated to be honest | |||
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"So many questions! I thought my stream of consciousness was chaotic at times.
As far as forum popularity goes? It's like a self contained bubble really - the majority of swingers have no idea who is flavour of the month currently and not being it doesn't seem to affect their ability to meet.
Right now, I interact with both types of fabbers probably an equal amount (well one forum user more than others!). As far as opinions of myself go, meh. I post how I want and people can interpret language how they want (even if you clarify intent and incorrect perception they still bloody will...). I imagine most are indifferent to me, as I am to them.
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense
I notice you all the time. Look at your profile everyday and you are on my hotlist x
So why dont you mail her?!
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"does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on? Yes I get compliments on here but so do most people, I am a frequent poster so i interact with people, does that make it seem like my inbox is overflowing with suitors therefore there's no point in trying? Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? Being on the forums has only hindered me when gossip and rumours were being spread around about me (which also links in to hearing opinions of me I don't agree with). The worst thing was not knowing if the people chatting with me on here or in private were a part of it or not. But on a more positive note, I've come back from a self imposed break with a more relaxed attitude and not so determined to try and please everyone (not in that way you filthy minded lot!)
I would say that it's a 50/50 split between forum folk and those not on them though. And my in box has never been close to inundated!
I love the gossip.
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"We get a few messages from forumites but it is very rare. It's mainly just from people local to us. Most of my comments on forums get ignored and often get no response. Sometimes they do. It doesn't bother me either way. Although I find when people message they are far more likely to respond to us than someone who has just posted in forums. Forums are mainly a form of entertainment for me. Nothing I take to heart or get upset about even when my comments are ignored.
Probably does influence people's image of me - does that bother me? Not one bit.
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"does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on? Yes I get compliments on here but so do most people, I am a frequent poster so i interact with people, does that make it seem like my inbox is overflowing with suitors therefore there's no point in trying? Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? Being on the forums has only hindered me when gossip and rumours were being spread around about me (which also links in to hearing opinions of me I don't agree with). The worst thing was not knowing if the people chatting with me on here or in private were a part of it or not. But on a more positive note, I've come back from a self imposed break with a more relaxed attitude and not so determined to try and please everyone (not in that way you filthy minded lot!)
I would say that it's a 50/50 split between forum folk and those not on them though. And my in box has never been close to inundated!
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"Wanders in... Reads thread. Sees all the popular people... Slips out unnoticed... Thats my point!! Who decides who is popular?!? Someone chatty who starts threads too much like me can look popular but actually im making the effort to interact and engage, thats why people are responding!!" No one decides - people have opinions. If their opinion of you is formed by you on the forum, would you want to try and change it? I've given up trying to do that, some people are swayed and that's up to them. I can only show the real me to those who interact with personally and away from a public thread. It's a good question you've brought up op. | |||
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I'm happy to have a social with almost anyone
Think i had 3 real offers larst year and thay wos the STP
And looking forward to the next 1 ill add
Not counting guys that want to suk me off as I'm 100% straight so that is never going to happen.
I wood be very happy if people that wanted to meet me messaged me as everyone i have messaged has .... "Politely" ... sed no....
So I don't bother sending 1st messages thes days i just enjoy the chat on the forum and hope sumone will like me enough to want to meet me.
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"Wanders in... Reads thread. Sees all the popular people... Slips out unnoticed... ....and don't come back!!! ... "I'll get my coat on the way out
If I get any mail can you redirect it
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"The thing is, aside from those who you haven't met in person and suchlike, no one truly knows who is behind the profile. Even after a social people don't know you. You can let people know as much or little as you decide. You can be whatever you want. People will form an opinion on you regardless. They will say things, the ones in their little cliques of 'I don't like them so you can't either' seem to have plenty to say. I find the behaviour on here funny and often predictable. But still, I enjoy the forums, I enjoy chatting to people away from them too. I've made friends, I've made enemies. I'm sure as hell not going to be changing the way I interact. Fancy those cocktails soon OP? " That's another good point too, watching how people interact with others can influence opinions. And yes I do! | |||
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"Interesting a couple here talking about forumers being nice guys and as such boring. 2 things about this. You have no clue whether anyone is boring or not till you have met them. Nor do you know if they are really nice or not anyway. Links into what I said earlier about perceptions. I consider myself a nice guy and a gentleman. I am also no angel and I don't fuck like one. Seek out cunts and you will eventually find a real one. A certain returning fabbers posts are a bang on example of this. " I agree with this. I know my forum persona is not the me that most people would recognise and don’t expect others to be either. I’m not sure it’s even very representative of my personality in general. On occasion the real me comes out but most of the time I’m just fart arsing around on here. Forming an opinion on me based on my farting about is strange but I’ve no doubt that’s what happens. Those who have got to know the real me don’t talk to me anymore | |||
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"I do find it strange when some people on this thread have said they get ignored on the forums when on another thread they are constantly saying thanks to people sending them compliments on that thread. So, they aren’t being ignored
That's interesting to me too. I think it depends on the thread a lot of the time? "True, but we ALL get ignored at times on here and I would think it strange if we weren’t. Stating on here that they get ignored on the forums as though that happens all the time is blatantly not true and I don’t understand why they’d put it. | |||
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"Way back in 2016 when I was on here before. Mr contacted me and I did my standard reply until I saw him in the forums, seeing him interact made me want to meet him and as they say the rest is history. So I think the forum is a great tool for getting to know others. And yes we’re open to offers especially from pretty bi ladies "Haha the same person behind the comments about me being popular also told me we had messaged a few times a while ago. I had to admit I couldn't remember it. I mustve needed to see them in another light to have them stand out for me | |||
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"I like the forums for a chuckle and to pass the time. Posting gets me a lot of views and a few fabs and messages, but I tend to see the forums as a separate thing to looking for meets here. Maybe I'm wrong but a lot of posters here seem like long-time experienced fabbers, which can be a bit intimidating." Yeah that's part of the issue I think. Some people can seem intimidating who really are lovely. | |||
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"I do find it strange when some people on this thread have said they get ignored on the forums when on another thread they are constantly saying thanks to people sending them compliments on that thread. So, they aren’t being ignored
That's interesting to me too. I think it depends on the thread a lot of the time?
True, but we ALL get ignored at times on here and I would think it strange if we weren’t.
Stating on here that they get ignored on the forums as though that happens all the time is blatantly not true and I don’t understand why they’d put it."I think it's just a bit of a rant at not getting what they consider to be due attention maybe? I don't know really as I post regardless of whether I get a response or not | |||
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"Sorry for the influx of threads from me! So earlier i asked what youre looking for and it seems most people haven't found what they want. I was talking to someone who said to me something along the lines of "but you're popular so why would you look at me" and it got me thinking does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on? Yes I get compliments on here but so do most people, I am a frequent poster so i interact with people, does that make it seem like my inbox is overflowing with suitors therefore there's no point in trying? Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? " Couldn't you have split that op down into seperate posts? I can't be bothered to try and answer all of them in one post you see.. | |||
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"Sorry for the influx of threads from me! So earlier i asked what youre looking for and it seems most people haven't found what they want. I was talking to someone who said to me something along the lines of "but you're popular so why would you look at me" and it got me thinking does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on? Yes I get compliments on here but so do most people, I am a frequent poster so i interact with people, does that make it seem like my inbox is overflowing with suitors therefore there's no point in trying? Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? Couldn't you have split that op down into seperate posts? I can't be bothered to try and answer all of them in one post you see.." Are you judging me based on my posting style?! I like to ask a few questions at once as it leaves it open for people to discuss the points they connect with. I can't be arsed reading your reply anyway | |||
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"So, I'm open to offers. What have you got? "Pancakes maple syrup and bacon | |||
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"So, I'm open to offers. What have you got? "A half eaten packet of pork scratchings and a hairy bollock | |||
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"So, I'm open to offers. What have you got?
A half eaten packet of pork scratchings and a hairy bollock"Sexual as fuck | |||
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A half eaten packet of pork scratchings and a hairy bollock
Sexual as fuck "See what I say - I do my best to put people off and some feckers still show an interest | |||
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"I'm not consistent when it comes to my posting habits in the forums, some days I'll give my 2 cents on every thread, some days I don't even look. However the majority of people I actually chat to are other forumites. I think I come across almost exactly as I am except that people expect me to be confident, I'm not. I'm still seeking what I want and am totally open to offers!
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense
I notice you all the time. Look at your profile everyday and you are on my hotlist x
So why dont you mail her?!
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A half eaten packet of pork scratchings and a hairy bollock"Just the one | |||
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"So, I'm open to offers. What have you got?
A half eaten packet of pork scratchings and a hairy bollock
Sexual as fuck
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"people dont notice me on forums so doesn't bother me but I can see how the popular ladies would get so many messages that they might miss someone they would normally meet....if that makes sense
I notice you all the time. Look at your profile everyday and you are on my hotlist x
So why dont you mail her?!
I do mail her um sorry but you dont mail me so not sure why you said you do
My mistake but after looking at your profile now started "I'm looking for someone who's attentive
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"Sorry for the influx of threads from me! So earlier i asked what youre looking for and it seems most people haven't found what they want. I was talking to someone who said to me something along the lines of "but you're popular so why would you look at me" and it got me thinking does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on? Yes I get compliments on here but so do most people, I am a frequent poster so i interact with people, does that make it seem like my inbox is overflowing with suitors therefore there's no point in trying? Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? Bookmarking. Back in a bit for proper answer. But initial answer, people assume the most incredibly wrong things about me on the forum. It’s wild. " I enjoy the forum as it allows me to be a free child and express myself. There are various discussions and some on repeat, and I enjoy the immediate canvassing of opinion, reaction, response from a range of people that I’d not access as quickly or efficiently otherwise. I like the ability to turn away too and pick the forum up/put it down at my convenience for as long/short a time as I want. Getting immediate group gratification takes planning otherwise and other online fora may not be suitable for more sex based spouting, flirting, attention seeking, moral boosting nor allow me the ability to be those things and to pontificate or muse about other topics. The forum cheered me on for interviews last year when I wanted to change up my job, the forum were there when I got my job to congratulate. As a collective voice made up of individuals who I may or not directly interact with, who I may or not meet in real life for socials or for play or for love or whatever the fuck, the forum collective is an answer (even if sometimes wildly politically galling answer) in the abyss of sometimes feeling lonely. Don’t get me wrong real life is real life. But forum life is real to me too, even if a comedy parody at times. I have some dear friends on here. I have met up with some wonderful people. I have had my heart stirred. I have orgasmed a lot. Like a lot. I meet from the forums and from the rest of the site too. The latter first. But it’s the person I meet not what aspect of the site they use. The forum allows a speedier analysis. I caveat that the analysis may not always be accurate though. People build a story about you that’s actually about them. It’s never about you. It’s what you represent for them and sometimes it aligns happily but sometimes it is wholly off kilter. I really rate asking people. Tell them your thoughts but express it in a way that is not a fair accomplis. If someone intimidates you, tell them how you’re responding but be open to it being something other, give them and you the respect and compassion to find the authenticity of why that’s the case and the potential to both choose differently. Or don’t. But then don’t moan.
I’m just me. I’m a show off who is shy. I’m a flirt who has no grace. I’m sex crazed yet chaste. I’m resilient yet fragile. I’m kind and caring yet Machiavellian and evil. I’m just doing the best I can at any one time. Pretty much the same as you. And you. And even you, although you have to be contrary. | |||
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"So, I'm open to offers. What have you got?
A half eaten packet of pork scratchings and a hairy bollock
Sexual as fuck
See what I say - I do my best to put people off and some feckers still show an interest
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"So, I'm open to offers. What have you got?
A half eaten packet of pork scratchings and a hairy bollock
Sexual as fuck
See what I say - I do my best to put people off and some feckers still show an interest
Can you give oral like a pig hunting for truffles too? "I want oral like a pig who's FOUND a truffle!! | |||
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"So, I'm open to offers. What have you got?
A half eaten packet of pork scratchings and a hairy bollock
Sexual as fuck
See what I say - I do my best to put people off and some feckers still show an interest
Can you give oral like a pig hunting for truffles too?
I want oral like a pig who's FOUND a truffle!! "Oink?! | |||
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A half eaten packet of pork scratchings and a hairy bollock
Sexual as fuck
See what I say - I do my best to put people off and some feckers still show an interest
Can you give oral like a pig hunting for truffles too?
I want oral like a pig who's FOUND a truffle!!
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"We get a few messages from forumites but it is very rare. It's mainly just from people local to us. Most of my comments on forums get ignored and often get no response. Sometimes they do. It doesn't bother me either way. Although I find when people message they are far more likely to respond to us than someone who has just posted in forums. Forums are mainly a form of entertainment for me. Nothing I take to heart or get upset about even when my comments are ignored.
Probably does influence people's image of me - does that bother me? Not one bit.
~Mia
Can i ask why you feel ignored? Sorry im going off on a tangent here but is it because youre not responded to personally?
For me anyway if i start a thread i read all the replies. Im genuinely interested in the answers, thats why ive asked.
But whether i respond to each one individually depends on the question. Like this one, i havent responded to everyone, ive responded to those i think i can add something to or want to know more about. It doesnt mean i haven't read or appreciated the other replies. "Hmm. Quite often I will post on a forum that's like hot or not stuff like that and you reply to the person above and like 9/10 times people either don't notice my comment or skip it completely and reply to someone else. There are a rare occasion where someone does reply. I don't take it personally if someone doesn't reply to all comments as I don't expect them to. But often in forums no one replies to my comments, that's what makes me feel like I'm ignored. And sometimes I'll see small threads and join in and still be ignored - even when they have been replying to everyone else or there is supposed to be a reply -i.e. the hot or not threads. It doesn't bother me just something I've noticed. ~Mia | |||
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A half eaten packet of pork scratchings and a hairy bollock
Sexual as fuck
See what I say - I do my best to put people off and some feckers still show an interest
Can you give oral like a pig hunting for truffles too?
I want oral like a pig who's FOUND a truffle!!
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"We get a few messages from forumites but it is very rare. It's mainly just from people local to us. Most of my comments on forums get ignored and often get no response. Sometimes they do. It doesn't bother me either way. Although I find when people message they are far more likely to respond to us than someone who has just posted in forums. Forums are mainly a form of entertainment for me. Nothing I take to heart or get upset about even when my comments are ignored.
Probably does influence people's image of me - does that bother me? Not one bit.
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Can i ask why you feel ignored? Sorry im going off on a tangent here but is it because youre not responded to personally?
For me anyway if i start a thread i read all the replies. Im genuinely interested in the answers, thats why ive asked.
But whether i respond to each one individually depends on the question. Like this one, i havent responded to everyone, ive responded to those i think i can add something to or want to know more about. It doesnt mean i haven't read or appreciated the other replies.
Hmm. Quite often I will post on a forum that's like hot or not stuff like that and you reply to the person above and like 9/10 times people either don't notice my comment or skip it completely and reply to someone else. There are a rare occasion where someone does reply.
I don't take it personally if someone doesn't reply to all comments as I don't expect them to.
But often in forums no one replies to my comments, that's what makes me feel like I'm ignored.
And sometimes I'll see small threads and join in and still be ignored - even when they have been replying to everyone else or there is supposed to be a reply -i.e. the hot or not threads.
It doesn't bother me just something I've noticed.
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"We get a few messages from forumites but it is very rare. It's mainly just from people local to us. Most of my comments on forums get ignored and often get no response. Sometimes they do. It doesn't bother me either way. Although I find when people message they are far more likely to respond to us than someone who has just posted in forums. Forums are mainly a form of entertainment for me. Nothing I take to heart or get upset about even when my comments are ignored.
Probably does influence people's image of me - does that bother me? Not one bit.
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Can i ask why you feel ignored? Sorry im going off on a tangent here but is it because youre not responded to personally?
For me anyway if i start a thread i read all the replies. Im genuinely interested in the answers, thats why ive asked.
But whether i respond to each one individually depends on the question. Like this one, i havent responded to everyone, ive responded to those i think i can add something to or want to know more about. It doesnt mean i haven't read or appreciated the other replies.
Hmm. Quite often I will post on a forum that's like hot or not stuff like that and you reply to the person above and like 9/10 times people either don't notice my comment or skip it completely and reply to someone else. There are a rare occasion where someone does reply.
I don't take it personally if someone doesn't reply to all comments as I don't expect them to.
But often in forums no one replies to my comments, that's what makes me feel like I'm ignored.
And sometimes I'll see small threads and join in and still be ignored - even when they have been replying to everyone else or there is supposed to be a reply -i.e. the hot or not threads.
It doesn't bother me just something I've noticed.
~Mia"Yes we feel the same sometimes, with the hot or not threads, hotlist threads etc, when I was single I used to get a lot of attention (well more then I thought I would) but now being a couple that’s changed dramatically but then we don’t take it to heart because we are a couple and it’s harder in someways. Plus also they move so bloody fast some of them by the time I’ve looked at the profile I’ve actually missed the person I meant my post for. But that’s life and it’s only a forum lol Geeky x | |||
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"The forums are the only bit of fab I frequent, and just Lounge and Chat. Here I have made contact with some lovely ladies who I message pretty much daily, until they eventually tire and block me...
I almost find victims for my hotlist here. Funnily enough one called me a forumite last night, which surprised me as I consider myself on the fringes, just farting around in other peoples threads. So what makes a forumite?"I have made nice friends off the forums and posts, too | |||
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" But often in forums no one replies to my comments, that's what makes me feel like I'm ignored. And sometimes I'll see small threads and join in and still be ignored - even when they have been replying to everyone else or there is supposed to be a reply -i.e. the hot or not threads. It doesn't bother me just something I've noticed. ~Mia" Only just saw this - I completely understand what you are saying and it can happen so easily although I do not think it is done deliberately. I think people get carried away in their posts and sometimes posts come in very close together so posts can get missed leaving a feeling a person is being ignored. Does that make sense? I just carry on posting... eventually somebody will respond
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"We get a few messages from forumites but it is very rare. It's mainly just from people local to us. Most of my comments on forums get ignored and often get no response. Sometimes they do. It doesn't bother me either way. Although I find when people message they are far more likely to respond to us than someone who has just posted in forums. Forums are mainly a form of entertainment for me. Nothing I take to heart or get upset about even when my comments are ignored.
Probably does influence people's image of me - does that bother me? Not one bit.
~Mia
Can i ask why you feel ignored? Sorry im going off on a tangent here but is it because youre not responded to personally?
For me anyway if i start a thread i read all the replies. Im genuinely interested in the answers, thats why ive asked.
But whether i respond to each one individually depends on the question. Like this one, i havent responded to everyone, ive responded to those i think i can add something to or want to know more about. It doesnt mean i haven't read or appreciated the other replies.
Hmm. Quite often I will post on a forum that's like hot or not stuff like that and you reply to the person above and like 9/10 times people either don't notice my comment or skip it completely and reply to someone else. There are a rare occasion where someone does reply.
I don't take it personally if someone doesn't reply to all comments as I don't expect them to.
But often in forums no one replies to my comments, that's what makes me feel like I'm ignored.
And sometimes I'll see small threads and join in and still be ignored - even when they have been replying to everyone else or there is supposed to be a reply -i.e. the hot or not threads.
It doesn't bother me just something I've noticed.
~Mia
Yes we feel the same sometimes, with the hot or not threads, hotlist threads etc, when I was single I used to get a lot of attention (well more then I thought I would) but now being a couple that’s changed dramatically but then we don’t take it to heart because we are a couple and it’s harder in someways. Plus also they move so bloody fast some of them by the time I’ve looked at the profile I’ve actually missed the person I meant my post for. But that’s life and it’s only a forum lol
Geeky x"Yes exactly this. It doesn't bother me just something I had noticed and understand that these things happen sometimes - most of the time unintentionally. ~Mia | |||
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" But often in forums no one replies to my comments, that's what makes me feel like I'm ignored. And sometimes I'll see small threads and join in and still be ignored - even when they have been replying to everyone else or there is supposed to be a reply -i.e. the hot or not threads. It doesn't bother me just something I've noticed. ~Mia Only just saw this - I completely understand what you are saying and it can happen so easily although I do not think it is done deliberately. I think people get carried away in their posts and sometimes posts come in very close together so posts can get missed leaving a feeling a person is being ignored. Does that make sense? I just carry on posting... eventually somebody will respond
"Indeed and these things happen doesn't bother me or stop me from posting. These things happen sometimes and that's life!
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"Lately it’s more non forum users or those who don’t use them as frequently "Pfffffft. | |||
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"Lately it’s more non forum users or those who don’t use them as frequently
Pfffffft. "Ocht shush you - come and squeeze my arse | |||
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"Way back in 2016 when I was on here before. Mr contacted me and I did my standard reply until I saw him in the forums, seeing him interact made me want to meet him and as they say the rest is history. So I think the forum is a great tool for getting to know others. And yes we’re open to offers especially from pretty bi ladies
Haha the same person behind the comments about me being popular also told me we had messaged a few times a while ago. I had to admit I couldn't remember it. I mustve needed to see them in another light to have them stand out for me "well you do stand out and look a gorgeous girly with the right way of going about things and our type | |||
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"Sorry for the influx of threads from me! " I like your threads OP, they're interesting.
"... and it got me thinking does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on?" It's pretty obvious that I have 'nothing going on', no-one has ever assumed otherwise. When I meet people 'in real life' they always seem slightly disappointed that I'm not a truck driver called Barry. "Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? " Both of this year's PM's have been from forumites. I'm still pretty sure they have me mixed up with someone else more interesting though. "Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? " Haven't heard an opinion of me, I really have no idea what people think. "Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? " Yep. | |||
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"I mostly get ignored on the forum here. " My posts often get ignored... in fact I'm that used to it, I often post and move onto another thread, so won't notice that someone has replied
It doesn't help that I tend to dip in and out...
I don't mind that my posts appear to be ignored. I'm aware that they have probably been read and noted. Its just not possible for every post to be responded to.
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"Sorry for the influx of threads from me! So earlier i asked what youre looking for and it seems most people haven't found what they want. I was talking to someone who said to me something along the lines of "but you're popular so why would you look at me" and it got me thinking does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on? Yes I get compliments on here but so do most people, I am a frequent poster so i interact with people, does that make it seem like my inbox is overflowing with suitors therefore there's no point in trying? Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? " I care not whether a forum poster is popular or not, I don’t give any thought to whether their inbox is overflowing. If I like someone and point them out to Lacey and we both agree then we message them, simples. I’d say that me being a regular forumite does hinder us with other forum users. Like you, we do receive a fair few compliments now and again but we’d hardly say our inbox was overflowing and certainly not with the kind of messages we’d like to receive. My cheery style of posting and often flippant remarks are guaranteed to rub some people up the wrong way. Fortunately for me, Lacey swiftly got bored of the trolls, cliques, faux flirting and general bullshit the forum produces daily and pretty much leaves me to post what I like, which in turn paints a picture of us both that’s probably nothing like us. We tend not to interact with the non forum folk. We are still looking for more experiences but we’re in no great rush. We are open to anyone unless they’ve abused that openness, we just block any nastiness these days. I’m sure there’s inaccurate opinions of me among forum people but unless you’ve spent some time with me personally the opinions matter nothing. | |||
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"Sorry for the influx of threads from me! So earlier i asked what youre looking for and it seems most people haven't found what they want. I was talking to someone who said to me something along the lines of "but you're popular so why would you look at me" and it got me thinking does being on the forums hinder you? Having a more public persona do people assume that you have it all going on? Yes I get compliments on here but so do most people, I am a frequent poster so i interact with people, does that make it seem like my inbox is overflowing with suitors therefore there's no point in trying? Do you find it's more forumites or non forumites you interact with? Have you heard an opinion of yourself that you don't agree with? Also! If youre looking for something still do you want people to get in touch? I care not whether a forum poster is popular or not, I don’t give any thought to whether their inbox is overflowing. If I like someone and point them out to Lacey and we both agree then we message them, simples. I’d say that me being a regular forumite does hinder us with other forum users. Like you, we do receive a fair few compliments now and again but we’d hardly say our inbox was overflowing and certainly not with the kind of messages we’d like to receive. My cheery style of posting and often flippant remarks are guaranteed to rub some people up the wrong way. Fortunately for me, Lacey swiftly got bored of the trolls, cliques, faux flirting and general bullshit the forum produces daily and pretty much leaves me to post what I like, which in turn paints a picture of us both that’s probably nothing like us. We tend not to interact with the non forum folk. We are still looking for more experiences but we’re in no great rush. We are open to anyone unless they’ve abused that openness, we just block any nastiness these days. I’m sure there’s inaccurate opinions of me among forum people but unless you’ve spent some time with me personally the opinions matter nothing. " Are you sitting down with a beer after all that! | |||
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"I mostly get ignored on the forum here. My posts often get ignored... in fact I'm that used to it, I often post and move onto another thread, so won't notice that someone has replied
It doesn't help that I tend to dip in and out...
I don't mind that my posts appear to be ignored. I'm aware that they have probably been read and noted. Its just not possible for every post to be responded to.
Nita"This is pretty much me I often forget about what I've posted and will only remember far too late to reply half the time | |||
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"I mostly get ignored on the forum here. My posts often get ignored... in fact I'm that used to it, I often post and move onto another thread, so won't notice that someone has replied
It doesn't help that I tend to dip in and out...
I don't mind that my posts appear to be ignored. I'm aware that they have probably been read and noted. Its just not possible for every post to be responded to.
Nita
This is pretty much me I often forget about what I've posted and will only remember far too late to reply half the time "Speaking of forgetting what you’ve posted.... I once posted my phone instead of a letter I’d put in my mouth whilst fumbling for the van keys. I only realised when I got home | |||
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"I mostly get ignored on the forum here. My posts often get ignored... in fact I'm that used to it, I often post and move onto another thread, so won't notice that someone has replied
It doesn't help that I tend to dip in and out...
I don't mind that my posts appear to be ignored. I'm aware that they have probably been read and noted. Its just not possible for every post to be responded to.
Nita
This is pretty much me I often forget about what I've posted and will only remember far too late to reply half the time
Speaking of forgetting what you’ve posted....
I once posted my phone instead of a letter I’d put in my mouth whilst fumbling for the van keys.
I only realised when I got home
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"I mostly get ignored on the forum here. My posts often get ignored... in fact I'm that used to it, I often post and move onto another thread, so won't notice that someone has replied
It doesn't help that I tend to dip in and out...
I don't mind that my posts appear to be ignored. I'm aware that they have probably been read and noted. Its just not possible for every post to be responded to.
Nita
This is pretty much me I often forget about what I've posted and will only remember far too late to reply half the time
Speaking of forgetting what you’ve posted....
I once posted my phone instead of a letter I’d put in my mouth whilst fumbling for the van keys.
I only realised when I got home
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