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"I’m a mix of both. When my anxiety is under control, I very much live for the moment & have an open & optimistic approach to things. When it’s not, I go into ostrich mode, bury my head, close my eyes & hope it’ll all go away. I also have a ‘worst case scenario’ attitude an a constant feeling of mild panic. The latter is exhausting. The first one is a much happier & more positive way to live. I just need to find a way to prevent my anxiety flaring up! x" Anxiety wise, my coping mechanism is adult colouring. It's had an unbelievable effect on my anxiety | |||
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"I tend to jump in, then only consider the consequences if it goes wrong. Confidence I am not short of "Ha! Im envious but also terrified for you  | |||
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"And for me it isn't a facade but just two sides of the same coin. I tend to think about things carefully and plan things through, but less so if isn't an anxious day. " So you tend to go between both? One is kinda dependent on the other? | |||
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"I’m a mix of both. When my anxiety is under control, I very much live for the moment & have an open & optimistic approach to things. When it’s not, I go into ostrich mode, bury my head, close my eyes & hope it’ll all go away. I also have a ‘worst case scenario’ attitude an a constant feeling of mild panic. The latter is exhausting. The first one is a much happier & more positive way to live. I just need to find a way to prevent my anxiety flaring up! x" Good luck x | |||
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"My internal battles have got worse with age, whilst my outer confidence has improved. I am now like an untidy drawer in an otherwise pristine kitchen. On the surface, everything is tidy, smart and in its place. Open the drawer though and it's all a bit of a mess, a jumble of everything. It gets cleared out periodically but then I let it get messy again. It's liveable though. I'm not demented or tortured by it but I am certainly aware of it. " I like this analogy. Having a tidy out sometimes helps. | |||
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"Not being very self assured I over analyse and to cover that I have brusque manner! "Really? I hadn't noticed  | |||
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"Adaptability is a good trait to have. Hone your analysis to the point that you can act as impromptu as you can without hindering your safety. If I'd have over analysed things to work them out I'd have missed out on so many things. " Yeah I think that was a lot of my thinking. Am I somehow missing out. But then I think I experience things in a different way because I have taken time to prepare. | |||
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"I have an outward facade that everyone gets to see of me happy and smiling, sometimes stressed but doing ok. In private and very few if anyone gets to see the side I hide but it’s full of self doubt, overthinking and analysing every little thing that happens or is said to me. My mind was the one safe place my ex couldn’t control so it was my safe place, it’s a hard habit to break of going back to it instead of letting everything out. Occasionally I’ll be spontaneous and go with the moment but then feel guilty for doing so x " That's definitely a good point. I trust my own mind so what goes on in there is mine. I can be a bit of a flake and think things I'd never be able to share. Why do you feel guilty for being spontaneous? | |||
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"Mines normally swan dive straight in and then do the overthinking a little bit later. " I have images of you diving in my head now, how very distracting  | |||
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"I kinda wear a clowns smile half the time. I am extremely confident but I do tend spend a lot of time in my head worrying about what others think. And then I spend time worrying why I even care. It's crazy! " Haha this is me. Im outwardly confident but imwardly curling up in a ball. I think this thread proves i agree with worrying about why im worried | |||
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"I kinda wear a clowns smile half the time. I am extremely confident but I do tend spend a lot of time in my head worrying about what others think. And then I spend time worrying why I even care. It's crazy! Haha this is me. Im outwardly confident but imwardly curling up in a ball. I think this thread proves i agree with worrying about why im worried "Haha that's the worst part. Worrying about worry. How can we get rid of that?  | |||
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"I kinda wear a clowns smile half the time. I am extremely confident but I do tend spend a lot of time in my head worrying about what others think. And then I spend time worrying why I even care. It's crazy! Haha this is me. Im outwardly confident but imwardly curling up in a ball. I think this thread proves i agree with worrying about why im worried
Haha that's the worst part. Worrying about worry. How can we get rid of that? "Well now im worrying about that  | |||
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"I kinda wear a clowns smile half the time. I am extremely confident but I do tend spend a lot of time in my head worrying about what others think. And then I spend time worrying why I even care. It's crazy! Haha this is me. Im outwardly confident but imwardly curling up in a ball. I think this thread proves i agree with worrying about why im worried
Haha that's the worst part. Worrying about worry. How can we get rid of that?
Well now im worrying about that "Ok errrm well let's make a brew and we will figure it out later  | |||
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"I have an outward facade that everyone gets to see of me happy and smiling, sometimes stressed but doing ok. In private and very few if anyone gets to see the side I hide but it’s full of self doubt, overthinking and analysing every little thing that happens or is said to me. My mind was the one safe place my ex couldn’t control so it was my safe place, it’s a hard habit to break of going back to it instead of letting everything out. Occasionally I’ll be spontaneous and go with the moment but then feel guilty for doing so x That's definitely a good point. I trust my own mind so what goes on in there is mine. I can be a bit of a flake and think things I'd never be able to share. Why do you feel guilty for being spontaneous? " Because normally it’s doing something that is totally selfish and for my pleasure. I’ve been so used to having to put myself last i struggle to put myself first. X | |||
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"I'm a total contradiction. I have ADHD & zero impulse control, totaly rash & impetuous. I've spent my life doing things on the spur of the moment. Some of my most important life changing decisions have been made on the toss of a coin. Sometimes its been amazing, others more 'oh shit' But I'm also a planner, I have to have structure, order & routine. I'd pass myself 10 times daily if I didn't have some plan in place. I'm also the 'organiser' at work, events etc.. Having an adhd brain also means I can be extremely tunnel visioned, once I focus on something, it's gets 100% of my attention until complete. Give me a task, something to arrange & it'll be done in the finest detail. I'm always happy, to the point of being irritatingly cheerful. 6am walking into work, often asked, how I can be so happy at that time of day! I don't like letting negative thoughts in my head, but that is something I've had to work hard at, due to life experiences. I spent a long time in a bad negative place & I refuse to be that person anymore. I intend to live the rest of my life, enjoying every opportunity, seizing chances when I can, and having amazing tales to tell my grandkids! " That's pretty inspiring tbh x | |||
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"I was just thinking, outwardly I'm quite a happy bubbly person but usually there's a lot going on in my head which doesn't match that. Not necessarily negative or stressed but I do tend to over analyse in an attempt to understand things. Now, I look at others who seem to embrace life and live in the moment. I can't help but compare myself. (I do appreciate they could be the same as me with the facade but let's assume not). Now I'm wondering how you see yourself? Do you think too much? Does it affect your behaviour or do you jump straight in and just let yourself enjoy the moment? Is it a bad thing to think a lot? Is being gung ho all it's cracked up to be? Do you flit between the two and if so can you identify in which circumstances?" I'm the same x | |||
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"I'm a total contradiction. I have ADHD & zero impulse control, totaly rash & impetuous. I've spent my life doing things on the spur of the moment. Some of my most important life changing decisions have been made on the toss of a coin. Sometimes its been amazing, others more 'oh shit' But I'm also a planner, I have to have structure, order & routine. I'd pass myself 10 times daily if I didn't have some plan in place. I'm also the 'organiser' at work, events etc.. Having an adhd brain also means I can be extremely tunnel visioned, once I focus on something, it's gets 100% of my attention until complete. Give me a task, something to arrange & it'll be done in the finest detail. I'm always happy, to the point of being irritatingly cheerful. 6am walking into work, often asked, how I can be so happy at that time of day! I don't like letting negative thoughts in my head, but that is something I've had to work hard at, due to life experiences. I spent a long time in a bad negative place & I refuse to be that person anymore. I intend to live the rest of my life, enjoying every opportunity, seizing chances when I can, and having amazing tales to tell my grandkids! " I actually love this! Your positivity shines through as does your confidence in knowing yourself and your flaws  | |||
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"I kinda wear a clowns smile half the time. I am extremely confident but I do tend spend a lot of time in my head worrying about what others think. And then I spend time worrying why I even care. It's crazy! Haha this is me. Im outwardly confident but imwardly curling up in a ball. I think this thread proves i agree with worrying about why im worried
Haha that's the worst part. Worrying about worry. How can we get rid of that?
Well now im worrying about that
Ok errrm well let's make a brew and we will figure it out later "A good think is always well accompanied with a good cuppa. | |||
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"I have an outward facade that everyone gets to see of me happy and smiling, sometimes stressed but doing ok. In private and very few if anyone gets to see the side I hide but it’s full of self doubt, overthinking and analysing every little thing that happens or is said to me. My mind was the one safe place my ex couldn’t control so it was my safe place, it’s a hard habit to break of going back to it instead of letting everything out. Occasionally I’ll be spontaneous and go with the moment but then feel guilty for doing so x That's definitely a good point. I trust my own mind so what goes on in there is mine. I can be a bit of a flake and think things I'd never be able to share. Why do you feel guilty for being spontaneous? Because normally it’s doing something that is totally selfish and for my pleasure. I’ve been so used to having to put myself last i struggle to put myself first. X " You should definitely work on doing it more. You deserve it xx | |||
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"This sounds like a job for a therapist. " Not really. Its about self awareness and sharing with others. | |||
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"I have the so called Warrior Gene... it’s impossible for me to feel remorse or guilt... it’s molded my whole life from an early age and made me a very efficient Marine during my service... I sometimes wish I could emphasise with people and see the world as most people do" Thats really interesting. Im the complete opposite, Im too compassionate. I can't imagine how isolating it must be for you. Do you find it harder to connect with people in general? | |||
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"Mines normally swan dive straight in and then do the overthinking a little bit later. I have images of you diving in my head now, how very distracting "Is that you overthinking again | |||
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"I come across as awkward and unapproachable. Prefer my own company. I'm not that unapproachable, i'm just shy and can't be arsed making the first move to chat to anyone these days. Most folk i don't find very likeable anyway, but those i do like, i like. This suits me as i no longer have to fake a general air of Joie de vivre. I probably sound like a right miserable cow, and i'm really not, i just have a deep intolerance for other people and the shit and drama they usually bring into my life when i'm just trying to keep it all simple. I do envy those who are naturally of a sunny disposition, who see the good in everyone, who can laugh in the face of adversity and who are positive and upbeat. But that is just not me. " I sometimes wish i was more like you. Its how i feel inside! But because im so bubbly people are drawn to me. I often want left alone! | |||
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"Haha im seen in the opposite light. In my head happy, content but yes overthinking things. On the outside seen as lets say quiet and brooding..." Do you have a resting bitch face? | |||
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"Im generally percieved as a happy, friendly guy. A smile does hide a thousand words though! " It does indeed! | |||
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"Mines normally swan dive straight in and then do the overthinking a little bit later. I have images of you diving in my head now, how very distracting
Is that you overthinking again "Yes. Its consuming my mind | |||
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"I've always been the joker, the one who gees everyone up, tough but kind and ridiculously empathic which generally means I'm the one who people turn to in a crisis and I couldn't choose to be any other way but the downside being I don't always get the hugs and love when I need it, when my own issues overflow I push them away and that's what I need to change this year. Us little crazy toughies need the love too
Peach x"I had the exact same chat with a friend the other day. I had a bit of a meltdown and he said why didnt you say you were upset. My answer was cos you didn't ask. People tend to assume youre ok so dont ask despite them being the same ones you go out of your way to support. Do more asking for it Peachy xxx | |||
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"Definitely an over thinker...but I learned over the years to put things on the shelf...thinking is fine but obsessing isn't so I box things until i can do something about them then fetch them down for a revisit...." Thats really cool. Reflecting on something at a later date often brings another view too. | |||
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"Definitely an over thinker...but I learned over the years to put things on the shelf...thinking is fine but obsessing isn't so I box things until i can do something about them then fetch them down for a revisit.... Thats really cool. Reflecting on something at a later date often brings another view too. " It also allows you to move on without the baggage....keeps life stress free(ish) | |||
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"I definitely over think things way too much! I'm very much in my head, but I'm ambitious and spontaneous too so I guess I straddle that line. People always seem to think I'm very confident and although quite clearly mental, pretty together...I'm not either
I'm working on the over thinking "Its funny the amount of people saying theyre working on it. I dont see mine as a negative thing. I quite enjoy being a thinker. | |||
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"I'm a massive ponderer and I overhink things a lot... Yes I compare myself to others but when I step back and think about it I know I.been a year of massive chamge for me. This year is all about doing what I want and not thinking too much about it... but at the same time being able to have a plan ...if that makes sense?" Yeah. Have a rough framework but let the finer details work themselves out. | |||
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" Used to have loads on my mind behind the happy face .but realise that all the stuff I worry about dont matter and worrying didnt make much difference .just be happy lifes to short think positive "Dont worry, be happy Ive got that song in my head now
Im not actually a worrier, my thinking is necessarily negative, its just intense. | |||
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"I definitely over think things way too much! I'm very much in my head, but I'm ambitious and spontaneous too so I guess I straddle that line. People always seem to think I'm very confident and although quite clearly mental, pretty together...I'm not either
I'm working on the over thinking
Its funny the amount of people saying theyre working on it.
I dont see mine as a negative thing. I quite enjoy being a thinker. "I only see it as a negative things for myself as it causes me to worry and stress far more than is healthy. I'm borderline obsessive with things lol | |||
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"I definitely over think things way too much! I'm very much in my head, but I'm ambitious and spontaneous too so I guess I straddle that line. People always seem to think I'm very confident and although quite clearly mental, pretty together...I'm not either
I'm working on the over thinking
Its funny the amount of people saying theyre working on it.
I dont see mine as a negative thing. I quite enjoy being a thinker.
I only see it as a negative things for myself as it causes me to worry and stress far more than is healthy. I'm borderline obsessive with things lol "I work to these rules... Can I do something about it...if yes...do it...if no...it goes on the shelf until the answer to question one is yes | |||
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"I definitely over think things way too much! I'm very much in my head, but I'm ambitious and spontaneous too so I guess I straddle that line. People always seem to think I'm very confident and although quite clearly mental, pretty together...I'm not either
I'm working on the over thinking
Its funny the amount of people saying theyre working on it.
I dont see mine as a negative thing. I quite enjoy being a thinker. "Many people see it as a negative if it either becomes very obstructive or if they feel it holds them back... or they want to be like others. My thinking isn't a problem as its lead to some big decisions.. but i guess it's the length of time the process can take. Being spontaneous can be tricky lol | |||
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" Used to have loads on my mind behind the happy face .but realise that all the stuff I worry about dont matter and worrying didnt make much difference .just be happy lifes to short think positive
Dont worry, be happy
Ive got that song in my head now
Im not actually a worrier, my thinking is necessarily negative, its just intense. "Perhaps you need some intense positivity | |||
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It's me, the way I am, and always have been and if almost 53 years haven't changed that I don't see it changing any time soon. | |||
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"I definitely over think things way too much! I'm very much in my head, but I'm ambitious and spontaneous too so I guess I straddle that line. People always seem to think I'm very confident and although quite clearly mental, pretty together...I'm not either
I'm working on the over thinking
Its funny the amount of people saying theyre working on it.
I dont see mine as a negative thing. I quite enjoy being a thinker.
Many people see it as a negative if it either becomes very obstructive or if they feel it holds them back... or they want to be like others.
My thinking isn't a problem as its lead to some big decisions.. but i guess it's the length of time the process can take. Being spontaneous can be tricky lol"Yeah i think for me it holds me back at times like making decisions. | |||
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" Used to have loads on my mind behind the happy face .but realise that all the stuff I worry about dont matter and worrying didnt make much difference .just be happy lifes to short think positive
Dont worry, be happy
Ive got that song in my head now
Im not actually a worrier, my thinking is necessarily negative, its just intense.
Perhaps you need some intense positivity "Do you know anyone who could give me an injection?  | |||
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" Used to have loads on my mind behind the happy face .but realise that all the stuff I worry about dont matter and worrying didnt make much difference .just be happy lifes to short think positive
Dont worry, be happy
Ive got that song in my head now
Im not actually a worrier, my thinking is necessarily negative, its just intense.
Perhaps you need some intense positivity
Do you know anyone who could give me an injection? "I have just the job but seems to be covered in nutella from another thread is this a problem | |||
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"I think this is where I live up to my username as there are definitely various sides to me - I'm actually quite introverted in a lot of ways, especially if put into a situation where I don't know people but once I feel comfortable I can actually be pretty outgoing - the key is making that leap between the two sides which I don't always do very successfully. Similarly there are times that I can be very introspective and over think things to the nth degree and others where I can be incredibly rash and impetuous and dive in with both feet - again not always successfully
It's me, the way I am, and always have been and if almost 53 years haven't changed that I don't see it changing any time soon."The thing is you dont need to change. Just live as you. Unique and complicated. | |||
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" Used to have loads on my mind behind the happy face .but realise that all the stuff I worry about dont matter and worrying didnt make much difference .just be happy lifes to short think positive
Dont worry, be happy
Ive got that song in my head now
Im not actually a worrier, my thinking is necessarily negative, its just intense.
Perhaps you need some intense positivity
Do you know anyone who could give me an injection?
I have just the job but seems to be covered in nutella from another thread is this a problem "Do i get to lick it clean before the injection? | |||
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" Used to have loads on my mind behind the happy face .but realise that all the stuff I worry about dont matter and worrying didnt make much difference .just be happy lifes to short think positive
Dont worry, be happy
Ive got that song in my head now
Im not actually a worrier, my thinking is necessarily negative, its just intense.
Perhaps you need some intense positivity
Do you know anyone who could give me an injection?
I have just the job but seems to be covered in nutella from another thread is this a problem
Do i get to lick it clean before the injection? "Yes you do I think that its for the best bloody stuff gets everywhere .hmm thinking about this right now | |||
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" Used to have loads on my mind behind the happy face .but realise that all the stuff I worry about dont matter and worrying didnt make much difference .just be happy lifes to short think positive
Dont worry, be happy
Ive got that song in my head now
Im not actually a worrier, my thinking is necessarily negative, its just intense.
Perhaps you need some intense positivity
Do you know anyone who could give me an injection?
I have just the job but seems to be covered in nutella from another thread is this a problem
Do i get to lick it clean before the injection?
Yes you do I think that its for the best bloody stuff gets everywhere .hmm thinking about this right now " | |||
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