FabSwingers.com forum: What did you learn?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It could be an open question, don't let mine put you off.

I learned that some friends (real life) have troubles I wasn't aware of, and like me, don't like to burden people for help.

So my lesson, after begging them to ask for help, is I should do the same. I'm 'fine' is an answer that makes them feel better, not me.

Did you learn anything this last year? Did you pass your driving test? Can you play an instrument or learned a life lesson?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned that the saying "this too will pass", while true, wasn't specific about the timeline.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned to like myself a bit more.

I also learned how to balance a fidget spinner on my toe. 2017 was a good year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned things aren't always what they seem.

That's said in a negative and a positive way.

I also learned I'm stronger than I thought.

Happy New year to you OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve learned that cancer can be beaten, but it can also not be beaten

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I learnt that it’s ok not to be perfect, that sometimes good enough is just fine.

I also learnt that sometimes you have to put yourself first even though that means feeling bad about someone else.

And I learnt how to say blueberry in Slovak.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learnt about pesky feels, that my family are precious, that it’s ok to deviate from the norm and that I’m really really crap at making the big decisions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned a late life lesson I wish I had known a lot sooner.

Everyone is so absorbed in their own drama that they rarely see the things you hate about yourself.

It's not all about me ...

Who'd have thunk it

I have only just REALLY understood this - not just parroting it like some low budget Yoda!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I learned a late life lesson I wish I had known a lot sooner.

Everyone is so absorbed in their own drama that they rarely see the things you hate about yourself.

It's not all about me ...

Who'd have thunk it

I have only just REALLY understood this - not just parroting it like some low budget Yoda!

I don't think anyone can really claim to be fully adult until they get this, and so many never do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I learned a late life lesson I wish I had known a lot sooner.

Everyone is so absorbed in their own drama that they rarely see the things you hate about yourself.

It's not all about me ...

Who'd have thunk it

I have only just REALLY understood this - not just parroting it like some low budget Yoda!

I don't know what it means. And I'm thunkin really really hard.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I learned to like myself a bit more.

I also learned how to balance a fidget spinner on my toe. 2017 was a good year. "

I bet you started colouring in too.

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By *iscean MaleMan
over a year ago

Darlaston

Learnt that work should only be part of your life and not all your life.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

In 2017 I cooked new things for first time, trained wild birds, learned about GOT and grew fresh herbs for first ever time.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I simply carry on with my mantra of know better, do better.

Always learning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I realised that I'm actually really happy in my own skin and that it's not difficult to dust off negativity and be mindful

I also learnt that there's not as many safety cameras on the roads to Manchester as I thought so can thrash the nuts out of my car regularly

Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned not to do the 'hot or not' forums...it's always 'not'!....always!

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By *ampant Lion34Man
over a year ago

East Midlands

I learned my body at my age can take so much more as it's the power of your mind. Now I'm ready for 2018 and the huge challenge I face to achieve my life goal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned what it feels like to a have a body that is yours and not a prison. After decades of being trapped, I'm now physically female and it feels great.

I also learned I must relearn most of what I thought I knew. That whilst self absorption is a great passer of time, it blinds us to our real self. I learned that in diagnosing the problem in others, I'm usually diagnosing myself, and so whilst sex is great, especially in this new body, it is love that I seek.

I learned that the world is neither fair nor just, and that business and politics is no different from the playground antics of bullies. Lawful till caught.

And so I finally fully appreciated the wisdom I was given as a child... don't take anything personally unless its on the end of your nose; and before diagnosing yourself with depression, as boring or no fun, first off make sure you're not simply surrounded by arseholes.

Enjoy 2018 all..

Cat xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Learnt that work should only be part of your life and not all your life."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I’m actually quite happy being me, I’m not the bad person I was made out to be. And that I still have the capacity to love someone and not be scared it’s going to be used against me.

And that I need to be careful how much I drink in future x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This year I’ve learnt that grief has no expiration date, that it’s ok to be kind to yourself now and then and to embrace my flaws (of which there are many).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned that I don’t have many friends, lots of people are fake and that I only have a very tiny circle of people in my life but you know what? I’m happy knowing this information because I feel at peace with myself now more than ever.

I learned that Ads and I are stronger than ever after going through a bit of a rough patch and talking is a wonderful thing and discovering things that we didn’t know and now we are in the kind of relationship that is more open and honest and doing the things that make both of us happy.

I learned who to trust and who not to, I’ve learned some social skills, in that a conversation goes both ways lol.

I’ve also learned to love myself a bit more, not to be so down on myself and love my body.

Geeky x

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By *asilForty77Man
over a year ago

a hundred and sixty of us living in a small shoebox in the middle of the road

This new learning amazes me, Sir Bedivere. Explain again how sheeps' bladders may be employed to prevent earthquakes

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I’ve learnt you can forge friendships and find love in the most unexpected places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *sThunderThighsWoman
over a year ago

Toy Land

I learnt that if you put your head in the right frame of mind you can do it! A good or bad Life is in our own hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned that some people are nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That camping can be fun. Honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What have I learned... So much it's unreal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned that love isn't always enough, and that I'm actually ok with who I am.

Swings and roundabouts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That dreams can come true....

If you believe enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That dreams can come true....

If you believe enough "

How I wish that were true...

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I've learned that, contrary to the popular saying, some things just really are not worth fighting for and walking away saves a shitload of heartache

I've learned that sex toys really shouldn't be in your carry-on luggage unless you're prepared to have them publicly scrutinized by passengers and staff in the airport security

I've learned that raspberry flavouring comes from a beaver's anus (I read it on the forums so it must be true!!!).

And yes OP... I learned to play a musical instrument... Think you might know which one....

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By *orwegian BlueMan
over a year ago

Iceland, but Aldi is closer..

i learned that cancer doesn't have to be so scary if you let others in..

its so easy to feel alone and to close yourself off from everyone around you but by talking with people and sharing how you feel, it makes everything just a little more bearable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've learned that sex toys really shouldn't be in your carry-on luggage unless you're prepared to have them publicly scrutinized by passengers and staff in the airport security

I've learned that raspberry flavouring comes from a beaver's anus (I read it on the forums so it must be true!!!).

And yes OP... I learned to play a musical instrument... Think you might know which one....

made me laugh and smile. Whistle me a tune, I'll try to guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That dreams can come true....

If you believe enough

How I wish that were true...

Here here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’ve learnt you can forge friendships and find love in the most unexpected places

And learned how to post a profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly, I'm not really sure as so much has happened this year. May be I learned to accept I can't change the past and should just live life to the full

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt a lot on here

Not sure what

But I've gained some confidence and learnt not to believe what everyone says

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I learned to like myself a bit more.

I also learned how to balance a fidget spinner on my toe. 2017 was a good year. "

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By *eesideMan
over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

Not a lot...

Think the Onley thing that has happened is my confardounce in travelling has increased a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned never to trust more wisely.

Move your best friend in to the spare room as she's having hard times.Give her food,Money,Buy her clothes.Listern to her and give her your heart and the best advice you can.

Then she repays you with trying to have sex with your boyfriend.

Trust wisely x

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By *ryst In IsoldeWoman
over a year ago

your imagination

I've learned that sex toys really shouldn't be in your carry-on luggage unless you're prepared to have them publicly scrutinized by passengers and staff in the airport security

I've learned that raspberry flavouring comes from a beaver's anus (I read it on the forums so it must be true!!!).

And yes OP... I learned to play a musical instrument... Think you might know which one....

made me laugh and smile. Whistle me a tune, I'll try to guess.

I didn't claim to be able to play it well...

Just marginally more tuneful than my singing...

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I’ve learnt you can forge friendships and find love in the most unexpected places

And learned how to post a profile pic.

Cheeky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned how to spell leiomyosarcoma. It's a rare form of cancer, is terminal and is in my friend's body.

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By *cduck and Blue eyesCouple
over a year ago

nr chester

I’ve learned to accept that sometimes ‘it is what it is’ and you can’t always change what ‘it’ is, was or is even going to be, so don’t try

I’ve learned that being a good mum is sometimes letting go and being more laid back

I’ve nearly learned to leave the shoes out of the shoe box, to leave the cup in the sink for a little while, and to not plump the cushions 50 million times a day

I say nearly, it’s a work in progress, as for all my other more serious ocd traits, well this is just the beginning, hey!

Mrs blue eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To shake it off....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"To shake it off....

Did you twirk? Can I watch next time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To shake it off....

Did you twirk? Can I watch next time?

Me...Twerk

Jelly and wobble come to mind but if you like that type of thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned that by cutting out the negative ppl i never really needed results in a much happier me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned a lot about boat maintenance..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve learned that the M6 is a pain in the arse

Letting the train take the strain is a good thing

Love can hit when you least expect it

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman
over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

I finally learnt to live.

My life, my choices, my rules.

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

I've learnt that I'm incredibly lucky to find what I have on Fab, that my family is precious and that a girl can never have too many holidays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned not to put all my eggs in one basket FWBwise.

That doing the right thing for others isn't always the best thing to do for yourself.

XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I learned how to spell leiomyosarcoma. It's a rare form of cancer, is terminal and is in my friend's body."

xxxxx

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

"I've learnt that I'm incredibly lucky to find what I have on Fab, that my family is precious and that a girl can never have too many holidays

You’re a silhouette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learned that the government are liers.

They said the new plastic £10 note will last longer.

After getting 2 subway rolls and a can of I can confirm they last the amount of time as the old paper ones x

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

I learned to trust

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By *lmostthereMan
over a year ago

Southampton

And I learnt how to say blueberry in Slovak. "

Not that I am doubting you but do tell, I want to know now!

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By *iss.RedWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"I learned to trust

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By *edoriartyCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

"I learned to trust

Well I had to if I was letting you near me with that strap on didn't I.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman
over a year ago

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That I can.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That I can can"

Fifm - I could tell you another 9 ladies I'd love to watch you on stage with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I learn every day, or hope I do. My biggest lesson is I am not always right about people and they equally don't know me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I learn every day, or hope I do. My biggest lesson is I am not always right about people and they equally don't know me. "

I like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What have I learnt???

I've always been the friend who's always been there for all my small hand full of friends, through thick and thin, good and bad no matter what.

But when the boot is on the other foot that's when you really find out who your true friends are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s more to fab than life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone hasn’t got a smile, give them yours, small things go a long way, Iv restored my faith in humanity be seeing many a kind selfless act however small.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I learn every day, or hope I do. My biggest lesson is I am not always right about people and they equally don't know me. "

I agree, and just because someone goes against my moral doesn’t mean they are immoral! people have experiences that create their character and how they see the world, you don’t have to agree with them but you can if not understand it, respect it, saves a lot of arguments xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I learned not to put all my eggs in one basket FWBwise.

That doing the right thing for others isn't always the best thing to do for yourself.

XXX"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't possibly improve.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

I have been on a journey of learning and re-learning everything I know from scratch. Started a business working through the ups and downs which I will be closing in Spring later on this year. Learning to take things step by step, improving on myself, repairing past self-inflicted damages.

Hoping for a much brighter 2018 full of love, happiness, discovery and progressive self-improvement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve learned that the M6 is a pain in the arse

Letting the train take the strain is a good thing

Love can hit when you least expect it "

All this is very true

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By *imandHerNottsCouple
over a year ago

North Notts

We learned that saying yes as a natural response rather than no (unless there is a GOOD reason) is far more fun and takes you to more interesting places than you may think.

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