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"fab always faviours women... simply due to the number factor. for me personally it's a safety thing and I don't want guys to turn up uninvited after a meet... but you are right- an explanation on the profile would be nicer..." Actually explains a lot forgot how creepy some guys are on here. It actually flew over my head that somone would just turn up uninvited. But yes an explanation even if that was the explanation. Most people would understand that tbh. Also I have seen plent women who don't accomm or travel.now how does that work??  | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. " Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool" Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole?" Has she now said she will accommodate ? | |||
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason " Really?!! Explain to a casual fuck who I allow into my home? Never going to happen. It wouldn't cross my mind to ask someone why they don't accommodate: I don't care. You can't accommodate, not a problem, you're not coming to mine either. | |||
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"fab always faviours women... simply due to the number factor. for me personally it's a safety thing and I don't want guys to turn up uninvited after a meet... but you are right- an explanation on the profile would be nicer..." Personally I don't think anyone should have to explain anything. When looking at profiles if something doesn't match what you're looking for, onto the next one. | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? Has she now said she will accommodate ? " Why does this always happen on the forum why are you assuming this is about someone I want to meet its literally something I generally noticed that's all jheez!! Lool | |||
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"fab always faviours women... simply due to the number factor. for me personally it's a safety thing and I don't want guys to turn up uninvited after a meet... but you are right- an explanation on the profile would be nicer... Personally I don't think anyone should have to explain anything. When looking at profiles if something doesn't match what you're looking for, onto the next one." That's a very valid point. Not gonna lie I'm not saying you should tell every bit of your life Lool something simple ass im not comfortable with letting others into my house or I don't live alone on your profile Loool just looks good I suppose. Each to their own in all fairness though | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? Has she now said she will accommodate ? Why does this always happen on the forum why are you assuming this is about someone I want to meet its literally something I generally noticed that's all jheez!! Lool" I didn't. Your assuming I did. I used she as I wouldn't meet a dude. That's all. So, am I judging why she doesn't accomadate or is she now inviting me I to her home and I'm stupid if I go? | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? Has she now said she will accommodate ? Why does this always happen on the forum why are you assuming this is about someone I want to meet its literally something I generally noticed that's all jheez!! Lool I didn't. Your assuming I did. I used she as I wouldn't meet a dude. That's all. So, am I judging why she doesn't accomadate or is she now inviting me I to her home and I'm stupid if I go? " Why would you need to judge. Lool you're funny. And if she doesn't accom how is she inviting you to hers?   | |||
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"Also I have seen plent women who don't accomm or travel.now how does that work?? "It works differently for different people but for me it stops men messaging and assuming I'm happy to drive 200miles for a quicky. For some it means club meets or very locally  | |||
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"I don't travel so I accommodate saying that I don't just invite anyone into my home" That's what talking about perfect you do accom but also tells the person that just because you can accom doesn't mean any person will get to come in and that they would need to be trusted first. Thank you | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? Has she now said she will accommodate ? Why does this always happen on the forum why are you assuming this is about someone I want to meet its literally something I generally noticed that's all jheez!! Lool I didn't. Your assuming I did. I used she as I wouldn't meet a dude. That's all. So, am I judging why she doesn't accomadate or is she now inviting me I to her home and I'm stupid if I go? Why would you need to judge. Lool you're funny. And if she doesn't accom how is she inviting you to hers? "I didn't judge. You did ....[qoute]I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason[\quote] I don't think they should give a reason, if they don't accomadate, I accept that. If they do invite me round to their own home, if they trust me, I trust them, I don't assume their husband might come home. If you think I'm funny here, you should see my stand up ruotine | |||
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"Also I have seen plent women who don't accomm or travel.now how does that work??
It works differently for different people but for me it stops men messaging and assuming I'm happy to drive 200miles for a quicky. For some it means club meets or very locally "still have to travel to a club lol | |||
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"I don't travel so I accommodate saying that I don't just invite anyone into my home That's what talking about perfect you do accom but also tells the person that just because you can accom doesn't mean any person will get to come in and that they would need to be trusted first. Thank you" That's it exactly And your welcome | |||
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"OP your note just says you do not live by yourself. That could mean anything so not exactly an explanation. " Well it deffo couldn't mean I live by myself and its saying I cant fuck you in my house because there are others living there | |||
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"I'm open in saying hubby doesn't know people deserve to know as they might not be comfortable with that "Another perfect example I know what's going on straight away. Straight up thank you | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? Has she now said she will accommodate ? Why does this always happen on the forum why are you assuming this is about someone I want to meet its literally something I generally noticed that's all jheez!! Lool I didn't. Your assuming I did. I used she as I wouldn't meet a dude. That's all. So, am I judging why she doesn't accomadate or is she now inviting me I to her home and I'm stupid if I go? Why would you need to judge. Lool you're funny. And if she doesn't accom how is she inviting you to hers?
I didn't judge. You did ....[qoute]I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason[\quote]
I don't think they should give a reason, if they don't accomadate, I accept that. If they do invite me round to their own home, if they trust me, I trust them, I don't assume their husband might come home.
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"Also I have seen plent women who don't accomm or travel.now how does that work??
It works differently for different people but for me it stops men messaging and assuming I'm happy to drive 200miles for a quicky. For some it means club meets or very locally still have to travel to a club lol"Regardless of whether they have to travel to a club or not it's just their preference on how and where they choose to meet | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? Has she now said she will accommodate ? Why does this always happen on the forum why are you assuming this is about someone I want to meet its literally something I generally noticed that's all jheez!! Lool I didn't. Your assuming I did. I used she as I wouldn't meet a dude. That's all. So, am I judging why she doesn't accomadate or is she now inviting me I to her home and I'm stupid if I go? Why would you need to judge. Lool you're funny. And if she doesn't accom how is she inviting you to hers?
I didn't judge. You did ....[qoute]I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason[\quote]
I don't think they should give a reason, if they don't accomadate, I accept that. If they do invite me round to their own home, if they trust me, I trust them, I don't assume their husband might come home.
If you think I'm funny here, you should see my stand up ruotine my point is what if they don't accom and you invite them round to yours"I don't accommodate, I wouldn't invite her (and all her cute friends  ) around to mine. | |||
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"I don’t accomm and I don’t feel the need to explain why on my profile (and I don’t expect anyone else to either). If I’m interested in meeting someone, we can discuss it and work out arrangements between us." Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh | |||
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"I don’t accomm and I don’t feel the need to explain why on my profile (and I don’t expect anyone else to either). If I’m interested in meeting someone, we can discuss it and work out arrangements between us."  | |||
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"I don’t accomm and I don’t feel the need to explain why on my profile (and I don’t expect anyone else to either). If I’m interested in meeting someone, we can discuss it and work out arrangements between us. Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh" Because people assume they are married or in a relationship. | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? Has she now said she will accommodate ? Why does this always happen on the forum why are you assuming this is about someone I want to meet its literally something I generally noticed that's all jheez!! Lool I didn't. Your assuming I did. I used she as I wouldn't meet a dude. That's all. So, am I judging why she doesn't accomadate or is she now inviting me I to her home and I'm stupid if I go? Why would you need to judge. Lool you're funny. And if she doesn't accom how is she inviting you to hers?
I didn't judge. You did ....[qoute]I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason[\quote]
I don't think they should give a reason, if they don't accomadate, I accept that. If they do invite me round to their own home, if they trust me, I trust them, I don't assume their husband might come home.
If you think I'm funny here, you should see my stand up ruotine my point is what if they don't accom and you invite them round to yours
I don't accommodate, I wouldn't invite her (and all her cute friends ) around to mine. "like I said not funny. I wasn't refuring to you literally. I know the art of trolling sorry  | |||
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"I don’t accomm and I don’t feel the need to explain why on my profile (and I don’t expect anyone else to either). If I’m interested in meeting someone, we can discuss it and work out arrangements between us. Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh Because people assume they are married or in a relationship. " Yeh but the won't asumme that if it's a woman which is a bit unfair no? | |||
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" Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh" We don't give them stick, we just choose not to accommodate married men. | |||
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"I don’t accomm and I don’t feel the need to explain why on my profile (and I don’t expect anyone else to either). If I’m interested in meeting someone, we can discuss it and work out arrangements between us." Perfect. . | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? Has she now said she will accommodate ? Why does this always happen on the forum why are you assuming this is about someone I want to meet its literally something I generally noticed that's all jheez!! Lool I didn't. Your assuming I did. I used she as I wouldn't meet a dude. That's all. So, am I judging why she doesn't accomadate or is she now inviting me I to her home and I'm stupid if I go? Why would you need to judge. Lool you're funny. And if she doesn't accom how is she inviting you to hers?
I didn't judge. You did ....[qoute]I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason[\quote]
I don't think they should give a reason, if they don't accomadate, I accept that. If they do invite me round to their own home, if they trust me, I trust them, I don't assume their husband might come home.
If you think I'm funny here, you should see my stand up ruotine my point is what if they don't accom and you invite them round to yours
I don't accommodate, I wouldn't invite her (and all her cute friends ) around to mine. like I said not funny. I wasn't refuring to you literally. I know the art of trolling sorry "Oh ffs! | |||
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"I don't think either sex should have to give an explanation but what I would love to see is all the conclusions being jumped to stopped. There are hundreds of reasons for not accommodating and I hate how it's ok for women not to accommodate but if a man can't then he's cheating. Total rubbish. " my point exactly I think everyone thinks I mean the need to put a detailed explanation about why you can't accom and ofcourse you don't have to but something little might be helpful to both parties. Thanks a lot for your comment | |||
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" Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh We don't give them stick, we just choose not to accommodate married men." As in someone who is married and has stated or are you just assuming because they don't accom? | |||
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" Because people assume they are married or in a relationship. Yeh but the won't asumme that if it's a woman which is a bit unfair no?" I think it's more that a women being married isn't such an issue. | |||
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"I've been asked if I'm married a lot of times, because I don't accommodate. I don't mind telling them I live with my family. " Well proof that it does happen to women aswell hehe. Not that you have to give an explanation either but it clears up doubts right? | |||
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" Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh We don't give them stick, we just choose not to accommodate married men. As in someone who is married and has stated or are you just assuming because they don't accom?" We are putting them in the no camp because they are more likely to be married than a man that can accommodate. It's a numbers game. | |||
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" Because people assume they are married or in a relationship. Yeh but the won't asumme that if it's a woman which is a bit unfair no? I think it's more that a women being married isn't such an issue. " Wooow it's just as much of an issue. I don't understand your logic or thinking there | |||
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" Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh We don't give them stick, we just choose not to accommodate married men. As in someone who is married and has stated or are you just assuming because they don't accom? We are putting them in the no camp because they are more likely to be married than a man that can accommodate. It's a numbers game." Then the same method should be used on women aswell no? | |||
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason " We would never expect anyone to accommodate or explain why they can't. I don't see why that would be any different for a guy. You still don't know who is turning up at your door and having access to your home. You might be statistically safer from sexual attack by a single female but you're no safer from physical attack, theft or accusations and probably a list of other nightmare scenarios. Your home is your personal space. This is NSA, possibly anonymous encounters. Not necessarily dating or friendship. Women should respect a mans cautiousness too. | |||
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"I will admit, if someone contacts me and they don't accommodate, the first question I ask is why., most can't lie when asked a direct question, some have tried to evade it, but I always find out the true situation in the end, as I wont meet married or attached men "Humans aren't good at lying on the spot. And I think it's right to ask then he can explain and if he doesn't you have the answer you need then. He's not for you. | |||
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason " No one on here should have to give any one a reason for not accommodating. If I was meeting people which I’m not then there is no way I would allow a stranger into my home! It’s my home, I’m safe there and in my book it’s not a place to ‘entertain’ Fab men!!! | |||
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" Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh We don't give them stick, we just choose not to accommodate married men. As in someone who is married and has stated or are you just assuming because they don't accom? We are putting them in the no camp because they are more likely to be married than a man that can accommodate. It's a numbers game. Then the same method should be used on women aswell no?" I've explained a few times why it's different (for us) If a man gets caught cheating his partner will tend to blame whoever he cheated with not him. Men tend to do the opposite. Having a deranged bunny-boiler banging on the door is not a recipe for a quiet life. | |||
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason We would never expect anyone to accommodate or explain why they can't. I don't see why that would be any different for a guy. You still don't know who is turning up at your door and having access to your home. You might be statistically safer from sexual attack by a single female but you're no safer from physical attack, theft or accusations and probably a list of other nightmare scenarios. Your home is your personal space. This is NSA, possibly anonymous encounters. Not necessarily dating or friendship. Women should respect a mans cautiousness too." Perfect! These are the kind of answers that make sense. I wouldn't expect anyone to accom and tbh I wont ask if I want to meet them but I will ask if they approach me. If I did accomodate just to clear the air as it could be something that she couldn't really explain on the profile but is happy to let me know If not I just wouldn't meet. If they can't eplain something like that then who know what they maybe hiding. Yes thank you there are men who are just very cautious because sometimes not every woman is woman and not every couple has a female Loool | |||
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"So what do you say when you can’t accommodate lol" Well Id just elaborate on the people who I live with in a private message as it says I love with people and that being the reason | |||
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason No one on here should have to give any one a reason for not accommodating. If I was meeting people which I’m not then there is no way I would allow a stranger into my home! It’s my home, I’m safe there and in my book it’s not a place to ‘entertain’ Fab men!!! " Where does it say anywhere about allowing someone into your home?? Dunno where anyone is getting that from no matter on or off fabs you don't have to let anyone into your property not even family Loool just common sense | |||
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" Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh We don't give them stick, we just choose not to accommodate married men. As in someone who is married and has stated or are you just assuming because they don't accom? We are putting them in the no camp because they are more likely to be married than a man that can accommodate. It's a numbers game. Then the same method should be used on women aswell no? I've explained a few times why it's different (for us) If a man gets caught cheating his partner will tend to blame whoever he cheated with not him. Men tend to do the opposite. Having a deranged bunny-boiler banging on the door is not a recipe for a quiet life." Dunno if I'm just reading this wrong but I'm not getting what you're trying to say | |||
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"Both this & our couples profile has an explanation & you’re right - I think it’s just polite "Yep and like most people aren't getting it doesn't have to be detailed | |||
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason No one on here should have to give any one a reason for not accommodating. If I was meeting people which I’m not then there is no way I would allow a stranger into my home! It’s my home, I’m safe there and in my book it’s not a place to ‘entertain’ Fab men!!! Where does it say anywhere about allowing someone into your home?? Dunno where anyone is getting that from no matter on or off fabs you don't have to let anyone into your property not even family Loool just common sense" You stated ‘there are loads of women who do not accommodate and never explain why’. This I took to mean you expect to be invited into a woman’s home. Have you forgotten your original post OP? I was merely responding to said post in that no one needs to explain why they don’t accommodate, that includes both genders! | |||
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"I don’t accomm and I don’t feel the need to explain why on my profile (and I don’t expect anyone else to either). If I’m interested in meeting someone, we can discuss it and work out arrangements between us. Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh Because people assume they are married or in a relationship. Yeh but the won't asumme that if it's a woman which is a bit unfair no?" I've had men say they thought I was married because I don't accommodate. Most ask my relationshiop status anyway; maybe because there are so many married people on here under a single profile. | |||
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"I don’t accomm and I don’t feel the need to explain why on my profile (and I don’t expect anyone else to either). If I’m interested in meeting someone, we can discuss it and work out arrangements between us. Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh Because people assume they are married or in a relationship. Yeh but the won't asumme that if it's a woman which is a bit unfair no? I've had men say they thought I was married because I don't accommodate. Most ask my relationshiop status anyway; maybe because there are so many married people on here under a single profile." Yes that could be why. I normally tend to take relationship status as it says | |||
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason No one on here should have to give any one a reason for not accommodating. If I was meeting people which I’m not then there is no way I would allow a stranger into my home! It’s my home, I’m safe there and in my book it’s not a place to ‘entertain’ Fab men!!! Where does it say anywhere about allowing someone into your home?? Dunno where anyone is getting that from no matter on or off fabs you don't have to let anyone into your property not even family Loool just common sense You stated ‘there are loads of women who do not accommodate and never explain why’. This I took to mean you expect to be invited into a woman’s home. Have you forgotten your original post OP? I was merely responding to said post in that no one needs to explain why they don’t accommodate, that includes both genders! " Yes I said that just refuring to both men and women doing the same thing my point is more why do men get so much stick for it and women dont | |||
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason No one on here should have to give any one a reason for not accommodating. If I was meeting people which I’m not then there is no way I would allow a stranger into my home! It’s my home, I’m safe there and in my book it’s not a place to ‘entertain’ Fab men!!! Where does it say anywhere about allowing someone into your home?? Dunno where anyone is getting that from no matter on or off fabs you don't have to let anyone into your property not even family Loool just common sense You stated ‘there are loads of women who do not accommodate and never explain why’. This I took to mean you expect to be invited into a woman’s home. Have you forgotten your original post OP? I was merely responding to said post in that no one needs to explain why they don’t accommodate, that includes both genders! Yes I said that just refuring to both men and women doing the same thing my point is more why do men get so much stick for it and women dont" Sorry, I mis understood. No one should get ‘stick’ for not accommodating. It’s nothing to do with anyone on Fab why they can’t/don’t want to accommodate. It certainly doesn’t mean they are married if they can’t accommodate. If anyone suspects that or aren’t happy then move on. | |||
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason No one on here should have to give any one a reason for not accommodating. If I was meeting people which I’m not then there is no way I would allow a stranger into my home! It’s my home, I’m safe there and in my book it’s not a place to ‘entertain’ Fab men!!! Where does it say anywhere about allowing someone into your home?? Dunno where anyone is getting that from no matter on or off fabs you don't have to let anyone into your property not even family Loool just common sense You stated ‘there are loads of women who do not accommodate and never explain why’. This I took to mean you expect to be invited into a woman’s home. Have you forgotten your original post OP? I was merely responding to said post in that no one needs to explain why they don’t accommodate, that includes both genders! Yes I said that just refuring to both men and women doing the same thing my point is more why do men get so much stick for it and women dont Sorry, I mis understood. No one should get ‘stick’ for not accommodating. It’s nothing to do with anyone on Fab why they can’t/don’t want to accommodate. It certainly doesn’t mean they are married if they can’t accommodate. If anyone suspects that or aren’t happy then move on. " Very well said ma'am  | |||
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"fab always faviours women... simply due to the number factor. for me personally it's a safety thing and I don't want guys to turn up uninvited after a meet... but you are right- an explanation on the profile would be nicer..." This has actually happened to me which is why I no longer accommodate | |||
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? Has she now said she will accommodate ? Why does this always happen on the forum why are you assuming this is about someone I want to meet its literally something I generally noticed that's all jheez!! Lool I didn't. Your assuming I did. I used she as I wouldn't meet a dude. That's all. So, am I judging why she doesn't accomadate or is she now inviting me I to her home and I'm stupid if I go? Why would you need to judge. Lool you're funny. And if she doesn't accom how is she inviting you to hers?
I didn't judge. You did ....[qoute]I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason[\quote]
I don't think they should give a reason, if they don't accomadate, I accept that. If they do invite me round to their own home, if they trust me, I trust them, I don't assume their husband might come home.
If you think I'm funny here, you should see my stand up ruotine my point is what if they don't accom and you invite them round to yours
I don't accommodate, I wouldn't invite her (and all her cute friends ) around to mine. like I said not funny. I wasn't refuring to you literally. I know the art of trolling sorry
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"I'm not prying Into any reasons why she doesn't want to accommodate, anyone who starts belittling people for their preferences are assoles. If they don't want me in their homes, I'm Okay with that. I don't automatically start jumping to conclusions. Sorry who is this she you are referring to lool Also that a bit silly if you don't ask. What if she had a husband at home and 3 young children would you not feel like an asshole? Has she now said she will accommodate ? Why does this always happen on the forum why are you assuming this is about someone I want to meet its literally something I generally noticed that's all jheez!! Lool I didn't. Your assuming I did. I used she as I wouldn't meet a dude. That's all. So, am I judging why she doesn't accomadate or is she now inviting me I to her home and I'm stupid if I go? Why would you need to judge. Lool you're funny. And if she doesn't accom how is she inviting you to hers?
I didn't judge. You did ....[qoute]I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason[\quote]
I don't think they should give a reason, if they don't accomadate, I accept that. If they do invite me round to their own home, if they trust me, I trust them, I don't assume their husband might come home.
If you think I'm funny here, you should see my stand up ruotine my point is what if they don't accom and you invite them round to yours
I don't accommodate, I wouldn't invite her (and all her cute friends ) around to mine. like I said not funny. I wasn't refuring to you literally. I know the art of trolling sorry
Oh ffs!
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason " I don't think anyone needs to explain anything. | |||
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"Both this & our couples profile has an explanation & you’re right - I think it’s just polite "Yeah, because people always tell the truth! 99% of my meets are at home, however, I do not invite into my home anyone who wouldn't invite me to theirs: that wasn't always the case. I changed after saying to a long term playmate we'd have to meet at his as my daughter was home from uni. He was horrified at the idea and said "I don't invite people I meet off the Internet into my home, it's not a knocking shop!" We were in my bed at the time and he couldn't understand why I booted him out. For me no one has to explain anything to me because my default setting is I'm not good enough to be invited into your home...not a problem as you're not coming to mine. No drama, no angst. Don't see the problem myself. Anything on a profile I don't like/excludes me...onto the next one. | |||
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"It seems to me that quite a few guys get stick for not being able to accomodate and not providing a reason. And I can understand that. But there are loads of women who do not accomodate and never explain why. Ive put a note on my profile as I think it is a good idea to have a reason why, as people will feel more relaxed approaching me. But what do others think about this? I mean any woman or man could be cheating on a partner. So both should give a reason " My reason is right there for persons to see. | |||
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"I don’t accomm and I don’t feel the need to explain why on my profile (and I don’t expect anyone else to either). If I’m interested in meeting someone, we can discuss it and work out arrangements between us. Yhh that's fine but why do some guys get stick for it. Ive never had it myself tbh Because people assume they are married or in a relationship. Yeh but the won't asumme that if it's a woman which is a bit unfair no?" Lots of men have asked if I'm married because I don't accommodate.. | |||
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