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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok so here's the thing. Been chatting to a girl a bit and she said she wanted a fuck buddy so we been flirting and texting etc... then she says she is at a stage now where she wants a BF. note we have only been chatting for less than a week. We are due to meet and now she says she is not looking for anything but wants to meet but only if nothing happens but she doesn't want me to come even though she wants to meet.

Now my question is.... Have I accidently walked into a parallel universe where this is normal or are women just irrational and don't know what they want?

Needless to say I told her I'm not going to meet and deleted ger pics and phone. Am I the only one who attracts these people? P.S I didn't meet here off here so no privacy is being broken

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Obviously not all women are like this but I'm only basing this off my experience as I seem to attract this specific type

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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago

Hillside desolate

I'm as confused as you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm as confused as you "

Oh I'm glad because I was starting to think I died and woke up in an upside down world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's called a social ..

Why are you not meeting her just for a coffee

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's called a social ..

Why are you not meeting her just for a coffee"

That was the plan but she said she isn't strong enough to not fall in love and doesn't want me to come despite wanting to meet. She is the one who said that she only wants an FB thing

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Yeah.... I'd raise an eyebrow before running 100MPH the other way too.

A coffee, let alone a fuck, shouldn't be that hard to pull off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yeah.... I'd raise an eyebrow before running 100MPH the other way too.

A coffee, let alone a fuck, shouldn't be that hard to pull off."

I know right.... I seem to attract these types so I must be giving some sort of "come to me crazy people" energy

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By *oftandGentle2Couple
over a year ago

leeds

She’s obviously fallen for you over the phone, and is looking for more than you can give her.

She may be looking for love in all the wrong places! A swinging site (just guessing as you say she isn’t on here) is not the place to look for love.

It’s a sex sure! Not a dating site!

If you don’t want the same things then don’t show up as it will hurt her more if you do as she will then have the physical attachment as well as the emotional.

Be gentle with her, she was never looking for a FB I don’t think.

This does happen the other way around to!

Trust me!!!

A x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She’s obviously fallen for you over the phone, and is looking for more than you can give her.

She may be looking for love in all the wrong places! A swinging site (just guessing as you say she isn’t on here) is not the place to look for love.

It’s a sex sure! Not a dating site!

If you don’t want the same things then don’t show up as it will hurt her more if you do as she will then have the physical attachment as well as the emotional.

Be gentle with her, she was never looking for a FB I don’t think.

This does happen the other way around to!

Trust me!!!

A x "

It was a normal dating website where we talked. I didn't think of it that way. I wanted to date and she said she went through a divorce and was just looking for a FB to which I said "Ok cool", i mean what guy will pass off sex without all the effort right? She was sending kinky messages and today within the space of 2 hours she changed what she was after 4 times to 3 different things. Crazy no? But no I'm not an arsehole so I wouldn't play with anyones emotions. I just askwd hwr to tell me what she wanted and she couldn't answer

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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago

Exeter, Bristol, Plymouth, Truro

How can a coffee become so complicated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How can a coffee become so complicated "

I know right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Women "

nothing strange than folk lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I literally had this, this weekend.

I mean people are entitled to change their mind and im not overly bothered... but I went from messaging an old friend as a catch up, to asking her for a drink. To her sending me absolute filth and saying she wants no strings to her wanting something more serious and she's sorry for leading me on.

All I did was ask her for a drink, without any agenda, everything else was initiated by her.

Can not fathom the thinking that ran that gauntlet literally from the 30th till the 1st.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I literally had this, this weekend.

I mean people are entitled to change their mind and im not overly bothered... but I went from messaging an old friend as a catch up, to asking her for a drink. To her sending me absolute filth and saying she wants no strings to her wanting something more serious and she's sorry for leading me on.

All I did was ask her for a drink, without any agenda, everything else was initiated by her.

Can not fathom the thinking that ran that gauntlet literally from the 30th till the 1st.

"

Mate that is mental. Exactly what happens to me most of the time. these women should come with a manual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"She’s obviously fallen for you over the phone, and is looking for more than you can give her.

She may be looking for love in all the wrong places! A swinging site (just guessing as you say she isn’t on here) is not the place to look for love.

It’s a sex sure! Not a dating site!

If you don’t want the same things then don’t show up as it will hurt her more if you do as she will then have the physical attachment as well as the emotional.

Be gentle with her, she was never looking for a FB I don’t think.

This does happen the other way around to!

Trust me!!!

A x

It was a normal dating website where we talked. I didn't think of it that way. I wanted to date and she said she went through a divorce and was just looking for a FB to which I said "Ok cool", i mean what guy will pass off sex without all the effort right? She was sending kinky messages and today within the space of 2 hours she changed what she was after 4 times to 3 different things. Crazy no? But no I'm not an arsehole so I wouldn't play with anyones emotions. I just askwd hwr to tell me what she wanted and she couldn't answer "

What were the 3 different things she wanted?

I agree with softandgentle. Sounds like she's fallen for you from talking on the phone. If she's not long been single she might be struggling with her feelings and not wanting another relationship to go wrong hence saying she wants to be fb. But then throwing the boyfriend thought in there to see what you say.

She's human that's all.

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rushden Lakes


"I literally had this, this weekend.

I mean people are entitled to change their mind and im not overly bothered... but I went from messaging an old friend as a catch up, to asking her for a drink. To her sending me absolute filth and saying she wants no strings to her wanting something more serious and she's sorry for leading me on.

All I did was ask her for a drink, without any agenda, everything else was initiated by her.

Can not fathom the thinking that ran that gauntlet literally from the 30th till the 1st.

Mate that is mental. Exactly what happens to me most of the time. these women should come with a manual"

Shouldn’t that be a womanual?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's probably not sure herself what she wants, I can be the same. One day I think I might like a BF, the next I don't. Go with the flow and see what happens. XXX

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

It’s not easy some women like the thrill of being chased, and being lusted over. Also you have to remember that women might not only being seeing you but others as well

I still don’t get it but I have started to understand it more

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"She’s obviously fallen for you over the phone, and is looking for more than you can give her.

She may be looking for love in all the wrong places! A swinging site (just guessing as you say she isn’t on here) is not the place to look for love.

It’s a sex sure! Not a dating site!

If you don’t want the same things then don’t show up as it will hurt her more if you do as she will then have the physical attachment as well as the emotional.

Be gentle with her, she was never looking for a FB I don’t think.

This does happen the other way around to!

Trust me!!!

A x

It was a normal dating website where we talked. I didn't think of it that way. I wanted to date and she said she went through a divorce and was just looking for a FB to which I said "Ok cool", i mean what guy will pass off sex without all the effort right? She was sending kinky messages and today within the space of 2 hours she changed what she was after 4 times to 3 different things. Crazy no? But no I'm not an arsehole so I wouldn't play with anyones emotions. I just askwd hwr to tell me what she wanted and she couldn't answer "

A big clue is that you joined, in your words, ‘a normal dating site’! She joined a dating site to date, you obviously joined for casual sex. Now you’re saying you are confused. She wants to date you which is why she joined a dating site. Simples!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"She’s obviously fallen for you over the phone, and is looking for more than you can give her.

She may be looking for love in all the wrong places! A swinging site (just guessing as you say she isn’t on here) is not the place to look for love.

It’s a sex sure! Not a dating site!

If you don’t want the same things then don’t show up as it will hurt her more if you do as she will then have the physical attachment as well as the emotional.

Be gentle with her, she was never looking for a FB I don’t think.

This does happen the other way around to!

Trust me!!!

A x

It was a normal dating website where we talked. I didn't think of it that way. I wanted to date and she said she went through a divorce and was just looking for a FB to which I said "Ok cool", i mean what guy will pass off sex without all the effort right? She was sending kinky messages and today within the space of 2 hours she changed what she was after 4 times to 3 different things. Crazy no? But no I'm not an arsehole so I wouldn't play with anyones emotions. I just askwd hwr to tell me what she wanted and she couldn't answer

A big clue is that you joined, in your words, ‘a normal dating site’! She joined a dating site to date, you obviously joined for casual sex. Now you’re saying you are confused. She wants to date you which is why she joined a dating site. Simples! "

No i joined to date. SHE was the one who said she wants a Fbuddy

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