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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

That’s why we put ‘bubbly couple (we all know what that means!)’ in our profile lol.

Geeky x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

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They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets.."

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

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By *hatterley64Couple
over a year ago

Hertford


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

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Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

That’s why we put ‘bubbly couple (we all know what that means!)’ in our profile lol.

Geeky x"

Lovely pics x

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Perhaps they regard themselves as being attractive a lot of people do. I see nothing wrong in that as it’s subjective anyway. As you say it’s for you to decide if they fit your ideals.

In my humble opinion.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it.."

I thought it was an open forum to post too. I didn't realise I should only ever post to agree with the OP.

I'm tempted to go and describe myself as attractive now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it..

I thought it was an open forum to post too. I didn't realise I should only ever post to agree with the OP.

I'm tempted to go and describe myself as attractive now."

Yes you go..please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a couple thinks they are attractive (either attractive in their own eyes or, as I suspect, think themselves "classically attractive") and they put that on their profile, I think the reason they put it on there is self evident.

Are you actually asking why, or are you indicating your dislike for it?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it..

I thought it was an open forum to post too. I didn't realise I should only ever post to agree with the OP.

I'm tempted to go and describe myself as attractive now.

Yes you go..please

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Don't worry, I'm off.

I believe attractive is so much more than how someone looks in their pictures.

Have a fun 2018.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If a couple thinks they are attractive (either attractive in their own eyes or, as I suspect, think themselves "classically attractive") and they put that on their profile, I think the reason they put it on there is self evident.

Are you actually asking why, or are you indicating your dislike for it?"

Bit of both i guess..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it..

I thought it was an open forum to post too. I didn't realise I should only ever post to agree with the OP.

I'm tempted to go and describe myself as attractive now.

Yes you go..please

Don't worry, I'm off.

I believe attractive is so much more than how someone looks in their pictures.

Have a fun 2018.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

Because they think they are attractive. Perhaps people have described them that way. They wouldn't say it if they didn't think so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's no denying that some people have looks that would be considered attractive by the majority of people.

People can describe themselves as they like, if it bothers you, move on to another profile.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it.."

Where did she say she didn't like the post?! She was just answering your question. No need to be so fucking rude about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm permitted to post...

It's their profile they can post what they want...

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

I guess if they feel they are then why not...it would certainly show a level of confidence which is also attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it..

Where did she say she didn't like the post?! She was just answering your question. No need to be so fucking rude about it. "

Jog on ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I'm permitted to post...

It's their profile they can post what they want..."

And i can post what i want in the forums and if peoe dont like it dont comment..its simple

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it..

Where did she say she didn't like the post?! She was just answering your question. No need to be so fucking rude about it.

Jog on .."

Cant... Got a poorly foot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people do consider themselves attractive, or have been told they are by other people perhaps, then why shouldn't they put it in their profile?

People all write there own profiles and are entitled to write whatever they wish.

People describe themselves as friendly, which is also subject to personal opinion, some may find them friendly, some may not.

Each to their own we say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only one way to settle this,,,,FIGHT

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"If I'm permitted to post...

It's their profile they can post what they want...

And i can post what i want in the forums and if peoe dont like it dont comment..its simple"

Are you reading different replies to anyone else.... No one has said you can't post what you did, just pointing out the glaring truth. People can put whatever they want on their profile. If you don't think they are attractive then I'm sure they won't lose any sleep over it. Why is it wrong for them to have some confidence on how they appear?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If people do consider themselves attractive, or have been told they are by other people perhaps, then why shouldn't they put it in their profile?

People all write there own profiles and are entitled to write whatever they wish.

People describe themselves as friendly, which is also subject to personal opinion, some may find them friendly, some may not.

Each to their own we say."

I guess so..no one would say they were ugly, unfriendly and a complete twat

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

It's the same as singles, both male and female, putting, hot/sexy, it is an instant turn off lol and don't get me started on those using foxy, especially after 10 years of use, totally against the trade descriptions act!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If people do consider themselves attractive, or have been told they are by other people perhaps, then why shouldn't they put it in their profile?

People all write there own profiles and are entitled to write whatever they wish.

People describe themselves as friendly, which is also subject to personal opinion, some may find them friendly, some may not.

Each to their own we say.

I guess so..no one would say they were ugly, unfriendly and a complete twat "

They don't need to. We can figure that out from what they post on the forum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If I'm permitted to post...

It's their profile they can post what they want...

And i can post what i want in the forums and if peoe dont like it dont comment..its simple

Are you reading different replies to anyone else.... No one has said you can't post what you did, just pointing out the glaring truth. People can put whatever they want on their profile. If you don't think they are attractive then I'm sure they won't lose any sleep over it. Why is it wrong for them to have some confidence on how they appear? "

It's irrelevant if they think they are attractive..they are trying to atrracts others, its their opinion that matters ..not their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it..

Where did she say she didn't like the post?! She was just answering your question. No need to be so fucking rude about it.

Jog on .."

Very mature comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If people do consider themselves attractive, or have been told they are by other people perhaps, then why shouldn't they put it in their profile?

People all write there own profiles and are entitled to write whatever they wish.

People describe themselves as friendly, which is also subject to personal opinion, some may find them friendly, some may not.

Each to their own we say.

I guess so..no one would say they were ugly, unfriendly and a complete twat

They don't need to. We can figure that out from what they post on the forum. "

Hence the Username!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

That’s why we put ‘bubbly couple (we all know what that means!)’ in our profile lol.

Geeky x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be counter-productive to put ugly pair of fuckers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It would be counter-productive to put ugly pair of fuckers."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you think they do OP?

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows


"If people do consider themselves attractive, or have been told they are by other people perhaps, then why shouldn't they put it in their profile?

People all write there own profiles and are entitled to write whatever they wish.

People describe themselves as friendly, which is also subject to personal opinion, some may find them friendly, some may not.

Each to their own we say.

I guess so..no one would say they were ugly, unfriendly and a complete twat "

I regularly admit to being a complete twat, look like an old boot first thing on the morning, and certainly not friendly til I'm caffienated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s why I have well endowed it’s my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If people do consider themselves attractive, or have been told they are by other people perhaps, then why shouldn't they put it in their profile?

People all write there own profiles and are entitled to write whatever they wish.

People describe themselves as friendly, which is also subject to personal opinion, some may find them friendly, some may not.

Each to their own we say.

I guess so..no one would say they were ugly, unfriendly and a complete twat

I regularly admit to being a complete twat, look like an old boot first thing on the morning, and certainly not friendly til I'm caffienated.

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Dont belive that for a minute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I were 5 stone lighter and 15 years younger I would make an attractive couple with my partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do some people get all arsed up over what others have on their profiles?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That’s why I have well endowed it’s my opinion. "

But are you..we cant see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the whole point of a profile is to describe oneself as best as possible, but also to sell oneself. I observed tonight on another thread that some can’t bare it when others big themselves up.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I were 5 stone lighter and 15 years younger I would make an attractive couple with my partner."

If we were other people we could be an attractive couple

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some people get all arsed up over what others have on their profiles? "

If it bothers you dont comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think the whole point of a profile is to describe oneself as best as possible, but also to sell oneself. I observed tonight on another thread that some can’t bare it when others big themselves up.

Mrs"

Triggers their insecurities perhaps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Feminists would be up in arms that you refer to yourself as 'his bitch'

But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it matter what anyone puts on there own profile to anyone else?

Each to there own we say.....

If we listed all the things we didn’t like in profiles we would be here all night......

What we don’t like only matters to us

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Feminists would be up in arms that you refer to yourself as 'his bitch'

But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it "

But clearly i am a bitch..and im my partners..so im His bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's great that they are happy and confident enough to describe themselves as attractive, even if it is sometimes a subjective issue. People can judge for themselves. I'm quite upfront about being fat and grumpy, and I send a private pic of a brutally honest selfie before even social meets. I'd much rather consider myself attractive but I'd have to lose a lot of weight and I'd rather just eat more crisps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feminists would be up in arms that you refer to yourself as 'his bitch'

But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it

But clearly i am a bitch..and im my partners..so im His bitch "

So is it your view that profile should only state definately facts, and not anything that is a matter of opinion or down to interpretation?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's irrelevant if they think they are attractive..they are trying to atrracts others, its their opinion that matters ..not their own"

Its not irrelevant, though. Whether people choose to believe it or not, there is the notion of being classically attractive. I assume people claiming to be attractive are signalling that they are as such.

Additionally, as someone already pointed out above, calling yourself attractive gives an air of confidence. Many people find that attractive, too, and would therefore like such a statement.

There are plenty of people who read it as arrogance, sure. People can dislike the appearance of such claims on profiles. And that's great because it's a red flag to not message. But it's not irrelevant....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think it's great that they are happy and confident enough to describe themselves as attractive, even if it is sometimes a subjective issue. People can judge for themselves. I'm quite upfront about being fat and grumpy, and I send a private pic of a brutally honest selfie before even social meets. I'd much rather consider myself attractive but I'd have to lose a lot of weight and I'd rather just eat more crisps "

I feel the same ..i have to send the most recent pic of myself before we meet..just so they know exactley what to expect..and i love crisps

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's irrelevant if they think they are attractive..they are trying to atrracts others, its their opinion that matters ..not their own

Its not irrelevant, though. Whether people choose to believe it or not, there is the notion of being classically attractive. I assume people claiming to be attractive are signalling that they are as such.

Additionally, as someone already pointed out above, calling yourself attractive gives an air of confidence. Many people find that attractive, too, and would therefore like such a statement.

There are plenty of people who read it as arrogance, sure. People can dislike the appearance of such claims on profiles. And that's great because it's a red flag to not message. But it's not irrelevant...."

I guess they must be pretty confident in themselves to say it..i could never be that confident

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Feminists would be up in arms that you refer to yourself as 'his bitch'

But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it

But clearly i am a bitch..and im my partners..so im His bitch

So is it your view that profile should only state definately facts, and not anything that is a matter of opinion or down to interpretation?

Mrs"

Profiles should definitely state fact..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better."

Of course its for other to decide..that is the whole point of meeting..you have to find them attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feminists would be up in arms that you refer to yourself as 'his bitch'

But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it

But clearly i am a bitch..and im my partners..so im His bitch

So is it your view that profile should only state definately facts, and not anything that is a matter of opinion or down to interpretation?

Mrs

Profiles should definitely state fact.."

But not statements that is open to interpretation ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better.

Of course its for other to decide..that is the whole point of meeting..you have to find them attractive?"

What do you think they should say instead?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Feminists would be up in arms that you refer to yourself as 'his bitch'

But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it

But clearly i am a bitch..and im my partners..so im His bitch

So is it your view that profile should only state definately facts, and not anything that is a matter of opinion or down to interpretation?

Mrs

Profiles should definitely state fact..

But not statements that is open to interpretation ?"

Just because someone think they are attractive wont necessarily get them meets..it what other think that will get them meets..and that it what we are here for..?

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple
over a year ago

st helens


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

Your profile is your shop window. Its where we sell ourselves so to speak. I don't think its wrong to speak up about what you believe are your selling points.

If i read "attractive" in a profile then I'd assume the confidence meant there was an ounce of truth in it.

Now if it said "drop dead gorgeous" then i might raise an eyebrow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then perhaps there should be no body descriptions allowed but height and weight

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

Your profile is your place to sell yourself, why shouldn't someone describe themselves as attractive if they feel they are. And no it isn't for anyone else to decide, they aren't saying they are attractive to every person in the world, just generally attractive in their own opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a body for sin. Do I not?

And I’ll mess with your head.

Enter me at your peril

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better.

Of course its for other to decide..that is the whole point of meeting..you have to find them attractive?

What do you think they should say instead? "

Why should they say anything about their looks?..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a body for sin. Do I not?

And I’ll mess with your head.

Enter me at your peril "

You absolutely do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better.

Of course its for other to decide..that is the whole point of meeting..you have to find them attractive?

What do you think they should say instead?

Why should they say anything about their looks?.."

What should they say on their profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I were 5 stone lighter and 15 years younger I would make an attractive couple with my partner.

If we were other people we could be an attractive couple "

If you put "could be" on your profile it's not false advertising

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then perhaps there should be no body descriptions allowed but height and weight "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better.

Of course its for other to decide..that is the whole point of meeting..you have to find them attractive?

What do you think they should say instead?

Why should they say anything about their looks?..

What should they say on their profile?"

Not cunts or psychos maybe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better.

Of course its for other to decide..that is the whole point of meeting..you have to find them attractive?"

I think you need to take a chill pill love!

Mountain out of a molehill springs to mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feminists would be up in arms that you refer to yourself as 'his bitch'

But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it

But clearly i am a bitch..and im my partners..so im His bitch

So is it your view that profile should only state definately facts, and not anything that is a matter of opinion or down to interpretation?

Mrs

Profiles should definitely state fact..

But not statements that is open to interpretation ?

Just because someone think they are attractive wont necessarily get them meets..it what other think that will get them meets..and that it what we are here for..?"

Profiles are the shop window for people to “display themselves” in the best light possible whether that’s by text / photos or a combo of the two.

They’re a means to an end so if you choose to pack it out with a load of BS you’ll come unstuck in the end.

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By *illyjohnyCouple
over a year ago

brighton

I find Jill attractive and I think she finds me attractive others will have their own opinions ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a body for sin. Do I not?

And I’ll mess with your head.

Enter me at your peril

You absolutely do "

Yet I still feel the need to point it out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better.

Of course its for other to decide..that is the whole point of meeting..you have to find them attractive?

What do you think they should say instead?

Why should they say anything about their looks?..

What should they say on their profile?"

What they are looking for and what things they are into..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better.

Of course its for other to decide..that is the whole point of meeting..you have to find them attractive?

What do you think they should say instead?

Why should they say anything about their looks?.."

why shouldn't they? people show pics they think makes look attarctive, there's no difference really...it's just someone wanting to give the best impression they can.I can't see what the problem is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then perhaps there should be no body descriptions allowed but height and weight

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I have heavy bones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better.

Of course its for other to decide..that is the whole point of meeting..you have to find them attractive?

What do you think they should say instead?

Why should they say anything about their looks?.."

Well we would be drawn to a profile where people described themselves as attractive.

Call us shallow if you wish, but physical attractiveness does matter to us, as does confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Feminists would be up in arms that you refer to yourself as 'his bitch'

But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it

But clearly i am a bitch..and im my partners..so im His bitch

So is it your view that profile should only state definately facts, and not anything that is a matter of opinion or down to interpretation?

Mrs

Profiles should definitely state fact..

But not statements that is open to interpretation ?

Just because someone think they are attractive wont necessarily get them meets..it what other think that will get them meets..and that it what we are here for..?"

I’d be more likely to meet someone who said they were attractive. I’d be assuming they meant classically or universally attractive, so there is a higher chance that I might find them attractive. As long as they are not lying of course.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a body for sin. Do I not?

And I’ll mess with your head.

Enter me at your peril

You absolutely do

Yet I still feel the need to point it out. "

But you dont say you are atttactive haha..eventhough you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me thinks you’re over thinking the whole process ~ if “attractive” is a word that’s rattled your cage I can’t imagine what’s going to happen when you come across the word “professional”....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then perhaps there should be no body descriptions allowed but height and weight

I have heavy bones "

I have light spock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might put "Not bad looking for an old fat bird".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then perhaps there should be no body descriptions allowed but height and weight

I have heavy bones

I have light spock "

Who has average Kirk?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Me thinks you’re over thinking the whole process ~ if “attractive” is a word that’s rattled your cage I can’t imagine what’s going to happen when you come across the word “professional”.... "

OMG!! Dont get me started on that one haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then perhaps there should be no body descriptions allowed but height and weight

I have heavy bones

I have light spock

Who has average Kirk? "

I’d describe you as enterprising

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me thinks you’re over thinking the whole process ~ if “attractive” is a word that’s rattled your cage I can’t imagine what’s going to happen when you come across the word “professional”.... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think profiles that we come across that has ‘attractive couple’ in the big bold writing does put us off a little, we see their pictures and they have all the really attractive shots in all their sexy outfits because we know they would never be interested in meeting us (not as though we are looking for couples lol) but it also works the same for single females too.

We much prefer a profile that seems ‘warmer’ if that’s a word I can use here and not something that we immediately think ‘yep we will not even go further than what they are looking for’ a little more natural pictures that kind of thing.

When I was single I used to get some attention from all kinds of men, even the really really really attractive ones (you know the ones that have the v shape and god knows what going on) and it did shock me so maybe we should rethink our outlook on what we look at on profiles from now on, instead of seeing that heading maybe we should read down further.

Going off to look now lol.

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might put "Not bad looking for an old fat bird"."

You're not allowed to do that. People need to make their own minds up about you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me thinks you’re over thinking the whole process ~ if “attractive” is a word that’s rattled your cage I can’t imagine what’s going to happen when you come across the word “professional”.... "

Ha ha

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple
over a year ago

st helens


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

Not for you to decide, no.

To answer your question, mainly because it scans better.

Of course its for other to decide..that is the whole point of meeting..you have to find them attractive?

What do you think they should say instead?

Why should they say anything about their looks?.."

Because they're not showing their faces publicly?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then perhaps there should be no body descriptions allowed but height and weight

I have heavy bones

I have light spock

Who has average Kirk? "

Beth Tinker.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think profiles that we come across that has ‘attractive couple’ in the big bold writing does put us off a little, we see their pictures and they have all the really attractive shots in all their sexy outfits because we know they would never be interested in meeting us (not as though we are looking for couples lol) but it also works the same for single females too.

We much prefer a profile that seems ‘warmer’ if that’s a word I can use here and not something that we immediately think ‘yep we will not even go further than what they are looking for’ a little more natural pictures that kind of thing.

When I was single I used to get some attention from all kinds of men, even the really really really attractive ones (you know the ones that have the v shape and god knows what going on) and it did shock me so maybe we should rethink our outlook on what we look at on profiles from now on, instead of seeing that heading maybe we should read down further.

Going off to look now lol.

Geeky x"

Yeah we are the same..if they have amazing pics in sexy undies we dont think they'd meet us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think profiles that we come across that has ‘attractive couple’ in the big bold writing does put us off a little, we see their pictures and they have all the really attractive shots in all their sexy outfits because we know they would never be interested in meeting us (not as though we are looking for couples lol) but it also works the same for single females too.

We much prefer a profile that seems ‘warmer’ if that’s a word I can use here and not something that we immediately think ‘yep we will not even go further than what they are looking for’ a little more natural pictures that kind of thing.

When I was single I used to get some attention from all kinds of men, even the really really really attractive ones (you know the ones that have the v shape and god knows what going on) and it did shock me so maybe we should rethink our outlook on what we look at on profiles from now on, instead of seeing that heading maybe we should read down further.

Going off to look now lol.

Geeky x

Yeah we are the same..if they have amazing pics in sexy undies we dont think they'd meet us"

Why should you think that? It sounds like you need your confidence boosting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Then perhaps there should be no body descriptions allowed but height and weight

I have heavy bones

I have light spock

Who has average Kirk?

Beth Tinker."

Why ment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think profiles that we come across that has ‘attractive couple’ in the big bold writing does put us off a little, we see their pictures and they have all the really attractive shots in all their sexy outfits because we know they would never be interested in meeting us (not as though we are looking for couples lol) but it also works the same for single females too.

We much prefer a profile that seems ‘warmer’ if that’s a word I can use here and not something that we immediately think ‘yep we will not even go further than what they are looking for’ a little more natural pictures that kind of thing.

When I was single I used to get some attention from all kinds of men, even the really really really attractive ones (you know the ones that have the v shape and god knows what going on) and it did shock me so maybe we should rethink our outlook on what we look at on profiles from now on, instead of seeing that heading maybe we should read down further.

Going off to look now lol.

Geeky x

Yeah we are the same..if they have amazing pics in sexy undies we dont think they'd meet us

Why should you think that? It sounds like you need your confidence boosting. "

I guess its the size issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think profiles that we come across that has ‘attractive couple’ in the big bold writing does put us off a little, we see their pictures and they have all the really attractive shots in all their sexy outfits because we know they would never be interested in meeting us (not as though we are looking for couples lol) but it also works the same for single females too.

We much prefer a profile that seems ‘warmer’ if that’s a word I can use here and not something that we immediately think ‘yep we will not even go further than what they are looking for’ a little more natural pictures that kind of thing.

When I was single I used to get some attention from all kinds of men, even the really really really attractive ones (you know the ones that have the v shape and god knows what going on) and it did shock me so maybe we should rethink our outlook on what we look at on profiles from now on, instead of seeing that heading maybe we should read down further.

Going off to look now lol.

Geeky x

Yeah we are the same..if they have amazing pics in sexy undies we dont think they'd meet us

Why should you think that? It sounds like you need your confidence boosting. "

Speaking for ourselves, we don’t have all that ‘sexy stuff so we immediately feel like we couldn’t match up them them ‘look’ wise, it’s not just ‘attractive’ profiles, it’s others too that show pictures that we’ve never done before etc,

Geeky x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a body for sin. Do I not?

And I’ll mess with your head.

Enter me at your peril

You absolutely do

Yet I still feel the need to point it out.

But you dont say you are atttactive haha..eventhough you are "

You’re very kind xx

I just fiddle with heads. (Pun intended)

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By *eady and Willing 9Man
over a year ago

Wherever the party is @


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it..

I thought it was an open forum to post too. I didn't realise I should only ever post to agree with the OP.

I'm tempted to go and describe myself as attractive now.

Yes you go..please

"

Nice to see that fack all has changed in the forums for 2018 . OP can post what they like and so can you. Nothing wrong with a debate and having your own opinions. Just chilax people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, I'd give you a 5" confidence boost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

I think they put it in so they would only meet other attractive people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I might put "Not bad looking for an old fat bird".

You're not allowed to do that. People need to make their own minds up about you. "

How about "Fat and oldish, but you may still want to shag me"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here goes lol...............we have described ourselves as an attractive couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here goes lol...............we have described ourselves as an attractive couple "

Why?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even worse when people describe themselves as "fabulous" x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think profiles that we come across that has ‘attractive couple’ in the big bold writing does put us off a little, we see their pictures and they have all the really attractive shots in all their sexy outfits because we know they would never be interested in meeting us (not as though we are looking for couples lol) but it also works the same for single females too.

We much prefer a profile that seems ‘warmer’ if that’s a word I can use here and not something that we immediately think ‘yep we will not even go further than what they are looking for’ a little more natural pictures that kind of thing.

When I was single I used to get some attention from all kinds of men, even the really really really attractive ones (you know the ones that have the v shape and god knows what going on) and it did shock me so maybe we should rethink our outlook on what we look at on profiles from now on, instead of seeing that heading maybe we should read down further.

Going off to look now lol.

Geeky x

Yeah we are the same..if they have amazing pics in sexy undies we dont think they'd meet us

Why should you think that? It sounds like you need your confidence boosting.

I guess its the size issue

"

Why? Plenty of people find the fuller figure attractive (if I may be permitted to use the word)!

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

That’s why we put ‘bubbly couple (we all know what that means!)’ in our profile lol.

Geeky x"

You do know that’s an old Jimmy Carr joke don’t you...”women who describe themselves as bubbly in their dating profiles...what they mean is they’re shaped like a bubble”.

Btw I think you are FABULOUS Geeky...although that is a fabswingers euphemism too - God this is a minefield lol.

I’ll get my hat and stick to flirting...

Mwah x

Twat (who loves bubbly, fabulous, curvy women)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

Not exclusive to just couples.

I'm 'andsome, because my mum said so when she looked at an old photo I was in, and I put it in my profile. I got 4 fans on one of my pics once, so I'm subjectively 'well fit'

Op, profiles are all different, some will say they're good looking/average/not much to look at to manage expectations maybe, I dunno?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why shouldn't they? It's all subjective, as you say, and they find themselves to be attractive.

They might, but its the people looking at them that are the ones that need to decide as they are the ones looking for meets..

Just as those who describe themselves as fit or slender or anything else. We each make a decision about how to present ourselves and then make decisions about who we contact and what we think of them.

Concentrate on your own profile and those that you want to meet and let others present themselves however they want.

Oh im sorry..thorght this was an open forum for people to post what they wanted..if you dont like a post dont comment on it.."

Oh the irony!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"If people do consider themselves attractive, or have been told they are by other people perhaps, then why shouldn't they put it in their profile?

People all write there own profiles and are entitled to write whatever they wish.

People describe themselves as friendly, which is also subject to personal opinion, some may find them friendly, some may not.

Each to their own we say.

I guess so..no one would say they were ugly, unfriendly and a complete twat

They don't need to. We can figure that out from what they post on the forum. "

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By *hatterbox 2Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

I agree with you his bitch xx what really pisses us off is when they put on looking for slim attractive gym fit couples like ourselfs ffs get your heads from up your arses .We are far from that but we have a brain n a personality

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

I think they put it in so they would only meet other attractive people "

But here is the nub, there are loads of filters on here, but many fail to recognise them.

420 friendly, if you do this, there's common ground.

If you wouldn't go with someone sized above a size 12, then that's their system.

Smokers is another. There are loads, its up to you to work out what they are.

Whatever the filter they put on, that isn't within the fab list of message blocking tools, you can still meet those people if you can apply certain values and demonstrate that you can be invited into their world. Just as others do likewise to enter yours.

Your own self doubts and insecurities are ironically your own filters, not just here but in life too. Think jobs you'll never get, that is a classic self filter, that by applying yourself to meet the criteria to enter that world mean that you improve your own chances of doing so...

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"I agree with you his bitch xx what really pisses us off is when they put on looking for slim attractive gym fit couples like ourselfs ffs get your heads from up your arses .We are far from that but we have a brain n a personality"

Gym fit and professional are two of the red flags for us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with you his bitch xx what really pisses us off is when they put on looking for slim attractive gym fit couples like ourselfs ffs get your heads from up your arses .We are far from that but we have a brain n a personality"

Even slim, attractive gym fit couples have brains and a personality

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Then perhaps there should be no body descriptions allowed but height and weight

I have heavy bones

I have light spock

Who has average Kirk?

Beth Tinker."

No: that's below average Kirk!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I agree with you his bitch xx what really pisses us off is when they put on looking for slim attractive gym fit couples like ourselfs ffs get your heads from up your arses .We are far from that but we have a brain n a personality"

What is wrong with that? Why do some people get bent out of shape if they're excluded?

We are here to meet like minded people: operative words "like-minded!" I think I'm the dogs bollocks! My loved ones, family and friends think I'm absolutely fabulous! On here not many would give me the time of day because I'm not what they're looking for on many fronts.

Do I feel slighted, bitter, unworthy, insecure because strangers on a sex site don't want to fuck me?!! ...erm...no!

First world problems!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I agree with you his bitch xx what really pisses us off is when they put on looking for slim attractive gym fit couples like ourselfs ffs get your heads from up your arses .We are far from that but we have a brain n a personality

Gym fit and professional are two of the red flags for us..."

Why red flags though?

If I see "gym fit" I know it's not for me as I'm more stuffed sofa...so not compatible. Hardly a bad thing, saves us both time.

Likewise with "professional" an identifier to attract like minded people, not a slight in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone gonna put 'fugly couple looking'?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I love it when _iss_tress finds a thread to get her teeth into....

I agree though.... If they put what they are and what they're looking for on their profile it's a good tool to filter out if I'm what they're after or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

We describe ourselves as happy...is that for you to decide too?

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"I agree with you his bitch xx what really pisses us off is when they put on looking for slim attractive gym fit couples like ourselfs ffs get your heads from up your arses .We are far from that but we have a brain n a personality

Gym fit and professional are two of the red flags for us...

Why red flags though?

If I see "gym fit" I know it's not for me as I'm more stuffed sofa...so not compatible. Hardly a bad thing, saves us both time.

Likewise with "professional" an identifier to attract like minded people, not a slight in my opinion.

"

Well that’s sort of what I meant...gym fit people aren’t going to be interested in us, professional is just not how we’d present ourselves, so probably not on the same wavelength x

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

We describe ourselves as happy...is that for you to decide too?"

Oh Happy is good...but then so are Bashful, Sleepy, Sneezy, Dopey, Doc and...err...

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"Anyone gonna put 'fugly couple looking'? "

That’s be us then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with you his bitch xx what really pisses us off is when they put on looking for slim attractive gym fit couples like ourselfs ffs get your heads from up your arses .We are far from that but we have a brain n a personality

What is wrong with that? Why do some people get bent out of shape if they're excluded?

We are here to meet like minded people: operative words "like-minded!" I think I'm the dogs bollocks! My loved ones, family and friends think I'm absolutely fabulous! On here not many would give me the time of day because I'm not what they're looking for on many fronts.

Do I feel slighted, bitter, unworthy, insecure because strangers on a sex site don't want to fuck me?!! ...erm...no!

First world problems! "

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By *heIcebreakersCouple
over a year ago

Cramlington


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"
Because they can't work out if i goes before e after the second c in conceited?

Seriously though, ask people to describe themselves in any sphere of conversation (my speciality is recruitment interviews) and you'll soon notice the limited range of adjectives people use.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree with you his bitch xx what really pisses us off is when they put on looking for slim attractive gym fit couples like ourselfs ffs get your heads from up your arses .We are far from that but we have a brain n a personality

What is wrong with that? Why do some people get bent out of shape if they're excluded?

We are here to meet like minded people: operative words "like-minded!" I think I'm the dogs bollocks! My loved ones, family and friends think I'm absolutely fabulous! On here not many would give me the time of day because I'm not what they're looking for on many fronts.

Do I feel slighted, bitter, unworthy, insecure because strangers on a sex site don't want to fuck me?!! ...erm...no!

First world problems! "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I love it when _iss_tress finds a thread to get her teeth into....

I agree though.... If they put what they are and what they're looking for on their profile it's a good tool to filter out if I'm what they're after or not. "

Being retired Evie I have waay too much time on my hands.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

You call yourself fabulous. Is that just your opinion or general consensus x

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

What a great thread for new year

To be honest if I looked at a couples profile and they said they where attractive and we thought different then we just wouldn’t meet....end of

Wouldn’t have a debate on here about it

Some of these messages are quite nasty when there’s no reason to be

Yes people can put up a thread about anything but why be snotty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs"

Anything positive it seems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone gonna put 'fugly couple looking'? "

We’re game!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs

Anything positive it seems. "

Naughty- don’t want any of them fuckers

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs"

Sexy lol? Oh hang on, maybe we (B&T) should take a step back and revert to our usual approach now - chat to people and find out what they’re like and whether we might get on. The “flags” are only there as guides when we’re initially looking...sorry for being nasty if that was how it was interpreted x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs"

Oops, another one people don’t like - ‘exceptional’. We’re guilty of once upon a time stating we were only meeting exceptional men. My God I had to remove that one fast when I discovered in forums the vitriol for that word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

They feel the need to say it, because they believe they are.

Yes, ultimately you decide if you find them attractive if you want to meet them, or not, but they're entitled to have a bit of self confidence, and shouldn't be beaten down for that.

If people had a bit more self confidence and self worth, they'd spend less time feeling bitter because others recognise the good stuff about themselves. They'd be too busy getting on with their own lives and being happy rather than bitter and disgruntled because others have a modicum of confidence and are happy to share that with the rest of us.

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By *un4meanduMan
over a year ago

STOTFOLD


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

Surely its just their own opinion,just the same as when people put curvy or a bit chubby and you look at pics and think they are slim,

What's average ? Another term used.

Its just an insight and introduction just have to look and make your own assessment same as any match on here

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By *ifty grades of shadyCouple
over a year ago

Carisbrooke, Isle of Wight


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

They feel the need to say it, because they believe they are.

Yes, ultimately you decide if you find them attractive if you want to meet them, or not, but they're entitled to have a bit of self confidence, and shouldn't be beaten down for that.

If people had a bit more self confidence and self worth, they'd spend less time feeling bitter because others recognise the good stuff about themselves. They'd be too busy getting on with their own lives and being happy rather than bitter and disgruntled because others have a modicum of confidence and are happy to share that with the rest of us.

"
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many moons ago I used a dating site called Dating Direct. Don’t think it exists now. Of the various tick boxes there were 3 representing attractiveness. These were ‘average’, ‘attractive’, ‘very attractive’. Most people of course stayed safely with the middle ground. But it was possible to set searches according to required level of attractiveness. Don’t know what dating sites do these days.

Mrs

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs

Anything positive it seems. "

Yep!!!

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"If I'm permitted to post...

It's their profile they can post what they want...

And i can post what i want in the forums and if peoe dont like it dont comment..its simple"

Within forum rules you can. But I think you will find being rude and abusive is not good form and against forum rules. Msybe try and keep your thread on track instead of being abusive to everyone who posts.

Back to the post. I had gym fit couple on my first ever profile - cos we were.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone gonna put 'fugly couple looking'?

We’re game!"

Me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well if people think that there attractive then why not put it on there profile,it's no different then saying your feisty, sexy or anything else

And it's there profile so there choice

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"If I'm permitted to post...

It's their profile they can post what they want...

And i can post what i want in the forums and if peoe dont like it dont comment..its simple

Within forum rules you can. But I think you will find being rude and abusive is not good form and against forum rules. Msybe try and keep your thread on track instead of being abusive to everyone who posts.

Back to the post. I had gym fit couple on my first ever profile - cos we were."

Love the name btw, reminds me of Alex Kingston - mmm

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs

Oops, another one people don’t like - ‘exceptional’. We’re guilty of once upon a time stating we were only meeting exceptional men. My God I had to remove that one fast when I discovered in forums the vitriol for that word. "

Now you see, I'm meeting for me, so how I choose to describe my playmates is no one else's business.

Nowadays people are afraid of offending so pussyfoot around. Personally, how I choose my playmates is down to me and I'd have to get off my fat arse to search high and low to find a "could give a fuck" if someone got a ball ache for being excluded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Testing out fugly

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?

They feel the need to say it, because they believe they are.

Yes, ultimately you decide if you find them attractive if you want to meet them, or not, but they're entitled to have a bit of self confidence, and shouldn't be beaten down for that.

If people had a bit more self confidence and self worth, they'd spend less time feeling bitter because others recognise the good stuff about themselves. They'd be too busy getting on with their own lives and being happy rather than bitter and disgruntled because others have a modicum of confidence and are happy to share that with the rest of us.

"

Here, here!

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"Testing out fugly "

Go on, dare you, we will if you will !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Testing out fugly

Go on, dare you, we will if you will !"

Already on there if you look

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"Testing out fugly

Go on, dare you, we will if you will !

Already on there if you look "

Right onto it!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Op maybe just concentrate on those who say what you think they should have on their profiles..

Less wasted energy and less angst..

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"If I'm permitted to post...

It's their profile they can post what they want...

And i can post what i want in the forums and if peoe dont like it dont comment..its simple

Within forum rules you can. But I think you will find being rude and abusive is not good form and against forum rules. Msybe try and keep your thread on track instead of being abusive to everyone who posts.

Back to the post. I had gym fit couple on my first ever profile - cos we were.

Love the name btw, reminds me of Alex Kingston - mmm"

Oh she is soooo gorgeous. Would die for her hair!!

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"Testing out fugly

Go on, dare you, we will if you will !

Already on there if you look

Right onto it!"

Done!

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"If I'm permitted to post...

It's their profile they can post what they want...

And i can post what i want in the forums and if peoe dont like it dont comment..its simple

Within forum rules you can. But I think you will find being rude and abusive is not good form and against forum rules. Msybe try and keep your thread on track instead of being abusive to everyone who posts.

Back to the post. I had gym fit couple on my first ever profile - cos we were.

Love the name btw, reminds me of Alex Kingston - mmm

Oh she is soooo gorgeous. Would die for her hair!!"

Oh yes, the hair and the attitude does it for me...yummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly ‘gym-fit’ and ‘slim’ are adjectives we cannot describe ourselves as. But we are confident enough in ourselves to not worry it about when others do use those words. Oops, is the word confident allowed? lol. Seriously though, I do remember my husband taking photos of me with a very handsome gym-fit man who was much younger than me. Oh the shame when I saw his chiselled body and my belly hanging down. Momentary lapse of self-condidence - he liked me for what I was.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

Because if they put Mrs has no teeth and nits and Mr has terrible acne and missing an eye, they wouldn't get many people looking at them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs

Oops, another one people don’t like - ‘exceptional’. We’re guilty of once upon a time stating we were only meeting exceptional men. My God I had to remove that one fast when I discovered in forums the vitriol for that word.

Now you see, I'm meeting for me, so how I choose to describe my playmates is no one else's business.

Nowadays people are afraid of offending so pussyfoot around. Personally, how I choose my playmates is down to me and I'd have to get off my fat arse to search high and low to find a "could give a fuck" if someone got a ball ache for being excluded. "

I guess I had it in my mind that I might lose out on guys, who I deemed exceptional, but who took offence to that word. On the other hand, I probably in reality would not be interested in someone who took offence so easily.

Mrs

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs

Oops, another one people don’t like - ‘exceptional’. We’re guilty of once upon a time stating we were only meeting exceptional men. My God I had to remove that one fast when I discovered in forums the vitriol for that word.

Now you see, I'm meeting for me, so how I choose to describe my playmates is no one else's business.

Nowadays people are afraid of offending so pussyfoot around. Personally, how I choose my playmates is down to me and I'd have to get off my fat arse to search high and low to find a "could give a fuck" if someone got a ball ache for being excluded.

I guess I had it in my mind that I might lose out on guys, who I deemed exceptional, but who took offence to that word. On the other hand, I probably in reality would not be interested in someone who took offence so easily.

Mrs"

But we'll never have universal appeal.

We're not talking kidney donor losing out simply a casual fuck.

We have limited time so why be afraid to be confident in yourself and what you're looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

But clearly i am a bitch"

You say that like it's a good thing

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs

Oops, another one people don’t like - ‘exceptional’. We’re guilty of once upon a time stating we were only meeting exceptional men. My God I had to remove that one fast when I discovered in forums the vitriol for that word.

Now you see, I'm meeting for me, so how I choose to describe my playmates is no one else's business.

Nowadays people are afraid of offending so pussyfoot around. Personally, how I choose my playmates is down to me and I'd have to get off my fat arse to search high and low to find a "could give a fuck" if someone got a ball ache for being excluded.

I guess I had it in my mind that I might lose out on guys, who I deemed exceptional, but who took offence to that word. On the other hand, I probably in reality would not be interested in someone who took offence so easily.

Mrs

But we'll never have universal appeal.

We're not talking kidney donor losing out simply a casual fuck.

We have limited time so why be afraid to be confident in yourself and what you're looking for? "

Ive just checked my profile. Thought I had the word exceptional male in there. I used to. Just added it. Don't want to be faffing about and wasting peoples time. Too many people on here with low self eestem. Say what you are. Say what you want and if that upsets strangers on a sex site then that is their issue. They obviously aren't for you.

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By *gnitemybodyWoman
over a year ago

Onestepoutofthedoor


"Why do some couples feel the need to say they are attractive in their profile..surely that is for us to decide?"

I kinda agree,I bypass any profiles that say that. That's probably my insecurities though and rightly or wrongly expect someone who has written that to be a bit up their own arse.

I think someone sticking that on their profile is screaming for any ugly devil's to bugger off and don't dare message them,I fear I am that ugly person so wouldn't dare to darken their door. Again that's my unsecurities

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So to summarise, adjectives on profiles that people find a turn-off: attractive, professional, gym-fit, slim. Any others?

Mrs

Oops, another one people don’t like - ‘exceptional’. We’re guilty of once upon a time stating we were only meeting exceptional men. My God I had to remove that one fast when I discovered in forums the vitriol for that word.

Now you see, I'm meeting for me, so how I choose to describe my playmates is no one else's business.

Nowadays people are afraid of offending so pussyfoot around. Personally, how I choose my playmates is down to me and I'd have to get off my fat arse to search high and low to find a "could give a fuck" if someone got a ball ache for being excluded.

I guess I had it in my mind that I might lose out on guys, who I deemed exceptional, but who took offence to that word. On the other hand, I probably in reality would not be interested in someone who took offence so easily.

Mrs

But we'll never have universal appeal.

We're not talking kidney donor losing out simply a casual fuck.

We have limited time so why be afraid to be confident in yourself and what you're looking for?

Ive just checked my profile. Thought I had the word exceptional male in there. I used to. Just added it. Don't want to be faffing about and wasting peoples time. Too many people on here with low self eestem. Say what you are. Say what you want and if that upsets strangers on a sex site then that is their issue. They obviously aren't for you."

My point exactly!

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Oops...........just remembered that ours describes us as attractive

I suppose that does make us sound a bit arrogant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to be a lot of insecurity flying around which means "attractive" people are seen as either conceited or intimidating

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Oops...........just remembered that ours describes us as attractive

I suppose that does make us sound a bit arrogant."

To me it sounds confident. Of course some will see it as arrogant, usually the insecure who wants everyone to feel as wretched as they ...but do you seriously care if they do?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Seems to be a lot of insecurity flying around which means "attractive" people are seen as either conceited or intimidating "

Sad, isn't it.

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By *ELLONS AND CREAMWoman
over a year ago

stourbridge area

I detect a very unattractive person ....

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over a year ago

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"I detect a very unattractive person .... "

Why?

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London


"Feminists would be up in arms that you refer to yourself as 'his bitch'

But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it "

No they wouldn’t. They would defend her right to call herself what she wants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oops...........just remembered that ours describes us as attractive

I suppose that does make us sound a bit arrogant."

I don’t think your profile sounds arrogant. There’s a very fine line between arrogance and confidence. If someone says they are attractive out of self-confidence, then the statement is only about themselves. If someone says they are attractive out of arrogance then they are more likely to be comparing themselves with others and implying that others are not as attractive as them. It does seem though that some people will always regard this sort of self-awareness as arrogant. And that’s a shame. I mean what’s the world going to look like if it is deemed too arrogant to sell oneself?

Mrs

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By *itch and TwatCouple
over a year ago

Near Rushden Lakes


"Feminists would be up in arms that you refer to yourself as 'his bitch'

But I'm not going to lose any sleep over it

No they wouldn’t. They would defend her right to call herself what she wants. "

Precisely!

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By *iversong321Woman
over a year ago

Preston/Merseyside


"Seems to be a lot of insecurity flying around which means "attractive" people are seen as either conceited or intimidating

Sad, isn't it. "

Seems like alot of people want others to say they are not attractive, not professional etc. Wtf?? I work bloody hard to stay in shape and I have a professional career. If that upsets people what do they want me to do?? Resign? Quit the gym and stuff myself with unhealthy food. Get a grip people and if it bothers you so much do something about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh shoot...I've described myself as 'nice looking' in my profile text without referencing a peer reviewed study of my face...

Might I need to update my profile according to the latest fab netiquette conventions...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Folk can call themselves what they like on here. It can be a show of confidence but just as they can write what they like, others can judge them arrogant or not as they please too. I'll decide for myself irrespective of all that anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems to be a lot of insecurity flying around which means "attractive" people are seen as either conceited or intimidating

Sad, isn't it.

Seems like alot of people want others to say they are not attractive, not professional etc. Wtf?? I work bloody hard to stay in shape and I have a professional career. If that upsets people what do they want me to do?? Resign? Quit the gym and stuff myself with unhealthy food. Get a grip people and if it bothers you so much do something about it. "

ROFL

Well put. If you're describing yourself in positive terms without putting others down, it's entirely their issue if they feel bad about themselves because of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having followed this thread and the ‘professional’ thread I’m seeing a common pattern. For those who big themselves up in their profiles, the expression ‘up their own arses’ seems to get used fairly indiscriminately, which I feel is not a very nice thing to say about someone who is probably just minding their own business. Are we living in a world where it is important to put people down if they express any positive self awareness?

Mrs

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